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Give me a reason to get up in the morning
So you can buy adderall
>>16838734
There isn't one.
OK, let me preface this by saying I am aware that the whole self-diagnosis thing is a load of crap, but bear with me.
I am pretty sure that i have paranoid personality disorder. It all began after i had been smoking weed for a few months and then started getting really paranoid whenever i would smoke. But i didn't quit for months, I figured i could push through it and get back to the good highs. Ultimately it was hit or miss, I got a good high the odd time, but mostly it would make me nervous. I would smoke every day, and I had all these paranoid ideations about people plotting to murder me and how everyone i knew was a psychopath, etc. I lived with these feelings for months because i was always trying to get high, and i think eventually the suspicious tendencies jsut got burned into my brain.
Anyway, I looked this shit up on wikipedia and I feel like i match 6/7 of the WHO symptoms.
Just wondering if there are any other paranoids out there who could give me some advice on how to manage it. I'm always worried that my roommate is poisoning my food with tylenol or is going to find some other way to fuck my life up. It's a university dorm so I only have a few more months here, but I can't get any professional help because of other personal reasons. I also can't drink alcohol to manage it because I need to study.
IDK what kind of pictures you guys are into, but here's a high-def shot of taylor swift's face; it's unrelated.
>>16838149
>I can't get any professional help because of other personal reasons.
Please, elaborate
>I also can't drink alcohol to manage it because I need to study.
You should avoid self-medication, especially with something as potentially destructive as alcohol
>>16838155
The nature of my field of education and possible career is such that I can't risk being put on any lists or let my name appear as a patient in any database.
>>16838149
You can't get a personality disorder from smoking weed or something. Personality disorders
"These patterns develop early, are inflexible, and are associated with significant distress or disability"
This is the only way I can describe it. There's a trigger. Usually I'm set off by something I don't have control over that will upset me deeply. I feel a cold sensation followed by a rush of blood to the veins in my wrists. Do you know that sensation of putting your feet in a hot bath. but they initially feel cold? It's a similar sensation in my veins. The center of of my chest feels pierced with it too. I feel nothing but a hot/cold loathing. My mind feels clear with the intent to hurt others, then it passes after playing out fantasy's in my head. I tend to be an understanding open minded person who can be charitable and loving. On the other hand when I momentarily feel this I feel capable of horrifying actions. Nothing with guns or weapons, but something more primal like jumping on an aggressor blank faced and choking them till the lights go out.
Anyone else out there that feels this? If so how do you handle it? I tend to drink/drugs and meditation hasn't helped.
>>16838127
Seek professional help
>>16838133
Yeah, I love spending money talking to someone who can't relate...
I'm asking the anons who feel this
>>16838164
>Yeah, I love spending money talking to someone who can't relate...
Are you here to get some actual fucking advice or are you here because you want to keep making excuses for being the way you are?
It's been 4 months and she still didn't contact me back. I'm desperate /adv/.
I tried to get back twice after we broke up, only to be blown off again and again, the last time we talked to each other, she boldly said "I don't want to be with you, i don't feel anything for you."
I couldn't believe it, we shared so many beautiful moments together, of course i wasn't perfect, nobody is but i tried my best, i was loyal, i bought her gifts, i took her to eat on fine places, i was romantic, attentive and i also knew when to give her space, when she said these words my soul was crushed.
When my friends saw me crying they said "Relax man, she just needs some time, she will come back to you"
It's been 4 months already and i feel deep down that she is NOT coming back, i feel like i'll never see her again and she probably doesn't even miss me.
I'm so desperate, i'm in so much pain, she's the one woman in want in my life. I was her first boyfriend, we used to talk about how we would move together one day and eventually become a family, have a dog, have family time every weekend, how did this happen?
This pain is unbearable.
get over her.
I think it's pretty clear: She
. Does. Not. Want. To. Be. With. You.
The only thing appropriate is to ask why.
>>16837838
What happened? Why did you end up breaking up in the first place?
I'm homeless and I have cancer. What is your advice for me? The anxiety is crippling and I know I'm fucked.
>>16837699
the sooner you accept the inevitable the sooner you will be happy
i'm really sorry to hear that. reach out to people. i'm sure there will be someone who can help you get the help you need.
>>16837699
I would first get a list of all the organizations that exist that help people with cancer. Then I would call them all and tell them your story and ask them what they recommend.
One friend was asking why I was asking another friend for money. I explained to him how I was in class and he kept calling me to come get him when I was busy. He said that this is why people make fun of me, it really frustrated me then he bailed when I asked him to join me in talking with someone (even though it was his call that said it was a good idea) and then asked me to pick him up which I said no to. Today we're in a skype call and I jokingly say how "I'm coolest with XXXX" and he fucking hangs up the call and tells me to go fuck myself saying I don't recognize or appreciate his help even though last week I had to go confront one guy about how they're treating him like shit by myself
I had an argument with the other friend last Friday over $5 of gas money and he was treating me like a doormat. It got really heated and I basically told him to fuck off and then today another friend was telling me he's threatening to call the cops on me and tell this guy I don't like that I'm planning on jumping him if I don't apologize, which I am not going to do.
The list goes on but these are my biggest problems and I'm feeling really down I had a panic attack last week from all this shit it's like I have no control of myself and that they can't handle when things don't go their way. I'll post the conversation of the second guy in a second
Oh btw I'm the guy on the right. Each color is a person
>>16837402
You need new friends anon.
Other thread got me thinking about some things. I feel like I can't ever talk about this because people will immediately decide that it's the reason I'm trans when it definitely isn't.
But I was molested as a kid, by this high school guy my mom paid to watch us after school. I've never talked about it with anyone and I don't know if it's affected me at all or anything, or if it has to what extent. Can this sort of thing sometimes not be a big deal at all? Or can things like depression, anxiety, and suicide attempts later in life be attributed to this?
>>16837201
I had one such occurance I was confused and felt trapped but it didn't change me didn't even bother me after a few years.
I have lots of issues if but if anything it only contributed to my distrust as a child everything else was other things
I still talk to the person regularly
>>16837210
Why do you still talk to them? I couldn't do that. Guess your experience thing was different. I'm just so worried people will think the trans thing and liking men is somehow linked to this that I can't tell anyone about it. Which is not the case at all obviously.
>>16837221
Close family scared me but they're the only person I trusted and still do to a degree never happened again and never talked about it.
It's a long time ago and I'm not sure what really happened in their mind but for me I felt ashamed but not like they had done wrong
Maybe it doesn't count maybe I misinterpretted it but I remember it and I can't help but think about it it used to make me feel vulnerable but currently my life's quite pleasant.
I guess with you it was almost a stranger and no doubt it was a lot more scary or whatever but if you're unsure whether it still affects you you might as well decide it doesn't
Maybe you should find someone to talk about it with I know this thread is the first time I've talked about it directly and it's ok
Are there any real downsides to cutting yourself save for the social stigma?
>>16835864
The social stigma IS a "real" downside.
It doesn't address the cause of the problem and is only at best temporary solution with after affects can actually add to the original problem.
>>16835869
Well, I can cut myself or keep drinking but this way I don't waste money, lose my stuff all the time, and constantly embarrass myself in front of my family.
One of my female friends recently admitted to me that she had a crush on me that spanned years, but reportedly ended last year. However, since she told me this a few months ago, she's started jokingly referring to me as her "Bae" and "husband" in our conversations. She's a bit younger than me, and though she's quite attractive, has never had a real relationship. What in the hot hell is going on here?
I'm only guessing here, but perhaps she told you she stopped feeling that way because she wanted to stay safe in regards to you rejecting her. Like... to check out your reaction in hopes that you'll say you've felt the same way. And now, she's calling you Bae and husband to encourage you to have a go at something.
Sounds totally immature, but she hasn't been in a relationship before..
I know I've done something similar before. I preempted rejection by telling a girl I wasn't into her, when someone had told her that I was. Me = chickenshit back then... :(
>>16834558
Is she hot?
>>16834583
Quite. One person who saw her messages irl looked me in the eye and just said "Why the fuck is a girl that good looking going for you?"
Like, I'm not ugly. I've been lifting religiously for years, but the general consensus is that she could do a lot better hahaha.
>>16834578
Idk. Thats what I was kind of assuming, but she's adamant she doesn't "Like" me when people ask her? Who knows.
Hi there. I'm feeling pretty lonely and I would like to talk to someone. Ask questions and I'll try to respond my best. Will anon talk to me, please?
>>16837847
i think this belongs on /soc/ but if you sage i dont think it will be a big deal
basic info: age, sex, country
>>16837853
I know about /soc/, that place is kinda scary. I would ask for advice for the thread to be valid here but I don't want to talk about the reason I'm feeling lonely right now.
Well I'm 24, female, I live somewhere at south of everything. I feel like if I were standing in the south pole right now.
>>16837867
sage dropped, damn.
Hey /adv/,
I'm not sure it's the right board to ask about this, in which case I would be grateful for someone to tell me which would be more appropriate.
Anyway, I'm planning to go to London in the beginning of March to visit by myself. I would like to know how to find a place to stay and where to find people who would show me around.
Also, If you have any other advice I will gladly take it
>>16837771
I work in central London and live in Wimbledon, so I might be able to point you in the right direction. How long are you planning on staying for, and what sort of budget are you looking at?
>>16837791
I want to stay around 5 days and 100€ (78 pounds according to google) would be my maximum, travel not included.
>>16837771
More than enough hotels in london m80, the police in london are really helpful if you get lost or some shit, you know your getting closer to something that you can use to find out where you are when the police suddenly all have MP5's on their chests. Also black cab drivers know alot of shut about london so ask them about palces if your in a taxi. Visit harrods, shits awesome yo
I just went on the weirdest blind date in fucking existence, and I don't know if I should ask the girl out again, I mean, she is fun as fuck, but also scary as fuck.
My friend set me up with her as a joke, he knew her reputation and I guess is well known for being too much for people to handle but god damn
should I ask her out on a second date?
story time
>>16837167
What do you mean?
>>16837179
What happened dude.
Anyone else here pay for escorts not just for sex, but because it's literally the only time you feel like someone gives a shit about you?
Women just don't like you for who you are. They only want you for what you have, not for you as a person. Whether it's the clichéd stuff like money, power, status, etc. Or just what your worth is to society. They never really like you for you. You just get duped into thinking otherwise. They never really appreciate and enjoy you for what you are as a human... as an actual, god damn individual.
Even the girls I go to obviously don't like me. They just pretend to because you're paying them. But, literally, it's the closest I get to feeling like I'm a human being who's worth something. The only time I feel like someone honestly likes me; like someone honestly cares about me. Even if it's obviously fake, even if I spend several months saving up for just a few hour session. It's, again, the only time I feel like a living, breathing person who someone would want to be around. I actually have to pay exuberant amounts of money just to experience that with a girl.
That's basically what it's like in society today. Unless you have some tangible, physical object to represent what you're worth, like an Oscar or wealth, your person hood, personality, humanity, etc. are utterly meaningless to people. What you have is of more worth than who you are.
But an escort is only doing you to make money
>>16835286
>wah poor me, nobody gives a shit about my personality and humility and women only want money and oscars and don't appreciate people as humans :(((
Do you know why nobody cares about you? Because you are a crybaby wallowing in self pity. Fuck off with your poor unloved martyr persona. No wonder even hookers can barely stand you desu
Last night some guy offered me $40 to blow him.
$40. $40!!!
I'm worth $40. :(
Oh, and i'll just quote Charlie Sheen on your problem, anon:
"Men don't pay prosititutes for sex. They pay them to go away afterward."
My husband bought a $70,000 car without telling me today. I can tell he had this planned for a while now. He's 29, I'm 25 and we've known each other for 6 years, married for 3. He's NEVER done anything like this before. He's never done anything behind my back and I'm furious. Should I be? We don't have any problem with money ( we own our house, have plenty in savings and equity ).
He just came home today from work in a new car. A corvette to be exact. I asked how much it was and he told me $70,000. He told me he didn't tell me because he thought I would be against it and frankly I don't know if I would have been. I can't think striaght right now because of this.
seems like a simple problem with communication
just tell him to tell you everything beforehand and let him still do it at first and gradually let him do less until he's telling u everything and u have a say in it
>>16834060
So he used his own money to buy himself a car?
midlife crisis lol
instead of getting mad at him like a bitch, why don't you calmly talk with him about your concerns like a normal human being? I don't disagree this was a big purchase he should have told you about, but fuck you if you think this is all about you
What's the best way to remove acne?
Fuck I had the most awful acne you could imagine, it was one step away from mordbidly disgusting to look at... but this was when I was like 15 or so.
Only thing that helped me was to visit the doctor, took some pills and then he did some things to my skin.
Cured it, or maybe I just grew up out of it.
My guess is that excercising, drinking water and eating properly should reduce it at least in some ways.
>>16832269
you can either attack it topically, or with accutane
topically
>tretinoin face cream in the mornings
>salicylic acne wash in the shower
>moisturizer morning, after shower, and before bed (or as needed)
>erythromicin antio biotic topical gel.
tretinoin is a prescription face cream. literally just vitamin A. apply to face and watch the acne (and skin) just fall off.
salicylic acne wash just dries out your face, takes the oils out.
moisturizer keeps your skin fresh, stops you from over producing oils to compensate
erythromicin is an anti biotic gel that will kill the acnes bacteria.
this combination made pic related. me, with just a 2 months difference. the tretinoin was the REAL life saver, but the erythromicin stopped new ones from popping up. its not perfect though. its a tough schedule to keep and your face is stil lsensitive. id often get one or two blemishes, but nothign extreme, but still annoying.
so now, im on accutane. its been 3 weeks and i look like the 'after' pic. face is dry all the time (as is my nose) but i can apply moisturizer 10 times a day, and thats all i need. after 5 months you stop taking the pills, and then you never have to have acne again, generally. sometimes if ur acne is REALLY bad you gotta do a second cycle. only real downside is no alochol while taking it
