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Does anybody here have such a wide and seemingly unending spectrum of interests that focusing solely on one for the rest of your life in hopes of becoming the best at it seems like not only an impossibility, but something seriously unfortunate, since there would be so much of the world around you that you still wouldn't know shit about anyway?
I want to build rocket ships
I want to make groundbreaking animated films
I want to cure some ancient disease
I want to record double platinum selling albums
I want to become a seasoned war general whose name echos across the ages
I want to invent some device that revolutionizes our connection with the physical world
I want to be a hero that ends human suffering
I'd like to rule the world if it meant I didn't have to kill a bunch of people
Not to even mention the fact that many of the things I listed are completely contradictory to one another but achieving even two of these things is impossible due to our limited time on earth and fierce competition with everyone else for the exact same goal, whatever that may be. Every one of these goals offers different things of value as the ultimate reward for achieving them. I think that if I actually knew what I wanted, what I value the most out of life, the answer would seem more obvious, but is that just wishful thinking? Do people pursue dreams like this 100% in-tune with what they want out of life, only to realize that their chosen path never offered it to them in the first place?
I have similar dread.
I want to paint, learn five languages, travel to just about every country, learn three instruments, read thousands of books, etc.
Knowing I'll never have enough time scares me. I fantasize about stopping time to experience everything I want to.
>>16826925
Have you ever seen the movie "It's Such a Beautiful Day"? At the very end, the protagonist is about to die, and the narrator pulls a deus ex machina by just completely flipping the story so that he lives forever, reads every book, masters every language, meets alien species, and lives on beyond the heat death of the universe. At first I thought he just got lazy with bullshit writing but then I noticed how sad it got me and I realized that the writer did it to fuck with the audience. He knows that every person watching his film is wishing beyond belief for the exact same thing for themselves. It's a parody of the futility of human dreams and desires.
>>16826938
no but Im gonna check it out.
You should watch "The Man From Earth". It's got a similar theme.
So you are my hope, here's the story. My gf was supposed to be fertile or ovulating around January 26-31 now her period was supposed to come feb12-15... Still not here
I do finish in her but she's on the pill but recently switched the type of pill and was on anti biotics.. Could she be pregnant? My anxiety if ripping me to bits right now, please help also our last couple preg tests were negative but there was one test that looked like it may have had the tiniest line ever but I'm not sure
Bump. I'm dying out here... Sweating bullets
Bump. Any info stories anything please
My best friend is cheating on her boyfriend with two guys. Should I tell him?
Depends on how "best" and "friend" your best friend is.
I would personally avoid, but that's because I'm lazy and I hate drama
>mfw if this was a pair of male best friends they wouldn't even think about snitching on each other
women have no sense of loyalty whatsoever lol.
she's your best friend isn't she? stay out of her personal business and keep that shit to yourself like she had entrusted you to. if you strongly disagree with her actions and lifestyle, then you break that friendship off.
but never snitch. there's nothing to gain out of that and makes you seem just as unreliable as a person.
>>16826520
try to get your friend to stop first. Give her the chance to take care of it because thats what friends are for.
But friends are also there to make sure that you dont fuck up and if you see her doing it its your responsibility to fix it if shes unwilling. Id tell them anonymously. Spread a rumor around.
Is committing suicide selfish?
A bit. Yes, because there are probably people who would miss you and love you, and no because there's a reason why you're doing it.
>>16826007
You are going to kill yourself, why the fuck would you care, you are doing this for yourself, its a really selfish thing. I wouldn't do it though. I've been depressed for the past 6 years and I still am finding ways to live and try to be happier than yesterday
people who have never had suicidal thought will say yes, people who have will say no. i say no, if they cared about you so much, you wouldn't feel this way, suicidal thoughts are always the last thing somebody goes to when they just cant cope anymore. no, it is not selfish. its selfish for people to keep you alive while you are suffering
How do I deal with ridiculous mantits in the UK?
Chances of me affording private surgery in the near future are slim. How do I convince the NHS to handle it for free?
Get in shape you fat fuck.
Figure out where all your testosterone went.
Looks like gyno. Had it when I was around 15-16. Went away after I ended puberty.
Assuming you're not an underaged b&, only way to get rid of it is surgery. Literally no other exercises or anything exist.
I like him. I thought he likes me too. We hangout together today. Me and him and two other couples. We were like 3 couples hangout together. As i was sitting beside him,when he was checking his phone to call the other girl in our group of friends to know if everything okay with her,i saw on his list there were a contact saved as "baby". He definitely rang her and she rang him back. We actually ring each other sometimes but not that frequently to be almost on the top of the outgoing call and incoming call. I felt miserable. I tried to act like nothing's wrong and I didn't see it. But then when he was checking his notifications center again i saw that contact as a missed call or message I couldn't tell,only the green icon. And this time was unexpected,I didn't want to ever see it again. He then switched off his phone from then.
So he had a gf. Obviously. But why he told our group that he was single for like 3 years. We only friends with him for about 10 months. There was no reason for him to hide his relationship. Plus he was flirting with me for like a month back. He came to my house to check if i am okay when i was sick.
But one thing after this coffee,when another guy asked if we are a couple,he said no. And yes,i said no too. And we told that guy we are just friends.
It's so weird. I'm not heart broken when I found out he has a gf,but still feeling so weird,I don't know what it is.
In a second when i saw that contact I felt so miserable,then thought that maybe me,he saved my contact like that. But then I realized it's possible.
Now what to do /adv. I don't know how to get over it. And i want to know if he has a gf or not. I want to know who is "baby" was. I'm gone crazy.
Going crazy over a guy you're not in a relationship with, not worth it.
if this was me giving advice to a guy itd be "plenty of fish in the sea" "find a new girl" "try again" etc
You'd be like the guy who is too beta to see they aren't interested or you are too beta to ask and see.
>>16825866
But the point is he making me believe that there was something between us. If he had a gf already he shouldn't flirt with me like that.
Hey /adv/, I decided to try online dating about a month ago and I posted here for advice about my profile. Since then, I started trying a lot harder and now I wanna know what you think again.
I have 7 pics now, 2 of which are selfies at home and the rest are either outdoors or out with friends.
Any advice or criticism?
1/4
Can you at least take a pic of yourself outdoors and with a different style of hair instead of lego combover. Act a bit dynamic in your pictures like you're actually taking a pic of yourself while out there and doing something.
>>16825841
I did that, I just thought I should use a normal bathroom selfie for my main picture like everyone else on the site
2/4
>>16825841
This. Your combover is unattractive. You could be way more attractive if you had any idea what to do with your hair.
I think a girl I was seeing is seeing someone else, its okay to ask her if she is seing someone?
>>16825829
Are you still seeing her? If so, a conversation about whether you are exclusive or not is reasonable.
If not, it is not really your business. You can ask, but she doesn't have to answer.
>>16825832
I'm not sure, she has been putting a lot of excuses lately, and I'm 99% sure she is with someone else
so yes or not?
Hi /adv/
So I have this skin disorder called becker's nevus.It started developing on my chest at around 13 years old. I had no idea what it was at the time and I was afraid of getting made fun of so I never took off my shirt or went to pool parties or anything like that. Ever since, I have never taken my shirt off in front of anyone. Now I'm 22 years old. I'm afraid of talking to girls because I feel like they will automatically think I'm unattractive because of it. I avoid sexual confrontations entirely because of that awkward moment that might happen when a girl tries to take my shirt off. I feel like most people would just think it looks gross. I don't want any attention to it just in case someone says something negative.
Unfortunately, there is no good cure for getting rid of this abnormality. I usually try to shave the hair off to but it grows back very thick and dark very quickly so I got tired of shaving it all the time.
The only solution that seems semi-reasonable is getting a tattoo to cover it. Although, getting a giant, gaudy tattoo isn't my thing at all and I generally don't like tats.
On first glance, do you guys think it looks pretty bad? If you're a girl would you think It's gross? Should I start shaving the hair again? Am I over thinking? Idk, maybe I'm just being a bitch about it but idk since I've never shown anyone. I'll take any advice or comments about it. I just wanna talk to someone about it. Thanks a lot /adv/ and sorry for typing so much.
tldr I have this stupid skin disorder and I think it looks horrible is it really that bad? What do I do about it?
Also if anyone else here has some skin abnormalities or unusual physical appearances then let's talk about it.
It looks fine...what exactly are you insecure about? The uneven distribution of the hair? I seriously don't see anything wrong.
>>16825782
>Unfortunately, there is no good cure for getting rid of this abnormality.
Laser hair removal doesn't work..?
nah. no one cares about that stuff, dicks are gross enough.
Don't feel too good about yourself though, you've probably got some other psychological disorder. ask your therapist about body dysmorphia.
is lending a girl a videogame of yours to start off a friendship beta or alpha?
>>16825675
beta
plus she's poor
>>16825682
she's actually quite rich. i'm just done playing the game because i overplayed it. i wouldnt mind giving it to someone whos into final fantasy.
>>16825687
>giving your prized possessions to some whore
alpha fucks
beta bux
Anyone up for a feels story? It's kinda long but I think it's pretty interesting. Here goes...
>Last summer
>Be me
>22 years old, good looking but socially awkward
>Don't have a regular job, but I play music every other week at a local bar. I don't make much but it's enough to pay for gym
>Parents know I'm a complete failure but support me nevertheless
>I had just broken up with my girlfriend after a 3 year relationship
>Kinda sad because no more sex, but I decided to focus on lifting to keep my mind busy
>So, I get this call from Nick, an old friend whom I haven't talked to or seen in in like 3 years
>We used to hang out a lot and play music together, but he moved to an island to study and we didnt keep in touch after that
>His school is throwing a party for summer break and he offers me a gig there
>Immediately accept. I'd get to see an old friend, spend a week away from home, make some money and experience college life
>Fast forward about a week later
>I'm staying at my friend's place, the gig was a success, I made some good money. We'd spend every day at the beach getting drunk and partying with college chicks
>It took me 19 years to get laid but I fucked 3 girls the whole time I was there
>I was so confident. I was having the time of my life
>It's my last night there and we go to a bar to celebrate or something
>Nick's best friend is this girl... Let's call her Katie
>He's told me so much about her but I haven't got to meet her yet
>She said she would come and meet us at the bar
>Couple of hours later, she shows up.
>10/10. Perfect face, long red hair. The best ass Ive seen in my life
>Man I don't know but the moment I saw her I felt something
>We started talking and the more we talked I thought to my self that she was the one. We had so much in common, and she was smokin hot, plus she seemed like a really good person.
>I was really drunk and I hit on her, but she politely turned me down
>She had to leave cause she had to go to work in like 2 hours, she hugged me and said that we would meet again soon
>I'm flying back home and I cant stop thinking about her
>Check my facebook, I got a friend request from her
>Oh man, here we go
>We would chat every now and then but nothing serious
>I felt a great connection with her, like I could say the most autistic thing that came to my mind and she would love it for some reason
>Couple of weeks went by and at this point we were chatting 24/7
>We skype for the first time and she kept saying how hot my voice was
>We ended up skyping for 18 hours straight. She had to go to work and she told me that she would call me later
>I get a call from her the same night, her voice has changed, like she's trying to seduce me or something
>After a while she drops the bombshell
>”Listen...i think you're very attractive and I wish I was there so you could smash my pussy all night long...”
>OHMANOHGODOHMAN.jpg
>We cyber fucked
>For the next couple of weeks we would have cyber sex all the time, she'd send nudes etc
>She said that she felt I was her soul mate and what was missing from her life
>We talked about it and we agreed to try this long distance relationship thing
>Some random day, she sends me a print of her plane tickets
>FINALLY
>We made plans about how we would spend our time together
>I can't wait for her to come and see her in person. It's not about sex anymore. I was in love with this girl
>She's supposed to come in about 10 days or so
>In the meantime she got a promotion which was good for her but she'd have to spend more time at work AND at the same time she was moving out of her parent's house and start living on her own
>She told me that she would be busy for the next couple of days with home preparations and work and what not but she couldnt wait to come and see me
>A day goes by and we haven't talked to each other
>Didnt think much about it at first
>The next day she calls me and she says shes been really busy and she feels really bad cause she hasnt heard from me
>A couple of days later and we dont talk that much anymore
>I figure she must have been really busy
>I send her a message and she wouldnt respond.
>I kept sending her messages for 3 days straight and she wouldnt respond
>whathappened.mkv
>I decide to call her
>”Hey baby, where you;ve been?”
>”Hey.”
>”Everything ok?”
>”Yeah”
>”Katie did something happen?”
>”No, ive just been really busy with work and stuff”
>”Well ok...cant wait to see you tomorrow.”
>”Oh, about that..Im not coming.”
WAT
How do I learn to enjoy having sex with a condom?
>>16825508
just spend a few seconds thinking of all the STIs that could be spreading through your system without that heroic bit of latex ;)
Read up on Buddhism and accept that the nature of the world is suffering, but you can rise above that by letting go of your desires and expectations.
You will never enjoy sex with a condom, but you can make peace with that.
>>16825508
My gf isn't on birth control and I love raw so I know how you feel OP. The closest thing that I've found help are the Bare Skyns from Trojan. Not exactly the same thing but fairly close.
>Assignment for my C/C++ class due Friday next week
>In danger of not getting it finished in time because despite working crazy hard on it I keep getting stuck on shit
I've never felt more discouraged and stressed about an assignment in my life. I honestly feel like I'm not picking any of the content up like I should be. Worst of all, next week is our "break" week so getting ahold of my teacher is much much harder.
What do /adv/
>>16825502
whats the assignment about?
>>16825502
Git gud. It's that simple
>>16825510
We have to read in an array from the user sort it and then find a bunch of statistics about the contents (min, max, mean, median, mode, absolute deviation, variance, standard deviation and frequency distribution)
>Had a semi decent friend for 5 years.
>He met my then gf/now wife 3.5 years ago
>1 year ago this said friend gets drunk at his house party
>My then gf cracks a covert joke at him
>He's up in her face with his fist raised about to punch her
>Friends pull him off just in time
>I wasnt in the room
>Gf scared
>Find out 5 minutes later and give him unlimited verbal shit
>Forgive said friend
> Few month later friend cracks rude jokes about my wife in-front of our mutual friends
>Pokerface.jpeg
> Few weeks later said friends crack the same joke now in front of my wife
>Wife pissed.com
>Talk to said friend next day, tell him next time ill knock him out.
>He's all sadface.jpeg, apologizes
>Forgive friend.
>Wife still pissed but glad i didn't resolve to violence
>Month later said friend crack same joke but quickly tries to hide out of it.
>Bitch is scared
>I tell wife as an FYI
>Dont talk to friend for over 5 months
>Random mutual buddy tells me he's still cracking the joke and also talking general shit about me.
>Sickofthisshit.kill
Will be seeing him tomorrow at a mutual friends Birthday house party. Gona knock his teeth in.
He wont fight, i need to provoke it.
What should i say/do?
What to expect?
You're a fucking faggot I hope you get arrested and can't make bail then your wife leaves you
Oh yeah and have fun keeping a job with assault charges you fucking moron
>>16825344
top lol
>tfw want to join a frat but don't want to join a frat
Anyone else sharing this feel? Wut do?
You either join it or you don't.
Just make friends with classmates instead.
>>16825164
I have a good group of friends and I like hanging out with them, we go to our favorite bar every weekend to drink beer and liquor. The main problem is we don't have ANY chicks in our group of friends, I haven't talked to ANY girls for the past 6 months. Honestly I don't think I'll lose my virginity any time soon.
All the hot chicks from my degree are in a sorority and you're basically non-existant to them unless you're in a frat.
This is my struggle.
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