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Hey /adv/ I've been feeling a little insecure about my appearance lately. Any advice on what I can do to improve myself? Pic related it's me
>>16856206
At most maybe smile, and maybe add alittle volume to your hair. Honestly o don't see what you're insecure about. You have a beautiful natural look ,very lovely eyes and nice cheek bones.
Thank you, I really needed that XD
Well if compliments helps solve that I can say you're really nice looking. Terrific face. You should not be having any self esteem issues, there's no visible flaws in anything.
At the community college I go to I started a female gamer club that splintered off of the male dominated one, and though some of the members of the other gaming club joined ours, we are still lacking in membership and can't figure out why. A lot of the women in the old gamer club stayed with that one and for some reason, while our club is stagnate the other's is growing. We have actually lost a new member to the other club, a transgender woman who is an Avid Doom and Quake player jumped ship.
What should we do to gain more of a membership?
>>16854860
That's a shitty subject to justify two separate clubs. Instead of leaving for it being male dominated, you should have recruited more women.
>>16854860
I'm not an grill so I don't know for certain, but I'd guess the majority of people want to be "gamers", rather than having to segregate themselves by gender. A lot of people are going to think that your group is more concerned with the fact that they're female than they are with actually playing games. Also, there's no way in hell I'd ever join a "men only" gaming club, a "heterosexuals only" gaming club, or a "whites only" gaming club because it'd make me look like an extremist whackjob, and a girls gaming club falls in to that same bracket.
>>16854947
We tried but me and my friends noticed that when we would tell people about the club, they would say"Oh isn't that a men's club" or "That club is for men" despite there being female members.
Girls of /adv/:
Is smalltalk always necessary before asking a girl out, even if she has expressed subtle hints that she finds you attractive or has acted more warmly to you than others around you?
My instincts tell me to stop this girl the next time I see her in passing and instead of just smiling or say hey to ask her if she'd like to go out with me some time.
Does this seem like a good idea?
>>16851788
You're supposed to atleast say hello and tell her you like her. Anything less is strange.
Keep it under 2 minutes.
I'd say talk to her first! Yeesh you'd freak her out if you just jump in like an idiot. Gotta get that trust first anon.
I've tried asking girls out without smalltalk (like those actors in the videos where they do stupid shit and get girls numbers). Doesn't work for me. Just my thoughts.
What do you do when you gf opens up to you about her promiscuous past.
Like part of me really wants to support her, but then a very loud part of me is disgusted with her.
Am I expected to cope with dating a slut?
Why the fuck do women even have a wild past. Shit is a huge turn off.
>>16848798
just make sure she isnt promiscuous now. then get over it its in the past. you shouldnt be upset woth thungs that really arent important. just be sure and be honest and make sure she is honest.
>>16848798
>Am I expected to cope with dating a slut?
is she a slut? if not there is nothing to cope with. if yes that she is going to cheat on you so get as much ass as you can before she does and dump her
people change so find out if its just her past or she still slutty
at the very least she knows how to suck cock and is being honest about her past. win win
As long as she won't cheat, what's the problem?
She'll be more open to kinky stuff.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frog posters
Fuck off
Old Thread: >>16848577
What kind of woman do you think would seek the services of a male escort? Do these women respect themselves?
>>16851890
Male:
Probably women who don't have much luck and are looking for a pretend relationship rather than just sex. Alternatively they just wanna have sex with hot guys. That seems to be the case based on that one vice (shit bias news source with little credibility, but they cover taboo) documentary I saw.
Girls, how important is to have white teeth for a guy? Would you overlook a slightly yellow shade, with a few blemishes? Or do you gossip about it and make fun of them?
Is the guy who posted this gay or is he right? I need to know because my wife has this same problem and it pissed me off that I have to do the laundry because I refuse to cook per our arangment.
>>16850022
He is either gay or thirsty as fuck. Also, why can't she just put a tampon in? I would help her out and shit, but that guy just goes overboard. He's a likewhore tryhard.
>>16850022
Idk maybe just be normal? Clean it up (since that's your duty per your agreement) and check in on her occasionally. You're both weird.
>>16850031
Thank you! It's nice to know I'm not the only one who thinks that way.
I am a 22 y/o KV, never experienced the warmth of a woman and I can't stand it anymore. It's plaguing my thoughts, I tried to fake it that I don't need women for validation but my biological impulses are becoming too strong. I'm not bad looking at all but I am extremely shy and awkward around women.
Will a few nights with escorts be a positive experience? Will it help with my shyness? Do they allow kissing? Can they give you tips/learn something from them? Are they all whores in real life or is this only a side-job? What was your experience with escorts?
But do you think an escort will actually give you the "warmth" you need? They likely have a detached professional approach to it so they will tell you what you want to hear as long as they cash out. You will only get an imagined feeling of significance for a woman. And do you really want to kiss someone who's had their mouth on dozens of penises for money? I mean, sure, they brush their teeth but can they brush away the emptiness of their soul?
>>16851795
>I tried to fake it that I don't need women for validation but my biological impulses are becoming too strong.
You are not your biological impulses. At the absolute most, these impulses are nothing more than a program that has been hard-coded into your mind, be it by millions of years of evolution or God's by command to multiply.
Once you accept this, it becomes much easier to ignore them.
>>16851867
What's the difference between a slut that fucks after a few drinks and a slut that is getting paid? What I mean is when you kiss a girl you've recently met, how many dicks has she sucked before you met her? You don't know and it won't change your perception of her for the moment
Didn't see one so....
A big thanks to all my friends for leaving me in my hour of need. I know I'm not perfect and I'm trying to kick the drug habits. But you guys leaving me and ignoring me isn't helping. In fact it set me back a great deal emotionally.
And to the girl I fell for,
Thanks for everything. You are one of the few people who has actually helped. I just wish life could make it possible for us to be together (assuming you still feel anything).
T -
Not a single day has gone by that I haven't thought of you.
I'm so, so sorry for saying such venomous, cruel things to you.
Sometimes I wonder if you post here.
I miss slow dancing in front of the kitchen sink with you.
Still have all the notes and letters you sent me. Still have the little black book.
Missing you has aged me. Seeing your name still makes my stomach sink.
I don't know what kind of person I am now. The thought of there even being a chance in hell that you posted here is making me shake as I type this.
It's been more than three years. I haven't stopped loving you. Never did.
I'm sorry for how I treated you, for the kind of person I was, and the things I did.
Plumeria wasn't the smartest gift idea in the world. It felt weird giving you what was essentially a branch with the promise of a flower.
I hope to meet someone like you again someday. Don't know if that'll ever happen, still not entirely sure if that's what I really want. They won't be you.
Hope you're still making art.
- J
>>16842107
Initials?
I swear I did NOT see one.
I don't want my life to be hard, I want it to be easy.
I guess I'm too spoiled or some shit.
I hate being afraid of everything.
I can't stop being afraid all the time.
How do I fix this shit?
Deep breathing techniques, meditation
That's it, /adv/.
You've finally destroyed my last thread of confidence in men. It seems, deep down, all men think of women as inferior, as objects.
To them, sex is nothing but a degrading process to the woman. If she's not a virgin, she's just sloppy seconds. But that's not even half of it. Men also hold contrary standards for women.
If she's had sex, she's a slut, but at the same time, all men expect her to spread her legs for them.
To men, women are conquests. Veni Vidi Vici. Once you've gotten what you want out of them, it's done. You've dominating that one, on to the next.
And the blame is placed on the woman. Either she deserved it for acting contrary to the male's desire, or she should have had more dignity and not allowed it to happen.
I will never sleep with a man. No matter how nice they seem, even if they truly appear to be a good person. /adv/ has taught me that deep down, all men feel the same way about women and sex. I'm not even sure men are capable of love, any more. It seems all they have is desire to conquer unknown grounds, and despair when the ground is taken from them by another conqueror.
I have a vibrator and I have my friends. I will not let myself be a victim of this crusade.
I don't think women are better than men, /adv/. I don't hate men. I just know I can never trust them. Not after the things I've heard here.
Don't fall for the mass generalization meme. And most guys here are little college kiddies or mid-20s fuck ups. Chin up, OP.
>/adv/ has taught me
there's the flaw in your theory. this is just a small group of people. it's not an accurate representation of the way the big part of the male population thinks. sure, some do, but you can easily spot those bitter ones irl.
there are genuinely lovely guys that are able to not have the mindset you just mapped out.
i mean, i just have to think about my brother, my sisters husband, my dad, my bf. those are the best guys ever. they don't need to talk bad about women but they aren't insecure faggots that put girl on a pedestal either. there's a healthy middleground and a lot of guys are there.
Anon. As little as I want to convince you men are great (because I'm a man and I know they're definitively not all great) you're making the mistake that /adv/ is representative for men in general. And you're making the mistake of thinking that the male posters here represent every opinion posted. If I were to claim I only date virgins then I can't expect you to spread your legs before marriage pretty much because that'd not make any mathematical sense.
I have similar feelings of women but on entirely different basis.
How do you fall in love?
Most people are boring at best or despicable at worst
>>16849497
Yeah, because I am sure you are just a fucking blast to be around.
>>16849508
As you can see OP, the trick is to distract people from what's actually going on.
>>16849523
what's actually going on?
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frog posters
Fuck off
Old Thread: >>16845177
Girls : What little things mens do that you love a lot ? Something that you see only in mens
Guys : What little things that womens do that you love a lot ? Something that you see only in womens
For the ladies; If a man is dating a girl who broke up with her ex of two years between 4-6 months prior and she says she isn't looking for a relationship but is interested in you. Should you still pursue her? Is it a lost cause? Should I forget about her completely?
She also said she didn't know what she wanted.
Girls: Would me being two years younger be such a turnoff to a girl?
>start talking to girl in class
>seems to be going well, small talk and all that
>gets to how long we've been in the school
>both of us three years
>she asks my age
>I am 21
>she says shes 23
>Then she says she probably shouldnt have asked me that
Does this mean theres no chance for me anymore? I mean I myself am a bit uncomfortable with the girl being two years older than me, being a kv doesnt help, but she actually seems cool enough and I feel like I shouldnt give up on myself before I even try.
What do?
Is it true the more you talk to fully grown adult women like
They're little girls the better you do with them?
Wat
I don't know where you got that idea, but not in many cases. Some women might like it, but try being pulled over by a lady cop and pulling that shit, for example, and it will not go well.
yoo i didnt know beach rugby had so much ass
might join a team
my lovely little brother is getting bullied by an older guy who is fat and tall at his school
today my brother told me that this guy sat on his head and made fun of my brother while he's at it and kicked my brother's best friend in the guts and beat him up after he tried to stand up for my brother
my brother is only 10 and is extremely short and scrawny, his best friend is also the same age as him
the bully is about 14 and is extremely huge
my brother insists that i don't tell their school principal or tell any of the teachers about it
i just assumed that the bully threatened to beat him up or something, but my brother denies any threatining
what do i do? i don't want my brother to go through this..
Guys grow up like this.
He will either have to beat him up with a bunch of friends, get a weapon, find a new victim for the bully or learn to run.
>>16847249
it's simple, you beat up the bully yourself.
but it sounds like you're a grill. do you have any tough-looking orbiters or boyfriend? you need to intimidate this mother fucker.
i mean i guess it can also work if you're insanely hot and told the kid off too, but i doubt it considering you used an anime picture for your op.
>>16847249
You gotta let people know about this. In this day and age you could probably get that kid expelled from that school for what he's done. People take bullying pretty seriously in this day and age.
Is it really that fucking hard to take care of an 8 year old, 3 year old, and 1 month old? Wife does not do anything about the house and its messy as fuck when I come home, and 3year old awake until 3-4am for me to put him to sleep because she's too occupied with the baby... I've stayed with them at nights and I never had a problem, and I keep the fucking house clean... Is it true when they say kids are different with the mom and dad? I just think she has no discipline... What do /adv/?
>>16850177
She's probably really tired and overwhelmed
Kids are stupid and get into everything. If you're not alert at all times they might do something stupid like stick a fork into a light socket.
>>16850181
I understand all that, plus postpartum depression.... But is it really fair for me to come home at 3-4am to put a 3 year old to bed, clean up the whole fucking kitchen. Pick up trash... Am I asking to much here?
