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I need help, guys. Serious help.
>Meet girl on OKC
>cute lifting chick, my type, attracted to me, tons of flirty messages and snapchats
>only flaw is that we live an hour away and have to commute by bus, so we can only see each other once a week
>first date happens, amazing, tons in common, share a great day, feel perfect holding hands, and have great make out session
>great talking throughout the week, move to phone conversations and Skype
>Second date, even better. Netflix and chill, do more stuff (just short of sex), we go exclusive, and talk about Valentines Day as our time to finally have sex together.
>Monday night, not in the mood to talk.
>She's anxious about school stuff, I help her through it and things are okay.
>Wednesday, we Skype and it's fine. Not great, but fine.
>Thursday, she doesnt respond to my texts much. We talk a little that night, but what was originally high octane romantic emoji action is now much less affectionate. I'm anxious she's losing interest.
>She doesn't want to talk on Friday and says something came up so V-day cancelled. After hours of distant texting I convince her to talk to me on the phone about whats wrong. She says her Mirena IUD is causing real serious anxiety problems and she's been grumpy, moody, and in bed all week. She says she's still interested and here for me but she's putting up a wall and doesn't know what to do. Doing the same to her parents.
>Barely talk Saturday, doesn't respond to my text checking in on her.
>Try to call her today, Valentines Day, to say hi. She picks up and hangs up, we snapchat a couple times, I tell her I want to call tonight, she doesn't respond.
I want to help her through this, but she doesn't open up or communicate anymore and it fucking hurts to show so much affection and get literally nothing back. But if she's really so depressed it's debilitating,I don't want to just abandon her either. I really care about her and this feels like it should have went somewhere great. What do I do?
For additional context, I'm a virgin. Went /fit/ last year and went from first kiss to third base in the last 2 months. That said, she was cool with it and actually liked the idea.
Move on
>>16806278
This. Her actions speak louder than her words.
How do I go about asking my girlfriend for nudes without offending her?
>ask her
>she smiles, shakes her head and says no
kys
She might know about those "pics you promised not to share"-threads on /b/. Makes one not so eager to send nudes. Condolences to my bf and you
Tell her it's a Valentine's tradition
I did it, I finally have a girlfriend.
Question is, there's a chance she'll find my sizable loli doujin collection in my shelf. What do I tell her then?
You can either tell her the truth or put your loli doujin collection somewhere where she won't see them the first time she comes over.
>>16806106
"I hope we have a daughter"
>>16806106
Same thing you tell yourself
If you know its something to hide, best not show it... unless youre getting married or planning to freak her out
She will tink you jack off them
I'm writing a character. I'm good at coming up with first names, but it's nearly impossible for me to come up with surnames for those characters in such a way that the name flows and sounds nice.
Currently I've written a character whose name is Evelyn, or Eve for short, but I can't think of a last name for her. Can you guys suggest some surnames which you think fit?
Preferably German, Swiss, Danish, Swedish, Norwegian, English, Scottish or Irish, but which still sound reasonable for an American to have.
Just made up a name in my mind:
Evelyn Semters
I think it has a nice ring to it.
>>16806044
Eva Braun
>>16806044
Evelyn McAllister
Hey /adv/, do you think PUA tactics actually work? Can a man like this in the pic get beautiful women to like him? Like, I have never seen it happen myself. IRL all the hot women I see are usually with very attractive men, and in the case they aren't, they are with very rich or famous men, which makes them attractive anyways.
Is all this PUA think just a hoax? Because they post pics of guys like that one holding hands with beautiful supermodel like women, but I just can't fucking believe it. It must be a hoax, right? I have never seen that happen IRL. How could a woman actually like someone who looks so bad? I'd feel disgusted to be with a woman who was extremely ugly, and I'm not even that attractive. So how could a supermodel be with an ugly fatso? Enlighten me with your knowledge.
I've been into this for a while, because i was in a very low self-esteem period after a break up, and it seems like they're giving away the secret to get any girl you want very easily.
To put things short, most of it is a complete scam. I realised i didn't want to follow the "codes" and all, first because i didn't get more pussy after learning that stuff, and secondly because it was trying to make me someone i'm not (a chad, actually)
Think of the people that actually use these kind of techniques, you'll realise you don't wanna be that guy at all.
Another thing is, you'll realize that most girls will easily see you're not being yourself and just trying to follow tactics to get her, that you're trying to lead conversations, like you're doing a "step-by-step" thing, and she'll think that's very pathetic i think. i know most girls would figure it out right away when you're not being yourself
The only decent stuff you can find is the stuff about self-improvement, confidence etc. The stuff about interacting with a woman per se is mostly bullshit. You don't need this.
I know it's kind of a meme here but "just be yourself" might be one of the best advices here, as long as you're at least average looking and not a weirdo
>>16806093
I see some fedora tier people who claim to get a lot of pussy, but I honestly can't believe it and I have never seen them actually doing it. I have a friend who is supposedly into this PUA shit, he gets to date a lot of girls from Tinder, and says he fucks them. But I've realised he's mostly lying(he looks like shit, he's the worst extreme of a skinny fat guy you can see). He does get laid but with ugly girls, so what's the point? He could have gotten those ugly bitches without all the PUA crap. And I met one girl who he had supposedly made out with and it looks like he fucking lied, because people who were there with the girl and him claimed otherwise. That is not the kind of shit I like in a friend of mine. I don't even trust him anymore, he has become some sort of a fraud of a person, always lying and trying to appear cool when in reality he is a boring pile of shit. He even tries to act smart and snobby but he is just plain stupid, now that I think about it I don't even know why I'm still his fucking friend.
>>16806124
Also, to be honest, it did help me approach girls. So yeah it's good for confidence but don't try to stick to it.
If you really wanna read some PUA stuff, try the most simple, "universal" advices they give you. Like smile, be confident, don't fear rejection, etc.
Don't get into the things with step by steps, the premade openers, the negs, all that shit.
Those stuff can help you getting confidence when you're starting, but once you get that confidence, just forget about it, and stick with your confidence.
I find it really sad if you need some made-up punchlines to get interest from a girl.
I'm being pretty serious about being careful with that kind of shit, because it can really change a person. That's probably what happened with your friend. He was probably some normal dude with low confidence and found that holy grail to get pussy and now he's someone else because he completely lost his personality because he thinks using these techniques is better than being himself.
How do I make a woman like me or go out with me
be likeable and handsome
>>16805972
I need more? How can I persuade her to do this
>>16805968
>how do I make a woman x
You grab her forcefully by the neck or hair, and whisper menacingly in her ear. This is usually quite effective, except it's bad form and practised by shitskins.
You, anon, should aspire to be a well-mannered gentleman. That means that you cannot MAKE a woman do anything. You can only influence her opinion. It's up to you to determine the dynamic of the interaction, and very often it is up to the male to take the first step, i.e.: ask her out, etc. I say this, because it really doesn't matter how handsome, confident, smart,etc. you really are if you're a passive cunt who doesn't take action.
What do I do about this, /adv/?
>>16805949
The girliest girl I ever knew joined the air force
Stop being a bitch
>>16805949
She's mocking you.
>>16805949
Nothing. Just let them know you're doing fine every so often.
Has anyone else suddenly treated differently by women once you entered a relationship?
Girls are now more open and flirty with me then they ever been in the past
>>16805897
Yeah, it happens.
Ignore them.
Partly because you exude more confidence, you aren't afraid to talk to a woman normally since they have literally nothing you want.
Also partly because you've been "taste-tested" by a woman it sort of proves you aren't a psychopath killer, which instantly makes you more approachable.
It's mostly those two reasons.
im gay
tfw heteronormative opression
Hey, never posted here before. Um... my dad is on his death bed. I was just wondering if anyone else out there has gone through this. I don't really have anyone to call. thanks
>>16805894
And telling me I'm a faggot for typing Um... and I should go back to tumblr is welcome.
>>16805898
Go back to tumblr faggot
I'm sorry to hear this. The only advice I can give you, though, is to leave nothing unsaid. You should be talking to him, not us.
Advice, how the fuck do I get rid of this dry skin on my bottom lip?
Even when I use Vaseline it comes back quickly. It's like the patches shouldn't even be there as my top lip is soft and smooth. Though this is probably my fault as I used to constantly bite my bottom lip as a kid.
Help.
You're dehydrated. Drink a gallon of water a day.
>>16805799
I've tried drinking more water but nothing. Also my top lip isn't dry so its not water.
Help.
>>16805795
>drink lots of water
>lip exfoliater
>chapstick.
After dating through college, I've come to the conclusion that athletic guys are actually better people than nerds
They aren't nowhere as misogynist as nerds
They don't creep on you
They in general have a much brighter out look on the world and don't hold ridiculous resentment against things they have no control over
>>16805755
So what advice do you want OP? Or are you just fishing for attention with bad bait?
Same
>>16805755
It depends on your college, nerd culture differs in places like Austin. I exercise every day, I just happen to be antisocial.
How to roast a Christian who uses their religion as an excuse to hate on people?
matthew 5:22
"But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court; and whoever says to his brother, 'You good-for-nothing,' shall be guilty before the supreme court; and whoever says, 'You fool,' shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell."
>>16805643
http://www.biblestudytools.com/topical-verses/love-bible-verses/
pick
>>16805643
Say with a straight face that you will accept that God says these things if they will accept that God is evil. This will get a rise out of them like not much else can.
How do I change a bad personality?
I feel like I am the embodiment of flaws. When I take actions I only think of myself, and am always negative about everything, cynical, easily triggered, socially awkward and have social anxiety. Because of that, I have few friends, I am just not fun to talk to or be around, and those friends won't even bother talking to me unless I start the conversation or they need something from me.
>>16805476
>all that
Yeah, see a psych
and traffic lights are burnin
>>16805479
Dumb questions, are psychs free? I am not really rich to pay expensive fees. Even though I am self-aware of my flaws I am not depressed and doesn't want to watch the world burn.
>>16805493
No, unless your insurance kicks ass, you will pay a pretty penny for mental health. Your insurance might not have to kick ass. I'm on state health insurance. your flaws probably run deeper than you know and you can probably shake them off easier than you know. doctors tend to be wise folks, by trend. some are out for your dollar, maybe, but they swear by a pretty serious oath to help and work for you, if you have the cash.
outside of that, I recommend reading. it gives you a lot to talk about. more things to talk about will give you less time to look like an asshole. There's lots of shit about this and I don't know your brain. Were you ever fucked with by outside forces? This isn't /x/ but were you? Tell me.
And everybody's jumpin
happiness is just around the corner
so if you like to party
Basically I'm in college this year and have to stay at my grannies or else it's a 2 hour bus ride.
My uncle also lives here and has his entire life basically. In short he's autistic in every spectrum of life. ie;
I have to buy a jug of milk once a week as a peace offering,
Live by 'rules' that suit him so I can't have the heating on in the evening but he can.
I can't have showers or make any noise after 9pm yet he can empty the garbage and Rev his car at midnight and when I pick him up on it theres completely nothing wrong with it.
He's a bible nut and doesn't work, the only friends he has are church nuts.
So in essence, should I : (a) just play along and just say yep and just be agreeable even though it's painful on the inside to follow his autistic ways.
(B) be agreeable for the most part but make slight challenges along the way.
Or (C) go all out and call him a fat autistic sloth who lives with his mom.
Thanks /adv/
whos the grill in your pic. she's like an attractive version of kelly c
>>16805408
I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine. Advice for name my friend
Also I don't pay any rent because my granny doesn't mind me staying as in self sufficient and nice.
However sometimes an aunt or other uncle brings it up not directly but says it to either my granny or autistic uncle. My autistic uncle also brings it up occasionally,
So should I just brush it off and keep letting it slide. Or go the full way and ask why he doesn't pay rent as most men his age have a house and job while he's been living at his moms forever. Would it pay off and shit them up completely or cause a big fuss? Thanks guys
I'm a woman who was raised by a single father, without a mother in the picture. The only three guys I've ever tried to date considered this a huge red flag, and considered the fact that I'm very close to my dad to be a problem. Is this just bad luck, or is it a normal thing for guys to think that a woman without a mother figure is a problem?
Bad luck. Lack of father figure and being controlled by mother is way worse. Ofc if your dad is normal and not rapist pedo.
The problem is the kind of men you're dating. Red flags that indicate you might be abusive, have a history of cheating, etc are reasonable concerns. But assumptions about you because you are close with your father? Prehistoric psudeo psychology.
>>16805224
He was never abusive. We're actually very close, and personally think he did a good job with me.
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