Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1538. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1538. page
I asked this girl out the other day and she came up with a good enough excuse so i decided to cut my losses, but than a few days after she asked me if i did want to go to the movies (i know, but she wanted to see deadpool) so i said i would love to, but she has just texted me saying she wants to go as friends, not anything more. she has literally teased me for the past 2 weeks with snapchats and i just dont get it anymore, should i just tell her to fuck off and actually cut my losses? ive never had a girl play with me like this before and its really getting to me.
>>16814266
>teased me for the past 2 weeks with snapchats
If she's not showing you her tits or doing sexual innuendoes, she's not teasing you, she's seeing you as a male friend.
What kind of excuse did she give you? They can range from "not right now" to "I'm never ever going out with you"
>>16814266
What did she say when she let you down?
Also, if she has been sending you snaps but rejected you, she's using you for attention.
Girls like attention, and she's seeing if she can use your attraction to her to pay for her movie.
This is a test in her mind to see what she can get from you.
It could be subconscious but I say ignore her.
She'll pull the whole "Oh wow we can't even be friends cuz I won't date you?"
But don't give in.
Move on my friend.
>>16814275
"not right now" is her excuse but she has been using sexual innuendos and calling me pet names. shes pretty shy though so i wasnt expecting tits or anything without a proper relationship. Idk she just seems conflicted. Ill give it some time i guess and wont push anything.
I'm 28
>haven't worked since I was 21
>spent all that time looking after dying parent
> didn't get an education
>I'm overweight, not super fat i'm still a fatty
>stuck in a deadend relationship, it's more about dependence (on her end) than anything else
>No friends
Only pro is i'm not a social retard, I lack self esteem and confidence but I don't sperg out or show my powerlevel
Truth is I feel trapped, depressed and worthless. I tried talking to a doctor, actually I talked to 3 and was brushed off by all of them.
Is it possible to claw my way out?
I did make some good changes..
>quit smoking
>bought a treadmill, use it every day
> was hooked on painkillers, quit cold turkey a month ago, totally drug free atm.
>>16813367
You can still make changes happen. Hope isn't lost for you.
I believe you can still fix yourself. Most definitely.
So what motivated you to quit the dergs? I'm struggling with my own addictions and would like for you to share your advice and experience if you can.
To be honest with you, I feel as if I'm stuck in my own box of unhappy circumstances, and probably am not in a position to give advice.
However, no human is beyond repair if they really want to fix themselves.
You seem to be heading in that direction of self revival. I'm happy for that.
>>16813375
Give me a few mins and I'll tell you what made me quit/what it was like
>>16813367
Look at the hodgetwins. They were fat fucks at 35 and now they are ripped and successful. Can do anything you want my man.
I see it as pointless. For example, why the heck would a Singaporean want to learn French or Spanish? It's not a local language and almost all the foreigners there can speak English so none of the local employers will give a shit. In the meantime, an Asian accent will probably sound terrible in an non-Asian language so it's not like the native speakers of that language will really appreciate his efforts. With over a billion Chinese people, an Asian person speaking whatever language is just a dime a dozen and nothing special - none of native-speakers of whatever language he is trying to learn will give a fuck as some Chinese people living overseas can probably speak that language fluently. Even if a Singaporean managed to learn Czech or some shit, it's not like the Czech people will give a fuck as there are probably Chinese people living in the Czech Republic who can speak the language fluently. Just look at
>>>/trv/1081359
>>16813260
Why are you so concerned about what other people are doing? Don't you have shit you should be focusing on in your own life?
>>16813270
Because what these people do is fucking pointless. In the case stated in my first post, the local companies will not give a shit and the native speakers will not give a shit, so why would a Singaporeean learn French or Spanish?
GO AWAY BRANDON
Nobody reply to OP. He is an autist who creates this thread every day.
What height and below is considered manlet height? I'm thinking 5'10 or 5'11.
Whatever height you are.
>>16828932
Get a load of this manlet. Everyone here is obviously so much taller than you it's not even funny.
Can anyone recommend me an anime with the following criteria:
>80/90s to very early 00s
>no anime autist relationship issues where grown adults don't know how to act with the opposite sex
>no dragonball z length battles
>no perverted crap
>crap made for autists in mind
Here's a list of some anime I think are good:
Akira
Fist of the North Star
Vampire Hunter D
The Studio Ghlibi films
Ghost in the Shell (movie only)
Battle Angel Alita
Dirty Pair OVAs Streamline dubs
Paprika
Ninja Scrolls
Dominion Tank Police
and a few others I can't remember
I've been recommended Outlaw Star which was OK for 4 episodes till it turned to shit and Yu Yu Hakusho which only has a nice opening theme and not much else.
If you have to, you can ignore, the 80s/90s limit but it's there for a reason.
Watch cromartie high.
Marmalade Boy
>>16827550
Looks promising but then a lot of other did too.
>>16827553
Sounds...not great. What's it about?
Boys:
Why do a lot of boys here on 4chan complain about how soulless and vapid all girls are, but then IRL I see that is boys who are huge douchebags with 0 feelings for their girlfriends more often? I mean, I'm a girl somewhat into anime, manga, vidya, stuff like that (inb4 "gaymer grill"), and therefore I look for guys with the same interests. That means, I'm not going to fall for the tall, blonde and muscular douchebag who listens to rap and sees women as walking vaginas. I tend to be attracted to skinny, long haired guys that seem cool, shy and funny, you know, the "nerdy" outcast guy, since I'm kind of an outcast myself, but even then all I find is just guys who don't give a fuck about feelings? Like, I see a LOT of stories here about how a girl cheated on some guy and the poor SOB is now depressed and wants to die, meaning that the guy was truly in love with that bitch, and it gives me hope of some day finding a guy who will really love me and care about me, but then I take a look to the real world and all guys are assholes. Like, all of them. Even my male friends. They're awesome people as friends but they just don't really give 2 fucks about their girlfriends.
Why is that? Is it that men only fall in love one or two times in their life, and all the other girls they happen to be with are just toys to them? Is it that all men are idiots with some exceptions, or is it that all girls are cunts with some exceptions, and therefore angry and lonely 4chan dudes are right?
Either way, we need extinction ASAP.
Pic not related.
You are a young loser. Your friends are young losers. No one is providing you with a good role model to show you how healthy relationships actually work.
If you want a good guy, you have to become a good girl. If a guy wants a good girl, he has to become a good guy.
What you're seeing is social displays. That's male culture (and it's enforced by women too). 4chan is the subconscious mumblings in the back of their heads, let loose in a space where that's allowed. But even then it's only a sliver of the truth - good posts don't talk about fear, insecurity, and longings. That shit's no fun.
My point being, don't take their displays IRL as any more fundamental than their shitposts. There's a more complicated inner life going on than either one shows you.
But also, guys wanna get their dicks wet. It's literally brain circuits making them crazy nearly 24/7. Have a little compassion - that they're making an effort not to openly creep out in the face of their internal ape screaming ME WANT FUCK NOW should be worth something.
Both genders have terrible people, the reason why you're not finding outcasted guys is because... well... they're outcasts?
I'm about to marry my girlfriend of 5+ years.
I've never cheated on her or any of my previous girlfriends... lately, I feel myself drawn to certain women in my environment. One is a common friend who I know has interest in me, too. The other one is a fellow student (we both study math), who's been pretty forward, too.
I'm kind of a wuss when it comes to initiating things, so I don't think it'd go that far anyway in any case, but:
Even though I love my girl very much, I never - not with her and not with anyone else - felt truly commited to a relationship. I don't mind staying with somebody forever (especially her), but I never got the feeling (let alone understood it) that either love, romantic or sexual interest should be something exclusive.
I know it'd be the wrong thing to cheat on her. I don't see it happen anytime soon. But considering I'm about to marry her, I don't want it to happen anytime at all.
Please assure me. Not by telling me it's the right thing to do. I want to know if you have cheated on someone. Have been cheated on. Have had someone cheat on someone with you. And how it made you, them, everyone miserable. Regret it. Thanks.
>>16827627
Cheating would not only be wrong, but it would destroy your relationship. It would totally eliminate any present or future trust. Monogamy doesn't just mean you are refusing to do bad things, it's a very important positive force in your life.
Just know that if you do it you are human trash. I had a girlfriend cheat on my and I swear I was going to beat her. My friend talked me out of it but if it weren't for him I'd have probably hurt her for life. People who cheat are fucking scum.
>>16827627
I cheated on a girlfriend, i was really really drunk (it is not excuse for the act, but that sort of things tend to happen in that state). It feels like shit man... specially if she loves you and trully cares about you. I never told her because i felt really embarrased, thank god it was a random girl at a party i never saw again. Anyway... in my case i wasnt really commited to her and tended to look amd fantasize with other girls. I think that thgoughts are slowly interiorized and with the proper ingredients just end up happening.. (booze + hot girl giving you looks + no one will ever know)
Tell us about your crush, anons.
What are they like? What do you like about them? How did you meet them? How are things going with them?
>>16816667
She's younger than me, quite tall, slim, really long brown hair, tomboy. Generally big - she's not fat at all, kind of amazonian. Quite masculine in a lot of ways (she's more practical and good at working woth tools and shit), but manages to be more of a "woman" than a girl, if that makes sense.
I love the fact that she's so smart, friendly, independent and takes no shit from anyone. We have a lot in common re: interests. She also has an adorable accent that makes me smile every time I hear it.
I'm going to ask her out tomorrow, god knows how that will go.
>>16816667
My Crush
>What are they like?
In her words, Selfish, Narcissistic, in my eyes, sweet, honest, cheerful, beautiful
>What do you like about them?
I like that she is always happy and smiling and it rubs off on me, she's like an antidepressant
>How did you meet them?
At work, I asked her out twice, no luck, hung out with her in group gatherings and I ended up in her house, fooled around twice, got put in the friendzone while she dated a guy for a 1 year, she breaks up with him and we become friends with benefits, eventually we become bf/gf then 2 years went by.
>How are things going with them?
She dumped me, said she is selfish before she left, demands space away from me, tells me she gonna call me in 2 weeks, but it's been 4 weeks. I messaged once a week to see if she is ready to talk, each time she says no I am not ready.. I asked you don't even want to be my friend? she says she doesn't know how to be a friend right now and then says if you want to be friends in the future you need to respect the fact i need space. good night anon. Crushed!. ..... I deleted her number so I am not tempted to ever call again, every time the phone rings I think it might be her.. it never is.
Oh fucking god.
It's thus dorky ass guy I work with. It started like in November around thanksgiving and it seemed like since then I had been growing like closer to him.
Well last night I asked him if he wanted to go get a drink and hang out and he was like sure. So we do that, then at his place we watch tv, he instigated me to cuddle with him, then before I left we made out.
He said he didn't know I felt this way toward him, but we're going to see a move tomorrow now too and he said he can't wait.
He was high too though when we made out oh my god I'm betting at some point today hell be like "oh fuck what did I do"
How can I get rid of my trans problems?
One day we'll all look back on this and laugh..
Get a really demanding job
What exactly are these "trans problems" ?
>>16829273
Well anon, first you have to realize that trans are nothing but closet faggots.
Accepting that gives you a completely new variety of options to go for, but Ill mention two.
1. Go full faggot and stop pretending.
2. Realize that you will never be a girl and that you have a mental illness.
Now, assuming you go for 2, the question will be How to cure such a mental illness?
Probably by seeking the help of a professional.
Question for femanons, but have you ever felt it? Is it something that goes away? I think I'm feeling it right now and it's terrifying me.
Nah. But I'm 20 so maybe that's why. How old are you and what are you feeling exactly?
>>16828474
22, almost 23.
To clarify, I have always wanted to have a family and kids, even stay at home up until they're five or so. But it was always something I wanted after getting a stable job, maybe late twenties or early thirties. But I'm a couple weeks from turning 23 and just calculating years and kind of freaked out that if I have children then I'll be fifty by the time they're in college.
It's nothing really definite... just an urge to settle down? I haven't felt that for a year (when I last dated), but it feels so weird to have that want without a person to attach it to.
24, just entered the GET PREGNANT mode. It lasts until I think about what kids are actually like, what childbirth and pregnancy are actually like. All you have to picture is a kid crawling on your floor and that sets me straight reaching for the condoms and BC. Still always think about getting a hot load of cum and getting pregnant.
Not nearly as bad as carb/dessert cravings.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon
Fuck off
Old Thread: >>16819303
Do masculine one-ups and matters of "pride" and "honour" matter much to women?
I was at a party last week and a friend of mine nearly got into a fight with another guy there. It deescalated and off we went. Anyway I was telling this story to a guy who I don't really like (but I can get along with him) and this girl who I really do like and want to eventually get with.
My friend the one in the dispute then came over and I let the conversation trail away and I changed it into a different subject before he got there. This guy is an old and very good friend of mine who would not have cared that I was talking about the argument, I held back because he has anger issues and I didn't want it to be at the front of his mind so I just let it lie rather than have him get into it.
This guy I don't like met my eyes and smiling smugly kept saying "tell us the story, keep going with this story" he knew I had stopped intentionally. Anyway when it was all over in front of the girl I liked he said to me "That's why you shouldn't gossip about your friends bro." He made me look like a complete idiot in front of this guy, made it seem like I was going behind my friends back and just left feeling smug and seeming superior.
Not being privy to any of this information, if you were the girl standing there and watched this unfold, would you think poorly of me?
>>16825972
>I was at a party last week and a friend of mine nearly got into a fight with another guy th.....
>>>/soc/
>>16823020
Now taking applications
Inquire at [email protected]
Looks like I'll need another 6 ECT treatments.
Life is goddamn unfair, you guys.
>>16823020
God damn it
How I'm supposed to.make.my.thesis without doi g something.that is considered trash , I want to try something amazing but.I can't because I don't have the technology to make it, instead I have to do simulations , that is not engineering, it's fucking bullshit
I hate all the.people who "took it easy" making simulations instead of making physical things and contributing setting to.science , it fucking depress me.
>see 10/10 girl
>smart
>nice
>warm and friendly
>amazing body
>physically active and /fit/
>has chubby manlet boyfriend
Why? For what purpose?
It's almost as if feminists are actively trying to destroy every semblance of masculinity and manhood to grace our paths by convincing every decent girl to choose the worst guys possible to date. In turn, fucking over men in general who actually deserving of female attention, and shifting power balances to guys who are basically just sporogenous rejects that will eventually fuck over the gene pool and worsen the human race in terms of health, societal significance, social contributions, and will just shift human evolution down the path of ruins.
There's no bigger insult to the male gender, no bigger disgrace to humanity, than when women actively choose men who don't even bother to work hard and maintain decent health and body. I've spent six years working out, spending up to seven hours a week in the gym, only to lose and get rejected by any girl worth a damn for some loser who doesn't even lift a finger to get in shape. To be bumped down and demoted to levels below some kind of fat sack of shit of a human being who does not deserve to, nor should ever, be considered anything the slightest bit male (or human for that matter). They shouldn't even have the right to walk among us. And yet dumb bitches keep choosing them and encouraging a dangerous lifestyle. Physically, of course -- but more importantly: dangerous in both a social and evolutionary context.
What the fuck, women?
>GOD WHY DO WOMEN CARE ABOUT HEIGHT SO MUCH
>GOD WHY ARE WOMEN CHOOSING MANLETS???
kek
how does it feel to be so genuinely inferior as a mate that women choose fat manlets over you?
>>16827935
Women care about feelings, not about logic.
You are thinking everyone should be spock, when everyone tries to act like Kirk.
Your ego is not allowing you to see your flaws when approaching the opposite sex, and you keep confusing the reality of the situation with the fantasy that you have created. Once you start simply observing reality for what it is rather than what you wish it to be you will find greater success.
Dude WHAT are you talking about lol. Feminists make it very explicit they're only here for alpha male dick.
If this isn't a troll, this is sad. You built up your body but are still very weak mentally and emotionally.
My boyfriend has a huge dick. About 8 inches long, 6inches in girth. Normally, I'd be totally excited about him being so well endowed, but the thing is I have a very small mouth. I can't get half of him into my mouth without his head scraping against my teeth.
Normally, I'd solve the problem by no having oral sex and sticking to hand and penetration but my handjobs are mediocre and were waiting g for marriage for sex.
We still try and do stuff, and he always gets off, but I just wish I could do something more.
Any advice for dealing with a large penis?
Also, when we get married, my pussy is pretty tight, he usually uses one finger when fingering me so I'm a bit scared for sex when the time comes.
>>16825360
>waiting for marriage for sex
kys
>waiting to be married to have sex
Have you tried not doing this?
>>16825360
>were waiting til marriage for sex
>blowjobs are a magical loophole though
Didn't see one.
J
I actually thought I liked you for the longest time. But I guess I don't after all. You don't give a shit about me so why should i give a shit about you. I'm stupid as fuck. You played me real good.
I can't handle thinking of you with someone else, the thought that you don't need or care about me anymore is killing me. We used to text each other nearly all day everyday but now you've gone silent because of this new man you just met a while ago, for one I have to thank you for opening my eyes and noticing how little I meant to you apparently, how those months of me thinking I was actually starting to be liked by someone was a complete fucking lie and now I havent been able to sleep for 3 days now. On the other hand you made me notice that everyone in this world is black and white, I thought you were different I thought you were unqiue compared to the other girls but your not, your just like them and only care about yourself dont get me wrong if you can find someone to love in your life I wont be jealous and resent you but I cannot continue being your friend because overtime as much as I dont want to admit it I fell for you. I knew though the whole time that you didn't like me that way and never would of but I still continued to talk with you and have glimmers of hope. I misunderstood our conversations looked alot deeper into them then normal and made a false paradise with us, but now reality has crashed down and I truly understand what I meant to you. Thank you for showing me the truth of this world and how I shouldnt put as much faith in people as I have wasted on you.
------With much regret, your former friend------
T
![latest[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/Apqm4OZ.jpg "latest[1]")
