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I was a sheltered kid, abused, builled, never left the house due to that. I never developed any life or social skills.
Everytime I saw someone I wanted to talk to, i never knew what to say, and everytime I saw a woman I liked i couldnt even speak to her as i was never sure if she was taken and if i was wasting my time.
im 24 now, soon to be 25. I saw a very cute girl at the local shop, getting coffe, so was I...I couldnt speak to her, how do i start a conversation with a strange without looking weird? what if shes already taken? how do i not sound like an ass if...
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Practice like an autist at home
Pull it off like a band-aid
Do you listen to podcasts/ lots of videos of people talking normally? If so, you know what it sounds like to speak like normal. Read a book out loud and commentate on it out loud after every few sentences, like you're talking with an invisible person across from you.
Be fine with backtracking your statements/ clarifying. "You know what I mean?"
In real life, people will be like "actually, ye" and accommodating- way more than you might think actually. It's kind...
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>>16809430
Hey, you're trying to pick up a girl in a café? That's very hard, advanced stuff.
The easiest way is to meet girls and people in general is continuos and spontaneous contact, to give time for the chemical cocktails in our brains to do their magick.
So, what could you do? Chart:
1. College, art schools, courses in general
2. Hanging out with old friends, hoping that they bring you with them in new social circles
3. Making new friends through work (harder cause work gives people bad...
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I...
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What's a good way to ask a girl I've been talking to for a while and who I know likes me? How would I do it in person and how would I do it over text?
>>16804469
Don't do it over text and just ask her if she wants to go on a date.
>>16804469
Fuck off.
Just say "Hey, you want to get some coffee some time?"
Or "A walk in the park" or jesus anything to ask them to be alone with you.
Fuckin teenagers
So, I've gone everywhere else on the internet, and all the information I get is bullshit. I decided that 4 chan was going to be my last stop before I get in contact with some professional or something.
For my entire relationship with my current boyfriend, I have never been able to orgasm from penetration. He is my first sexual partner. He lasts anywhere from 20-40 minutes depending. We have had long and short sexual experiences, with many positions. He can make me orgasm from oral (very easily, most of them time), but no matter what we try, I can never cum from vaginal...
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>>16807408
you skeert. someone needs to break yo momma bitch outta dat hidey hole.
>>16807408
>I have never been able to orgasm from penetration.
Stop using your clit to get off. Thats the honest answer you dont want to hear.
Try putting a large pillow under your butt before you start sex. Ram it right into your g spot.
I was prescribed zoloft but never really take it. I only take it when I feel the need to, and I havent taken it in probably 5 months or so. Yesterday I took a pill and a half of it and it was a terrible day, i felt dizzy nautious and i didnt sleep the entire night. My question is, why has this happened? It never happened before
>>16806341
Go see your doc. You are making a nasty mistake, not following the instructions. You don't know better than a qualified professional.
It happened because you have no tolerance to your meds, you fucking moron.
>>16806377
I just figured id ask here, I have no insurance anymore so no doc.
>>16806383
Thats weird, because the doc wanted me to take 3 a day at one point
What is your opinion on age differences in relationships? (as long as both are legal adults?)
I ask because I've been on a few dates with a guy who is 42 (I'm 19) and I've already received a few bad comments from family members.
>>16807447
It's weird, but this is America, so they can go fuck themselves if they don't like it, myself counted.
You do you. As long as you're both happy who cares?
>>16807450
Pretty much this. Personally I think it's kind of gross but hey love right. It's your life and your choice, but if you're gonna be worried about what your family thinks and let it effect you then maybe you shouldn't be in the relationship.
Should I go to USA for college or should stay in Mexico?
Some background:
>Mom gets remarried to an american
>She went to live with him and so did my little sister
>I didn't like the idea very much so I stayed with my dad to finish high school
>I love math and I plan to study Computer or Software Engineering
I feel more comfortable staying. But the USA is a more developed country and it might be better in the long run to move over there.
However, neither my mom or her husband are rich. So I will be attending two years of community college and then transfer to an university.
After all this it boils down to:
>Go to USA and get into community college for 2 years then transfer to an university for 2 years while on a student loan.
>Stay in Mexico and pay for college normally with using loans
I don't know what to do, I've talked about this multiple times with my parents to the point of nausea and I don't really care anymore about what happens
>>16800120
>Stay in Mexico and pay for college normally with using loans
without*
If you want a future you'll got the US. Someone coming from a third world country to study an engineering discipline is impressive, especially if you're going to be going to school somewhere that's not California or Arizona.
>>16800241
Actually, I'm going to live in Phoenix. Is this a bad thing?
He's a great guy. He's handsome (to me), intelligent and funny. He has a kind heart and he's exactly the kind of person I want to be the father of my children one day.
The only problem is, the bedroom.
He has a large member, and seems convinced that that's all he needs to get me off. Sex is usually exactly the same. He flips me over, tells me to put my knees on my mattress to reduce creaking, he shoves my shoulders down and adjusts me. He then removes out clothing and just penetrates me. I am of course at this point very dry, but he does it...
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>>16807600
I even made a thread like this once before. Some anons convinced me to show it to him, and he simply became angry with me. Not changing anything in the way we have sex.
I've tried awaking things a bit, since I like adventure and fun sexual things...But he doesn't want to try anal, he doesn't want to tie me up or be tied up, he laughs when I try to dirty talk (which makes me feel foolish) and generally makes me feel suicidal when I just think about our bedroom.
I guess I'm just a...
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>>16807620
He's also rather...Crass. When I put my head on his lap while he was reading, he held my face down and thrusted. He does this sort of thing all the time as a funny 'joke' and I guess I'm not assertive enough in letting him know that I don't appreciate it because he just does it again. Over and over again.
I'm sick of feeling like this, I'm sick of reading shitty romance novels to feel 'loved' in the bedroom. I'm sick of hearing my friends tell me what they...
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When I bring it up, he acts like it's no big deal, like I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill. But if it's indeed not a big deal, why can't he do it? I take immense pleasure in making him feel pleasure, but he doesn't do the same to me. He doesn't even attempt to.
I feel like a fleshlight when we have sex. I want to feel like a lover. I can't help but feel like this is somehow my fault. I've been eating very little lately, to make myself sexier for him, but that hasn't helped. I'm considering a boob job but at this...
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get it off your chest thread?
i'm so mad right now
I'm a bit confused, do you want to get it off your chest or are you inviting others to do so in this thread?
>>16796666
both
also quads
I'm doing a YWAM session and have about 4 months to go. The wifi here is so shit I can barely load YouTube forget about any shows. At least I have dark souls on my laptop...
Right now I feel socially incompatible. I never had a friend nor do I want to socialize with the shitty people in this world. As a 25 year old with no social life ever I'm immediately a joke, period.
From the people I work with to the cousins I rarely meet, everyone is fascinated on talking shit and being a critic, immediately pointing out negative flaws in someone and magnifying it for years. I used to think it was because I was in a shitty family. Nope, I get that from everyone. At work women absolutely hate me. I work as an inspector on the line for Ford and...
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>>16806215
You need to learn to never feel lonely. Like I have.
Also I can't 100% tell what you're complaining about. But you're not a joke for not having a social life. The only judge for yourself is you.
>>16806218
The lack of human communication is evident within me. Everyday I feel bad about my communication and fear opening up to people. The people at Starbucks made fun of me when I made my order. The cashier was fucking with me and the women behind me busted up laughing. I will avoid the cafe completely.
I have therapy, but I don't see any progress. I would try meetup.com but my mother will scold me for talking to strangers. I guess it will save me the embarrassment.
Only until last year was when I started...
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>>16806215
Your problem is you keep all these emotions within it seems like. You need to complain and vent more.
I know it sounds like a b8 but that's what happened yesterday:
>come back from home after evening shift
>gf was at her friends' now she's back home
>she's lying on couch half asleep watching tv
>I ask her what's up, she says she's fine
>go take a shower, get horny
>go to salon, she's still lying on a couch
>I start kissing...
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>>16803166
She's overreacting and a dumb bitch. Leave her.
>she says 'come on' or my name over and over again, swats my hands, doesn't really try to help with undressing
stomach sank at that line. you didn't get consent, you dun fucked up OP
at least you're alpha
>>16803166
I thought a relationship meant consent doe? How can you rape your SO?
I want to setup some proxies or something so people wont be able to see what I've looked up and whatnot. For example hackers or something, would I have to use tor ?
>>16806813
Someone will always see. Your ISP for instance.
Depends who youre going against. KNow for sure, someone will see.
Use a VPN for improved privacy.
>>16806825
The ISP does not see shit if you set up Tor. It sees the metadata when you establish the connection to the first hop, but it does not see what you are searching for - only that you are using Tor.
If you can, try to keep it to the onion network. Within that network the communication is encrypted entirely. If you browser the clearnet, use HTTPS as often as you can, otherwise communication outside of Tor will be unencrypted.
>>16806858
True but assuming a worthy adversary, using tor opens you up to timing attacks through analysis.
OK anons, how can a girl win a guy over? I get that she ought to be fit and cute and sexy, but how should she ask, what character traits, behaviours should she have in order to make a guy fall in love with her even deeper? Like what are some things a girl can do enamour a lad and capture his hear? (besides sex, that is)
pic somewhat related
Depends, what are your intentions with him succubus?
>asking men what they think
LOL men don't know what they think. They'll just say "just look at him or suck his dick" but end of the day men love hard to catch, confident, bitchy women.
It just really depends, op.
>>16806517
Oh, she should definitely ask 4chan kek
I have had quite a few encounters with women, and they all turned out to be sexually very submissive. The problem is, that I really don't enjoy dominating that much, I rather be submissive myself.
Adv, do you know how to find dominant women or how to tell whether a girl will be dominant sexually?
Ugh.
Check for masculinity. There. That's your type. Deal with it.
New York to san francisco
if she kisses assertively, is confident with her sexuality. when you make out, she sometimes "man handles" you and takes the lead. she likes to be on top and prefers positions where she dictates the pace. might be hints she's not a submissive pussy
Next to impossible. Even feminist bull dykes want to be tortured in bed. Your best bet is some traumatized girl with man hating tendencies like the tripfag girl that will break the rules.
Bitter, jaded, drunk guy here.
Long story short, I'm a very tall guy. 6'7" and girls are really put off by it. There is a look of abject horror and terror that they get when they look at me. The only way I can approach women without them ignoring me straight away is by sitting down and talking to them before I stand up. When it comes to charisma with talking to people, I can to pretty damn well for first impressions, but when I approach people, I'm "creepy" and "intimidating". Some of my good female friends have said this and then...
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>>16804080
Fallout 4 steam name "Relentless Autism" my profile picture is the boss Doopliss from Paper Mario.
Give me some of your height so we can both be normal, thanks.
Get buff grow your hair call yourself Hercules
Steam name Vivlaid just pick what's in your price range from my wish list
>>16804080
They might just be intimidated.
Try dating taller girls, like 5'10 or 6'0 and above. They'd love it, since women generally despise the notion of dating a man shorter than them, even the tall ones.
