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Handholdless virgin here. 23.
What do you do if you like a girl and want to tell them on Valentine's Day?
>>16797554
You don't. You don't tell people you like them on Valentine's day unless you've already had lots of chemistry or better yet have gone out a couple of times. You are not 12, you are a grown ass adult. Valentine's day is a shit holiday anyway.
Source: Am in a relationship and will be spending V-day on the couch eating popcorn and watching shitty movies with my partner.
I've been out of the loop for quite some time and there's this girl.
We'll be going out this Saturday afternoon until evening and I don't have any plans yet. We live in a big city that's heavily congested with traffic and we live quite far.
Will a simple dinner be enough? Is it better to be near her place though I am not familiar around her place?
What do?
Any help?
I'm thinking of picking her up near her place and driving to a dining place where I now and go for a walk around there after dinner. Then ice cream. I'm just going to take it casual so that we can talk and get to know each other.
>>16797551
Afternoon until evening...maybe go walk in a park, ice skating (may/may not be an option depending on climate where you are), just **do** something with her to give her a fun memory to associate with you. Then I would go get drinks before dinner, have dinner, maybe ice cream or another drink at a different place (quiet lounge/bar where you can talk maybe?) afterward.
Search for cool restaurant somewhat close to where she lives (~15 minute radius from her home). Don't pick her up and then drive 45 minutes in a car to go get dinner. Keep the night moving along.
Also if you plan on doing ice cream, don't take her to a dinner place where the servings are very large--maybe a tapas place instead. You both might fill up on food and not be interested in dessert.
Miniature golf
/adv/, I've only ever dated older women. Granted I've only dated six women, but all of them have been at least five years older than me. I'm twenty one now, and in college. I kind of want to give a girl my own age a shot.
Problem is I don't really understand girls my age. I understand older women, and I can flirt with them pretty easily, but for some reason when it comes to girls my age I just lock up. I can't think of what to say and I can't conceive of how I might take a relationship beyond friendship.
So tl;dr, how does one establish a relationship with a girl in their 20s without using tinder or some other site/app?
It's not them, it's you.
Shit man, I've only dated women younger than me but always wanted to date an older woman.
Just find some girls at a local community college and wow them with your STABLE JOB and COOL CAR
So /adv/, here's a thread for those of us in the working world.
There is this lazy bitch at my job who regularly takes 30 minute breaks ( we are only supposed to get a 10 ) . To make a long story short I called her out on it and now her breaks are being monitored by upper management.
For the past 2 weeks, she has been extremely butthurt and passive aggressive towards me for calling her out for being a lazy shit. I now come into work today and find out she has made a sexually harassment complaint against me that is pretty much 100% bullshit. Fortunately for me they haven't taken sides and I still have my job, but seriously this is fucked.
So now I come with a few basic questions:
1. I live in a right to work state. If they decide to fire me I am well aware there isn't much I can do, BUT how hard would it be for me to file a defamation charge against lazy bitch?
2. Part of it right now is just dealing with the anger. I knew she didn't like me and I was JUST thinking yesterday about how fucking annoying it would be if she decided to seek petty revenge by making false accusations. I'm just pissed at how disgustingly predictable her actions are. Like I am not even fucking surprised.
3. Seriously, what do?
>>16797535
>defamation charge
luckily, the parameters for a company firing you to cover their ass and getting a criminal charge are vastly different. if you can get a competent lawyer on retainer, you should be able to levy either a criminal or civil suit against her. if you get sue-happy, you could try to take your company on, but that's an uphill battle
>anger
as satisfying as it would be to retaliate against her, it would be the final nail in your coffin: regardless of your innocence. limit your time around her and don't speak about the claim to anyone except the following: the investigative personnel (i.e. managers, 3rd party affiliates), your lawyer, anyone you can speak to in confidence who won't spread it around.
>what do
get a legal consult and keep your mouth shut. worst case: you're fired and this bitch keeps getting her breaks monitored. best case: this all blows over with no reprimand
>>16797578
I'm probably too poor to afford a decent lawyer.
Well what was the details of the harrassment complaint?
Just wanted to share a story and ask advice.
>Be Christian
>We have weird dating lives
>Ask a CUTE girl out for first time in four years.
>She actually says yes the first time
>We go out for coffee and dinner where I pitch some major woo and do well for myself
>We have a genuinely good time
>This has literally never happened to me before
>Don't know what to do now.
How do I... y'know... continue this? Being a Christian means we're not going to have a particularly sexual relationship (not initially, anyway) but I want to see more of this girl. I have my foot in the door, and I don't want to needlessly screw myself over by waiting too long to ask her out again, or asking her too soon, or doing something boring, or... I don't know.
This is new to me. I've been on plenty of first dates, but rarely a second date.
Help?
Ask fer for a second date
>Being a Christian means we're not going to have a particularly sexual relationship (not initially, anyway) but I want to see more of this girl
No, it means you're not going to have a physically intimate one initially. There's nothing prohibiting you from expressing your sexual attraction toward one another. I don't care what-ian she is, she's a girl and girls like feeling desired. They like men who salivate a little when they see her. They like hot guys who have good taste in hot women.
Take her out the next time you personally are in the mood for a good time. Do something you enjoy, or something which she mentioned from her lifestyle that you also find interesting. Pitch the idea when you have a really clear picture of free time in your schedule to devote to her. Either way, certainly get in touch with her tomorrow to thank her for the pleasant company on the first outing.
And remember to flirt next time. Show your interest. You can talk her ears off even with your hands and dick stuck in your pants.
>>16797515
>We [Christians] have weird dating lives
No. I'm not Christian myself, but the majority of all Americans are Christians and they do not have abnormal dating lives. They *are* the norm.
Most Christianson the planet do not believe in abstinence either.
Don't project.
I just bought an onahole from an online store and I missed the part about washing it first before using it the first time in the manual that came with it. What's the chances I might have infected myself with an STD or something because of that one oversight?
You have a 100% chance of having the clap, since the clap is naturally occurring in silicon. Sorry, op. Soak your penis in bleach to prevent spreading.
>>16797533
This. Seriously. What were you even thinking not washing it?
Damn dude, there's a fucking reason they tell you to wash it. That shit is serious and you should make an appointment with your doc asap.
>>16797533
Good news here. The clap is curable. Catch it early and it's easier to get rid of.
Hey marriedfags, how do you deal with shit from your families like how they pester you to have children?
>>16797489
you just say 'nope'. then if they try to keep talking say 'gotta go, talk to you later'.
its words dude, its no big deal
>>16797493
pretty much this
>>16797489
The wife and I made it clear from the beginning of our engagement that we plan to wait around 5 yrs before considering having a kid. We told our parents, siblings, extended family, friends, etc. Just to get it out of the way. There are still people that ask us,but if you just answer the question matter-of-factly, people seem to accept it. If they say something to the effect of "weellll thats not how I would do it" then you just kind of have to recognize that he/she has crossed over into territory where they don't deserve to have an opinion. Don't have to get mad/offended about it, it's just easier to accept that person is a ... well... a dumbass. And go on living your life.
**Make sure you and your wife are on the exact same page about your answer/reasoning, bc people will approach each of you individually. Especially people that want to interject their opinion.
Hey /adv/ I'm really conflicted about something at work. I don't know if I'm being jealous or what. It's a wall of text, but I appreciate your help.
Some context
>new lady starts at my job
>works in area where we're doing some upgrades
>boss decides to have her help us with some validation work
>work weekends together to finish it faster
>be kind of shy
>she finally breaks me down and we start talking
>[spoiler] She's 9 years my senior, is married, and has 3 kids so there's no romantic feelings from either side [/spoiler]
>newer lady shows up
>knows there's a nice new position opening up (I'm first in line to get it but she thinks she can weasel her way in)
>first lady and I have been eating lunch together a lot and she brings me food from home often
>invites new lady to eat with us
>I don't really like her but whatever I'll be nice
>new lady and first lady are both close to the same age, both married with kids
>starts talking to new lady all the time and talks to me much less
>doesn't invite me to eat with her at all anymore
>invites new lady all the time
>asks her if she wants to grab lunch
>says nah go ahead and eat I'll be late to do it
>tell her don't worry I'll wait I'll probably be here late today anyway
>she doesn't bother to tell me at all and invites the new lady
>new lady is so jealous of me and wants the promotion so bad
>tell first lady that I really don't like the new lady and all
>>16797482
Was your mother emotionally distant when you were a child? You are obviously jealous. Go make friends your own age, mang.
>>16797496
What the fuck is wrong with YOU, bro? Did your parents not love you enough? Did Uncle Dave tough you inappropriately? Because something must have happened to make you into a judgemental piece of shit with zero human emotion left, and whatever that thing was, it sure and fuck wasn't a small thing.
>>16797496
Actually kind of the opposite, it was actually my father who left.
I don't know, we used to have fun together and we'd help each other, but now she all contacts me when she wants me to help her with something. Also, she knows how much this woman tries to undermine me and get the promotion.
I've been talking to this girl Since Halloween.I used to go over to her house nearly every until around Christmas.She knows how I feel about her.I rarely go to her house any more.We still text but I'm not sure what to do because I think she thinks im an asshole because of something she thinks i've done.
Whenever we meet now she brings a friend and it's really annoying.
Need advice
Pic not relevant
>>16797417
What does she think you've done, anon. Come on you can tell us. We wont judge. Promise.
>>16797428
She thinks I told my friends what we've done at her house.
>>16797444
How old are the two of you? I mean, seriously every man I've ever met has mentioned fucking there gf or wife, at least in passing. Is she ashamed to have had sex with you or something? Does she not know that shit is how every man behaves?
I suspect my GF of cheating while I was abroad based on.... nothing. Just do.
How can I find out? Is there any tactics?
I was thinking of testing her by telling her that I cheated while away to see if she admits something, although that is a dirtbag move if she hasn't.
>inb4 /b/ tier /adv/ice
you crazy
>nothing
are you sure "nothing"? what is it exactly that makes you suspect
dude your gut feeling is usually right
>>16797572
Based on this:
>I'm still abroad
>she got a new job besides school that takes up her whole day (so I can see why, but:
>she doesn't talk with me as much (although I could get better at it as well)
>I see her being on FB in the middle of the night but doesn't open my messages because she said she's going to bed (she DOES get up super early but wtf)
>she's hot af and her previous BF cheated on her so I'm afraid she's tainted by it
>has a lot of guy friends that like her, but she claims they're just friends no matter if they like her like that or not (red flag)
on the opposite
>her track record is pretty clean (was with her ex for 6 years, very few other guys)
>doesn't go out clubbing
>loves me a lot and has proven it time and time again
>we've talked about "it" and I'm starting to fear that my insecurities are going to ruin the relationship and that it's all in my head
>she talks to some mutual friends and they all say that she's good and that she misses me a lot
I am a 20yo male in uni, about to study abroad in Japan, and i am pretty lonely. Just got out of a bad breakup, gf of 3 years cheated on me. it's been a month, I want to start dating again. i am very very attracted to Asian chicks. tried dating one that I know irl but she isn't that into me
i guess im into a lot of stuff that others aren't, both hobby-wise and sexually. is okc even worth a shot? it all seems so artificial and try-hard to me...but I'm so lonely and id like to meet more people
>>16797408
Are you a weeb?
>>16797459
eh, yeah I guess but I'm p confident, semi-attractive and not a total sperg all the time
it's not a confidence issue or anything. im just afraid of the entire thing feeling totally fake and stupid, like a really bad game
>>16797459
basically I'm asking about other people's experiences with it
ANYONE FROM CONNECTICUT, ESPECIALLY IF YOU WENT TO BRANFORD HIGH SCHOOL, Come here I need help, I'm looking for someone by the name of Hayden, 6 feet tall about gap teeth, a beard, and short brown hair, he was of the class of 2012, I need your help, thank you, if it helps, he's around the Age of 20-21 also..
>>16797385
This is what Facebook was invented for. No really, this is it. Finding people at college. Only now, everyone is there.
>>16797425
I can't look through 500 Hayden's,
>>16797385
What are you looking for this person for?
Got accepted into UIUC mechanical engineering and want to know what it's like. Tell me about the academics, the material, the careers, or whatever comes to mind--any info is appreciated
>>16797383
Did 2y of ME before I went math.
Industrial design, drawing blueprints, materials, control theory were fun. I didn't like physics very much and couldn't wrap my head around screw theory, solid mechanics and deformation etc. which is half of why I went to math instead (prettier and makes more sense to me, I hate how math is brought up in physics).
The other half being that I was stressed as fuck, 35h of classes/week with at least as much personal work expected, 3 tests a week on average including oral examinations (1h on a whiteboard with 2 classmates each one with a problem to solve on the spot while a prof is trying to break you). I saw friends crying from stress or being pushed too far by a prof, and 6 months in and onward there wasn't a week without someone "joking" about suicide or considering suicide methods "for the sake of the argument". It's a miracle we only ended up with one guy in a wheelchair. Eventually I completely broke down in psychotic depression and transferred to math at another, less elitist place, and it took me 3y to not be impaired by anxiety triggers anymore.
The last part probably doesn't apply to you, but I'm just letting you know some places really are fucking toxic. Probably taints my view of ME more than it should. But I learned a LOT of stuff that I still remember and I'm grateful for that. I didn't even know how a car engine worked before... Overall in my opinion ME has a lot of variety and if tearing apart a gearbox, learning about what goes into steel alloys, or figuring out the required diameter of a drive shaft for a particular application sounds fun to you, you'll probably have a good time.
I don't know much about careers for obvious reasons but my understanding is that depending on what you specialize in, anything industrial needs some ME people.
hi /adv/,
I would like to date a fun, attractive guy who has a lot of cool hobbies. However, it is extremely difficult to find a good match. The current pool I am in is not good-- it's mostly studious Asian people who I am NOT interested in.
Where can I find a fun guy to date?.... I just want to genuinely enjoy my life, and have a break from this boring life of studying in the library.
I am Caucasian, and would like to date someone decent in my own race. I feel like I am deprived of attention and affection right now, and it's a bit hard to deal with especially on valentine's day.
/sigh... /adv/, how do you cope with not being with your ideal partner?...
Looking for a fun guy? Check under a tree after it rains.
lol
start making friends and having a social life. you'll meet people.
alternatively just do the online dating thing. if you're a white girl who is at least 6/10 there will be hordes of men tripping over themselves to date you
>>16797397
its hard to make friends.
i hated a few people online, and i really liked one who was my ideal match. he left me after a month of dating.
hey /adv/ I need girl advice
here's the run down on the girl
>tall-ish blonde
>8/10 body 6/10 face
>into the same music I am
>can make her laugh
>she plays csgo so that's cool I guess
problem is whenever I talk to her I get really bored because she's just not that funny.
if I asked her out she would probably go for it but then there's also the problem of breaking up with her and losing our friendship
what do
>pic unrelated
I'd say try it out.
Do it, you're not good friends with her anyways it seems
>>16797386
I'm really good friends with her friend though, and she's fuckin rad. so if I came off like a douche she would probably drop me too
