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She's 41 and i'm 23. I'm so scared to touch her even though she mentioned having sex with me and everything, i'm feeling very uneasy just thinking about it, what df is wrong with me, what should i do? I'm not a virgin, does age have to do with it?
Worried she might think you're inexperienced?
Does she treat you with respect and care? Or does she objectify you? Age differences can bring about some uneasy power differences. I don't mess with older people.
>>16777037
no not really anon, although i've only had one sexual partner but me and my first gf did almost everything under the sun and expiremented a lot(but yeah ever woman is different). Maybe i should talk about my sexual experiences with her?
Was just rejected sex for the second time because my dick intimidated a girl.
At what point should I mention that my dick is big to a girl so I dont have to get excited then blue balled.
>>16776996
Honestly, there's no such thing as too big of a dick if you've got adequate lube. It will still hurt, but it can still be done. Lube up son.
>>16777014
Yeah I know that. That doesnt mean she knows and understands that.
>>16777020
So lube up son.
Thoughts on under-age sex?
I'm 18. She just turned 16. 17's legal in my state. She wants it bad, and so do I.
Any thoughts, comments, or advice?
>>16776957
Don't. If her parents find out at all you're fucked.
If it's legal, go for it. If it's illegal, then decide whether the penalty if you're caught is worth a few minutes of sex that you could get with a girl who's legal.
A two-year age difference isn't very significant, so I don't see it as creepy or morally wrong. Just be very careful and discreet until her 17th birthday
So I broke up with my boyfriend about three or four months ago, but I still want to be able to talk with him (he's a real rad guy). We also had some joint projects going on (stories, characters, drawing etc.) How do I go about this? Is it a bad idea?
Note: I still like him a lot...
Why did you break up with him?
Try to know over friends how he is dealing with the whole broke up thing, if he is doing fine a casual approach is good for maintaining a healthy friendly relationship, and the projects that you guys had going can be a good way to start it. Try to consider his feelings as well before approaching him, since none here knows what happened to you guys to break up, neither if he is a fragile person or not.
Good luck.
>>16776844
The relationship was long distance but the lack of communication really just fucked it (we used to Skype a lot). Not to mention my depression shitting on everything else. Didn't feel it was fair for him
My brother told me tonight that he thinks every day about killing himself
I absolutely love him and I worry so much that he'll actually do it
What the hell do I do
>>16776815
What's wrong with his life?
My sister loves me so much she pushed me over the edge by not taking no for an answer. I'm going to kill myself tomorrow. Just kidding.
>>16776818
I just think he can't handle living the way everyone does, he can't handle being shit on all the time, being tired all the time
Modern life is so fucking awful I totally empathise with him so much. I'm 26 and I'm such a fucking loser, I just want to leave everything behind myself though I've never told anyone this
I'm 23. So i'm talking to this older woman i meet at school, i find attractive, she brought up the topic of sex and getting a hotel room. Three times recently she's mentioned that, she hasn't had sex in a while and that she might scare me off if we do it and asked if i can handle it.
I guess i can understand why she would believe that, in class i'm often quiet and people always say i'm nice, other friends in class swear i'm a virgin even though i'm not. I just feel it's a time and place for everything, i like to be mysterious...
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this is Op, no she didn't bring up the topic about sex, i did because she was conversating with me about her turnons with sex around when we first meet, so i called her a big tease and told her i don't talk about that kind of stuff unless were going to have sex, ever since she's been flirting with me.
>>16776716
well ask her how you can convince her i guess.
OP if there's a time and place for everything then in those instances she let's you touch or grope her try to escalate it.
That is if you want sex. You call yourself mysterious but are willing to give up secrets for sexy time. Don't give her too much, let her figure it out. Someone who you don't know about attract you. (Its actually a completion mechanism in the brain)
>be alpha and go for it if its there
I just feel so terribly uncomfortable around people, and they seem to feel the same about me. I am unable to hold a conversation, even mundane smalltalk makes me anxious. I mostly reply with one-word answers, since I don't know what else to say. I've got nothing to say, really. The memories that I have are old and faded, the past few years have been empty and uneventful. I've got no stories to tell, ideas to share, nothing to have in common with anybody. My mind feels sort of hollow, too, like I don't have a personality.
I started taking anti-depressants 6 mts ago and some therapy, and I got a job, but it's all going nowhere as I am still unable to function and unable to even recognize what's up with me or why - I simply don't have a clue. My best guess is that the years of isolation made me loose my ability to be social, that I forgot how to human, basically. But how do I change that? Is it even possible?
(sorry for the wall, and thanks for anyone with advice)
You just have to accept that the first steps are the hardest. Socializing requires practice, like any other skill. The more you try, the easier it'll be, and you'll be having actual experiences with other people, so you'll have new things to talk about.
Get yourself a job, too, if you don't have one. Join us in the real world. It kinda sucks sometimes, but it's better than being alone and doing nothing.
>>16776723
Like I said, I've been trying for 6 months now with therapy and such. And I got a job... Things are just awkward as ever. Part of me feels like it's getting even worse now, my social inability that is, because I'm constantly confronted with it, how bad it is.
I got the smalltalk part (somewhat) down by now, but I never truly connect with anyone I talk to - it's more out of politeness I'd say.
But yeah, you're right, the first steps are freaking hard. I'm feeling...
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Experiencing this too. Hoping there is someone who can give another advice.
About two weeks ago, my computer started acting up. If I began to multi-task it would simply shut off so I took it apart and cleaned it out. While doing this, I noticed that a few of the capacitors were beginning to burst. I figured I'd use this as an excuse to get the parts for a new computer.
For your reference, the old computer's specs: HP a6230n
8GB RAM
Nvidia GeForce GT 520
link :
http://h20564.www2.hp.com/hpsc/doc/public/display?docId=c01153857
The new computer's specs:
Case: Rosewill Galaxy 01 Gaming Case; $49.99
Motherboard:...
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>>16776682
I say up the graphics card to a 970M/980. I have the 970M and it's amazing, though not sure how exactly it compares to the 950
Stick a GTX 970 in there and you've got a deal.
What to do on a date?
P-put your dick in it
Strip club, volcano, or Korean mecha show. Obviously.
>>16776800
What do I say on a date, how do idress where do i go?
Hello /adv/
I have a gf of 5 years. We've had an open cellphone policy. We have access to each other's cell phone, all we have to do is ask.
As 2015 came to an end, she became increasingly more shady. New Years came and I snooped in her phone, I found a few guys hidden under girl's names.
We broke up and have been trying to work it out. So at the end of January, we had a period where we didn't speak for a week but we were together.
We met up and decided to work on it, I asked to proceed I wanted to go through her phone with her....
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My philosophy is that if there is nothing to hide, there should be no issues.
She sounds like a shady person. Especially putting guys in her phone under girls names.
Having said this: Are you the overly possessive and controlling type? If so, she is probably sick of it.
>going through someone's phone
>acting like a controlling parent to your significant other
nigger, wtf r u doin
>>16776614
Your girlfriend may or may not have something going on with another guy, it's tough to tell from what you've said. But regardless, she's not wrong in her arguments against the phone-snooping thing. You can't really police a relationship like that, and expect it to be good. Either you choose to be together, or you don't. But you're actively sabotaging it by constantly "checking up" to see if she's been lying to you. It just comes off insulting, and as you've discovered,...
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Well /adv/, I am in a tight spot here and obviously always have been a retard when it came down to life choices. So I need you to help me evaluate how shit my life is and what is the best way to proceed.
I fell for the STEM meme in university and fuck up my major hard. I do think that I could manage the work, but I have a severe amount of distractions. My life outside of uni is absolute trash and I seriously doubt that I can handle it without ending up in some psychological institution. I still did not move out at 21 and my parents constantly ride my ass about every single...
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Can someone explain the STEM meme to me? What exactly is the pit fall of STEM?
>>16776519
Well, I guess I can do it aswell.
To be successful on the STEM path you need to be really, really good. That basically means you have to be autistic as fuck and live and breathe math, otherwise that shit is going to eat you alive and you are going to scrape by with shitty marks at best. And when you are finished, if you are finished that is, you are going to get rejected at every single place you send your application to, because no one needs a half baked scientist who only managed to get through by doing...
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First of all, depending on what your GPA is, see if you can internally transfer your major within the same department to a less strenuous course. Most universities have an unwritten rule that no matter what degree you were accepted into, if you gain the prerequisites and credit points for something, you will graduate with whatever degree you earned it for. Speak to Dean of Students, speak to your head of department, see what you can salvage. THEN see if you can get your apprenticeship.
How do you deal with people who believes in street knowledge(experiences by living on the streets) over academic knowledge?. I srsly cant stand their stupidity and i dont know how to deal with them without losing my shit
I roll my eyes and move on. I used to live in the ghetto and I've never been keen on the kind of mindset it produces.
You won't get through to them, so apply some of that freedom of association.
They are clueless, but people who only know things they were told in class, rather than having a wide range of knowledge about everything, are even worse.
>>16776413
Disagree. Those booksmart experience none guys are more annoying sure, and that rare chance one might go rampage is creppy, but street smart people equate to hustlers and gang members in the worst case scenario. And I don't have any time or desire to deal with that shit.
>On 2 weeks of nofap
Should I got to an asian massage parlor or masturbate myself to sleep?
Doesn't matter, it's a meme anyways and doesn't actually do anything.
The ass was fat.
>>16776342
Yeah I fell for the meme
Which one would you choose?
>>16776340
>Falling for nofap and not no porn
God they're elite level trolls on /r/nofap.
Is it weird for a girl to sleep in the same bed as her (straight) guy friends ? I do it all the time and nothing weird happens because they are very close friends. My flatmate insinuated that I'm a whore though which made me really angry. He actually thinks I'm having sex with my friends. How do I convince him otherwise ?
tell him you're not sleeping with them
carry on with your life
It is a bit unusual, yeah. You're not a child anymore, most people aren't just physically affectionate like that without at least hoping for something more. It'd definitely be inappropriate to call you a whore, but "tease" would not be off-base
>>16776174
It is a weird thing to do, that being said it sounds like he likes you and is jealous.
im a 23 yr old female student going to school in California. I was drugged and raped earlier this week at a frat part that i was invited to. I'm so sure that it was some of my bfs frat friends who did it but have no way of finding out. I just can't remember their faces but I remember everything they did to me. I've been really struggling since then and don't know what to do now. Do I tell my bf? Do I tell my parents? What do I do now? I feel helpless and just really hurt and degraded. Has anyone gone through anything like this? How did you move on?
Are you calling police now or in 10 years
>>16776086
Well... sorry but you're pretty much fucked, no pun intended.
Several friends I've known have been in your position but because they waited and fucked around no one believed them when they were ready to tell what happened.
I think you should just find a therapist and cope.
>>16776126
that sounds fucked up. thats not right... just cope??
