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I've been living a failed marriage for ages. We are just together mainly in order to keep appearances.
Meanwhile and about two years ago I had a crush on my habitual coffe shop owner's wife. She is blonde and wondrous, and her husband is a mere nullity absolutely irrelevant. She hates him to death but there are many economic boundaries that are difficult to break, so she doesn't even dare to consider divorce.
She is not indifferent to me and we have had very good moments at the café of chatter and banter, although she refuses to have any sexuall...
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You weren't being successful with her. If you spent that much time with her and nothing was happening, I think it's a good bet that nothing will happen in the future, new pub owner or no.
Have you actually offered her something that is worthy? That you will leave your wife, and she her husband, and you will provide the support? Did you really expect her to continue being strung along by you to satisfy your failed marriage?
Hand or fleshlight?
Sweet juicy cunt.
>>16798413
Is it that much better?
Hello /adv/, would like some insight. While i am not a person who can say ''i have no friends''(because i have quite a few) i am constalty suffering from the fact that i may depend on them too much.
I am the one who always calls the majority of them to do something, the one who has to organize things and i get pissed because a lot of them arrive like 4 hours late to the event or something like that.
tl dr; i am pissed with a lot of friends over these things. Is this normal?
I want to make new friends, can you guys recommend places to...
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Pls halp
I want to make new friends as well, and I get what you mean by finding the majority of the fanbases you mentioned insufferable. I don't have many friends, though, and I rarely set up any meetings with them. At best, I send them a text every two weeks tops.
I'm into anime and manga. The genres I enjoy the most are, despite a bunch of generic series being fun to watch, far from your traditional action packed shounen, which is what the majority of anime/manga fans are into where I live.
Bookstores where I get manga from should be good places to make friends of at least acquaintances. Maybe look out for someone taking a look at what you think is interesting and work out recommendations for them based on what they've read. Sad part of this method is I never once saw someone taking a look at any of the things I'm into, so I just end up making acquaintances online.
It just becomes a "this and this are pretty nice, you might like them"-"you're right, this is awesome! thanks" relationship.
I don't know what to tell you, mate. Maybe try to make friends outside of your interests. If they're comfortable around you in your "comic book nerd" mode, and you're comfortable with whatever they're into, it will be way better than flinging shit at your buddy for saying he likes Superman's attire.
Hey /adv/, just got a quick question.
Would it be a bad idea to tell my therapist about acid use? It made my depression disappear completely, but he works for the school and I'm not 100% sure of how confidentiality works and if this could possibly come back to bite me in the ass.
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Well, if he's proffesional, he must not tell anyone, it's prof. secret, but it's gambling since he works in/for school...but my adv is to tell him, cuze if you want him to help you you need to be honest with him, no matter if you think something is irelevant, you need to talk to him..(not)sorry for england
>>16798351
I was under the impression that you could tell a therapist anything, unless it's wanting to kill yourself or domestic violence, then hey have to take action. Telling a therapist u did acid will have no negative consequences
>>16798351
Seeing a therapist and not telling everything is as stupid as seeing a doctor and not telling where it hurts.
Need some advice /soc/ there's this qt ginger girl that is into me but she doesn't know I have a GF. My GF is currently overseas and won't be back for 3 weeks. Do I bang or don't I bang?
>>16798335
Bang her like in the pic OP
>>16798335
How would feel if you found out that your gf fucked someone else while she was over there?
>>16798337
Worse than I would if I found out she banged someone else but I had too.
Everytime I am worrying I am shaking at the same time. How can I prevent that?
Buspirone and Lorazepam.
I posted this thread a few weeks ago but I'm curious to see if anyone new (or old) wants to answer, and in case anyone else is interested or curious about it:
I'd really like to know how other girls are in bed. Mainly when in a relationship.
Can you pls give me some stories?
1. How old are both of you, and how long have/were you together?
2. How was the first time you slept with your gf?
3. What are your fav positions as a couple?
4. What is she into?
5. What gets her off?
6. How compatible is your sex drive?
7. Is she into...
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>25/24, since 2007
>about 4 months after meeting
>mine: manual, his: doggy
>he likes butte stuff
>anything
>his drive is way higher than mine
>he is, I'm not
>i have not found that boundary yet
>i wish he'd tease more
>i like when he's gentle, plus...
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Copy+pasted most of my answers from the last thread kek
>1.
I'm 20 and he's 22. We were together for just over 2 years.
>2.
Honestly, it was incredible, and very romantic. I'd stayed at his place a couple of times before we actually had sex, but we'd agreed to take things slow. Our first time together started off in his spa. We were just kissing and touching each other everywhere, it was very passionate, kind of slow but super intense. We got out and made our way inside to his...
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So a while ago I started a thread and this anonette left behind her email saying that I can contact her if I have more questions on the issue. After emailing her a few times, I am starting to think that "she" is a troll pretending to give good advice. Recently, I started another thread and she left behind the same email (although she doesn't know that I'm the OP). Is there a way for me to search all the posts in which she left behind this email?
>>16798288
Yes, there is an advice archive
http://archive.4plebs.org/adv/
>>16798326
I want to search for an email which appears in the comment section of posts and I don't think 4plebs allows that
>>16798329
>>16798329
It does. Just enter the email in the search bar and all posts (comment section of posts included) will show up.
I did something I regret and feel like I can't move on until I've fixed it.
I used to hang out with a group of people, until one of them made a fairly long facebook message about how they felt maligned and left out (posted to the whole group of us). I felt like it was mainly directed towards me, but I became very anxious and unsure of myself and didn't reply.
It's been about a year and three months since that happened and I've only seen/spoken to one person from that group a couple of times, otherwise I basically cut off all contact. The...
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>tfw no replies
I shouldn't have posted so much...
>>16798286
sounds like you suffer from insecurities. you probably should of apologised to that friends of your who made the message and had a discussion with him about the problem. did your other friends express how they felt about the message?
>>16798286
What did you do to the guy, exactly, to make him feel that way? Because it's possible that you really were an asshole, but in my experience, people who make long Facebook messages about how they feel "left out" are self-centered, passive-aggressive dicks. Just because someone is always playing the victim doesn't mean they're NOT a dick. It just means they're manipulative.
If you really did treat this person poorly, you apologize and try to do better, you don't just run...
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Why do girls like couples? I'm chatting up this girl in the park and this other random girl comes right up to me and asks directions. I thought fuck you, you wouldn't do that if I were alone as usual.
original
>>16798268
Because in a world where women are sought after as sex and social status outlets by lonely males, couples are the only thing that make a woman want it as much as a man.
Want to get girls? Hang out with couples who need a third wheel when things are getting stale.
>>16798268
Guys with a woman tend to be safer than the guys ogling you that are too insecure to admit it.
>>16798268
Why do you play stupid? Why do you ask questions with obvious, sensible actions? If a guy's standing alone, and a girl asks him for directions, there's a good chance he's going to flirt and make it awkward rather than just giving the damn directions. If your girlfriend is standing right next to you, it's unlikely that you'll hit on her, which makes it much easier to get the help she needed and get on with her day
Alright /adv/,
I kinda wanna know what this girls deal is.
So me and my ex gf where together for little over a year, we hit it off pretty good and we loved eachother a lot. Things began going downhill and she ended up breaking up with me. This was 5 months ago.
In these five months post-breakup, we have had sex multiple times and she even considered getting back together with me. One day i told her i had enough and i didn't wanted to wait for her anymore. I deleted her on facebook(i know, i know) for my own healing purposes.
When she found out,...
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>>16798267
Just like you said, she wants you wrapped around her finger... until something better comes along. For now, you're just someone from the past she can emotionally cling too.
But the real question is what do you want from this OP?
>>16798306
This. She is keeping you as a back up plan. >>16798306
>>16798267
Girls like having power. You took hers away.
Well it's a long story but I'll try to get the jiffy out in a short version.
So, about a year ago I moved from my home town, left everything behind: friends, family, apt and all my stuff.. I brought only a single bag of clothes pretty much.
Anyways I moved because I got this awesome fuckin' job here, I worked there for 8 months on a "tryout contract" with 3 others. When it came time to upgrade the contract into the regular " full time position", unfortunately I wasn't picked :/.
So I found a different job.
It sucks!...
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How old are you?
>>16798264
I'm 26
>>16798266
If I was you, I would stay with the current job and just work my butt off.
Will there be promotions for you within that 8 months with your current job?
You're risking losing a better paying job with the chance of getting a job you like to do although pays less.
What don't you like about your current job? Boss? Co-workers? The job itself?
I'm in so much pain right now. My sinus infection turned up from 3/10 to a 11/10. I know I'm in no shape to drive to the doctor as I can barely stand to look at my phone to type this or crawl out of bed.
I have no one near by to haul me to the doctor to get medications, taking a ambulance for this would be stupid and I know my coworkers don't have the time to do it during the work day.
What is the best way to deal with this pain. I've never felt anything like it, it's like my head is going to implode. I've already taken pain meds but...
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>>16798224
Avoid nasal decongestants and cold tablets. They make sinus pain worse.
Take 2 paracetemol and 2 ibuprofen for the pain.
Make up a warm salt water solution and rinse those sinuses as best you can. Look up "netty pot" to see what I mean.
Is it bad I have no energy for anything ever and live in a state of perpetual boredum? I don't really have a job right now and just do projects for my parents like painting. But even just a little bit of work and I have no energy to do it, I just want to sit around and take breaks, and eventually I just stop early. Even on my computer I can't even find the energy to try a new show or watch a movie or play a new videogame when its so easy just to click on another 4chan thread. I mean occainsally I'll have fun playing videogames or watching a show but most of the...
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For what it's worth, I feel the same way. It's actually pretty refreshing to see someone else like me for once.
I know this feel so badly.
It feels like I was locked down by it until I just let go. I've been thinking too hard over nothing. Or maybe it was just seasonal funk washing over.
Better times ahead for all of us I hope.
Could be depression.
Try cutting sugar out of your diet and going for a walk in the mornings.
So my boyfriend wants to try anal and I'd be up to it since Ive played around a bit alone and it's great but the trouble is that I'm too embarrassed about the mechanics of it. Like what if it smells bad, what if it makes me feel like going to the bathroom?
Any advice? Are my concerns even valid? Like will there be any weird smells if I clean myself like 30 minutes before? Thank you.
don't eat 6 hours before, wash yourself with water (DEEP inside, not superficial), and shave in case you haven't. You'll also need lube if you don't want your rect perforated. Good luck and enjoy!
>>16798078
clean your ass before anal sex just in case.
what i do before is i take a shower (if you're lucky your toilet is next to your shower or at least in the same room as the shower)
then you take the shower head off and clean inside yourself, you have to fill your ass with water and go to the toilet, when you've done this four times or so, yous should be clean, but well go for the feel, if after four times you still don't feel clean do it again and so on.
you don't need to tell your bf what...
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>I'm too embarrassed about the mechanics of it.
what kind of relationship are you in where you are embarased about bodily functions?
>Like what if it smells bad
It will, but if he cared he wouldn't want to stick his dick in your pooper in the first place!
>what if it makes me feel like going to the bathroom?
you may get such a sensation but instead of poo, his dick will come out....
>Any advice?
start slow, I reccomend getting...
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