Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1508. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1508. page
All right, /adv/. I present this situation:
>On mom's highschool reunion half across the continent.
>Mom's classmate has daughter my age that's hot
>Stereotypical american white girl
>Snapchat, tumblr, wa, ig, tw, iphone hugger, attention whore, starbucks, the list goes on...
>I can carry a conversation almost perfectly despite english being a second lang.
>Interested in screwing her, chat her up, we talk for like 6 hours straight on the reunion while our parents caught up.
>Obviously got her laughing a million times, played darts, drank shots, got her number, she stalked me up on facebook somehow (as a joke I guess) and physically gave me her phone for the vast majority of the night.
>Somehow ended up agreeing to go together to Disney tomorrow by ourselves (her idea, I just went along with it).
>Talk about relationships, says she got cheated on, yada yada.
>We both make it clear we're single
>Keeps saying I better show up at the lobby tomorrow and not flake on the Disney thing
Negative things:
>She would go blank sometimes during convo, pretty sure she has ADHD or something (runs in the family, said the mom).
>(Jokingly?) said she only wanted me to come to Disney with her because you gotta be 18 to go by yourself (I'm 18, she's 17)
>It's actually 14 the maximum age that requires adult supervision (I looked it up).
At this point, logic would dictate I got a decent chance of hooking up with her. However, I find her incredibly annoying. I honestly despise her addiction to social media and her shitty rich white girl yolo attitude.
Now, the question. Am I delusional? All of this could simply mean she's just a massive massive attention whore.
Thanks, /adv/.
I think you're annoying and delusional if you think she's an attention whore for doing any of those things, she sounds like a normal person. And you took her joke about you being 18 to buy the ticket way too seriously, it obviously didn't mean anything. Why are you so butthurt, do you have nobody to snapchat or nothing to ever post so you hate it all?
>>16853406
I can objectively conclude she has a problem. Everyone was pointing it out. She got called out and it wasn't me.
I don't have a problem with socia media. I responded to my own texts and calls during the evening. But she literally took it to the extreme, trust me. I'm not exaggerating this. I promise you.
All right I already know the answer to this question but I'm drunk and sentimental. I told this good friend of mine I love her and want something serious with her. This was like a week and a half ago, she lives 4 hours away. We haven't talked after I visited her mainly because I feel like she treated me like shit while I was there. I just wanted to believe she would text me since me starting the convo would be fucking stupid seeing as how she treated me and shit... I already know she doesn't love me or want anything real with me but I'm at my limit here and need some support, sorry /adv/.
The question is the usual should I text her
NO
Better yet, text ANY girl but her. Literally any girl, text her and screenshot it.
>>16853427
I asked this girl out and she said yes but bailed out in the end. I just feel so lonely right now...
I have no self-confidence, no self-esteem, no motivation to do anything.
I'm 19, almost 20, and I pretty much hate myself. I never finished school because my parents didn't let me try. I ended up becoming cut off from the real world and becoming a shut-in. I never leave the house. I'm depressed because I'm lonely, but I don't even try. I don't even see the point. I hate myself for not trying, but I can't get myself to do it.
Every time I try to find a reason to go out and meet people, I just think of reasons they won't like me. Maybe I want to meet someone I like, but they won't like me because of the reasons I think up. For example, I have psoriasis, so I often wear a hat(like a beanie, I have a bunch). I tell myself they'd find that disgusting. I think of little reasons like that to keep myself from trying, all the time, and it adds to my depression. I'm just a kissless virgin who's been a shut-in for years and is depressed every day.
>pic related, normally me when I wake up
>>1685337>>16853373
Man i tell you 1 big truth. Even if you haven't psoriasis, even if you are a tough guy with large biceps and abs, even if you have a great work and make lot of money...people will always criticize you. And you know why people do this? Coz it'a fucking jungle. Be a man...stay focused on improving yourself. Make a list of things you don't like and start improve dem one day at time. Get a job, with the money you earn go to a doc and get your shit cured, read books, quit porn, start lifting...if you don't move you will always stay where you are. Come on man, gain your manliness back.
>>16853373
Read in deep voice. Girl or boy, honestly helps a lot.
See a fucking therapist, jeez. They're the ones who'll be able to help you, not 4chan.
How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
I'm good looking, have a job, have money, have no problem talking to people and getting interest from girls.
But I have no motivation for any of that shit, I can't be bothered living the high life, all I want is to just work and play my video games.
What's wrong with me?
You have accidentally reached what buddhism call "enlightenment". That's everything about life, isn't it. Live, eat, sleep, shit, play video games. Whether you're a billionaire or Stalin, you still have to do all of that. And eventually, you will die. Nothing is going to stop that, even power, money, or pussy. All that matter in life is to live a good life. So, you have to ask yourself a question: "Am I living a good life?"
>>16853368
Your problem is that you waste your time playing video games, and nothing else assuming everything you said is true. I used to play too many vidya and it messed with my general mindset and thought process (I played competitively and reach pretty modestly high divisions in the fps games I played because I spent too much time on them). Video games can be addictive, and it also releases dopamine which will prevent you from doing anything productive.
do short dudes have any chance?
mainly asking because I'm short and sick of the girls falling into the arms of some awkward tall dude just because they are tall.
Start liking dudes.
I'm 5'3" so I know the feeling. I thought I was straight for a long time, but I eventually found out I swing both ways. Guys are nice because they don't normally care about height, and find short guys to be a plus.
On a more serious note, don't worry so much. There's a FUCK-TON more problems you can have than being short. It's not a big deal, and there's plenty of girls that don't mind.
The only answer is suicide.
Short guys in general? No problem. Short guys who think everything's harder for them because they're short? They've shot themselves in the foot.
Every night at around 10 my boyfriend jumps on the computer to play League of Legends with his best friend and his best friend's girlfriend. We used to play games a lot together but lately it seems like there is nothing we're both interested in so our gaming nights have died while his League nights with his friends have tripled. He's offered to teach me and even asked if I want to join the but I always say no. The reason being, I am a very competitive person. I get very aggressive and oftentimes snappy. I'm worried I'll get overly frustrated and lash out so I've just kept to myself.
Any advice on how I can adapt or just suck it up?
>>16853324
no, it fucking sucks and he's dumb for playing it
see:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VjzgbZL12VI
>>16853324
dont listen to this guy -->>16853329
d e s u if you think you might like it then give it a go. it is a pretty competitive game and you might have a lot of fun with it.
but it isnt for everybody. i really dont like it. so test it out and see how it goes and if you like it and youre good at games you can get a lot of mileage out of it.
stay positive and try to have fun. games arent meant to create a rift in relationships.
>>16853350
don't listen to this guy, he fucking sucks too
I have a dream, and I want help with it.
I know one person can make a difference, but since I'm scared of people trying to kill me, I'd rather share this idea and ask for advice.
Don't know if this thread will grow and last, but even if not it'll be nice to get any tips.
I apologize to the staff if this thread is misplaced, it's my first time in the site. I also readed the rule section, so I'm sorry if I'm mistaken.
Let's move to the subject. Get ready, it will be long.
Today we have an electromagneticc-based technology, and I think it's not enough because eletronic boards keep frying at some point. Do you think we can develop some kind of photon-based magnetic technology? If possible, it would replace the need for electrical circuits, and electricity would be based on light instead of electron, solving the problem of energy supplying.
I ask that because I'm researching a way to create a light generator based in self supplying. And it would make computer processing a lot faster and hardware a lot lighter.
I'm studying programming, and I have plans to start a computer factory, then move to a energy research center, then mess with virtual reality in a light based internet.
Yes, I know it's a Star Trek notion, but, do you think it's reachable?
I'm willing to devot my future to this idea, but first I need to know if it's just a dream. No, I'm not a kid...
As you see, it's a pretty ambitious quest, but is a good fight. No more blood for any kind of "oil" in the world, and no more aggression to the mother nature.
If you think it's impossible, say why. If you think I can do it, then we can do it together if you give me a tip or two. How do you think would be better to start this road, for example.
Thank you.
>>16853309
Based on my limited physics and ECE knowledge, this is unlikely to be a possibility.
If you wanna dedicate your life to a cause, work on fusion tech. It has the potential to output ~300x the worlds current electrical demand all from one reactor. It would create clean and super cheap energy. The third world would come online overnight, the world would change, good minds from all over would have access to education and each other via the net.
If you wanna change the world, get a good degree and move to france because we dont fund this kind of research in the US.
>>16853309
>self supplying
I can stop you right there
A light generator to be FULLY self supplying would need to be at 100% ECE and also to be in an enviroment so cold, that only quantum tunneling could actually make it that cold.
I don't think it'll happen but i honestly hope you or someone else will pull it off one day, OP.
Basically, I'm an awful person. Here's what happens, something comes up and makes me feel like shit. However when I get told stuff like I'm not really shit or everyone goes through this I try to make up some excuse for why I'm worse. Basically I make a problem worse just so I can feel sorry for myself. How do I solve this?
With Self Death
>>16853302
You need to experience true hell. See others experiencing it. My wife miscarried the other night. At 16 weeks so we had ultrasound pictures and had heard the heartbeat and all that. You cannot know loss like that. Holding your wife's hand as your dead baby lay in a pool of blood between her legs. Knowing you will never hug them, soothe them to sleep, hear their laugh, watch them enjoy pizza.
You need to go see what bad truly means. Because my heart is shattered and the only reason I didn't blow my fucking brains out is my daughter. Feel free to make yourself feel worse than that but I can't imagine you have any idea what kind of pain that is.
sorry for your loss
>>16853335
>watch them enjoy pizza
uh is this a reference to true detective?
How do you move to a big city without being rich? I'm sick of missing out on life
Not a pro, but here's a few ways:
1) Find a job in a big city
2) Meet/make friends in a big city
3) AirBnB or couch-surf in a big city
4) Volunteer or join an organization in a big city
Well you could accept shit living conditions and find a shitty job. You could save up for a couple years and then go and spend a couple years losing money there.
Or you could just take a vacation there. It's not so great. It actually sucks. I always wanted to live here growing up. Now that I do, I hate it and realize that the cleanliness and comfort of not living in a city is better than this.
There's not much to miss out on regarding poor city life
The only point of living in the city is to get rich then get out when you've decided you've made enough
>NAME CHANGE
Thinking about changing my last name, mainly because I dislike it and it is not my fathers last name (which I would not want anyway)
My wife would like me to change my last name to her last name.. However, she is Asian and I am anglo and 2. I am concerned that people will judge me poorly having taken my wifes last name..
I personally do not mind the idea of having her last name, it beats picking a name randomly that does not particularly mean anything to me..
I am on the fence about the whole thing, I know I WANT to change my last name, my wife WANTS me to have her last name but which an Asian last name and beats picking a random name BUT worried what people might think.
Thoughts?
>>16853279
What is her last name? If it is very common or short it might be less awkward for you.
>>16853284
She is Chinese and her last name is Zhang (a pretty standard Chinese surname) It is pronounced Jung.
I don't really like the idea of changing my surname to my spouse's. It would feel like I'm defining myself in terms of her instead of myself.
IMO, go with your dad's name, find a name that resonates WITH YOU, or pick a new name that both you and your wife change to.
It's sort of like buying a house. Your wife wants you to move into her house (name) partially because it carries no risk for her. If the relationship ends, her name is still hers. It's easier for her to have you move into her name than move into hours or "buy" a new house (name) WITH YOU, her husband.
Just my 2 cents though.
My best friend wants to get an apartment with our other friends and their girlfriends for next year, because it'd be cheaper than living on-campus. As a poorfag, that's completely okay by my book, and plus I love my friends. But one of their girlfriends used to be best friends with my ex-girlfriend and it's still weird to be around her, and the other one I can barely tolerate for more than an hour before I want to punt a puppy until it pops out of this plane of existence. I'm pretty sure I could live with my other two friends on-campus, but that's some good money being spent there, and more I'll have to pay back after college. So I find myself at a dilemma: what do?
The best roommates are the ones that stay the fuck out of your way. Can you do that with them at least?
>>16853278
Not sure. I'm good at avoiding people, but it's like this person's presence just makes me want to not be around her. I went from a five-minute shit to a 30-minute shit today because she was in my dorm room talking to my friend about apartments. I don't even want to run the risk of running into them, and plus I don't think either of these girlfriends would care very much and probably knock on my door all the time. Not a fan
>>16853269
If you can't tolerate some of them now, you sure as shit won't be able to later on, especially when exams and things come around.
Like above anon said: the best roommates are the ones who you can coexist with daily and not need to bother each other. Stick with people like that and you can hang out with your friends on the side--your home should be a place to escape drama, not create it.
I fall in love with every Asian girl I meet
How do I stop?
>>16853232
have a wank and watch chink-disgusting asian porn where women sound like little children when fucking
Date one, that cured me.
It was one of my best relationships but having actually been intimate with one and got it out of my system I judge them like any other now.
>>16853240
those pedoes love this.
I have a job interview this week for a recruiting job to make 33k+ Commission. May not be a lot to some people, but I need the job. Any tips on how to impress in my first in person interview? Had a phone interview today that lasted almost thirty minutes.
>>16853203
meant to say next week.
>>16853203
Try not to ramble when answering interview questions. Be concise and direct, especially when they're the simple ones.
Also bring in a copy of your resume and any work samples you may have (didn't mention what your prospective job is, so just in case) even if you submitted online/sent it in/etc. Many interviewers like to have something physical to take a look at and it makes you look more on top of things.
>>16853216
It's for a recruiting job at Aerotek. Entry level position. I'll probably take in a couple resume copies. I usually do well with interviews, but never hurts to get some extra advice.
hi /adv/
how do you prepare yourself for a surgery/procedure/etc that you know will be painful and bloody?
for context: i have a weird discoloration on my nail that's probably benign but can also be an early symptom of melanoma - it can only be ruled out via a biopsy of my fingernail. the type of melanoma it could be is often misdiagnosed in its early stages (even by experts) because the discoloration outwardly looks like other more harmless causes.
anyway i am very scared of the surgery. it's supposed to be really painful and i am scared of needles, knives, etc. statistically it is probably nothing, but i feel like the smart choice is to be safe instead of sorry? i also have obsessive compulsive disorder so i keep worrying about "what if"
pic related: it is what the discoloration on my nail kinda looks like
They'll give you a local, you whiner.
Simply ask for a nerve block of the whole finger. Easy. You won't feel anything.
I'm an introvert, as in, I lose energy from being around people for large amounts of time. I also don't handle alcohol very well (110 lbs female) and tend to have rough next days, where my stomach is off and limbs hurt even with only 1-2 shots. I haven't had a lot of friends in my life. now, I'm beginning to become close friends with a girl named Lydia who I really like and care about. I love spending time with her, but I can really only handle it in small doses before I want to go home and be with my boyfriend before falling asleep. I know I sound boring as fuck but I can't help it. We're in college, and she on the other hand can go seemingly forever. She will drink and party with me one night then the next night work, while I'm still recovering from my hangover, then text me to hang after work. I just can not go every day, I won't be myself after a while I'll just be crabby and wishing I were alone deep down. Will I ever be capable of normal human friendships? I have seriously been alone so long the thought of any spontaneous socialization is distressing
I guess my question is, how do I let her down sometimes without hurting the friendship or her feelings? Should I come right out and say I need alone time or does that make me sound unapproachable/scary?
>>16853186
Do you have a complex about socializing? Do you believe that it brings you discomfort? If so, why do you think that may be.
>im introverted but still have no problem developing friendships and socializing with people
>see introverted extrovert
>boyfriend
Well clearly it's not that much of an issue for you.
