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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frog posters
Fuck off
Old Thread: >>16855099
Girls, how would you feel about doing butt stuff to your guy?
>>16860102
As long as it doesn't involve my mouth, I'll give it a go.
>>16860102
That sounds really fun! But it depends on the girl, of course!
There's this weird stigma about guys wanting in the ass being "gay" even if they are straight. I feel like me and plenty of other girls I know wouldn't really care about that, though. If you're casual about it, she'll probably react casually too!
What do girls look for to have the perfect boyfriend?
>>16860177
depends on the girl.
generally speaking everyone enjoys someone who
>isn't a fucking downer
>doesn't try too hard
>is good looking
>makes her and her only feel special.
>>16860177
Confidence, sexual ability and a sense of humor. All other things are subjective tastes. If you're confident enough to get her attention, if you can make her laugh, and if you can make her cum, all other things will fall in place
Not any of the guys here, that's for sure.
Pic related; actual couple.
Tell me, how to faggots like him, get girls like this?
1. He sells and smokes weed.
2. Makes a little more than minimum wage as a roofer.
3. No college degree.
4. Has a busted ass car.
5. Is a thug.
While on the other hand, I don't do drugs, I make almost $50,000 a year, I have a 4 year degree, I drive a brand new car with great credit, and I come from a great family.
She's like an 8, and I can barely snag a 5 or 6. What gives?
Here she is again. Can provide more photos of Mr. asshole or the girl if requested.
He also recently got her pregnant. :X
She is trash tier as well. Trash belongs together.
As the subject suggests, I'm about to be homeless /pol/. My rent just went up suddenly, and I won't be able to afford it. I've got a week and some change before I'll have to go, but I honestly have no idea what to do or where to go. I walk to my job, since I have no car, and I'm in the middle of nowhere, so leaving means I'll lose that too.
What do?
>>16862582
Just work harder. Obviously it's your fault you are homeless because bad things don't happen to the undeserving.
>>16862582
How much do you have saved, what are your earnings, what city are you in.
You can get a vehicle that moves for under $1000. You can get this amount financed if your credit isn't pure shit and you have a job. The summer months are coming so sleeping in the car isn't too bad.
>>16862582
See if you can live with a friend temporarily.
Try a men's shelter.
Buy a cheap car and live there temporarily.
Get the cheapest gym membership nearby so you can shower and maintain appearances.
Good luck and godspeed.
I'm really starting to despise women, to a point where I find them disgusting. Now, I really don't want to be hateful, but they've just ruined my life and happiness time and time again. They lie to me, ignore me, and only want me to give to them. Today I drew the last straw when some feminist bitch in one of my classes started talking about how evil men are and how we need to be taught to respect women.
Please help me not hate women /adv/.
>>16861968
if you were sexually attracted to men you'd likely think the same way. the truth is you could never take responsibility for your life so instead you are blamingi t on people living their own. and since a large amount of your time is thinking about and pursuing and attempting to understand women, you blame them most of all.
but if you banged dudes you'd claim all faggots are awful and probably just do something like put the straight men you cant date on a pedestal (Assuming you dont inherently hate them for being straight and not datable as well).
i mean being gay is fucking legit but when you can say that an entire gender as 'ruined' your life you arent actually talking about women anymore.
>>16861974
What...? That's not what I'm talking about at all, nor am I blaming the ENTIRE gender.
>>16861968
Some of the kindest most caring and awesome people I know are women. I wouldn't trade them for anything. There are plenty of shitty people in this world and whatever you get stuck with between your legs doesn't really matter.
How can I explain to my sociology professor and racist black classmates that white privilege doesn't exist without getting suspended? Every class I have to sit through these anti white racist lectures about how its all white peoples fault that black people are stereotyped for dressing like thugs, or that they are poor when they don't want to work or that they get shot at by the police when they try and assault them. what makes me even more angry is that I have to go to school and work simultaneously and have to take the bus. I live in an apartment with 3 roommates. I grew up with a single mom and my sister and me were abused by her and her boyfriends. My sister was raped I was raped. We had to deal with their nasty second hand smoke and their fighting and beatings. It was disgusting and we came so far and worked hard and to be called privileged is slander. Im writing a paper for the midterm entitled "Debunking the racist myth of white privilege" but the professor didnt approve my topic and is making me write a topic on how the police "unfairly target black people" even though plenty of white people, including me, have been mistreated by the police as well. What do I do? I cant afford to drop the class I need the credits.
>>16858985
No, you'll be immediately dismissed as a statistical outlier.
You can't reason with these people, they BELIEVE these things, they don't observe them to be true under scrutiny.
Suck it up, parrot what you're told, remember the truth, and you're only there until you pass.
You don't you fucking idiot. Academia is the hornet's nest of batshit multiculturalism. Just keep your head down and do well in your classes and look forward to the real world where none of their bullshit matters.
Do not try to combat them, you have a lot to lose.
>>16858985
white privilege DOES exist. its not universal, and its not in all the examples you listed, but it does exist.
Hi /adv/, I'm in the top 1% and am happy to answer any questions anyone may have. Maybe it'll be helpful for anybody else?
gibe moni plos
>>16858973
How do I get rich if I'm too broke to go back to school and have no marketable skills?
>>16858973
Where should i start networking?
>>16854803
NOW YOU'RE A MAN! A MANMANMAN!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tx1mryKqvT8
alright, get it off your chest people
can't. fucking. stop. won't stop. I got shit to do. fuck this flu, fuck the shit in my way this last week. I've either found partial work arounds to problems or just worked it all out. now its time to get some shit done. gotta keep pushing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9D-QD_HIfjA&ebc=ANyPxKq9-m0SyAo8Z8WI_2F1ri-NjjxaXFHEJMFm8AZXyAohcIESSWLgHSUHExb4ycKanB1r41OxRQ9yriJDEucM7ukXif2aLg
Why do abusive and evil pieces of shits deserve to find love while I rot in loneliness?
Girls hate what I and most of the guys here enjoy the most. Video games, scifi movies, cars, guns , weed , whatever there interests into these hobbies are minimal or they outright hate them.
What are some fun girl friendly hobbies to pick up?
Well, that is certainly one way to generalize the other sex.
For your information, I very much so enjoy video games, science fiction movies and some firearms can even seem cool.
But, since you're good with generalization, why not look for a Barbie group in your neighborhood? Or what about Cosplay, like your picture. Only women likes to cosplay, duh!
>girls hate what I and most of the guys here enjoy
>degenerate interests like weed and guns
Enjoy dying alone, kissless virgin.
I have a gf...
What's with this epidemic of male loneliness? And why is there no corresponding female epidemic?
>>16853823
the top few percent of males date multiple women
There are plenty of lonely women in the world, lol. They're just not on 4chan.
You are not asking for advice
>>>/r9k/
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frog posters
Fuck off
Old Thread: >>16851871
Women: what are your preferences in the bedroom? Fetishes count too but I'm asking more about the general way in which you enjoy sex.
Girls
Let's say there is a guy you really like. You've never seen him with a shirt off before. So you ask for a picture. He sends you requested picture. If he doesn't have rock hard abs and a toned chest, or just whatever your dream body is. Would this in anyway shape or form change your view of him? If he doesn't have a sexy body. Would this cause you to lose your "attraction" toward him. Or would you see past it and still like him for who he is?
Girl just asked for a picture. I'm a skinny guy. But I'm very self conscious and I think I look like shit. She said that she won't make fun of me, but I just worry. I want to send her a picture to make her happy. Because I like her. I'm just worried I can't deliver what she would like....
>>16855103
Usually, a classic Ice Cube film playing in the background helps the mood. The sweet nothings of Janky Promoters (2009) create a sensual, soothing environment.
White privilege got me down.
So I'm 22, black, and female. Whenever I go out I like to talk to guys (I'm straight btw.) However, they almost always reject me.
They say that they're not interested and go talk to some pretty white girl afterwards. Aren't I entitled to be treated equally?
What do I do, adv?
This thread sounds baitish as fuck but I'll bite.
>Aren't I entitled to be treated equally?
No
>What do I do, adv?
Date people in your league
You should kill yourself. Everybody would come to your funeral and see that some "pretty white girl's" funeral was taking place close by and they would ditch yours
How can I, ugly, fat & introverted female, become less skittish and shy? I can't deal with human interactions, I'm very quiet, never initiate any kind of a physical contact and shy away whenever someone tries to touch/hug me. I'm so awkward and distanced it makes me want to commit sudoku desu
>>16857235
stop being fat
99% of self esteem issues are from being fat
>>16857238
Yep, this.
Treadmills and makeup
I'm 22 and just got my first gf this weekend. She's hot, loyal, smart, but she's ultra catholic. Doesn't wanna have sex. Thought she'd come around but she really isn't.
She's a horndog and she's able to get off just with dry humping, yet I'm just getting blueballed. She humped my hip bone this morning while making out and I could literally feel the wetness despite both of us wearing pants. But fucking? Too far.
Now there's another girl who wants the D (recently got /fit/, girls are noticing I guess), and she keeps inviting me to events. I've wanted to fuck this girl for over a year.
Furthermore, my current gf revealed to me last night that she's part of an ultra cartholic sect called "opus dei". She said she doesn't even believe in contraception. EVEN AFTER MARRIAGE.
She's not a literal believer of this stuff and the only thing I've convinced her that's bullshit is the no contraception after marriage stuff. But maybe she's saying that just to appease me.
The thing is I'm Catholic too... but not this Catholic. Maybe if she was my 3rd or 4th gf I would have married her but I can't imagine just fucking one woman for my entire life. Let alone one who may not sexually satisfy me.
On the other hand I actually do like her a lot and she's the only girl who actually has ever liked me for who I am (I might be slightly autist). I've only known her for a few months but I think she is waifu material.
What the fuck do I do? I've never even had a relationship. I have no idea what I'm doing.
>>16857936
Respect her faith. She's a devout Catholic and if you care about her more than you can about getting your balls drained, you'll wait with her.
But let's be honest- you want a shag more than you're willing to wait for it. She's not right for you, find someone else. She'll realise you're an arse and find someone suitable for her, who CAN wait.
>>16857936
You pretty much answered it yourself. She's most likely not going to have sex before marriage, and even after that, it's a high risk that she'll barely want to have it. Since you don't subscribe to that 0.1% minority who agrees with her, I just don't see a happy future with her.
If she doesn't come around, then there really isn't much choice but to find someone who is more compatible with you. Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship. If she's essentially denying you sex, that's just going to result in misery for you. Since it's a new relationship, maybe wait a while to see if she comes around.
My last gf was Catholic, but at least she was a reasonable one. She had no problem having sex and using contraception.
>>16857947
Underaged bitter virgin get out.
Honestly, stick with the loyal girl. I know sex seems really important now, but over time the qualities she has are much more valuable and you won't find them as easily when you are older.
How can you tell the difference between just being an extremely lazy bitch who is bad at life, and depression (or something that could medically be treated)?
For years I've had an extremely low productivity, spending almost all of my waken hours in bed. The smallest tasks take so much energy. I avoid showering, brushing my hair, anything.
However I have been depressed in the past and this low productivity has stayed on even during times I think the depression lifted (I could feel hope for the future, happiness, etc).
I think I should just pull myself together, but I never do, and now it's been going on such intensely for so many years I'm wondering if I'm just bad at life or it could be something more.
yeah, they make pills for that
>i felt hope, happiness
I don't. Ever. That's how I define depression. I also have DID so it doesn't help me much in getting better. But in some sense it's good because I'm not really affected by my emotions as much. I don't care about myself simply, it's just a vessel that moves about and does things towards stimulating me intellectually.
I've found that the thought of doing productive things appear more frequently when I've worked out (I work out because family is concerned). Perhaps that might help you. Follow a plan and stick to it, measure yourself every week to stay motivated.
It's more productive to try and solve the problem when you have examined what the problem is in more detail. In my case my limitation is when I think of stuff. Yours might be getting off your fat ass and doing stuff. Maybe it's that you're very sensitive to opposition. Like if you decide to go for a jog you're filled with the dread of how rough it is to run. So you quit there.
Can be many reasons you stop.
>>16857699
>I don't. Ever. That's how I define depression.
Yeah that's what I do to, if you notice.
>>16857699
>worked out (I work out because family is concerned). Perhaps that might help you.
I barely ever brush my teeth, I'm too lazy to eat, you think it's likely I'll go to a gym or out for a jogging run? Really?
