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Alright /adv/ kind of going to just blog here.
About a month ago my gf told me her old bf is coming back to visit her. We had dated a couple months, after knowing each other for about 8 years. And it was really the best thing that ever happened to me. It was somewhat long distance, but we saw eachother every weekend. Anyway, she says that she has to figure out her feelings as soon as her ex came back. So she said she needs to the end of the week to figure out who she wants to be with.
I've been terrified for the past three weeks about the choice. We've talked about it a couple times, and she says that she loves me, but she spent three years with the guy and she said she doesn't want to hurt him anymore.
The whole thing started by us getting together when they were still together, so she always felt bad for cheating on him. I felt terrible when it happened too, but when we were together it was really the best thing ever.
I feel like I can't deal with anything right now, and have a senior project as well as a midterm tomorrow.
What do you guys think?
Right now everything reminds me of her.
And the worst part is, for the past 8 years she was the one I'd tell about these things. And I was the one she would tell about problems too.
I feel like I have nobody left.
From my experiences if it happened once, it'll happen again. If she truly loved you, she wouldn't distance herself from you to "figure out her feelings," would she?
If she's telling you that shit then she's already figured it out. If there were any real uncertainty, she wouldn't say jack shit to anyone until she figured out who she was going to tell to fuck off and how best to prepare them for the inevitable letdown, while saying little or nothing about it to the chosen party.
It's already over. And she's not even telling you straight. Fuck her. Be over it by the time she decides to hit you with it.
hello
please can anyone for the love of god explain to me what this part of my assignment means?
>(200 words, every table or figure counts as 75 words; the 75 words for a table or figure is included in the 200 word requirement; note that using a table of a figure is not mandatory, but if used, it should be mentioned within the main text; a figure caption should be placed below the figure whereas a table caption should be above the table
The table or figure counts as 75 of your 200 words, and you need to have a caption and mention the table or figure in the main text. I don't understand what's so hard about this.
I purchased this meme mouse a few months ago and I've been having tracking issues.
I will be playing vidya and every 1 minute to 10 seconds it will stop sending signals I guess through the USB? It will entirely stop for a few seconds and start back up instantly, I play FPS games and this makes it insanely frustrating to try to play. Unplugging and plugging it back in seems to help slow down how often it becomes unresponsive.
Has anyone here experienced anything like this? Should I go ahead and order a better mouse or is this something I could fix?
>>16789324
reverse the code polarity on your usb drives
>>16789324
lol. Just get a better mouse..
>>16789324
I think it might be an issue with the sensor. Did you try to use another USB port? It's it still on warranty? It may be a shit meme mouse, but if you can RMA it and get a free replacement, then why not try?
A girl i really like just invited me to go clubbing with her on Friday. I said yes, but I'm starting to regret it. I've never been clubbing before, I can't dance worth shit, and crowds freak me out a little. should i go? the only reason i'm even considering it is because it's a excuse to hang out with her.
>>16789320
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uxpDa-c-4Mc dance like this guy you'll be solid
>>16789330
dear christ that's terrible
>>16789320
Yes, and tell her you've never been and don't know how to dance.
She invited you. She wants you there, bro. I'm sure she'll be happy to show you how to grind.
Not sure where else to write this, but I deserve some chastising. So where else would a masochist go other than 4chan.
I spilled my purse all over a guy I'd been hooking up with since May. I've never met anyone like him, not that he's special. But I've never met someone as similarly wired, down to the strangest random quirks he did shit I thought only I did. It isn't the end of the world, but I've never felt such a legitimate attraction to someone for the right reasons. I deleted his contact to spare myself from embarrassing myself further. shit sucks. More specifically: I suck. I guess it was the first guy I went beyond my comfort zone, and the first time I actually pursued someone. Low self esteem yields to dating losers.
I lost a fuck buddy and I'm legitimately saddened. Honestly, I should stick to losers. I'm totally just as akin to them.
He'll never know how much he pulled me from a depressive state, or made me feel like I could attain things I didn't previously think I could. And I'll just look like a total dingis if I shared that with him. Fuck me.
Yup, fucking up your life on purpose was definitely the right move. You're on a roll now, try taking up meth.
>>16793079
Does spilled purse mean pissed on or something? Because otherwise you're just a retard and should hang out with him again.
>>16793107
This.
Did he flat out reject you?
If not, keep hurting yourself with him
My wife went and had our living room painted bright red after I asked her not to. I'm on the razors edge of flipping out because I'm pissed off. I specifically told her that we needed to make decisions like that together, and sitting in a blood colored room is not enjoyable for me. I want to handle this like an adult, but I'm not sure what the best way is to stay cool since we've already discussed it so much.
>>16793061
Punch that bitch in the face.
>>16793071
Trying to avoid that. Can't exactly hit my wife for disobeying me in 2016.
>>16793077
Dump her.
If you're married and living together, then yeah, decisions like that SHOULD be made together.
If she can't handle that, she probably shouldn't be married.
Divorce.
You can't punish your spouse, even if they act like that, because y'know, they're your spouse. At the same time, a lack of negative reinforcement will lead to her thinkin' that either this is totally acceptable behaviour, or that she can get away with it. It'll not only continue, but escalate.
What happens SHE decides to have kids. SHE decides to name them. SHE decides this, that and another thing.
That aint marriage, that's a slave and a master.
Is this a real official warning from Google or just Spam?
Spam. If it says its from google but does not say google.com, its spam.
>>16789292
Its official
it's spam. you outta know that, google would never send out a warning like that.
4chan, y u so...you know what? Fuck you.
Bruh, you look new to 4chan.
>be me
>19
>been a year out of highschool or so and live with my parents
>had a part time job in highschool, was too difficult to do the job and keep grades up so I did school instead
>got pretty good grades
>graduate with a B+ or so GPA
>have trouble finding work again
>go to a place called worksource, helps you find a job and stuff like that
>join an organization that gives out leads for work, need to jump through a lot of hoops in order to get in
>get around 6 or 7 job interviews
>don't get a job
>was second place for a job in a law office though that was cool
>decide to apply for college
>60 approx percent reject rate
>holyfrickigotin.png
>I'm so happy, all my friends are proud of me
>fast forward a few months and applied scholarships later
>start working for a landlord
>work is labor but it's okay, mostly mowing lawns, removing weeds, brush removal, leaf removal etc.
>stop for a while
>mom gets annoyed at me for not working
>be me preparing for college, studying and practicing to git gud for a head start when I get there
>go into the deep morning doing this, usually go to bed at 4 am or later
>mom tells me to start working again
>tell her to call the guy because I don't have his number
>she says okay
>wait a while
>he does not respond
>wait more
>about to go to bed at around 10 pm or so
>mom said she texted him and will see if he replies
>doesn't
>basically she implied probably nothing going on tomorrow for me to do because he won't respond
>go to bed
>stay up till 4 am again
>go to sleep
>wake up to my phone blaring in my ear
>it's my mom
>uhhhhokay.bmp
>answer
>you have work today anon
>I thought it wasn't going to work out?
>my mom usually goes to work at like 5 am or around those hours
>I literally cannot for the life of me figure out how he responded back to her this early or last night
>be extremely annoyed, only have like 5 or 6 hours of sleep
>tell her no
>she gets pissed at me
>she says I have no life
(1/2)
Continued
>be really hurt
>mom hasn't said anything like that before in that tone of voice because of how well I did in highschool and how hard I worked to try to meet their expectations of me
>tell her to never say anything like that to me again
>hang up
>try not to cry
>got to get ready for work
>go out into the living room
>sit on the couch
>dad is in the living room too
>notices I'm gloomy
>asks what's wrong
>I fucking lose it and have an emotional breakdown because my own mother said I have no life despite all the hard work I've done to try to make them proud of me
>dad tries to help and talk me through it
>kinda helps
>mom is just going through a really hard time at work and she's really stressed out and stuff, people joking about reducing her pay even though she like a workhorse
>I understand
>mom said she was sorry and that she loves me
>I forgive her and say it's okay as long as she doesn't say that ever again
>she says she didn't say that
>siiiiiiiiiiigh.jpg
>say I'll talk to her later
>(we were talking on the phone)
>hang up
>the words bit into my soul and Im not one to have emotional breakdowns or any of this other stuff, let alone bawl my brains out
>go do work
>it's a lot easier than it usually is for some reason, just clearing brush for today
>working and swinging my axe around like a lumberjack actually really helps get my mind off of it
>work done
>go home
>mom gets me a coffee and brings it by, she has to go to the store or something and pay bills
>fast forward an hour or so
>me sitting on the couch on 4chan
>now
Is there something I can do so that this doesn't happen again? It really broke my heart with what she said but I feel really calm now and stuff that I've forgiven her.
>>16789293
Your parents sound pretty fucking based and supportive. So your mom said something mean and you overreacted, it doesn't sound like that big a deal really. Seems like you've been stressed out about things and what your mom said kinda brought it all out, now you feel better because you vented. Maybe you need more time for yourself and not just working/studying.
holy shit. stop being a little bitch. She said something harsh off the cuff and you're acting like you were just disowned. Seriously. This is literally nothing. It means nothing.
I thing it would be good to go more outside but i have no idea what to do once im outside. I only leave my room to go to university or to go to the supermarket and buy booze and cigarettes.
I have all the things i need here in my room: my pc, my bed, cigarettes and booze. Haven't been to a party since i was 18 (so for 6 years lol) and my contact to females is limited to the prostitutes i visit from time to time. I meet my friends at university for a few hours and thats it.
What do you do when you are outside?
>>16789247
I just be myself
is suicide possible with etizolam? etizolam is a benzo.
it's a benzo.
apparently its more than a bottle.
If you can't even handle life in this place, how do you think you are going to be able to handle the desolation of Hell when you kill yourself?
>be me
>19
>10/10 gf
>love her so much
How the fuck do I stop getting jealous over other dudes though? I get jealous and paranoid really easily. Terrified of losing her. I know she loves me and is loyal but goddamn it gets annoying. There's so many dudes that hit on her and ask her out since we are in college. It's kinda stressful and I just want to stop getting so nervous and upset about it.
>>16789187
>those green squiggles
Fighting the good fight
Get an uglier girlfriend with an unappealing personality
If you get jealous easily you probably shouldn't be going out with this kind of woman. If you're terrified of losing her you need to step your game up or date someone else.
>diagnosed ass burgers
>fuck ton of social anxiety
>deep, monotone voice
>no social skills
wat do?
Who cares?
Get a councilor and do volunteer work to make friends to help gain more social skills.
>>16789123
>be me
>poor social skills
>deep voice, hopefully not monotone lol
>anxiety issues, get panic attack from being 10 minutes late to a lecture
>encyclopedic knowledge
>psychiatrists from the autism research center of local psychiatric hospital "diagnose" me with asperger even though I'm sub clinical on all tests but they insist
Told everyone to fuck right off with their diagnosis, don't want to end up in r9k. I now force myself to face situations that trigger my anxiety instead of crippling myself from avoidance. I'm working on my humor, and trying not to be uncomfortable when people talk about sex or make racy jokes (obviously I'm KV at 23).
I'm making progress, I'm now part of a small "social circle" and we have inside jokes. Other students ask to study with me and compliment me on my teaching ability when I explain stuff on the whiteboard, which boosts my confidence. Hardest part now is learning how to communicate and engage with people on an emotional level, that whole empathy thing. Results encourage me to keep going in moments of doubt, I know I'm gonna make it.
I've been meant to understand that I'm "different" since primary school by teachers and other children even though most couldn't quite put words onto it. I probably won't ever be the same inside as other people but I don't care, "different" isn't "worse". I'll fix my deficiencies and play to my strengths. I don't know if my blend of "different" really is asperger, could be, but I don't care for labels.
OP, what to do depends on how well you function currently. Are you perfectly happy with your life right now ? I know I certainly wasn't, I was failing all my classes, too terrified to leave my own room for days on end, had cut contact with everyone I knew, suicidal and deep in psychotic depression. You can change if you want to.
inb4 blogging
I took some advice here on how to get a new attendee of my woman's group more interested in the group and the discussions. She did return, but she was even more disengaged as before, she opened her laptop right away and started playing games even before any discussion began, she didn't say a word, and after all the discussion she kept bugging her friend if they could "Go already" I overheard them outside, she said "Quit making me come to these fucking meetings already, I gave this bullshit cult stuff a chance, now let me roll around in my supposed "internalized misogyny" and just be happy."
Is my women's study group a cult? why would anyone want to stay ignorant of women's issues like that? why would she have such a distaste of things that should affect her, I even got the discussions topics to cater to her, we talked about women in video games, bigger women in video games, the big beautiful woman as a joke in video games... and she didn't engage at all, her being a bigger woman herself who obviously is into video games.
I don't think she'll be back, her friend whom I talk to says her friend has had "enough of this bullshit"...
Is there some women that are just impossible to reach?
>>16791749
Are you from the landwhales support group? Just stop bothering that Asian chick
>>16791749
Yes, and they regularly attend your cult meetings.
Sounds like she's happy with the status quo and you shouldn't be trying to shame or blame her into being a malcontent like yourself.
>>16791749
Can I get this girls number? She seems not crazy and retarded like you are, OP.
My gf almost broke up with me tonight because of my lack of trust with her. She knows I have trust issues because of the bitch that came before her, but it's like she forgets about that. I guess I don't know how to put previous issues aside. Bleh
K
>>16789112
well then she can fuck off then.
Try to not be intense next time
