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ill make this quick as possible
>hang out with girl
>find out said girl has boyfriend because of facebook
>confront her
>she says shes not dating him. i know shes lying. go with it cuz i want the sex
>have sex with girl
>make another date to meet up and have sex again
>girl goes on to stands me up, she never shows
>tfw
>turns out she did that same exact thing to her boyfriend
>boyfriend is no longer dating her as of today
now in hindsight i probably should of told this girl to fuck off and told her boyfriend immediately. but up until a week ago i was a virgin (until i fucked her) and i thought i could of made her my GF. so i didn't.
but now im butt hurt and i really want to tell her boyfriend that his girlfriend is a hoe and not to feel bad, and that hes lucky not to have her. BUT the dude JUST broke up with her. and i dot want to make him feel even shittier by telling him she cheated on him. i also don't think its morally right because its not like i didn't know and im just a guilty as she is.
im just mad right now and i don't know if i should ever tell him or just let him remain ignorant. so if you were this dude would you want to know? should i tell him?
Congrats
>>16811840
thanks im emotionally fucked right now and hating all women, wishing i could of lost my virginity to someone else... but thanks.
you win some you lose some...
My mother, who was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, is starting chemotherapy soon. I shaved my head a few days ago in support. She loved it.
I know it's not as bad since I am a man, but I feel like people treat me differently because of my new appearance. My coworkers have teased me, since only a few friends know my motivations. Strangers seem less friendly. It's probably all in my head, but I feel like a significantly less attractive person because of all this. It really makes me hurt more for what my mother will have to endure.
Should I keep my head skinned until my mother is done with treatment, guys?
Before picture. I feel like a vain scumbag for asking this, but my emotions feel awkward.
Nah bro I'm glad you shaved your head, white pride world wide!
You look better with less hair.
I like my guys clean cut personally.
I need some /adv/ bigtime.
I’m dead inside right now you guys.
Things ended this weekend between me and my girlfriend of the last five years. I met her when I was 22 and I’m 27 now. Things were fantastic, not even one year ago she loved me like there was no tomorrow and I did as well. And there was never one day where we didn’t let each other know that. Around December maybe even late November I noticed she started changing. She became colder, more distant, wanted to spend less time together and just stayed in her home playing wow and going to work.
At first I was okay with it but she began to ignore me, and after we’d talk and I’d say I love you she wouldn’t say it back anymore, after a few weeks of this I finally called her out on it and she confessed to me that she actually started to lose her romantic feelings towards me and it hit me like a ton of bricks.
Mostly because I was and still am deeply in love with her. She said I was the perfect boyfriend but just didn’t love me like she once did. While part of her did and she didn’t want to lose me, she no longer has romantic feelings for me anymore. I never treated her wrong, I never hurt her, I was always attentive and loving and lived and died for her smile.
I asked her to be truthful, if there was anyone else but there’s not. All she does now is go to work and play WoW with her guild friends.
It’s devastated me though, since she told me she lost those feelings I became a mess. I’ve tried to forget her, tried to move on, but I can’t. I think about her, the last five years we had and it makes me mad that she didn’t try to fight for them, or for us. I realize you can’t force people to love you but damn I didn’t do anything wrong and I genuinely loved her and thought she was the one. I even wanted to marry her.
I don’t know what to do. I’m shattered and broken hearted mess. The light has gone out of my life and I don’t see any hope. How can I move on? What can I do? How do I get better? Please tell me I’m at my most lowest.
I'm normally such a stoic dude, but I've become an emotional mess over this woman. I've tried to keep my mind occupied by doing other things but it gets so much worse at night. I can't stop thinking about her. And when I dream, she's there. I draw, I work out till exhaustion but it doesn't help.
I can't eat, I can't sleep well and it's really bad.
How do you get over it? What helps? what can I do? Anyone that has ever experience heartbreak over the girl they thought was the one please help me.
Hi OP, I've been in your shoes, only I'm a girl. We were together for over five years when he told me he no longer loved me. It hurt just the way you described it, and there was never any sense or purpose to it. I also looked for answers and reasons why he fell out of love, but honestly not everything has a reason - sometimes, shit just happens and you can't control how people feel, no matter how strongly you feel for them. You need to have the foresight I didn't have and break it off with her now, because trying to hold onto love when love isn't there is the worst feeling in the world. It's going to hurt like Hell, but please trust me that it's much better than the mistake I made where I kept trying to hold on to something that just wasn't there anymore. There's never any sense in heartache, it's just something you have to learn to accept, and you can't accept it when you're clinging to a dream that doesn't exist anymore. She is no longer the woman you fell in love with. The woman you love is the one that loves you back; she is not this anymore, and you need to let go before it eats you alive. If your experience is anything like mine, you will gradually accept it and move on. It gets easier day by day, but it never really goes away completely, but that's okay too because eventually it doesn't hurt, it's just something that's there. Please reach out to your friends. Anytime you feel alone or want to reach out to her, reach out to your friends instead, because she will only be a cold reminder of what you lost. The first few months are the worst. It took me almost two years to completely get over the aftermath, but I promise it is worth it and a lot better than the alternative.
The best thing you can do is talk to your friends. Even when you feel shitty, please just talk to someone. You need your own support group right now separate from her. Get out of the house, go to some meetups, and try some new things.
How do you talk about more embarrassing fetishes with your partner and get them to do it? I've got a lactation fetish and last time i admitted that my partner called me a creep and left.
>>16811696
Were you two close dating for a while or did you come up with that 1 week after dating them?
>>16811696
Whatsa lactation fetish? Booby suckin?
You're aware that women can only lactate after they've had their first child, right?
>meet a guy
>started as friends
>ended as fwb
>he said it was about time to ask me to be his gf, but he was waiting for a special date
>i've been waiting for over 6 months
>>16811690
Why don't YOU ask him? You sound ambivalent about it though, so I'd say dump him.
it was a delay tactic to avoid answering the question. Obviously.
The question of whether you should dump him depends on whether or not you were only in the FWB in order to get to relationship status
>>16811703
actually, i planned to ask him, but he have made pretty clear that he wants to be the one that ask it
1.) I IN NO WAY WANT TO SMOKE THOSE CANCER STICKS
2.) what cigarette brand is the least harmful and how safe is vaping when compared to a traditional cigarette, I'm doing a health project for school, tried looking it up didn't get anything conclusive, wondering if there are any medically inclined folk on here.
Here's your answers. Although you'll still have to find them somewhere else. I doubt your teacher will accept 4chan as a legit source.
All cigarettes are extremely harmful. Lower tar and nicotine (two of the worst poisons) help. Brands that don't add chemicals might be a bit better, but with so many poisons involved the difference is small.
Vaping is safer, although still very nasty. Of course it leaves the most dangerous poison but removes most others. How big a difference this makes is still open for debate. The main advantage of vaping is elimination of 2nd hand smoke, so it can safely be used around others.
Nicotine isn't any more poisonous then caffeine. Stop trying to sound smart
>>16812029
>>16812029
Nicotine is far worse than caffeine.
Caffeine can worsen conditions such as glaucoma or (obviously) diabetes, but a quick google search only says caffeine is 'possibly unsafe' when taken directly, I.E. in pill form.
How to regularly "shoot" sperm instead of having it just dribble out? I have done it a couple times but it's extremely rare and I don't know how it happened. Please help I actually feel embarrassed about this.
>>16811475
Kegels, edging, stop masturbating.
>>16811475
This is stupid. Your stupid. Theres so many better things you could be spending time on, go learn a new language instead.
>>16811511
>Your stupid
Irony. Also what the fuck is the problem with this? I'm just asking for advice on something I'm not experienced with.
>>16811505
I read about kegels they never really helped just made me have premature ejac problems. Maybe i'm doing it wrong or something?
I need to get as far as the East Coast as possible. I just want to start a new life on my own, somewhere far away. Someone on /x/ suggested Montana or something similar, but I don't know. I live in NC currently and I need to get out of here.
I don't have a lot of money being a college student, but as soon as I graduate, I have to go. Any job will suffice as long as it pays enough to keep me alive with a place to sleep, food on my table and enough to get a drink every now and then.
Please, help me out. I can tell you my story if you want, but I really need help.
>>16811448
K whats your story.
>>16811448
Well, try to get a part time job and save everything you have for now.
>>16811448
Just live in the triangle you faggot
I genuinely have no idea. I graduated from college last May, and then If I was interested in someone we could just have a study date in the library or in one of the dorms' lounges. Now that I'm out and working my time is taken up by work, gym, cooking, and eating. By the time I've got some free time its 9pm.
A while ago I tried 'casual dating sites' like social sex dot com (yes, yes I know). That, believe it or not, didn't work. Just today, I made an account on PoF, but within a minute of making a profile two people already wanted to meet up, one of whom was behind a paywall. This indicates to me that every dating site is straight bullshit. The only one that might work might be tinder, but I don't have social media and I don't take pictures of myself all the time like everyone else seems to do.
I genuinely want to be intimate with someone, both physically and emotionally, but now that I'm out of college I have no idea what to do.
If I don't change anything my life will be an excruciatingly lonely one. I just don't know where to start.
Try chatroullete to get your communication skills up. That's a start.
>>16811446
I graduated May 2013 and I still don't know. I have no social life but I figured out how to get dates from OkCupid, POF, and Tinder easily enough. But more often than not it's just a waste of time and money. Even if you do get laid it's usually an empty and meaninglessness experience. Nothing like having a group of close knit friends like in college. I'm getting close to the point where I'm considering completely quitting dating because it's usually such a disappointment and waste of time.
>>16811450
I feel like I might as well just yolo swag on tinder then. My abs are pretty nice but I have brown skin
pic unrelated
How do I cope with sexual shit that's happened in my past as a child? When I was 4 my parents divorced, I lived with my dad and stayed with my mom for short periods every now and then. During one such time when I was 8-9 I was in bed with my mom (usually slept in bed with her and watched cartoons.) She asked me to take off my shorts because she wanted to try something. It wasn't unusual for her to be in the bathroom while I was bathing or me just being naked around the house in general, so I did. Then she started rubbing my penis and I asked what she was doing. She said it feels good to some guys and wanted to see if it did for me too. Nothing really happened, didn't get a boner or anything, was mostly confused, she quit after a while and asked how it felt and i told her "ok i guess" or something along those lines. One time I was in the bath i had a random boner for no reason and she asked if she could try that thing again and i complied. It actually did feel good this time and it eventually felt like i had an overwhelming urge to pee. She told me i was in the bath so it was ok, and that's how I experienced my first orgasm. I asked her what it was and she told me it just meant I was a healthy young boy. Since it felt good and i was just a naive little kid I'd ask her to do it again pretty often, and she usually did. I told my cousins and friends about it and we started doing it to each other too. We told different girls we knew about it, and they wanted us to do it to them, which is how we found out girls don't actually have dicks. It only lasted around a year with my male and female friends, a little longer with cousins of both genders, and until my teens with my mother. Then i started to realize just how weird it actually was, and the embarrassment crushed me. Of course, my cousins never mention it, and neither do I; I'm sure we both hope the other forgot. My mom never mentions it either, but I feel like it's stunted my relationship with her.
>>16811357
I don't really know how this has affected me, but I know it definitely has and I don't know how to handle it; I can't afford to see professional help right now. I feel like having any sort of relationship with another human being has become extremely difficult because I have severe trust issues.
Is this possibly real?
I find it hard to believe.
Really uncomfortable topic. I took baths with my mom until I was like 9. After my parents divorced at 12 she would start asking me to sleep in her bed and take baths with her again. Fortunately I said no, but it really creeped me out. Women have no morals.
I've been fapping to drawings and photos of traps, femboys and (2D) futa since I was 16, I'm 21 now, yet I also fap to women for the most part.
How can I tell if I'm not gay or bi?
>>16811342
Go try to kiss a man
You'll find out really quick
>>16811353
but I have no man to kiss
You fap to dicks and vaginas alike. You're bi.
How do I 'be myself' when talking to girls?
This is the advice people always give me but I have no idea how to follow through with it.
>>16811323
Pretend to be the self you want yourself to be while being yourself without thinking about the self you are actually being
>>16811333
that sounds like a catch 22
>>16811323
"Be yourself" doesn't mean anything. It's just drivel that normies have been trained to spout compulsively to pretend to be """""helpful""""".
I'm 26, tall, average build, pretty good looking face. I make good money and I'm funny- that's the attribute I typically lean on.
For years there's been a running joke among friends, acquaintances and coworkers, that I date the lowest on the totem pole. I won't lie, I think I find a wider chunk of the population more adorable than most. There's very few men that I find unfuckabley unattractive, and even that's malleable if I spend enough time around them. If they're douchey though, that kills whatever chance they may have had.
I was watching Always Sunny and said I wish Charlie was real, and my best friend said "Jesus, you even like the most pathetic FICTIONAL characters." And it's true! The sadsacks, and the chubby boys, the retarded and well-meaning, the broke, the balding. I remember one of my boyfriend's buddies pulled me aside when we first started dating and said "you're... really dating him? You really DO like him right? Like you're not fuckin around?"
All the jokes don't bother me. But my question- is it really THAT uncommon/weird??
>>16811249
>tl;dr is it uncommon for people to date well "below" their "league"?
No, you're being smart. Women are such fucking crowd-followers they can't stand someone who isn't. They're being shallow and looking for validation for their own behavior. Date the people you like and fuck the haters, seriously.
And liking people for their personality is waaay smarter. Men fall into the trap of good looks all the damn time and it's always stupid. Hell, you doing it might enable others to follow your path.
also, mind you, charlie is the #1 most liked character on that show. your friends are just stupid.
Suppose, hypothetically, as a small thought experiment, that you were in fact a sadist. Not in the way that the BDSM community actually means, but that your sexuality hinges largely upon causing harm to others and that there is nothing safe, sane, nor consensual about it because ssn doesn't quite tickle your fancy. It is, to you, akin to playing house instead of being a home owner. Suppose further that as a consequence of this sadism clashing with your superego you opted to live in near celibacy, save short and controlled dalliances with your preferred sexual partners, but that you found these to be unsatisfying because they lacked your, ah, preferred flavor palate of sexual enjoyment. So you return to a sort of enforced celibacy which, in retrospect, probably did a great deal to contribute to the sort of repressive habits that created your unusual characteristic in the first place.
Now you're an adult and have a problem: you can't stave off your own sexuality forever. Nor do you particularly wish to. It's simply gotten to the point where you wish to have fun, but you also want to retain your humanity. How does one strike a balance between the satisfaction of one's own bestial nature and one's need to live decently? How does one find that razor's edge upon which to perch and remain there? On the one side is self-righteous suicide, and the other monstrosity, and in the middle is perhaps civilization.
So while I ask of you a specific question, perhaps the line of query can be asked more broadly: how does one find internal balance?
I ain't reading all that
Go spank a girl or do some bondages
You idiot. stop reading de sade NOW. you speak like a wanna-be from 1824.
However, bit more specific pls. What is it that gets you off/what you're craving?
This is relevant to getting good adv
>>16811356
>you speak like a wanna-be from 1824
My diction and vernacular is modern, though my speech is quite so formal as to rigid. Ask me how I know that you don't rub shoulders with the elite.
>What is it that gets you off?
Things both exquisite and varied. If I were to conjure a particular scenario from the front of my mind, then I might call up the following: imagine a beautiful woman. She has a pedigree. She has education. She has social influence. Her family has money. Imagine that she also has a secret that she wants nobody to find out about. Let us suppose that she would choose to be subjected to quite a bit torment before letting this secret out in the open. Perhaps it would mean destruction. And so we begin consensually, only not. Perhaps with set of very special acupuncture needles that, when struck with picks, produce musical notes through intense vibration, planted by some amount of medical training near enough to important nerve clusters to, ah, tickle them. In accompaniment, suppose we have other implements of a grim nature. I leave some of those to your wild imagination. Suppose now that there's a limit to pain that our lovely creature is willing to endure, and we won't push her past it, but we will probe her depths. She will grovel, among other things.
Suppose that you were someone whose mind spat up such things unbidden, but that you were, in fact, in possession of an intact conscience and capable of guilt. What now?
Someone posted a bad thing on /int/, you can probably guess what. I opened it before realizing what it was in Chrome. I didn't download it, you know on vanilla 4chan you click the image and it blows up full scale?
How do I make sure any trace of it is gone? I don't want to go to jail.
>going to jail for clicking on an image
>>16811219
Still I don't want it, would you?
I can't imagine there's a lenient policy.
I cleared googles cache, anything else I should do?
This thread is more than enough incriminating evidence. 'I didn't know what it was!' is not a valid legal defense. RIP OP, you waived your right to plausible deniability.
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