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Yeah I think it's over. My fucking live is over. I've completely lost my mind and there's nothing left to do now. I don't care about anything. It's over guys.
how come
What happened?
>>16853187
>>16853195
I'm a piece of fuckig shit, that's why. I'm the biggest fucking douchebag out there for now.
I went to a pageant with my girlfriend today for her Uni.
Her gay best friend tagged along as well. He's a great guy ( I've only met him twice ) and actually recommend me to her when we started dating. We probably wouldn't have been dating if the gay guy didn't put in good word for me. This is going to sound like I'm getting cucked by a gay guy but it's far from it. He's on the furthest from the straight point on the gay spectrum and openly talks about boyfriends and gay stuff. Like stereotypical gay.
Anyways, right from...
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This is where she started seeing me being 'off' aka pissed. When we got to the Sushi place I made it visible that I was pissed off and she kept asking me what was wrong and everything. She was getting close and trying to talk to me since she saw something was off with me. She put her face in a position where clearly wanted me to kiss her lips but I pissed off so I didn't. I can see that she was starting to get worried something was wrong.
Throughout the car ride she was asking me what was wrong and I said I would tell her later. When we got home she started...
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Some backstory by this, I lost my virginity to this girl, she didn't want to date me at first but then fell hard for me. She even opened up that she didn't want to lose and I was the best guy who she has ever been in a relationship with. She's opened up a couple other times saying how great I am, how I treat her with respect and is apologetic. She didn't get defense so she knows what she did wrong.
So what do I do now guys? I told myself I would break it off if it happens again. I'm not a pushover and don't want to put up with this bullshit.
How long and well did you know her before you started dating/became a couple?
How do I stop being so socially retarded?
I have a friend that I sincerely care about but she thinks that I am really socially retarded and I am because I cannot carry a conversation. Usually when I answer I say something stupid and generic to her or someone and I can't think of how to respond sometimes so whatever comes out is what comes out. I feel so stupid because I don't want her to think that she's going to have to put up with such a retarded friend.
>>16853172
Develop your social sense by socializing more.
>>16853172
Well...is it because you might have some mild autism?
Or maybe, your a normal human who finds most of the GP uninteresting and havent learned to fake it yet
Looking at pictures like this...I just want to go Japan and start a new life. But I JUST got a good job a few months ago here in America, and its a chance to build a pretty good career and make good money to pay off my college loans and live comfortably...
I learned some Japanese in college...and now I work with people who teach foreign languages...and after talking to this beautiful Japanese teacher for a good 30 minutes, it just clicked how badly I want to move to Japan (and maybe get a Japanese wife too). It just felt so natural speaking in Japanese, somehow, and I...
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>>16853163
Speaking as someone currently working there: don't fall for the whole 'Grass is Always Greener' bit. Family, Social, and Professional values are different in every culture and Japan is, sadly, very good at hiding some of the lamer bits. I have buddies who have happy lives here, of course, but there's also quite a bit of adjusting to do, especially if you plan on 'getting a Japanese wife' and 'naturally speaking in Japanese'.
You say you've got a good career lined...
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I work in Japan and have a Japanese wife, should get permanent residence in another 2-3 years hopefully
The one things that bothers me is that it doesn't really feel that exciting career-wise. Technologically, socially and fiscally it is lagging behind the west. Most of the new companies here are underfunded copies of western equivalents. I'm still not sure how to become a serious entrepreneur in this environment and whether I'd be happy just to settle into a low-risk management track career here (I don't think I can make $400k as an engineer guy...
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Anon why haven't you asked >>>/jp/ ?!?!
I don't know whether or not I want to do nofap/noporn. I find that the 'superpowers' the practitioners of this claim to obtain are already available to me depending on my mood and state of mind.
I always find 4chan to be more honest and more stubborn, and I find all the redditors a little difficult to believe. I know this is a tired subject, but I really want to jack off and don't know if I'm continuing a destructive cycle or just doing what's natural.
>>16853155
...how is beatin off destructive?
>>16853155
All about moderation, anon. You can still fap, just limit it to once or twice a month and you'll feel really great. The real problem is A) not fapping at all or B) chronic masturbation. Those are gonna mess up your libido a lot.
>>16853160
A lot of people claim that it can ruin lives and fuck with your brain and social life. You'd have to look it up.
>>16853166
If i'm only doing it twice a month, I might as well not do it at all. I do it once a day and sometimes twice depending on how much I have to do. Going just half a week without it consumes every second of the day with sexual thoughts.
I'm referring to cases where very few people living in your area speaks that lingua franca that you want to learn.
Are you asking if fun is pointless?
No OP, its not pointless.
But why the fuck are you trying to get approval from others to do something?
>>16853113
That is until you run into a person that does and you make people shit their pants cause you have the hook up.
I've been sexting with a guy, mostly teasing, saying what we'd do to each other etc. We're meeting soon and I'm not ready to actually do ALL of the stuff I said I'd do. I think he knows that, but is it a bad idea to go on? Or can it be considered just fun? Or should I just not say stuff I wouldn't do?
>>16853112
>I've been sexting with a guy, mostly teasing, saying what we'd do to each other etc. We're meeting soon and I'm not ready to actually do ALL of the stuff I said I'd do. I think he knows that, but is it a bad idea to go on? Or can it be considered just fun? Or should I just not say stuff I wouldn't do?
oh god i hate it when women tease with stuff they wouldnt do. fucking prudes
>>16853117
I'm just a scared virgin anon :<
>>16853123
...then how the hell would you know what to do in the first place?
>at college
>hook up with girl
>making out
>she stops at one point
>gives me this look like nigga r u fuckin srs?
>whats wrong? Am i bad?
>no no
>we keep going at it
>get ready to fuck, only condom is expired
>she grinds on dick for a sec, then bounces
>looks really upset and uncomfortable
>practically runs out of room
Jesus fuckin christ im so self conscious about being a bad kisser
Havent had much experience, never had a gf, but now im suddenly hot and i feel like i have this expectation of being a real lady pleaser but its so embarrassing feeling like I'm kissing on a 3rd grade level, and as much as i try and just get into it I'm just focusing on trying to kiss her right
Someone please advise me on how to kiss like a pro
>>16853110
>Someone please advise me on how to kiss like a pro
>Worrying about some chick thats wasnt up front with you for any indiscretion.
So you have no fucling clue if you are infact a bad kisser. But if you are, accept that and cut this bitch lose and find someone whos into you enough that would take the time to mold you into not a good kisser, but the perfect one to her.
>>16853124
But i wanna hook up with mad bitches
Its still a good idea tho, anon
>>16853141
You wanna hook up with "mad bitches" but are worrying about what 1 of them thinks about you.
Nigga you fuckin up.
So I just recently found out my girlfriend of a year cheated on me multiple times during the relationship, needless to say I broke up with her. I tried being the bigger person and not slut shaming her and she ended up making it seem like I did something wrong to her friends and family. Now she's fucking the dude she cheated on me with.
While we were dating she decided to get a pet which we kept at my place to the chagrin of my roommates. Now she can't take care of it until the summer because
Of her housing situation and I'm stuck with a constant reminder....
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>>16853078
Give it to someone who deserves it.
option1) keep pet for self
option2) show up to her place/her parents place. ring door bell, release pet, immediately turn around and walk away.
not your pet, not your problem. if you release that thing to her, she will figure something out. it's not gonna die.
actually ignore my post, i agree with this guy
>>16853084
just give it the fuck away.
I want to be a vet, can anyone give me an idea of how hard it would be? Thanks
>>16853063
You put down people's beloved pets as your day to day.
I'm a large animals vet, its hard and can be soul crushing at times, you either gotta be a goddamn socialpath that has no emotions, or love the little/big guys A LOT.
Harder than becoming an human doctor -- there are only 32 vet schools in the US, and something like 182 medical schools.
>weed
>shrooms
>Adderall
>Codeine & Prometh
>black cloves
>rum & cognac
I can't seem to feel anything without a system full of vices. Not trying to quit, just find a way to find the same joy and ambition without them.
I'm never happy, never tired, never hungry or thirsty, never depressed, sad, or upset, never want to do anything, or want to buy anything....
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I have friends, but I feel like the majority only hang out with me because I'm a solid connection for most things they want, or because they're friends with my only true friend. I quit my job because I lost the motivation to deal with the bullshit, and made more in a day doing nothing but hanging with friends than I made there in 2 weeks.
Only reason I have sex is because my gf is a nymphomaniac, so my sex life is healthy (about 6 times a day unless she has to work)
I like to think I'm not addicted because I never feel the urge to do any of these...
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If it didnt make me feel like such a waste of oxygen, I wouldn't mind it so much. It's just that for the longest time, the way I figured it, you have your /g/'s, your /a/'s, your /cgl/'s, your /k/'s, your /out/'s, your /r9k/'s... everyone has their interests that they dump all of their time and effort and money in... and mine just happens to be frowned upon. But I really do enjoy them. I find weed beautiful, shrooms fascinating, addy miraculous, lean theraputic, and tobbaco and liquor classic. in my head there's nothing incriminating...
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>>16853058
You could be going through a detachment from reality (desocilazation I think? I don't know the correct word).
On the other hand, you could also just be dependent on these drugs.
Doing drugs releases dopamine, that's why depressed people or people who are dependent on drugs find it hard to quit. Anybody who is dependent on something usually does so because their brain reward system (serotonin and dopamine) are released as a result of doing that specific thing.
Fulfilling goals, feeling...
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>go on to a date with qt3.14
>we both ordered food but she didn't ordered any drinks
>asked her why didn't she ordered any drinks
>she just smile and said "I dunno lol"
>as the date went on she seems, thirsty.
>ask her if she wants me to order any drinks for her
>she said it's okay nvm
>suddenly realised...
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>>16853042
why would you care?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2yX5DshF-Hs
here, it's a guide on what's wrong with you
>>16853042
Nerves and trying to not appear like a goof is my guess.
Also sharing straws is gross dude I wouldn't share a straw with my mother and I spent 9 months inside her.
I'm a guy in my mid-40s who recently divorced with my wife. I have an eight-year-old and a six-year-old kid. Is there still hope for me in finding love again? To make things more difficult, I am bald, and as far as I am aware of, it is a big turn-off for women.
>inb4 things suck for you
>Decided to have kids in your late 30s
Why?
From what I've noticed, there's tons of single women your age. They're also crazier than shit. Your best luck is to socialize and make friends with one of their friends.
Unless you want to date some 20 year old who just needs a daddy figure to take care of her. Look forward to shitty, inconsistent dinners and a dirty house.
>>16853053
I began dating my former wife when I was 33.
Seems pretty bad from what you've said.
>>16853026
Bald isn't bad as long as you're always well-groomed. It also depends on body type and personality. Like, why did you get divorced, you know? Was it your own fault?
Please read this short thread before posting I made it a few days ago, and will fill you in on the situation. Thank you.
>>16835589
Now, its been about a week, and it seems like she has already started to move on to some rebound relationship bullshit. Saw her post a snapchat story with some guy, yeah, I forgot to block her snapchat, so mad I looked at it. I think this is pretty typical though. Maybe she is just sad and is looking for someone to fill some sort of gap she has now without me. What do...
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Life's too short to keep chasing after the same girl. Have you fucked a black girl yet? How about a tiny Asian who squeaks like a chew toy? Ride a fatty froggystyle. You have so much more to look forward to before you decide that your ex-girlfriend is worth chasing again.
>>16852992
Why do you want to get back with her? It sounds to me like this was her intention all along, to try out the dating (read: fuck) pool and keep you on the backburner just incase it didn't work out for her. I'd say move on
>>16852998
Made me laugh. Thanks dude. However, I am still interested in attempting to get her back. At least for now anyway. Also, if anyone is wondering how I got those DM's. I forgot that she signed in on my phone before, and after I saw the snapchat story tonight, I broke down a bit and decided to look for anything useful.
Does anyone here have or had an occupational therapist? Did it help?
tl;dr: my life now
24, live at home with parents
Finished university with a meme political science degree my goal was to go to law school. I had epilepsy since I was 17, had seizures almost every day, took 5 years to finish university, work at my dad's office doing meme work for 2 years
Had brain surgery last summer which cured my seizures. I'm still not 100p recovered and my 'working memory' is still recovering which takes over a year.
I'm very frustrated now...
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you are fine, its hard for all of us to tame our brain and make good use of it. there are always obstacles and one must not let them stop him.
>>16852982
You know you can wait until you feel alright to take the tests, right? Though if you think handicap is spelt 'handy cap', I really don't think you're cut out for law school
>>16852982
It may help. Mind you I have no idea what an occupational therapist can do.
I think you stressing out will ultimately make the healing process more difficult. Perhaps try not considering this a serious handicap, as it will heal in time. For now stack the dough and see if you can pass the LSAT. If not reapply, or weight out other options/career paths.
You have your limits with the completion of your operation. Try to work with them instead of looking at it as some sort of crippling hindrance to all your...
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