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Girlfriend just broke up with me. She is a little younger than myself just started college last year. She had a span of a couple of days where she was worried if she could handle our relationship while she was away at school but ultimately chose me before going. I did my best to keep myself in her life, visiting her on campus once a month and skyping often.
This came as a real shock since I thought things were going pretty well. I know this is a fresh wound so I don't really know what to make of this. I really want her back but I know that doesn't always make...
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2/3
She broke up with you. She's no longer your girlfriend. It doesn't matter why she did it, you just need to accept that you're now single, and then take the time you need to get over it.
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guys I think im fucked. its a long story so ill have to type it out but tldr im late for my sex offender registration and afraid to try and fix it because I don't want to go to jail again.
ok so this all started when I was 16, im currently 21.
basiclay I met this girl through a friend who told me she was 14. me being a 16 beta virgin loser decided it would be a good idea to mess around with her. she agreed and we went off somewhere a bit more private to try having sex and shit. we were discovered by her mom and she cried rape. I found out in the courtroom that shes actually 12.
>>16828794
fast forward through 3 years of legalese and the associated trauma of the justice system and top it all off with my grandfather and mother being in a motorcycle accident where he lost his leg and she nearly lost hers.i had just gotten off probation and house arrest so me and my best friend go hang out and sorta celebrate. it was me him and his prospective gf. me and hima re both 19 and shes 16
we decided to go to a park since its like 4 am and no one will bother us and we wont be bothering anyone else. no sooner...
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don't care about your story, you need to contact your parole immediately to try to solve it. if you avoid it, you will be sent to prison quickly.
How can you deal with a girlfriend that seems obsessed with Harry Potter?
It was cute at first and I'd read the books when I was younger and thought they were alright, but she seems to have literal ADD when it comes to reading anything other than YA and Harry Potter.
I'm sick of trying to get her to read more proper stuff and always get the "it's SUBJECTIVE, plus it's not like I learn anything with Thucydides or Borges that I couldn't just wikipedia for!!!".
It's incredibly frustrating that I can't share this...
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>My girlfriend's opinions are wrong! How can I prove that my books are better!
Start by growing up
>>16828555
Either get over it or break up with her honestly who gives a shit what she reads it's her brain she can fill it with whatever entertains her stop being so insecure
>>16828568
>gf reads YA and disregards other stuff at 25
>i'm the one that needs to grow up
No, thanks.
Me and my gf had a conversation about past partners some weeks ago, she had fucked some nignogs, spics etc. It doesn't really upset me much, however, I told her that I once was with a younger boy, who was emo and into japanese culture and she started asking me all sort of questions. So, I basicly told her that I used to pin him down and dominantly fuck his ass, but he was very feminine and I liked the feminine qualities, I saw no reason to throw away perfectly good boipussy, so I did what had to be done. After knowing this she has been acting really immature, she gives...
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>>16828284
>She accuses me of being gay
well I mean you did fuck another guy which is pretty gay (not that there's anything wrong with being bi) as to how to get her to stop acting so immature about it idk what did she say when you told her to drop it?
>>16828284
call her a coal burning nigger lover race traitor, then burn her at the stake. and by stake i mean DATTT DICKKKK
>high five
kek, what a cunt. I'd just lay down the standard b.s. about being an intolerant fuckbag, plus "this doesn't mean I'm a cheater" (or whatever you think a core concern might be), plus a "we can just break up if you'd like and then I'll go fuck whoever I want instead of you, would you prefer that?"
I ain't gay, but women do this shit about other girls too, pretty much same gameplan.
I seek meaning in existence and life. And I'm an atheist.
This leads to a lot of depression and stress, because I seek honesty, truth and purity. These things lead me to want a pure relationship that leads to romantic feelings and a life partnership.
And I can't find that partially because YOLOSWAG culture or whatever normies do.
General insults or advice is helpful to know what I should do.
Step one, read Prometheus Rising. Step two, always bring your towel. Step three, Hail Kek! I love you OP, we're all gonna make it.
>>16828194
Online dating (not PoF or tindr)? With profiles, you can get a feel for women's personality before you invest time into them. Be warned, online dating is a losing battle right from the start for men.
Seeking meaning is a sure-fire way to fail.
Humanity creates it's own meaning for everything including it's own reason for being. Craft your own and stick to it until the day you die.
Traps and other stuff on /d/ and /gif/ with feminine looking mtfs or shotas, It turns me on so much and I can't stop fapping to them. The thing that gets me off the most now is femdom, sissy and traps...
Is this going to turn me gay?
>>16828153
yep might as well start whoring yourself out now
>>16828153
>Is this going to turn me gay?
>turn
No, it won't "turn" you gay. You're already at least pan/bi.
oh yes, you are a full blown DEGENERATE
take the high road and off yourself, we don't need more of your vermin poluting the gene poll
Calling all femanons
I'm a 5' 6" and I'm starting to wonder if women even consider me human. Is there ANY venue where I can find someone who isn't that shallow? And yes, I know it's my hight. When I'm sitting down and chatting with woman I'm the most popular thing around. Then I stand up and their face and tone immediately changes.
maybe try older women? late 20s or so. those who can't afford to be too picky
I'm not a girl, but I have a friend who's about your height, even shorter (I think, I never asked him what his height is for obvious reasons) and his girlfriend is one of the hottest women I know. He's not particularly rich, fit, interesting or anything else, he's a pleasant and sociable guy, but that's all. So I guess there is hope for you.
>>16828046 here, also chicks from small towns that are desperate to get married and leave town
>Friend is very nice but very insecure
>He's dating a really QT artsy girl
>We all hang out
>Really obvious sexual tension between me and his GF
>She talks to me more than him when we all hang out
> I'm always wondering if friend notices this or is insecure about it, but honestly can't tell
>Think maybe i'm overthinking it
>Go out to lunch with him and other friends
>As per usual, she comes directly up to me and starts talking (btw, she talks ALOT. Huge chatterbox)
>Were all sitting down at the table and discussing things etc, when I accidentally totally make a flirtatious remark towards her
>She blushes like crazy and grins
>Really nervous I made friend insecure
>He seems fine and tonight invited me to drink and play Cards with him and his GF.
Listen guys, I thought this over and I'm pretty sure I'm not just assuming she wants me. I've felt and acted on sexual tension plenty of times, and I really do think me and her have a lot of it.
I would never cheat with her or do anything to hurt my friend, but I don't know if he notices it or not. He's really insecure so if he did he probably wouldn't want to say. It makes me upset because if I go play cards tonight, I'm going to be spending the whole night trying not to act like I want to bend his GF over the table and fuck her like a wild animal. It's that bad. I also could see myself getting a crush on her.
What do?
cuck him. hopefully you shoots you and then himself and the girl is freed up for someone more deserving.
compromise and tell him
remove them from your life
>>16827969
you dont care for your friend
fuck her and lose your friend
your attitude already answered your question in your OP
Hi,
My boyfriend just started to take antidepressants. He suffers from depression and anger issues for years and years and years. We are together for one year. I am well aware that first weeks on antidepressants are pretty difficult (I am on meds myself). I just feel like I am breaking myself again with taking this constant care, treating someone so delicately that I can't basically talk straight forwardly. I go to therapy once a week. It helps. He plans to start his own next week.
How to stay strong? It's hard to see brighter things. What else can I...
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Ask yourself if you potentially want to take care of this person's ineptitude for the remainder of your existence. It doesn't matter if he is struggling, or if he's worse off than you.
You are not his personal Jesus Christ. You cannot cure him. You are a temporary relief to a myriad of his own problems, all at your expense.
Relationships are meant to be reciprocal, and if it's always you, all alone, who has to make every decision, all the tough calls, then it's not a healthy relationship. Two broken people can't make a whole. Loving someone...
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>>16828271
thank you, that's a valid point, but I was left when I needed my ex boyfriend and I don't think I would do something like this to anybody.
And I love him very much and I do want to share my life with him. I just want to know more how to deal with it.
Honestly I would ask your therapist. Therapists have experience with hundreds of people with various conditions and they have a positive effect on them unlike 4chan.
Oh shit boys I'm in a panic just now and I don't know what to do, I feel like such a high school kid writing this, not the grown 21 year old man that I am. God damnit.
I really liked a girl for months, finally worked up the courage to try asking her out on a kind of date, but didn't quite manage it due to circumstances/nerves and it got a bit awkward, but it was ok, not the end of the world. I felt depressed about it, so I spoke to her best friend to see what she thought about it. She was surprised when I told her, she gave me good advice (even suggesting we go out together for a Chinese meal in a big group of friends and see how things go), I instantly felt better talking with someone about it, and she asked me if I wanted her to have a chat with the girl/see what she thought. I told her I wasn't comfortable with that, but she said she would be discrete, like maybe do it from the angle that she liked me or something, and I caved and said "yeah, alright".
Next thing I know, today I get a text from her telling me she actually just straight up told her.
"She doesn't really know what to think, she's mildly stunned and shocked and doesn't know if she likes you back, I'm not sure whether this was a big mistake now, it probably was. Sorry, I tried to be subtle but she wasn't understanding so I was straight with her"
She went on "I'm so sorry, I'm thinking I've kind of ruined everything... just give it time, she didn't really react, she was just like "okay" "
Then told me "Look, I don't want to be in the middle of this, you text her and please sort it out"
>>16827844
>cont.
After reading this and hyperventilating for about 45 minutes, I now want to jump off a cliff and into a wood chipper. I told her I'll phone her tomorrow to find out exactly what she told my friend so I know what I'm dealing with, but holy shit...
What the hell am I going to do? I won't see my friend for 3 weeks, after that I'll share a table with her four times in two weeks, then college wraps up for a vacation. But... what the hell... do I text my friend in a week's time or something? What the hell do I say... this isn't how it was supposed to go, I just keep feeling worse and worse about it. I just have this horrible dead sunken pit in my stomach and I feel sick.
We're all adults (although it might not seem that way considering how immature this whole thing is), and I want to sort this out like an adult. Does anyone have any advice for what I should do?
Sorry, bumping once because I'm getting more anxious and hopefully someone will reply but I won't bump again.
>>16827844
Never, ever talk to the girl's best friend. Or any of her friends, for that matter. They are not to be trusted.
>Sorry, I tried to be subtle but she wasn't understanding so I was straight with her."
I can assure you there is more to it than this but she'll never tell you exactly how it went down.
>girl can't even commit to a fucking date
Just move on. You're not asking her to get married or even jump...
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I've got an ex girlfriend who cheated on me and left me for the guy when I confronted her about it. Naturally, it was a sore breakup and we both said some nasty shit to each other. I blocked her on all social media because let's face it, she isn't worth my time.
My issue now is that she's making shit up and throwing accusations around that could fuck up my future. She's reported me to the police saying I'm harassing her. They called me and asked and seemed happy that I wasn't so they told her there was nothing they could do without...
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>>16827722
Call the police (they will still have the report) and ask them to contact the university.
Get a restraining order. Seriously go google how to get one, do this now.
If you are feeling brave I guess try to string he into answering something like "why are you doing this? What do you want?" That's only a route if you are good and manipulating people and are a borderline sociopath like me.
Other wise get the restraining order and grit through. She likely has some bastard in her belly she wants you to father or something.
what are the accusations?
I need someone that understands or has borderline personality disorder to help me with this question: How can I, having this disorder, build my own personality? How can I know what is true and what is fake created by myself?
My life is crumbling and its because of this disorder and i don't know who is my true self and my does my true self really want from this world.
Just help me with some inputs on this question please.
>>16827680
Maybe a therapist can help you with this.
Also bumping because I'm curious too.
Your "true self" is an accumulation of your actions and words, the things you do that affect other people. That's all that matters. Not your justifications, not your excuses, not the shit inside your head - the things that you DO. That's it.
How does your borderline manifest itself?
My first longterm gf had it and a chick I banged for some months.
Maybe I can see some similarities and even tell you how much of it is just your paranoia from being diagnsed with it.
How to look more attractive to older women in general. I'm jn my early 20s and want to get a 27-30 y/o gf.
Get an undercut or a cool haircut
Wear fashionable clothes that are in season.
Wear good cologne but not too much.
Learn how to stop being sexually frustrated, women can sense it. When you're flirting with a woman, you should act like you get laid all the time and are genuinely interested in the girl you're talking to, not just her vagina.
Be direct. If somebody is looking for casual sex, don't be afraid to communicate that you are too.
Always be closing: When texting your goal is so set up a date. Even before casual sex most women want you to go out to dinner with them so they know they can feel comfortable around you.
Never be edgy unless it contributes to the conversation. Even then, always try to agree with the girl's statements.
I don't know dude, just practice and it becomes easier. Remember to work out often as well
>>16827441
I got similar haircut like pic related but never know if I should use gel/pommade/clay
Already have some fashionable clothes
My texting game is horrible. There's this girl I've known for about 2 years. Initially, she used to agree to go on dates but know, every time I set up a date, she doesn't answer
No, I don't think I should agree to everything. From what I know, that is a massive turn off
full disclaimer, im not an attractive dude but do people really find undercuts attractive?
They look overdone and frankly a little gay
Do I look better in this photo or...
this one.
I need to know, money is on the line
First
Take your top off and lower the camera a bit.
I'll just get straight to the point. I want to look feminine, and I'm really having a hard time to. I've tried using online guides, but none of them have been working for me, so if I'm lucky maybe I can get some personal experience. Now ever since I was 15 I have been working on getting a more feminine body. My hips a bit hourglass-shaped, but not as much as I'd expect. I also am having a hard time getting round thick thighs, as well as the bubble butt I yearn for. I'm currently 23 right now and I want to speed up production before I hit my 30s....
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>>16827087
You're a man aren't you?
Maybe I should have said that before. Mhm, I am.
>>16827094
Woops, when I said "My hips are a bit hourglass" I meant torso. My bad!
