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Alright /adv/ pull up a seat. I've made the biggest mistake of my life. I'm going to make this not sound like I'm venting the best that I can, but here we go.
>be 19, m, virgin, average looking (I suppose)
>I'am really anti-social except for my friends that I've already been friends with for many years.
>Primary friend group consists of 3 other dudes and 1 girl. (All about the same age. Same high school grad year.)
Going to just label them as Dudes...
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>Wake up in the mourning and drive home.
>really cant get this girl off my mind, I don think shes in a relationship right now. maybe i'll just flat out ask her.
>next night i go over Dude 2's house and its just me and him for now.
>he tells me that he think girl really likes me.
>o god... i have to tell her now.
>do drink n' play and when the night is done i offer girl to drive her home.
>she insists but im just like, naw its okay.
>as im driving i tell her i get really uneasy aroun her because im in love and stuff.
>she just tells me to text her as she gets out of the car.
>thought i fucked up, i didnt get her... and i dont even text her because im just too nervous.
>the next night we drink and play truth or dare with myself, girl, and Dudes 2 and 3.
>i get truthed to say how i feel about girl.
>i say i really like her.
>i truth girl same question and get no response.
>(yeah, she totally hates me and im making her feel uncomfortable.) shit.
>night goes on and im tired af so i lay down in dude 2's futon bed thing while dudes 2 and 3 are chillen in the kitchen and girl decides to lay down with me. says shes tired too or something.
>i sort of hug her slowly and awkwardly for a few minutes and she just rolls over, says "im sorry for this", then kisses me for a good 5 - 10 seconds.
>whoag.
>she says sorry again and rolls back over and i comfort her telling her its okay. and things pretty much kick off from there.
>ta-da! have gf now.
>About a month later, Dudes 1 and 4 know about me and girl and want to talk to me.
>Sure, im friends with both of them, why not?
>go over their houses individually and talk to them and they both explain to me how shitty of a person/gf this girl is.
>also find out that shes been on and off both of these guys at the same time for months. even as we speak while im officially her bf.
>>16747956
How did she react?
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>ok im dead inside now. have to decide if i want to really try and continue the relationship with her or to just end things now and just explain to her that this was really rushed into or something.
>i work overnights, i actually just started a day after we made relationship official.
>go over dude 2's house to chill with girl for a bit before i leave for work. (Dudes 2 and 3 are pretty much the tie between me and girl because we are still just starting out and dont...
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Is there any real reason not to kill yourself?
Not really, even stuff like "I don't want to hurt my friends/family" aren't real reasons, you don't get an epilogue when you die, it is just over, so you don't have to care about that
>>16747971
How do I buy things online?
>>16747976
What do you want to buy?
My black friend asked me out on a date and I rejected him. He asked me why and I was honest and said I wasn't really attracted to black guys and he called me a racist bitch. Am I racist for not being attracted to black guys?
>>16745906
Yes, white pussy was made for black cock
>>16745906
There's a million ways to reject somebody. Why do you choose this way? You deserve it.
>>16745906
No, you're not racist. Everyone has their own tastes and preferences. He's just butt hurt.
Hey bros, should I dump my girlfriend because she talks and hangs out with guys?
My girlfriend is a virgin, she is super sweet and nice, she is a traditional Christian, smart, very trust worthy, and never has any drama. She's basically perfect.
But she doesn't get the idea that talking and hanging out with all these dudes is like, entirely unattractive. Am i trippin', or should I dump this wonderful woman because she likes to talk with the guys?
My fear is this: If I dump her for a girl who won't do that....it doesn't mean that the...
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You must be 18 to post here, son.
Talk to her. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship
You really need to give more context, because if she's a normal, friendly person with social skills, she's GOING to have friends both male and female. If you try to find a girl who doesn't have ANY male friends, you're going to find a girl that nobody wants to be friends with.
The only reasonable request you can (and should) make, is that she doesn't spend "alone time" with other men while she's in a relationship. Group activities are fine, but one-on-one hangouts with other men are not.
You should also just be more involved in her social life, get to know her friends and BE FRIENDLY to them. You'll probably be more comfortable if you actually know these people and it's not all so mysterious to you
>>16748762
Just check her hymen every time youre suspicious.
So is it true attractive people always have shitty or no friends at all? Seems like one person is jealous or the other is just using them.
No.
>>16747626
If only, since they'll basically win at life just by existing and that would "nerf" them, but no.
9/10 (average /soc/ rating) guy here.
Yes. Relationships are much more shallow. Some guys will just hang around me so they look cool and get girls. Some guys will treat me like shit when I haven't said a word to them, because they assume I'm "Chad Thundercock" who maliciously steals all their girls. A lot of girls think they're in love with me at first site, so it makes talking with them awkward. They think it isn't weird that they're being super nice to me, because "omg you're just such a nice guy :D".
I'm...
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Where do I find girls I like. Im at uni with a 7:3 ratio of female to males and Im having a hard time.
I like girls who are fun to be around. Not like party fun. But the type you can ask to go play a game of pool with and have fun. The kind that likes watching movies with you and laughing at stupid things. Someone who actually wants to go outside. And also attractive.
Now Im capable of finding these girls, but they all tend to have a sexual history I dont like and Im currently blowing one off after discovering it.
Anyone with advice of finding a girl who fits my...
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You just try inviting out any of the girls you enjoy talking to. You find out which are fun to talk to by trying to talk with them for a bit. The sexual bit will be the last part you find out.
This is a numbers game.
>>16747322
Fun, attractive girls get laid. Deal with it, or go for unattractive girls.
>>16747333
No the ones who arent sleeping around are taken though in committed relationships. But they cant all be.
>>16747332
I talk to a lot of girls. Because they are everywhere. When theres a connection between me and one they turn out to sleep around a lot.
Has anyone here who is depressed ever thought about killing themselves to get revenge on the ones who love you just to make them feel guilty for not seeing your depression or helping you the way you want to be helped?
That's more of the reason I'd wanna do it than to end my pity stupid life. I almost feel like it'd be the ultimate joke to play on everyone. And I'd get the last laugh.
No because they'll eventually get over it/ deal with it.
Don't do it. Become successful (whatever that means to you) and cut them all off
You could get the same effect faking a failed "suicide" attempt than actually killing yourself
Suicide pleb mate.
Only reason I don't commit suicide is the pain it would cause to my beloved oned master race.
So /adv/, I recently got a boyfriend, but he hates being gay. Like when we snuggle with each other, he suddenly gets up, says he can't and starts to cry in another room or goes outside. I don't really know what to do anymore, I love him so much and I know that he loves me too, but his selfhatred always stops us. Also when we got drunk yesterday, he suddenly started talking about how he wishes to be normal and if there would be a way to be straight, he would choose it. But stuff like that only happens when he is really drunk
>>16744076
It sounds like he needs to go to a therapist to accept and love the way he is. No matter how much you love him, you are not equipped to handle his psychosis. If he does not get help, he may eventually blame you for being the object of his affection that makes him "abnormal" and take it out on you.
He needs professional help-
Be there to support him, but otherwise this is a journey that he needs to take with someone who had been trained
Does he cry during sex?
>>16744076
How was his upbringing? Was he taught that sexuality is something to be repressed? Did he grow up in a heavily traditional religious household that might condemn homosexuality?
He views being gay as a problem and doesn't understand how to accept it and in a way, that makes sense. It's easy to see your sexuality as shameful in a society which used to condemn such a lifestyle. I know that feeling, I'm a bi male so I can sympathize.
He needs to find out how to accept himself and who he...
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Is she telling the truth?
>>16746493
I want normalfags to leave and take their trivial bullshit with them
Let me get my mind reading hat...and...HOW THE FUCK WOULD THE INTERNET KNOW.
Also, why do you care.
Also also, birth control helps a ton with heavy, painful periods so yes there are legit reasons to take it other than sex. And having heavy periods while traveling sucks very very much, especially if you're doing work in a poor country with minimal sanitation.
Also also also, or maybe she's lying because she doesn't want to be judged by you and your extremely invasive and over the line question.
But WE CANT POSSIBLY HAVE ANY WAY OF KNOWING....
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>>16746501
Why am I a normalfag? I just wanted to know if it seems like bs what she's saying
Why do girls only care about looks?
How do you misdirect them with personality?
Stop generalizing is a good start.
Ugly girl here.
Why do guys only care about looks?
How do you misdirect them with personality?
>>16746375
I'm not generalising, it's completely true.
>>16746378
Guys only care if you're fat, but you can fix that easily if you stop eating 3 pizzas a night.
