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males, are you like your father? similarly, females, are you like your mother? Is this a good or a bad thing? do people just turn out like their parents for the most part?
>>16771304
there's no doubt they influence who you become heavily, but no I wouldn't consider myself to be just like my father, and I think he slightly resents me for it
>>16771308
This. >9000 this
Unfortunately I am not as accomplished as either my father or my mother. I am very introverted compared to them, they were both very outgoing people, active in life. Both died when I was young, though.
Hey guys, I've been thinking this over a fair bit and don't know where else to turn.
There's this girl I met on Tinder a while ago, who is just really the best. She goes to my university and I think I'm borderline in love with her. The thing being is, she's sending so many mixed messages. We talk on Facebook and Snapchat all the time but when I suggest going out for food she always is busy or she says yes then cancels later on. We've barley talked in person at school. I don't know what to do guys, some insight would be great.
Thanks.
>>16771245
Why would you love someone that's flakey and cancels on you.
>>16771250
I don't even know man.
Here's a tip don't bother with tinder girls
Here's my situation:
> live with overbearing Asian parents
> they want me to have Asian husband and Asian grandchildren
> I have white boyfriend and they disapprove and say he's trash and will only fuck and dump me
> He's a nice guy, and we didn't even have that much sex, but the relationship ends after 6 months
> I'm absolutely heartbroken
> can't tell...
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That's a lot of effort to go to to avoid having your parents (who were right) tell you they were right.
>>16771224
Don't you have friends to spend time with? I'm sure there's some eutrash that want to spend time with a qt Asian girl.
Depending on where you live. I live in Santa Monica You can normally do what you want at the beach at night. Just go lay down and cry in the sand. 10 years from now you'll be a doctor and you'll be rich and have no memory of his existence
Hey guys :) I just told my best friend all sorth of stuff :p I told him he was the only person I ever cared about in my life, that I would do anything for him and that the tougt of loosing him made me cry
We talked about me being a sociopath ( he agrees I may be) and I ended up telling him all this :) he then took a shower and came out only in boxers and made an off hand joke about not being too shy to masturbate in front of me :) it was really hot :p and I'm freaking out about what it may mean :p
Now I'm not attractive at all :( I know I am not :( maybe he wants...
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This is an 18+ board.
>>16771203
You beat me to it.
What makes you think you're a sociopath?
Should a 19 year old nigga move out or get a whip?
Can't decide between either.
Depends where you live senpai. Are you walking or biking distance from work? Don't get a car. If not get a car before you move out.
>>16771183
Kek f a m gets changed to sempai on this board.
>>16771183
I have to take train to work.
/adv/ I'm 35 years old, never gotten high. Recommend how to have first drug experience. Really not interested in weed.
Try shrooms.
Erowid dot com might help answer some questions, OP.
I have wanted to do shrooms forever also but I have no idea how to come about them or know their potency once i do.
for shrooms take a holiday to either Brazil or the Netherlands.
My girlfriend of 4 years has been having an online affair for the past 4 months. It started out in an online game as an innocent friendship, but it eventually turned into something more intimate. They exchanged nudes and talked on the phone plenty of times and that's about the extent of their relationship. She claims that it was because we would fight a lot, but the only times we would fight would be when I would talk about how we can do better things for ourselves and make our relationship stronger. She hasn't been doing much for the past year or so, and I've...
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Honestly she'll probably just do this shit again, so unless you're prepared to deal with this again in the future every time you two go through a rough patch, I'd jump ship.
Look, don't pressure yourself to forgive her. That shit takes time. You feel shamed and betrayed, and fuckin' A, you should!
What, exactly, is your GF doing to make you feel better and secure? That's HER job now, not yours. No contact with the guy, accountability, of course. Ask her for her passwords for now. When you both agree on it, later, she can change it. If she says no, her ass is not interested in salvaging things, and it's time to boot her ass out.
OP, why do you want to try and make it work? She was having an emotional affair with someone else. She obviously doesn't care about your feelings. GTFO.
If you invested four years into a company and for the past few months it has been going downhill, do you stay with that company? Hell no, you grab your money and run. Your relationship is over. Face the facts. It happens to all of us. You tried it, it didn't work, move on.
Anybody feels a need to chat privatelly?
I'm free right now.
> 16 years old
Is it weird to watch c-span for entertainment?
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I once tried to have sex with a watermelon. It was a bad idea. I got half of it stuck in my pee hole.
My significant other developed a disability one year into our relationship. We've been together for five now. I've become very frustrated with the ways that their disability not only holds them back, but me as well. We don't get to go out on dates anymore. I experience scorn from everyone I know because they don't work (see: disability). I feel so guilty about being frustrated with them over things they can't control. I feel selfish. God help me.
Alright guys this ones a doozy
I have been crying for the past hour because I am constantly ruining my friendship with my best friend. I am a female so naturally I am fucking insane sometimes and he usually takes it well. He is gay and we have been best friends for two years, he came out to me before anyone else.
Reasons I freak out at him
>he doesnt want me to meet his friends or family and I have no idea why
>says I used to be cooler and nicer (which I used to be)
>ignores...
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An example of him trying to confront me about being a bitch at Uni today.
A couple months ago I was even worse.
I would say stupid shit to make him feel bad like
>i reconsidered our friendship
>just been like "Fine bye" because he ignored something I said
I feel fucking abusive. It used to just be over text but now we are not laughing as much. I really want us to salvage this friendship.
We used to say things like "Ill write a song about you." And, "Ill never have another friend like you in my life."
Recent things hes said that make me...
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>>16770780
>What do I do? I told him he could leave me if Im making his depression worse but he says no I just need to work on it.
well then I guess you should work on it. try to see shit from his perspective more. in fact, why not try to see shit from other people's perspectives more in general? like when you see other people, try to imagine the shit they have to go through on a day to day basis. also consider either finding a therapist to help you with anger, or read up on anger management...
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My friend's really berating me and calling me a child because I said I was getting sleepy at 12 AM. It's not even the fact that I'm inclined to sleep at this time that he's insulting me over, it's that I used the word "sleepy" at all.
Why would he be so cruel about this? What's this faggot's deal?
>>16770608
bump
tl;dr My friend thinks saying "sleepy" is childish to say and is insulting me over it and daring me to tell other people I'm "sleepy".
Is this normal?
Sleepy sounds kind of childish, and I use it in a humorous manner from time to time, but your friend is really a faggot if he berates you for it.
i think the problem lies with you my friend
if you're old enough to have a roommate you should be old enough to cope with their bullshit without venting your thoughts out on anonymous forums
learn more about yourself
I am looking for some answers. I am the type of person that likes to be prepared and I also over think things wildly sometimes.
Anyway, I am going to present some situations and then you guys say if its okay to approach a woman in those situations(with intent to eventually get a date with her).
1. On the bus
Is it okay to talk to a woman on the bus? I never do because I feel like I am putting them in a shit situation but I have seen some interesting women who I would love to talk to and get to know.
2. Cashiers on the job
Is it okay to talk to them while they are working? As in trying to get a phone number or something? I feel really scummy doing that so I never do it.
3. Strangers on the street
I feel really uncomfortable just cold approaching women like that but I feel like I never get to meet women any other way. I am 25 years old too so finding people my age seems impossible.
Anyway, thats all I can think of for now. Are there any women here who can offer insight? When would you prefer to be approached? In my mind, its never okay to approach a woman UNLESS its at a party or some shit because obviously people go out and do errands and shit which means they have shit to do so why would you actively STOP them and impede what they are doing? It feels like borderline verbal rape to go and speak to a woman out of the blue. Am I just wildly over thinking?
Unless you're really good at conversation, only #2 is viable. Cashiers usually like talking to people.
>>16770630
I feel like the cashiers one is the most not viable.. they are paid money to be nice to you.
>>16770693
Maybe they are just being nice to be nice to only you? You ever think of that? Ask that cute cashier out, if she says no, oh well. Try the next.
>long time gf of 4 years
>Get her a job because she wanted one
>Lost my job a week later and struggle a bit
>She starts making new friends at work
>friends push her to leave me, say she too young for me, and should be free more
>cheats on me, and then dumps me hard for some guy I don't know
Since she left, I got a new job, a nice new car, and been fixing myself up. But
I...
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>>16770522
>But do I really want to throw away 4 years I been with some one.
she threw it away and she'll throw it away again
Don't throw good money after bad.
You've already wasted 4 years on an ungrateful cheater, if you waste any more you're doing yourself a disservice.
>>16770527
This. She already showed you she is willing to drop your ass at any time. Don't put up with this shit anon.
I was joking around with my gf and I saw this picture of a wedding ring made of macaroni, and since macaroni and cheese is her favorite food, I showed it to her and said "this is the ring I'm getting you"
All of a sudden she gets super serious and tells me not to joke like that and I better be going to zales or Kay jewlers, like she actually thought I was getting her a macaroni ring.
But what further worries me is how she reacted that way. It was so weird. Normally she'd just laugh at something like that. Is she seriously thinking about marriage?...
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Sounds like a vapid, materialistic whore. You should probably dump her
>>16770491
2nd
>>16770491
This
For the ladies. How often do you approach a man that you think is handsome?
Usually I just make small talk.
>>16770459
Depends on where it is.
I'm more likely to approach someone at university/out shopping/at a cafe, then at a bar.
I think talking to someone at a bar gives off more of a "omg ur hot and that's the only reason i want to talk to you lol" vibe.
Okay, would you ever expect anything to come of you approaching, or would you assume that they're out of your league?
Post your major and minors if you have any. Also why you chose them and how you think they will benefit you. I'm majoring in Health Sciences and really thinking about minoring in Psychology. I'm in a 101 class for it right now and really liking it, I don't even mind reading through the 100's of pages of the book. Lastly does it provide and bonuses such as higher pay when you get a job?
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That's not how degrees work in my country but I'm a biology graduate getting an advanced degree on biomolecular science.
I wanna do a phd.
>>16770519
Good luck with that, PhD in anythi g is gonna be hard, especially that lol
>>16770424
Major is Social Work. Graduating in a few months, I like helping people.
