Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1325. page
- Home
- Board: /adv/ - Advice
- Reading: Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 1325. page
>21
>Just broke up with grill started using tinder
>Matched with grill
>funny conversation at start, then it leads to us talking about fucking real quick
>exchange numbers
>"oh btw I'm a virgin"
>"No way. How long have you been on tinder?"
>"Since november, just haven't talked to anyone as good looking/funny as you"
I snapped her and everything bros, its a real girl. But I'm getting some serious odd vibes. She seems pretty, decently smart, all that shit. How the fuck is she still a virgin at 22? Either A: she is religious (doubt, she basically just begged me to fuck her), or B: she is fucking nuts.
I'm sort of in shock right now. What do?
Oh, and I'm not even particularly good looking. I mean I'm no slouch, but I'm positive she gets much better guys talking to her on a daily basis on tinder.
>>16910012
Post body pic
>>16910008
shes probably not as hot as you describe, and you're probably ugly too.
god dammit I hate ugly people
I'm so fucking confused as to who I am. The best way to describe it is I see where I am now (and not feeling like I'm truly living life) and a lot of roads open that I could take. I don't know which to take, which to not, what I should focus on that is really 'me'. I don't know and it's driving me nuts. How do I know if I'm authentic? How can I tell? Will I feel comfortable when I'm myself finally?
I second-guess everything and feel like I can't ever figure out which direction to go with my life and which hobbies to pursue.
>>16910002
Seek professional help
>>16910006
that's what everyone says...
>>16910002
OP, what kind of answer are you even expecting?
That's something you have to deal with yourself. You're not special, everyone has to deal with this on some level.
My dad is mentally ill. He has schizo-affective disorder, OCD, ADD, and he sleeps maybe 3 hours a night. I'm at my parents house alot because my mom's been sick and has had a hard time taking care of my dad and the house.
Lately he's been having mood swings, and hasn't tried to control them like he used to.
He'll snap at me out of the blue, and I don't really know how to deal with it. It pisses me off enough where I'll usually just go back to my own house. This will piss him off and make the next time I see him uncomfortable (he holds a grudge and has always had a hard time seeing the error in his ways).
I know the right thing to do is to ignore it and remind myself that he's mentally ill, but I have a hard time doing that when my temper is flared.
How do I deal with my this?
>>16909999
Is he on meds?
You should try to explain things to him.
Once I got to college, I've had a decent amount of women flirt with me. Some have told me I'm cute, others have flat out told me they were into me.
I can't carry a conversation though.
>Not nervous
>Not shy
It's just that anything I say, the way I phrase it comes off extremely confrontational or uninterested. And I don't know how to fix it. I only really speak when spoken to or in a interesting conversation when it comes to strangers. Like I said, I'm not shy, but if I have nothing to say, I don't bother saying it.
>Concert a few nights ago
Random girl came up to me before the main show started, and asked me if I was a girl, what shirt I'd buy
>Well I don't know. I'm not a girl, I've never thought about it too much *laughs*
Oh
>I'd probably go for that one, the one with the blue and pink
(jokingly saying) Are you just saying the pink one because I'm a girl?
>No, I'm saying the pink and blue because I think it looks good.
We finally got on a good conversation, she offered me a few beers, we talked throughout the show and I had a good time. While I felt we had a pleasant interaction, I imagine she might have felt awkward about it, despite her outgoing mannerisms towards me (Brushing up against me, smiling, etc) Because the conversation would die at points but she kept trying to get me to talk.
I really wish I had more to say, but I just never think of it in the moment. I only think of stuff after the fact and then kick myself for not thinking of it at the time.
>>16909991
>I only really speak when spoken to or in a interesting conversation when it comes to strangers.
what's going through your mind when you're listening to the other person though? are you thinking about what they're saying or are you thinking about what you want to say next?
usually when I can't think of anything to say, I will try to think back to something the person said earlier in the conversation and ask them more about it. even if it's something I'm only mildly interested in, and even if it's a super general question like "so you mentioned you do yoga, how long have you been doing it" or "what type" or something like that. just to get the ball rolling again.
>>16910058
I asked her about her going into nursing, and her thinking about going back to college for it (She's 25, I'm 19, we even talked about the age difference too). Be both went back and forth talking about stuff. I was mainly asking about her though, about if she was just here for the venue because she's local, or if she came here for the headlining band. She kept trying to get the ball rolling in the conversation.
Was in a thread saw this pic reminded me of this girl I liked. Never asked her out cause honestly I was afraid too. Not gonna Lie I've dated a good amount of girls so I know to ask them out but with this girl it was different. She made me feel sick when I was with her wanted to do bad shit with her (Not fucking but like stealing and smoking weed on school property and shit)
>Pic Related
I don't know why this picture just reminds me so much about her
Sucky thing is that she's dating this guy out of school already and now I don't know why I can't date anyone else shes always on my mind. Always see them hanging out on snapchat and shit and I get so happy sometimes when she says they get into fights and shit and I think i have a chance. What's wrong with me /adv/?
>>16909980
Nothing at all.
Well what should I do then? Just forget about it she isn't a crush to me I think i love her Idk man. What should I do?
>>16909987
Just wait like a few months and the intense feelings will die down. It might help to cut contact if it really is tearing you up inside.
I'm about ready to an hero. What's the cleanest way to kill yourself? I can deal with a little pain, but I want it to get the job done properly and have very little clean up for other people to worry about.
I don't like pills. I've tried them before: Popped about 20 packets of Benadryl when I was 13, fell asleep after 10 minutes. Woke up 5 hours later, best sleep of my life. I'm 21 now and in TX, I can buy a gun legally, but again I don't want to make a huge mess. And I don't want to go vegetable from anything. I want a sincere, successful suicide.
Please save your 'u must live' posts. I don't want to be talked out of suicide. I've been suicidal for 8 years, now, in addition to having other bullshit problems and I'm ready to cut the cord. I don't want my life to get better, I just want to die. I've been craving death for a long time, now.
>>16909969
Old age.
>>16909976
C'mon, let's not be a smartass.
we all have a little voice in our head saying i should die or i should kill myself
but will you actually do it? heres your reply for ur thread
if youre serious just use google and kill your damn self without announcing it on 4chan
I'll start off by clarifying, I guess; I'm not very intelligent. I mean more like I'm completely average, in terms of grades and all I usually get low to mid Bs even if I study. I don't have any particular talents or affinities for certain academic fields either (It's sort of funny since my cousins on both sides are valedictorians and doctors and all that shit and me and my youngest brother are dumber than a sack of bricks). I want to say I'm reasonably sharp outside academics, but everyone wants to think that, so that's probably pointless.
Anyway. Basically, I have absolutely no idea what I want to do or where I should go with my life. I'm a college freshman now, and have to declare a major by the end of the school year. I have no dream job, no ambition, no real talents, have to force myself to study, few friends and connections even after a whole semester, and I'm lost. I guess it might have been a better idea to wait to know what I want to do before going to college, but I was hoping to discover that. I'm utterly hopeless in STEM fields as well, especially com sci (dropped that last semester after a terrible second midterm), I thought I should mention.
Anyway, I know a lot of this is on me for being unambitious and all. I don't intend to try and cover any of that. But I'd really like some advice on where I should look towards from now on, how to change myself, and what paths are realistically open for me career/future-wise.
You should probably quit college and wait until you have matured a little. Go traveling, work a few jobs, then go back to school when you've decided on a career.
>>16909971
I might consider this. Also bumping for more advice.
>>16910201
if you intend on staying in school because your parents expect you to then just take classes that sound the least bit interesting to you.
You're a college freshman after all so you probably have to work through GE's and other shit so just try to fulfill those to begin with. If you take a class and find the subject matter to be fairly interesting to you then research more into the major/field (look up prospective jobs for that major and whether the degree you want to pursue requires higher education to make a living) and take more classes in that major.
Believe me when I say that you are not alone when it comes to feeling this in college. I was in a similar situation to you, I came into college undeclared and had to declare a major at the end of freshman year. Plenty of my friends entered into college with intended majors only to change their majors after their freshman year so don't feel like you need to stick with one thing.
Sure, things are easier if you already know what you want but so many people don't (it's hard for an 18 year old to know what he/she wants to do for the rest of their lives).
Goodluck
Hey guys! I was wondering if you could please download the mercari app using my invite code. We both get 2$. I love buying clothes and stuff on there! my code is: YCZYRR
So a question about breasts: When a woman is topless its usually pretty easy to tell if they are artificial or natural, but when a woman has a bra/bikini top on and/or a shirt, are there and subtle signs to tell if her tits are natural or fake?
>>16909953
*any subtle signs*
One way i know is to see how big her shoulders are compared to her chest area. If they seem disproportionately small like they aren't big enough to carry the weight then they might be fake.
Ask
I think my dick is probably normal by most people's standards. Maybe not. 5.5" long, as an average, and 4.5" girth. So, on the smaller side, but not unusually small. I've made girls cum
But it just -looks- small to me, and it drives me cray-cray. Its become this really deep-seeded insecurity for me over the years, to the point that I have a fetish for small penis humiliation
anyway, i just want some assurance that i don't suck at life
You're perfectly average. I'm smaller than you and you don't know how much i want to castrate all the big guys in my campus.
do girls tell u your penis is small
>>16910414
Yes, i've been told that before. I've also been told it's big.
so, moral of the story, girls like to manipulate men. Not a good resource for the truth for pretty much any question, at least not when they know you personally.
>>16909945
I know right? Guys with big dicks piss me off, and it seems like -everyone- other than me has a big dick.
Have you ever been on a dick rate thread on /soc/? They're all hung. I think it's because big guys don't have a problem taking a picture of their dick and posting it on the internet, and all the average guys like us feel inferior, so we don't. We should start a coalition of men with small dicks who post pictures of their dicks and post them on the internet to even the numbers, and preferably tip them, so femanons and such don't get a misrepresentation of the average dudes' dick. Then we'll automatically be better in bed too because reasons
I have asperger's and severe social anxiety that makes me prone to being constantly tense and acting like a nervous retard in social situations. Am I pretty much doomed to never find love? Every date I go on ends awkwardly and I never hear from her again. Meds don't seem to help very much.
OP, you'll get better. I don't know how autism affects things, but for social anxiety, you'll get better with practice. Keep trying even if you have failures. Therapy and self help books helped me a bit. It can take years, and improvement may be so slow that you can't see it yourself, but it'll happen. You don't have to throw yourself into dating if you're still uncomfortable around people. You can start small by making friends first, if that feels easier. You can start as small as saying hi to people. I observe what others say to each other and pretty much steal their conversation topics.
>>16909940
Crawl before you walk. Don't leap into dating, which is stressful even for alphas. Work on loose, general social situations, like hanging out with a few friends. The more comfortable you get with that, the easier you can move into one-to-one situations, and then to dating.
>>16910376
I agree with this... Try to make some normal friends before you go for a girlfriend.
Have you guys ever woken up with a sudden loss of strength in one of your body parts?
Got very drunk last thursday, woke up in my bed with my right hand not nearly as functional as it should be
From my wrist to my fingers I can't manage to move anything above 180 degrees if my arm were outstretched in front of me. I went to a doctor on Friday and he didn't seem to know what was up since I didn't feel any pain. Gave me ibuprofen and said to come back on Monday if it doesn't go back to normal.
Has anyone had anything like this? This feeling is really novel in a bad way. The closest analog I can think of is when you're doing a rep of something at the gym and hitting failure, your muscle simply won't go past a certain point, that's what it feels like when I try to move my hand into one of those no go territories.
Sorry if this is sloppily written, typing with 1.5 hands is making me far less careful I guess.
>>16909902
Ask a doctor, not 4chan
>>16909902
Yes, I just go back to sleep and its back when I wake up. Its a bloodflow thing and your extremities get hit by bloodflow problems the most which is why your wrist to fingers suffer. Your toes probably as well but people dont usually take that into consideration.
Usually your body will correct it once it sees you trying and realizes something is off. Takes some time though. If its persistent and last for days on end (not a few hours) then its anemia or something like that. Maybe low bloodpressure.
My roomate wants me to take down a picture that he dosen't like. It's on MY side of the apartment, and I got I paid to have it framed. I let him put up his stuff and I should be able to put up what I want to also. How can I get him to understand it goes both ways?
>>16909892
Compromise in some form. Tell him that you have been exercising tolerances of the things he has that you dont like and would like the same courtesy. If he doesnt want that then compromise on stopping having things around the apartment you dont like.
Also dont think that just because he put up his stuff you should be free to put up whatever you want. He is bothered by it and if you cant respect that then you shouldnt be roomies.
What is the picture of?
>>16909900
It was this .
I need travel advice. I'm planning on seeing someone and I need the cheapest way to get from Dallas, Texas to Traverse City, Michigan, or conversely Traverse to Dallas. It would only be for a weekend, since I'm in college and I can't miss classes.
There was an original plan to bring her here for a week, but there's not a place for her to stay for the duration (and the college campus doesn't allow people who aren't enrolled to stay overnight).
It can't be this weekend, but the weekend after would work (or anytime as well after), and I need the cheapest route, be it getting a plane halfway there and then taking a bus the rest of the way, or vice versa. I don't have a car.
you need to figure that out for yourself man. I mean I could go to travelocity and amtrak and greyhound's websites and look up the various fares and shit, but you could do that yourself just as easily.
if you only have a week's notice, though, just know that everything you look at will be expensive because it's short notice. also you should take into account how much time you want to spend with her. buses take a fuckload of time and trains aren't much better. I wouldn't recommend combining bus and plane. trying to time it so that your layovers are long enough for you to get from the airport to the bus station (assuming your flight is on time) without being so long that they eat up your whole weekend will be a nightmare. hell, 1 layover at an airport for a connecting flight can eat up hours.
if you fly out friday night and fly back sunday night you will have a couple days to spend together. if you combine bus and plane you will probably have about a day together if you plan your layovers, plus it might end up costing more than just flying the whole way. if you go bus the whole way, that will be the cheapest, but if you do that you will have just enough time to say hi and maybe grab some mcd's before you have to get back on the bus and come home, and that is no exaggeration. also if this is a girl you're interested in, remember the longer you spend traveling, the more tired, crabby, dirty, and smelly you're going to be when you get there.
honestly I would just schedule a trip for sometime in late april or may and book your round trip plane ticket now. as much as I fucking hate planes, I'd still much rather do that than fuck around trying to get to a bus station or spend half the weekend on a greyhound.
this year is huge for me but there is so much going on in my life right now and I can't take it. My dad has cancer, sister is fighting mental illness, we're well off but lately the way we've been living is like we're broke because of everything that's been going on, i have to work hard in all my studies this year because they determine what university courses I'm eligible for, etc, but I've realised I want to be an electronic musician and I know that's not a reasonable ambition and I just feel like I'm going to be a low life who amounts to nothing. Most of the time I can handle the stress and pressure and troubled home life well but I also have feelings for a close friend of the same sex which obviously is confusing and terrible and I don't know how they feel about me anymore since we had a falling out over it and now we have sort of fixed things and he still wants to hang out but I just feel like there is a huge rift forming between us and I'm too afraid to say anything in case I fuck up the relationship with the one person I care about. I'm losing the motivation to live, there is so much going on it gets so tempting to just run away or something. I feel like my biggest issue right now is the relationship I have with the friend I have feelings for though, even though there's so much worse going on, I am so overwhelmed and stressed and just in so much pain. Please help me
Please, please help me
>>16909879
Take time off from school and spend time with your dad. You won't regret it.
>>16910034
I can't, it's not possible. That's not my main issue right now, he'll likely be fine, it's just very stressful.
