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So anon, how many days has passed since you last spoke with her , you feel angry or sad?
>12 days, angry, hopeless and sad but carry my shit on
2 months, but Ive recently found a new, beautiful girl.
Gods speed OP, recover from her quick.
>>16851895
Not op, but it's been a 3 week hell for me.
Leaving parties early because I can't bare the feels in the last hour of the night when pretty much everyone has hooked up and there's just me still holding onto nothing.
>>16851891
Three hours since she checked on me last.
>12 days, angry, hopeless and sad but carry my shit on
You'll live, friend. There's someone out there who would love your company, romantic or friendly.
1st - Sorry for my bad english ( its not that bad but expect some big fails ahead in this text )
Im young , i think im a solid 7/10 guy with a 7" dick ( no need to lie since you cant see me ) but i feel a crippling lonelyness , also i have anxiety . When i wake up in the morning it seems like i cant wake up , i have no reason to.
some days i wake up with a very good self steem but most of the time when i wake up i disgust myself ( i said im 7/10 because thats the impression girls i have had sex with gives to me ) . i have no friends no and i have no way of making new ones since i cant go to partys etc... a little bit of backstory about why am i in this situacion :
>Be me , 15 years old , october 2010 , mum gets diagnosed with cancer
> 11/9/11 mom dies from cancer
> 12/10/11 grandmother ( i lived with her ) dies of alzheimer
> my parents divorced when i was 6
> now i live with my aunt (55 yo morbid obese ) and my sis ( 25 yo , scientist )
>started feeling like i dont deserve that and became kinda depressive .
>november 2014 i start flirting with a girl
>realise girl is crazy af , abort missiong and start dating with my colombian ex gf
>have a discussion with my friends bc they never invite me to anything
>stop talking with them
> months later i hear that the crazy girl is dating now with one of my best friends of that group , known them since we were little kids
>this bitch lies and tells them i was a creepy stalker ( when i was flirting with her )
>they get angry and never again talk to me or hang out with me , also they almost call the police .
So here i am , without friends and without gf ( i dumped her 1 year ago bc she was slutty ). how the fuck can i make new friends if i cant go to partys ? not mentioning i feel really depressed and anxious.. i feel like noone needs me / likes me .
>>16851885
Go to a local weaboo convention. I meet lots of people there, especially qt grills.
ok so, this is my problem, I hope you guys can give me some advice...
>about a year ago I've been introduced to this girl by some friends of mine, and we usually hang out all together in group
>after a month or two I noticed she appeared to be interested in me, my friends noticed that too
>I'm 18 and I've never had a gf
>I don't seem shy 'cause I talk to everyone normally, I'm very friendly and usually people find me nice, but in fact when it comes to one-to-one relations I am often closed, defensive, most of times without even noticing it
>I couldn't help but to feel her attempts to talk more to me, and to come closer as a sort of threat to my comfort-zone, my inner "shell of autism", and so I was actually scared
>I ignored her avances until she stopped messaging me and showing particular interest, and we kept on hang out with the whole group of friends normally
>we never talked about it, I just ignored her attentions and waited until she stopped "trying"
then almost half a year passed:
>I started to know her better, talk a little more and so
>a friend of mine liked her but couldn't come out and so he gave up, now he's not interested in her in that way anymore
>I noticed that I'm starting to.. kinda like her
>we often think similar things, sometimes it happened that we said the same thing together, things like that
>I kinda noticed that we have some traits in common, and we could understand each other
basically, I now feel stupid for rejecting her attentions without even trying to get to know her better, just because I was panicking.
now I am afraid that telling these things to her might make me seem like an asshole, like "hey I know you liked me and I rejected you, but now i kinda like you, wanna hang out?".. I don't know but this doesn't feel like a very polite thing to do..
what's the best thing for me to do? should I just get over it and accept that there are no romantic come outs for this or I can try to talk to her about this problem?
I could waffle about and try and give you some inspirational wall of text about how my life experience and how I came from being too scared to talk to strangers. How I slowly changed myself. How I became a confident person. How I started dating in my mid 20's. How I met my girlfriend. How you can do it too!
But I'm lazy right now so I'll just say: Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Just go for it man, nothing to lose. Don't allow yourself the opportunity to ask yourself, "What if I had just went and said fuck it."
Just admit you acted like a sped and you came to your senses. If you're lucky, maybe she didn't move on to crushing on another dude and you can deal with things properly this time around.
I was invited to a party tonight, and I've never been to one before. The person who invited me doesn't know me all that well, and I'm sure that I won't know anyone there. I'm getting really anxious here, guys, I only have a couple of hours to decide whether or not I go. What do I do? What should I expect?
OK, I'm assuming you're a guy and that this is a house party and not a sit down event.
Turn up about 30-45 minutes late. Bring some alcohol, whatever you would drink in about 4 hours + a little bit more. Your first job is to find the host, nod and say hi to anyone you meet along the way who makes eye contact. Especially if you know them.
Now, your first instinct is going to be to latch onto anyone you vaguely know and follow them around. Don't do this.
You need to make yourself a drink, walk slowly around and either strike up conversations with people on their own or join a group conversation. It's not like it is in a public place, everyone is there for a similar reason so there are less automatic rejections to conversation. Most of them will also know the host so you can talk about them.
With guys it easy, just make a comment about a hot girl. With girls it's also easy but they tend to hang out in groups. Make jokes ( not the knock knock variety, but about things around you. The decor, peoples clothes. There tends to be a game of some kind going on as well so make comments about that.)
And don't forget. In a party you don't look out of place as long as you're moving or in a group conversation. If you're anything like me, the second you are standing on your own your brain will be screaming at you to go home. So you need to avoid those moments.
>>16852275
Sound advice, thanks! Might make this easy to swallow
>>16852275
This guy knows.
He's right.
Go to it.
Show up a bit late.
Say hi.
Say you brought drinks.
Then go mingle.
Like, go find a smaller group than average.
And then just insert yourself into their conversation.
That's the great thing about parties.
If anyone ever gives you a weird look, just break off and find another group.
>Be me
>living in a 3rd world country
>Atheist but have to hide that fact, afraid of isolation by my countrymen
>Don't really want to move out of country, even If I do I'll be a subhuman for first world country people
What to do anons? Do you believe it's time for me to be an hero?
>>16851878
I read your post 3 times and I still don't understand why exactly do you want to become an hero.
is it because you live in a 3rd world country? That's not that difficult to change.
>>16851878
Go to Sweden
>>16852036
>not that difficult
I'm sorry but it is, even for a tourist visa I have to do a shitton of paperwork, I've been rejected several times when I applied for student visa.
Let me elaborate why I want to become an hero. The reason is I feel trapped with out a hope of a better future, everything goes worse each day and i feel there is no escape from this hell.
>>16852737
Heh, I think they only accept migrants, not the people that apply through offical ways.
How do I get over my anxiety about writing? Whenever I look at what I wrote, I cringe and give up.
>>16851866
Just keep doing it, anon. If you work at it, you will get better. Try to resist the urge to cringe at your own work. Try to be objective about it and not be too hard on yourself. Remember that writing is first and foremost for YOUR enjoyment and that as you get better at it, you'll feel more confident about what others might think.
Help me /adv/
Long story short: Me and my girlfriend wanna fuck eachother. It's both of our first time and i need some advice on the following:
>How do I last longer?
>How do I finger her properly?
>Also, I have some hair between my buttcheeks. Should i shave it?
>>16851847are u a complete virgin?
Is she s complete virgin?. Are u a male? Cuz if ur a malr then no lesve the hair on your but cheeks alone unless its reslly hairy
>>16851861
We both are virgins and im a guy yea.
>>16851847
Just relax famhole.
Be nervous and embarrassed and enjoy it. Take it slow. Talk about it while you're doing it.
I messed up really bad, and I don't even know how. I think it goes without saying that I'd like you not to tell her about this. Two nights ago (as of the twenty sixth) I asked out you know who to a movie, and it seemed like she responded fairly enthusiastically about it. She asked her mom and she responded saying her parents weren't comfortable with us going alone. Fair enough, I thought. I can understand that. So she says she's going to invite lina, and I said I would figure out who I would invite by the next day (yesterday as of the 26th). Last night, the 25th, at about 9:15 PM, I texted her asking about which showing was good for her and lina as we had been considering two. She responds saying that her parents weren't comfortable with the his and neither was she. I just don't really understand what happened. Did I do something? I'm just confused as to how someone who had a crush on me for a whole rejected me. She said we can still be friends, but that's like wrecking a car and saying I can keep the wreckage in my garage. It's going to be really hard for me, because I felt like there was actually a chance. The whole thing was just a terrible idea for me to do.
>>16851844
Yo, I'm interested. Fill me in on the details.
>>16851844
How old are you? 12?
How can I learn to love myself and not compare?
You can't really do that in every situation. We're built to compare. What you can do is ignore factors. Like how fat and ugly you are. It's incredibly easy to forget once you really try. How you can ignore things is probably a very personal journey.
>>16851853
I'm not fat, nor do I think I'm that ugly.
I just always belittle myself and compare myself to others academically and skills wise.
>>16851893
Anon it's extremely common around smart people to rate themselves poorly among other smart people. Most likely you're average among your peers. That's just how normal distribution works.
Rationalizing things this way is good to avoid this pointless worrying. The worrying makes you stupid because you're thinking about irrelevant shit. So even if you do worse than someone it's not necessarily that you're worse.
>Meet 10/10 cutie at comics shop with long black hair, pale skin and amazing legs.
>We talk, she laughs at my jokes, we hit it off.
>I get a call and have to go.
>I couldn't ask for her number
What do I do? Do I just keep going back until she just randomly comes back? I know the workers... I mean how could you not be into this girl? I'm a bit scared to ask them about her because I feel like they'd get ideas too... Granted I am the best dressed/social person there. What do 4chan WHAT DO?
>>16851790
No, I wouldn't advise wasting your time like that. You turned away from her, you must've known she will leave but at some level you WANTED her to leave. So you probably need to work on your approach anxiety first. Even though you say you hit it off, it was a half hearted attempt if I'm judging clearly.
>>16851851
Just found out she moved out of town. Gotta move on no big deal really.
Should I break up with my girlfriend? We can't hang out because my family is alcoholic white trash and we live in a broken down shit hole house that's depressing and her dad doesn't like me. If we have no way to hang out there's nothing you can do right?
>>16851785
How strong is the relationship on a scale of 1-10? Do you have concrete long-term plans together? Can you support yourselves?
>>16851839
Like a 5 kinda but not really and probably yeah if we both worked
>>16851863
So why aren't you taking her and getting some cheap place to rent? I would do it but only if there was enough trust in the relationship. Otherwise, at a 5/10, I probably wouldn't bother. Go find a new relationship?
How does someone gain a lot of life experience?
A little bit of exploration and a lotta bit of confidence. The good thing is that as you gain even the slightest experience, you begin to realize that there are few genuinely cataclysmic things out there. Failure isn't all that scary after all.
>>16851762
Thanks. Where can I find opportunities to put myself out there and try new things?
I don't have a job and I'm not in school
>>16851808
Maybe getting a job doing something you've not done before, and taking a class on a subject you've never studied before.
I've got pain in the area above and behind my penis but under my stomach. It feels like I always have to piss but I can't anymore
What do
Go to a doctor and get antibiotics for your bladder infection.
If you let it linger, you'll start getting very bad chills and be unable to move. Then the delirium sets in and it's all downhill from there. This shit gets very bad very fast.
>>16851740
BLADDER INFECTION!
>>16851756
>Go to a doctor and get antibiotics for your bladder infection.
Although the internet provides us with a great wealth of people who have had no medical training trying to diagnose other people over a message board, we are still cursed with having actual doctors and medical professionals who exist for the sole purpose of finding out what the fuck is wrong with you and fixing it.
Go to a doctor. Getting medical advice from a bunch of neckbeards over the internet is the opposite of what you should be doing.
Has anyone done this sort of thing with a girl before? How did it turn out?
I'm afraid if i back out I'll be a pussy forever, but I'm also kinda scared.
She's 5'4 and 200 pounds and goes to the gym. She doesn't really look fat. I'm 5'10 and 160 pounds, i don't go to the gym. How much do i need to start lifting to be able to take her in case we ever meet because of some freak accident?
So it's pretty much you overpower her you fuck her, she overpowers you you fuck her. At least thats what it looks like to me
>>16851706
Unless she decides to cuck him.
>>16851697
>5 4
>200lbs
>Not fat
Pffffftt hahahahahahahaha
>broke up with my gf two weeks ago
>feeling alone and sad
>can't neither read nor watch anything
>can't concentrate
>only thing I can think about is fucking girls I know
How do I get over this shit?
I need help with this too bro
Go on a vacation if you can afford it.
get back together?
