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How do I jumpstart my marriage?
We've been married less than a year and I've basically become nothing more than a teddy bear for my wife.
We don't have sex. We don't go out. We don't do anything but watch TV. Despite my attempts to get us to do ANYTHING else.
I'm constantly angry and unhappy and she doesn't seem to care or realize why.
What the fuck do I do to fix this?
>>16809931
What does she say when you talk to her about it?
>>16809931
>he fell for the marriage meme
>>16809939
>cries
>apologizes
At that point, the night is ruined. I just don't bother any more. It's the same with sex.
>Want sex
>Try to come on to her
>Pushed away repeatedly
>Explicitly state that I'm interested in sex, in case she's not getting it
>"Well now I'm...
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I don't get this... I've met this girl she seemed amazing, she tells me I'm like her best friend and she wants me in her life because she doesn't have anyone else she's that close to.
Then we start fucking, and apparently the sex is great for her too. But she insists we remain fwb. When she just wanted to be friends she FOUGHT to have me in her life because I was her best friend, but she insists she can't be more with me because of "romantic feelings" she doesn't feel for me??
Why the fuck say I'm her best friend?...
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>>16809839
She just told you straight out she's not interested in a romantic relationship with you. You have to make your choices now. I don't recommend you stay in friends with her. It will complicate things for you later on as you search for your next relationship partner.
>>16809876
Ya I guess... But she FOUGHT to have me in her life. She FOUGHT for me and said I was her best friend, she initiated the sex.
And after all that I began to trust her as my best friend and that's where my attachement came from to try and pursue something more. Like best friend, trust, sex and attraction..what else is there?
Like what are these feelings I've never heard or really felt? Because I'm apparently her best friend and we fuck great, I male her feal safe..but now?
>>16810530
But what are ROMANTIC FEELINGS?
We're best of friends according to her and I started feeling the same way, have great sex, and I like being honest and open with her. But she says there's this "FEELING" she doesn't have with me and it's inly lead her to one shitty relationship and trusting people who have abused her.. I mean I'm at a total loss, like she feels what I feel and it's enougb for me why does she need this pointless feeling?
I'm so fucking lost..
Did I just get blown out / shut down?
>work in an office complex
>qt girl works on the floor above
>she's quite businesslike but pleasant
>she asks me two questions about stationary and I help her
>feel attracted to her
>panic recently as I thought her company were relocating
>she hasn't been in work for two weeks
>last...
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Its shocking how unbelievably clueless some of you spergs are. This is a nothing situation. Forget about it, there isnt even a glimmer of chance.
Also she was filling up her own glass of water, which is why she was standing there.
>>16809815
No chance of us going out? What makes you say that? I tend to agree, but is it really so obvious from ten lines of greentext?
/adv/, has anyone here dealt with soft erections at an early age? I'm 23 and have that problem, in addition to a loss of morning wood.
I was scripted generic viagra by my doc which helps. It's still really annoying that I have to use this shit at such an early age.
I did a bunch of tests and the doc said they all came back normal (testosterone, blood pressure, cholesterol). I'm not overweight (5'10 140 lbs) and I work out 3-5 days/week.
I donno, I'm really depressed and stressed about it and wondering if anyone's dealt with...
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23 here. Masturbating less seems to help me, let's me recharge a bit. I feel you though.
>>16809793
D E P R E S S I O N
Quit 4chan, do some physical exercise, hangout with cute grills.
>>16809825
You have weak erections?
Yeah I went ~25 days without fapping which I thought helped a tiny little bit, no major improvement though.
>>16809835
I'm not sure if I'm depressed though. As I said I work out 3-5 days/week depending on what else I have going on, I have a full-time job, and I have a pretty qt gf.
Also, doesn't the lack of morning wood typically mean it's physical, not mental?
I have an issue I'd like to discuss if anyone's willing to listen. Privately. It's an issue of a critical importance. It's been affecting my life for a long time, and I it would change my world if someone could find it within themselves to hear me out and possible try to help.
If anybody's interested, feel free to leave an e-mail, Skype or whatever you want, and I will contact you.
Thanks.
Can you just write about it here?
>>16809797
I tried once. It turned into a massive, meaningless dispute. A complete mess. I sincerely doubt it would be any different if I tried again.
>>16809785
Go the extra mile and post here.
Even among the countless, and infinite trolls, you will find one anon who can change your life
I think I've come to terms with my virginity. I could've lost it so many times already but didn't feel like it or simply stopped trying. I no longer feel the drive to lose it, of course I still have sexual impulses and the need to get physical with someone but as for sex I don't even care anymore. Has anyone ever felt this way? Am I deceiving myself? I'm 19 almost 20 now and I literally have no problem with dying a virgin (I know it's way too early to say that but this is how I feel now)
It doesnt matter at all anyway, no physical presence of a virginity, don't put it on a pedestral.
>>16809770
I still have mine at 20. Can't really say I care. All I want is someone to care for.
>>16809770
Just go fuck a hooker, brah. Here is a secret about pussy that almost no one will ever tell you. It's essentially a drug, and you are born addicted. No matter how much pussy you get you will never be satisfied. Allowing pussy to dictate your life's decisions is akin to allowing your meth addiction to make those choices.
Now I ain't saying sex is bad. Sheit, meth must be pretty fucking good if people are willing to do the shit they do to get it, but the problem is that it inevitably ends up controlling them.
>be me, socially awkward
>no friends, living in a foreign country and works 80 hour weeks while getting paid like shit
>feelsbadman.jpg
>sort of estranged from parents
>tries to patch things up with mom but given up on dad
>dad is even more socially awkward than i am, with even less confidence
>all his former friends are more successful than him and have distanced...
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>i dont care, tell my mom to tell him to fuck off
>then suddenly remember my mom telling me how he has no friends and stays at home all day on weekends, either on his computer or on his phone, as he also have no hobbies whatsoever
>even when he is invited to the rare social occasion he always does or says awkward shit that embarrasses himself
>realizes he's been like this for so long that he'll probably die this way, depressed, broken and (if my...
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What has your dad done to make your relationship with him like this?
>>16809895
This
MY dad used to fucking beat me as a child and would routinely scare the fuck out of my mother, myself and younger sister. I've partially patched things up with him because it's extremely useless to hold on to anger. Everyone dies eventually, I'd rather not look back and wish I made things better with father. He has fucked me up pretty bad, but oh well. Explain your hatred for your father anon.
found condoms in my boyfriends car?
so I know he has condoms in his car. there was a box not opened that expires in 2017 I found out like a couple months after we were dating.
when we first hooked up, he took out a box (this was in his car btw) but we didn't open it or use any. he says that box was the unopened box in his car. but I loooked through his car yesterday and I found a box that was open with two condoms missing, expiration date 2016.. and when I saw these conforms, I'm almost positive this was the box he pulled out the first night we hooked...
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>>16809689
WOMAN. JUST. ASK. HIM.
christ, it's not that difficult.
Tell him you're concerned with his honesty towards you, and hash it out. /adv/ cannot help here, because people are all different
Good luck btw
>>16809696
>>16809696
I did ask him.
he said he didn't know that box was there and it was probably from a long time ago, but, I remember that box when we first hooked up a year ago.
two are gone now.
and he got a new box and said that was the one he had when we first hooked up but it's not
>>16809709
try speaking with some of his friends?
does he have sisters?
Is it possible to be a dominant person in everyday life, but be submissive in the bedroom? Is that something that works out, or is it just a pipe dream? I am very much a leader type, but in the bedroom sometimes I have switch fantasies.
>>16809554
Very common. Very very common. Holy fuck you're par for the course in the world of kink
In my experience the girls who are feisty and independent in real life are often totally submissive in the bedroom.
>>16809560
This.
My family is poor and I'm going to free community college. I live in my room at home and commute an hour to CC. I have a constant intense feeling, sorta like a craving yo
>have my own room in the town I study
>to have my own laptop that works
>to have privacy
>to have nice things
I try to fight it because my intelligent part of the brain knows that the only thing people need to succeed are paper, pen, bed, book. But I can't, help me.
>>16809463
none of that sounds extreme. I think most people want privacy. As for the rest, its not that big of a deal unless you let it be.
>>16809463
It's not a problem to want those things as long as you don't let it consume you.
A working laptop is an extremely important and useful tool of you want to get what in today's world and it can potentially save you money. Instead of paying for Internet at home, you can use wifi somewhere else and/or tether off your phone. You can also do serious work on a relatively inexpensive laptop.
Almost all of the things you talked about (except privacy) are easily achieved with any sort of part time job.
>>16809483
I work part time as a waiter on weekends and earn around 30 euros a week, 35 if there's a good night.
It's like I'm useless. I can't work full time because there are some things at college I can't miss.
I really wnt somebody to answer that understands intentional drama or mindgames:
So I see this chick sometimes; she calls and texts me and says she wants to be with me (in person too) and calls me her best friend and her boyfriend knows about us too.
Why are you talking to me about this shit that would get him pissed but being half secret about it? Why flirt in front of your boy when he becomes a beta orbiter when we do?
She pays for shit when we go out and I know shes nuts about her ex, even says she only talks to him because she feels bad about how he...
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I had a girl like that I'm my friendship group and the first few days I spoke to her she told me she liked the attention she got from guys as it was an ego boosts, life was giving me a sighn there to drop her right there but my penis thought I had a chance so I kept on talking to her until eventually I found myself orbiting her. For a few months she would initiate conversationa but it would always lead to a topic about different guys she was crushing on in the friendship group. It was until I realised she had been saying pretty much the same thing to all my boys that I...
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>>16809487
Sounds like a plan. I don't mind her treating me to things, or even freaking out if I'm happily texting while she's bitching on the phone. I really doubt I could be her best friend and potential man if you are an emotional rollercoaster
I told her she could be my side chick and she sounds alright with that, but fuck games dude, I'm too old for that shit.
>>16809462
I had a close friend that started doing shit like this. This is way back in the day though (high school) so I guess it's to be expected. It was aways shit like "If I wasn't dating other anon I'd totally want to be with you." You know, the usual shit. I valued our friendship, but this did make an awkward wall between us.
Is it bad that I'm 22 and don't have a car/license? Do I look like an idiot taking public transit to and from work?
>>16809439
>Car license
>>16809439
Id bet most of the people on the bus are older than you so no you dont look like an idiot.
Cars are expensive and if youre fine with the bus dont worry bout it.
But for god sake get your license. Not having one, now thats weird.
>>16809439
I got my license and bought my first car when I was 25, almost 26.
I was 23 when I lost my virginity.
You march to the beat of your own drum, OP.
Should I/how do I forgive my family?
Growing up, I was put through a lot. My parents were never really there for me, and use to leave my sister "in charge" all the time. Problem was, she was a sadist. I was once locked in a wardrobe for 7 hours, which my sister still thinks is funny. Even when my parents found out, she was never punished. Moreso, she used to psychologically torment me, by giving my toys to the dogs out the back, and then showing me the broken toys and telling me she did it. Heck, one time she even pushed a trampoline down (it was on its side)...
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>>16809415
(cont.)
Anyway, after a long time of abusing drugs and alcohol, I finally decided to start making my life better. I managed to quite all the drugs and alcohol, and got myself back into uni. Now, I am in a PhD program, and have finally joined a gym (only to discover how insanely easy it is to stay fit).
However, a couple of days ago, my sister came over and had a bit of a stab at me saying that "You're the sort of person who never lets things go". Normally, I am though, but I cannot...
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>>16809416
Lol fk dat bich
Be cool
Stay in scool
>>16809419
To further expand on this. Your bitch sister is a sociopath at minimum. Which means everything she says can and should be discarded.
And your family is full of cunts.
Objectively think about it and you should reach am answer. Maybe one you feel is 'wrong' but is most likely the most accurate one
There's this stupid whore in one of my classes. I've been observing her behavior to find her insecurities. She looks like she's really self conscious about her stomack. The next time she starts acting like a stupid cunt how can I make her cry in front of everyone?
What, did she turn you down when you asked hee out or something? Call you creepy. did she?
>>16809377
She acts like a retard in class and interrupted me when I was talking to spew some gender gap bulllshit. I hate social sciences so much. She's an unbearably stupid tumblerina.
Call a girl fat, imply she's fat, joke about lazy fat chicks, joke about fat sluts.
I made couple of girls cry by simply getting into an argument and subtley mentioning jokes about them being fat.
>Met this girl few days ago in a bar and took her number.
> I text her next day, I get a reply
>text her after 2 days to ask her out
> No response
I really don't understand , we really had a good time together. Why didn't she ignore me from the first text?
can someone explain to me women? I am really confused.
Pic very related.
Why would you text her morning :) like an autistic.
You plan a date every interaction
Also why didn't you call her? Wtf is the point of texting. Also why text her saying "geee golly I had a darn good time with you yesterday heha, we should hang again soon partner"
That's how lame your text was. You firstly call her, let her know who it is, talk then arange your next meet. You came off as if you never interacted with a female before and are excited to see her again. Weaaak
>>16809356
where I live we don't call first, we always text.
Also doesn't explain why she replied first time if she is not interested?
