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How do I become happy and stop hating myself?
Hey Anon, I'm sorry you feel this way. I've only recently learned how to stop hating myself. Rather than typing out rambling paragraphs, I'm going to give the sparknotes versions of what I learned from beating depression.
- Accept that you're a human. None of us are perfect. But you still love your friends and family all the same despite their imperfections, don't you? You're much more focused on your negative qualities than anyone else.
- Embrace failure. As odd as it sounds, failure isn't a bad thing. It's an opportunity to learn from what went wrong and fix it next time. Your work/schoolwork/daily activities you need to do shouldn't be looked at as something you must do or have to do, but as a chance for personal growth. Little by little, you can grow each day.
- Pursue intimacy with other people. I don't mean spending a lot of time with them but only talking about superficial things. Talk about your feelings, dreams, thoughts and open yourself up to other people. It's scary as fuck at first, but once you get past that initial fear it will feel amazing. Don't bask in isolation, actively pursue meaningful connections with other people. (Not sure how old you are, but look up Erik Erikson's psychosocial stages of development, specifically intimacy vs. isolation. Realize you have a CHOICE between these two. You have to power to change your world. I promise you won't regret choosing intimacy.
- Accept that it will take time. Being generally unhappy and hating yourself sounds like depression. It's slow to heal, but it does get better. Seek therapy out, it's incredibly beneficial to have someone to talk to about your feelings that gives you unconditional positive regard.
Kind of ended up rambling anyway, ask away if you want clarification or more specific advice
>>16801692
not op, but how do i recover and get back into my education after a year of non-stop failing, and failing internships? My university counselor guided me into choosing another study, but it's to hard, and now i hope i can get back into my previous study, and not make the same mistake
Just let go
Let yourself loose once in a while
I really want to rawdog a prostitute but I don't want to get an std. Is there some safe way I can quickly check the prostitute to make sure she's clean? I have two escorts on my phone that I fuck twice a month (one white, another black) The white one seems the most safe because she doesn't take black customers and is fairly pricey, also I have had her perform oral on me before with out a condom and never got anything.
>>16801645
Post the rest of the comic
>>16801645
Rawdog
No STD
Pick one.
Your escorts will not want to rawdog you.
What are some things I should consider doing to age well later? I want to still look good when I'm older.
this is a question for a cosmetic surgeon, not /adv/
Diet and exercise
>>16801619
> don't use cosmetics
> don't smoke or do drugs
> drink alcohol in moderation and only high quality booze
> eat more greens then meat
>only have one sexual partner, who is your husband
Last point is the most important. If you already failed it you are fucked and will age terribly whore.
I am a normal man, with a normal wife, a normal life and normal job, and a normal two year old son.
Last night I had an extremely unsettling dream and am concerned about what it means. I dreamed life was pretty much the same as always. Same wife and same house. Instead of a son though I had a three to four year old daughter. The disturbing part was that throughout this dream I was constantly molesting her! Like, in front of my wife and my mom and it was all completely normal to everybody in the dream. It was completely normal to my daughter in the dream who was only annoyed by the distraction of her father stopping what she was doing to violate her. Basically in this world women and children stopped what they were doing to be violated by men.
I woke up and was diamonds, but then immediately felt so unbelievably disgusted by what I was doing in this dream. I am not and never have been sexually attracted to children! Seriously, I love my son and that thought horrifies and disgusts me, but for some reason my dream state it was not. I am a normal straight male and really only get turned on by adult women. I am older and like women closer to my age, I don't even care for teens as much as a curvy milf. I think pedo's are human scum and should be euthanized to cleanse the gene pool.
Why in the fuck did I have that awful dream?! What does this mean?! Was I molested as a child and don't remember? Am I a closet pedo in my subconscious but don't cognitively realize this yet? Can this dream be interpreted in a different way?
Help please! I am worried about it.
>>16801557
>I think pedo's are human scum and should be euthanized to cleanse the gene pool
well, maybe you secretly are a pedo. people with such strong opinions on a topic usually have some deep rooted problems with it.
maybe you just wish you could have sex whenever and wherever you want to. pretty reasonable and normal if you ask me. dreams tend to reach for fucked up scenarios sometimes. don't think about it too much
>>16801569
Maybe that is it. I have been accused of being entitled and my wife has a medical condition that makes sex much less frequent and enjoyable than it used to be.
Maybe it is just a sexual frustration fantasy of completely casual and uninhibited sex?
>>16801589
>medical condition that makes sex much less frequent and enjoyable than it used to be
and what would that be?
it sounds as if your body just needed to "vent"
>Have girlfriend (25) for 6 years who is into Japan and K pop
>I hate it but I accept it because I am a gamer and she accepts that of me too
>She is going to Japan and Korea in September both 5 months (so 10 months) for something like an internship for being a teacher in education
>How fucked am I
I am never jealous but knowing she is going to a country with so many asians makes me a bit sad. If her internship was in the US or Europe or any other continent I would have been ok with it for obvious reasons. Are the asian boys there actually like in the music videos or are they ugly in real life?
>>16801553
Is your GF white? Then you should not worry about Asian men. I'm Asian myself and for some reason white girls look down on us. Well that's what I feel.
Are 80% of /adv/ threads, troll threads now?
>About to lose my shit on you for making a retarded, clearly not /fit/ related topic
>Realize I'm on /adv/, not /fit/
lol
It's hard to say without knowing her personally, and even then you never really know. Some chicks aren't into the men, just the culture. Some chicks are also into the men. 10 months is a long time to expect a dick not to go in there. But if she has dedicated 6 years to you, you would think she has the control to not ruin it for 10 months.You would think...
Got a couple of valentines-day themed questions for you, /adv/.
It's about that time when the majority of my acquaintances who had started a successful relationship between 18-20 years of age are now getting engaged.
I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 6 years now, and although I know she's not keen to get married just yet, she's dropping hints like crazy about engagement, and her family are starting as well.
My problem is that since about the 2nd year, I've had this niggling feeling that I don't want to be with this girl for the rest of my life. I love her, but I just feel as though I wouldn't be happy long-term and I've recently been finding myself unhappy more often.
I can be happy with her perhaps 70% of the time, and most of that time is when we're out doing something nice. Problems arise when we go back to her house and she starts shouting at her parents for genuinely negligible things, or when I point out she's doing something she shouldn't be doing and she twists the scenario to make herself the victim and place me in a situation where I have to apologise for calling her out, or the fact that we actually have nothing in common besides our extended relationship; no mutual interests or anything.
Like I said though, it's been 6 years, I'm close with her family and they're all good people, not to mention that she's one of my best friends: I just feel like if she got impatient and proposed tomorrow, I would pretty much have to say no, and I'm not sure that's ever going to change.
I need a third person perspective, and a drink.
why have you started that relationship in the first place?
>>16801494
She was beautiful, interesting, and easy to talk to.
None of those things have changed, but I'm questioning whether that's enough to build a marriage on; even disregarding that feeling that marriage with her wouldn't be a good idea for me, and maybe even for her.
>>16801502
tell her what you honestly think and how you feel, it is the best you can do and see how she will react to that.
remember that it is your life and your feelings are just as important as anybodys elses
I suppose I should get a job.
I'm unexperienced, and I don't want to go trough the trouble of studying in college for so much time, even if that means having a lower salary.
What is important to me is:
1) free time: a job that doesn't take much time so I can enjoy my hobbies at home
2) comfort: hopefully something done sitting
3) working as alone as possible: i can handle working with/for people, but i'd rather do it alone
4) proximity from home. i dont want to spend several moneys with trasnport.
5) good money
I have a good curriculum regardless of my experience, I studied in a very good school, speak several languages, have a lot of certificates, am 6'3 and minimally decent looking, etc. I think I could virtually be employed by anyone unless someone who's competing with me has been to college. And experience is also a big issue. I think that if I get good experience, I could potentially fit in most jobs that don't require a bachellor.
Based on what I said, what job should I be looking for?
If I apply to those low positions in offices, do I have a chance?
I'm 29. I never went to college and I've bounced around between entry level jobs. I work in a office right now and it's ok but it's not a lot of money at all ($13/hr.) The most I have made was $20/hr and that company ended up making a ton of layoffs. You can find something that feels cushy but you probably won't find something that pays well and you definitely won't find a job where you can work entirely alone. I'm sure it's possible to make a lot of money without a degree but you'd have to be working your ass off in sales or running your own business.
>>16801460
Pic? She's beautiful
Sup guys, I need some advice.
What does it mean if my ex gf who broke up with me at NYE party (some idiotic stuff, not even worth it to post), now is asking my friend how my life is going?
It's ridiculus to me, because I'm seeing her maybe 2 times a week when I go to the store where she works, and she could just ask me.
>>16801295
we didnt talked since break up, also there is radio silence.
She wants to know if you're pining for her.
>>16801316
why?
Tell me something depressing.
that's the only meat he's ever going to feed a pussy his whole life
^kek
>>16801204
After the first time I sex sex, while cuddling with the girl, she told me she was molested as a child. Since I was an autistic child, I misunderstood her and thought she was telling me how much more experience she had, and it made me nervous that I didn't sex her right. I never told anyone and she went on to become a drug addict and I've heard she has attempted suicide a few times.
I need help on a pretty simple matter. Yes I have a lawyer but it's Friday night, they aren't available and I'm trying to read up on this before I even talk to my lawyer.
Long story short is my buddy was pissed off at me, got caught in some stupid legal shit, made a statement against me while still extremely high like 2 hours after being arrested. After sobering up says he doesn't even remember it, etc. Regrets screwing me over by blaming me. Aren't cops supposed to wait a certain amount of time before taking a statement for that exact reason? Is there some state statute for WI for this?
I'm fairly certain there is but I'm unable to find it. Help?
Kek no, there is no such statute. You're fucked if he told them the truth.
>>16801097
I have no idea what you're trying to say, OP.
But if your friend accused you of selling him drugs, the solution is pretty simple. Get rid of the drugs.
You can't get in any trouble if you're just accused of something. Especially if your friend hasn't agreed to testify against you. As long as there isn't any physical evidence.
>>16801123
That's the thing. He didn't. It has nothing to do with the truth, the problem is that Wisconsin just allows hearsay. If someone says something, you did it. I've known people who have been revoked for probation for this. That's why falsified statutory/sexual assault charges are such an issue here.
Apparently just saying he was high/did it out of spite isn't enough. So basically I'm fucked no matter what. I could have sworn there was some procedure where they are supposed to wait for sobriety purposes but apparently I am mistaken because I keep reading about people doing the same thing and can't get their statement retracted... Well, I'm fucked I guess.
so i was an autistic faggot all through out highschool with my hair. trying to style it in very particular ways, spending tons of time in front of the mirror and using a lot of hair gel. and once i started college i got overwelmed and stressed with the work. i picked up a bad hair twisting habit that lasted a good 2-3 years. always impulsively picking and twisting at my hair. the same exact spots i would twist my hair in are now either dead or extremely thin. i used to have way in the front. my back is super thick and my hair generally grows back quick but the front is just garbage. im 90% sure trichotillomania is what caused my frontal balding. im 25 and have a younger brother and father who arent at all balding.
my mom is saying that its gotten pretty bad and that i should try some natural remedys. I tried rogaine for 6 months but nothing came out of that. im curious about black seed oil but im very skeptical about it working
is there any hope for me? any recommendations?
Shave it off and grow a beard and buy a leather jacket or a jean jacket.
Shave it off and get /fit/
>>16801048
Why are you consulting a bunch of chucklefucks on 4chan?
This requires the work of a clinical practitioner in endocrinology or dermatology.
So I've had chronic migraines for a while now and just recently I had to go to the hospital because it was so painful I couldn't function. I used to take prescription pills for it when I was younger, but it never really helped. I told my doctor this and he suggested I try medical cannabis and got me a card and recommendation. I've never smoked it before but am willing to try it to get rid of the migraines. The only problem is that my GF is super against weed. How can I explain it to her so she could be accepting of it? I smoke hookah so I was thinking about explaining how it's healthier because I'm not taking in nicotine.
I really, really, really, really, really, hate stoners. But if you have a legitimate medical need, by all means give it a shot. If your girlfrend doesn't want your pain alleviated dump her ass, she doesn't care about you.
If you show her the doctor's recommendation and she still gives you shit, she's an asshole
>>16800925
Yeah I was skeptical about it at first too. But he started explaining how it could help and I thought I should see if it can help. I know a lot of people abuse it just to use it recreationally.
>be me
>senior in highschool
>open locker and out falls a valentine's note
>"will you go out with me" and a number
>scared to text because if I don't like them I don't want to be a dick
Wat do?
You can be an autistic and say "I don't care" - if it's a prank, you avoided it thus, if it's not, you might have missed an opportunity with a cool girl or with a land whale - 66% success rate.
If you do call the number, it might have been a prank, or said land whale has a crush on you - 66% failure rate. Then again, if might also be a cool girl - but only for 33%.
BUT: the win in this bet might be totally worth it. If we don't take risks in life, we never grow as people.
At the end, you are the one to decide.
>>16800906
Don't be such a fucking loser. Trust me, you will like anyone who shows you affection when the world kicks you ass a little and your living alone living off a shit job in the future.
You got it all figured out though, don't you?
Fuck off.
>>16801072
Bitter /r9k/ user detected
How do I get over my infatuation for Makoto?
This idealized, perfect embodiment of a tomboy has made me unable to become attracted to 90% of 3D women
Do cute, short haired, gentle tomboys even exist in real life?
>>16800904
She is your waifu, just accept it.
>>16800904
What's she from?
Anyway, if you look hard enough, I guess you can find someone fleshy who is almost good enough.
move to japan and stop looking for cute japanese girl features in angry white women
im 18 but my brother is 16 and we want to see deadpool (rated r) and i was wondering if any of you know any movie theatres that dont check id. i bought tix at pacific at the grove without even thinking about this.
If you buy your brother's tickets I don't think they'll stop you. I know when I was like ten my dad used to take me to rated R movies and nobody gave any fucks.
>>16800872
but your dad is a parent/guardian, you have to be 21 to take minors into theatres
>>16800868
post nudes of the girl in the picture
