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Quick question:
I'm going to try to rent out a room that someone is subletting, somewhere near St. Pete, FL. Any pitfalls I should worry about?
I'm primarily concerned with giving them money and them kicking me out.
>>16850834
Sign a contract
Ask if you can call someone that rented the room
Ask if you can rent payments weekly instead of monthly
Ask if you can pay the deposit over time
To make it brief:
My father has taken multiple loans without me knowing,
I got real fucking mad and stopped supporting him alltogheter, turns out he's not able to withstand the payment because I was giving him money constantly.
As much as I wish to just leave his fucking ass in the middle of a street and not give a shit,
I still live with him and now he's trying to leech off the rest of my family.
I was thinking about using the money I have set aside (about 24k) to pay them off,
but today I found out that he might owe more money that I've immagined, he owes this company 18 fucking thousand euro,
and on top of that has at least 4-5 loans going on.
Eventually even if I let this shit blow in his face it would come back to bite me in the ass at some point,
so I need to figure out a plan of action right now that doesn't start with bashing his goddamn skull in.
>figure out how much money he owes in total
>start paying off the smaller ones with the money I have
>take credit, debit cards and Cheques off of him
>use his pay (about 1.5k € month) for bills and house expenses
>hopefully at this point we can save something even if I didn't pay all the loans off
And then I'll have to fucking treat my father like a school boy giving him his weekly pay to eat and go to work,
he's a year from retirement and he's going to have even less income at that point.
Would it even be better to pay the loan off in one payment? or should I just stick paying the monthly rates?
Or should I just kill him and spend the rest of my days in jail?
Why are you obligated to pay his loans?
Move away from him. You don't have to live at home I'd imagine.
You have 24k in savings, and you aren't ghosting on him?
Alright, maybe that's a little harsh. The fact is, you already paid him a wage for existing, but you can't cannibalize your safety net because of the hole he dug himself in. He needs to declare bankruptcy, and you need to realize you aren't a miracle worker.
Is my bank going to hassle me, or freeze my account, or even outright reject me if I try to deposit $1500 in cash on the other side of the country?
This isn't anything shady - my friends and I are meeting in New York and are splitting a hotel for 5 days. They're all going to pay me when I get there, and I'd like the money in my account before the hotel charges my card a bunch of money.
I just don't want to be stuck in New York with a frozen bank account.
Which bank? And no, they wouldn't care about a deposit. It's a small one, too, not gonna raise any flags.
>>16850865
Wells Fargo. I didn't think it seemed like much, I just don't ever deposit cash into my account. I do almost all of my banking online.
Oh, also, if you're super paranoid call your bank before you leave and confirm that they won't care.
anyone wanna make out what this is?
>>16850815
>anyone wanna make out
was that a sneaky pick-up line?
We're not even given context here. Part of the body? Is it you or someone else? Any specific activities concerning that body part?
>>16850815
Some fiber from slavshit apparel
I lent my place to a friend not long ago until he finds a place next week, and I noticed he eats a lot.
My food has undenibly lasted less and that's coming from a guy who does $1xx purchases of organic food while the friend in question just buys chicken, fries, eggs, and coke.
He uses all my condiments, I don't complain, he eats some of my meal-preps, I don't complain, but when he single handily eats the last straw of cereal left I kind of ticked.
Not because he ate it all, because he ate it without telling me. I called him out of it and told him about a story he told me about a friend stealing his perfume and how its the same thing if you don't tell me.
He said that he didn't know I was this selfish and how did I care since it was just a little of the cereal that was left. (which he used my milk of course)
I didn't want to call him out on him using my bottled waters, condiments, and milk/sports drink that I tend to use while running in the mornings, and just brushed it off by saying that he should've told me before hand because if you keep doing that you're giving me a message that I have to hide all my stuff since you blatantly told me you didn't know where the cereal was when I asked for it and I saw it hanging in the trash can.
Like man, why lie if you ate it, and I know where I put it? That gives me the idea that you probably have done much worse while I was not home and just telling it to me with a straight face.
Wht do you guys think? Do you agree that I'm selfish for calling him out just because I'm rich or do you think I was in the right.
Right now he went downstairs pissed to the market and buy his stuff because he wont be touching my stuff anymore, even though he'll probably use all the condiments and drinks since he wont buy the spices for his foods and doesn't buy anything but coke..
Thanks for the input.
no, you are right. having a roommate and having to split food-bills is a tricky thing to do. since he's only there for a short time it's obvious that you two haven't worked out the conditions propperly and that's backbiting now.
it's especially hard to get on one level when you have such differing eating habits. but him using up something and not telling you/replacing it is just rude. i'd be pissed too if i got up in the morning and find that there are no oats left. fuck that shit. i'd say just stand it out for the few days left, maybe try to invite friends and have a dinner party (with "everybody brings over something"). eat out a few times. don't stock up your fridge untill he's gone again.
You're not being selfish. Just ignore that remark.
You were naive to let him live there and not set any ground rules. You probably never let a friend live with you that long before, right? Sharing a house can ruin a friendship.
Don't stay quiet about anything that bothers you. It will only escalate and you will grow to hate him more because he will keep doing the things that bother you.
Next time you let someone stay at your house, really think about what you are comfortable with and lay out some rules. Be upfront.
>>16850806
you are in the right, you have your stuff, he has his unless you've agreed on some shared assets in the food department
your friend is a cunt
I coughed so hard blood shot out of my nostril. Is this bad?
>>16850772
could be a sign of hypertension, take your blood pressure
Maybe you're a protagonist in an anime and you seen a hot girl.
membrane in your nose is dry this time of year
snort a fingerfull of vaseline up in there
I had a GF 4 years ago, stuff ended badly and i blocked her. 1 month ago i talked to her again and i had an axiety crisis(never got over her) and blocked her again. A few days later i realized i was running away from the problem and talked to her properly. She also still had feelings for me but had something with another ex that was complicated. She stayed with me for a a few weeks while we had drama over these 3 people, i got hurt and she ended up saying she still loved her recent ex and was going after him.
Problem is she was the only person i really cared outside of my family and really loved...these things that happened made my feelings of love come back completely at full force.
We're really close and we both have fun just talking to each other for hours but...i'm getting depressed when i'm not talking to her. My friends told me that the pain will only go away if i block her...but i can't do that after what i did 2 times to her, i just can't. And also i still love her and care for her(a small bit inside me has hope for the future and i'm trying to kill that).
I wake up desperate that i'm alone(this just started), i get depressed all day and can't pay attention to university classes. i talk to her a bit at night and i feel better while talking to her(we're playing games).
I said to her i was trying to be her friend, and not talk to me in the morning and afternoon, just at night when i can do other stuff to keep my mind off. I was thinking of trying this at least till the 10th of march(her bitthday)
I don't think i cam stop liking her, i just can dull my emotions.
Do i just give up on trying to be her friend? Anything i can do for this to work?
My bottom line on this is that i want her to feel free to talk to me about her problems because i really care about her and want to help if she has problems(even if i wouldn't talk to her anymore)
sorry for typos, if the story is not enough i can talk more
I feel bad for this girl, you sound annoying as fuck.
>>16850798
Yeah, i could be. She still wants to be my friend though
look at yourself in a mirror
change the things you can
accept the things you can't
If she likes you but she chose him because he has a job, you can get a job.
If she chose him because he is more athletic, get off your lazy ass and hit the gym.
If she chose him because he has a bigger penis, move on. Plenty of other girls have never had bigger penises before, and until they do you have a chance with them.
How do I improve my communication over the phone? I'm fine at talking face-to-face and through text, but I cannot keep a conversation going on the phone. I kinda zone out. It fucks me up on phone/skype interviews and when I talk to potential QTs.
like what? you are supposed to answer and then just zone out? or you run out of topics to talk?
>>16850762
Eh. You gotta just start feeling more comfortable. Get experience talking 1 on 1 with people.
And you've probably heard this a million times but treat women like people, not goddesses.
>>16850762
Why even have a phone convo with someone if you've got nothing to talk about?
My roommate's been really weird since the beginning of this semester. Just to give a general idea of previous events:
>graduated high school, going to college
>a guy I kinda know is going to this college too, offer to be roommates with him because I don't want to do roommate roulette
>don't really make friends first year, only person I hung out with was him, though not much anyways
>we print out both our schedules and post them on the wall just for convenience on the first semester, only I print out mine on the second
>he talks to nobody but me
>at this point I just assumed he was socially retarded because he was so introverted
>he literally stops me whenever I say something or type something wrong in his eyes
>"it's not color, it's colour" "it's not lie-te, it's loi-te (for pronouncing light)"
>he hates anything American and is obsessed with anything British, we live in the USA btw
>I watch any TV shows, anime, YouTube videos, play games, anything, he comes up to me and says, "this is stupid, why are you watching this?" and proceeds to stuff some British show in my face to the point that I only play 2 games while he's around
>I'm ranting now, half of this is probably irrelevant to the question
Cont.
>moving on to first semester sophomore year
>I make friends with people because I decided that I shouldnt be an antisocial little shit
>I still talk to my roommate, but I'm not in the room as much
>he asks for my schedule again, I ask what the point is if we never use it (my schedule second semester disappeared within a few weeks)
>he just wants it, so I eventually give print mine out
>"this isn't what I asked for, it's the wrong format, and it's crumpled, print it out again"
>at this point I'm kinda scared about what he's doing with my schedules
>turns out he laminated my schedules and stored them in a binder that he protects like a baby
>wtf.jpg
>be more cautious, this is nearing the end of the semester so let it go for now
>winter break, he texts me constantly And I eventually tell him to shut up
>spring semester (now), he comes to the room and looks like he has a spiked club up his ass every time he sees me
>has become more introverted and starts to live under his bed
>I once walked in the dorm and he's scrunched up with a bottle of painkillers in front of him
>under his bed is a sheet of paper with a bunch of skulls printed on it
>he also drew a skull, I've got pictures if you want to see
>I once woke up on him muttering loudly in Arabic, he notices but pretends not to have noticed
>starts saying "I want to kill myself, I need to kill myself"
>typical attention whore behavior, suicidal/depressed version, or at least that's what I think, need insight on this
>I knew he has some mental disorder because he gets extra time on tests, seems like asperger's fits his quirks very neatly
My question is, what should I do? I'm considering reporting this to the university medical services so he'll get therapy, but I'm pretty sure it won't work because he hates people and thinks he's better than everyone else. Also, I don't want him to want to murder me in the middle of the night because I revealed his secrets to someone else. Luckily, he's too "proud" to go on /adv/.
>>16850695
And why didn't you switch roommates after the first semester?
That kills the credibility of the whole story.
>>16850709
Because other than his occasional asshole behavior, he didn't do much to make me worried.
Hey /adv/.
I'll be short: How do I make a resume?
What goes on it? Is there a specific format? What's most appealing?
>>16850673
Ask that exact same question to Google and you'll be sent to several how-to sites.
Wat do?
What's with people not using proper capitalization anymore?
Let's say you are dating a guy or a girl and although they look attractive to you, you have had a crush on better looking people in the past. If given the opportunity to have your boyfriend or girlfriend keep the same personality on the inside but look like your old crush, would you do it? And if you would replace their looks, does that mean you don't really love them as much as you thought you did?
I used to have conversations like this with my friends, in betweens games of hide and seek when we were 11 years old
>>16850653
K that doesn't really answer the question tho
>>16850655
he is trying to say something to you...
>previous thread
>>>16846826
still in need of help....
I just realized I don't get girls because I'm not even trying.
Advices on how to get started on the flirting/getting laid stuff?
>>16850774
Not op, but thanks...
>>16850590
Do you have the chance to actually meet girls in real life (school, work) or just online?
Tbh if you are ugly and not even slightly charming or funny you're fucked.
I think I have gone off the deep end. I actually considered following a woman I don't know today off the bus. I want to say something to get so bad but nothing makes sense! She has fucking ear phones in all the time too making it impossible start conversation.
I need help. I guess a part of me just wants more opportunity to talk to them. I just hate how unapproachable women are.
Like how do they expect men to ever talk to them if they wear ear phones all the time?!
I think she's probably wearing earphones /because/ she doesn't want anyone to talk to her, bro.
Do not - repeat - DO NOT follow her off the bus just to try and talk to her, there's like a 99.9% chance you'll scare the shit out of her instead of making acquaintances.
Give up on this one, consider putting yourself in more situations where girls are more likely to want to talk to you, like in a social circle or join a club or something.
I just feel like I am never given opportunities to meet women properly and have to resort to doing odd shit like taking a mitten unnoticed abd then giving it back next day saying that I saw her drop it.
I don't want to do shit like this.
Hooooly shit, dude, cool your jets. That really is getting into creeper territory.
Like I said, rethink your entire strategy. Do something extra-curricular for yourself, like a book club or and evening class or something, and talk to girls there like you would any other person.
Don't steal their shit. Don't try to force conversations if they don't want to talk. That kind of stuff spreads as rumour and you'll get a seriously bad rep about the place.
