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>be at work
>on more than one occasion, hear the expression of the qt grills at work light up when they talk about a guy with an accent or who knows another language
>they find it so interesting
why is this? what language can i become fluent in (e.g. C1 proficiency) quickest? i was thinking french or spanish
>>16909221
It has to be a different language not Spanish.
But int the guy native from another country? Cause that's more sexy to girls I guess. Exotic type of deal
French will do I think.
They are just more intrested cause the difference make a guy interesting. Your problem is being uninteresting. Foreign guys tend to not spend their life on 4chan and can thus converse better. And seem far more interesting in every way. A language helps. Living abroad for a while makes you interesting. Interesting work or life experiances that make you emotionally richer helps. Its not nessacerily the language, but things that go behind that. If a guy spent a year in opera voice training and started doing concerts every month or two girl would be just as interested as some sauve foreign guy. And thats a weird thing to do.....its just anything that makes you deeper. Truly deeper. Cynical sarcasm and judging others is not one of those things unfortuantely or all the wizards who understand the "normys" better then they understand themselves here on 4chan would be cream of the crop.
>>16909227
i was thinking French
i've heard the girls at work talk about two different coworkers, both with accents (one scottish, one french).
So I'm 23 M, and I have a problem.
It seems like every girl I meet has a significant other already. Typically they're not shy about it, but at some point during the conversation they drop it.
>my boyfriend blah blah
And it will take me by surprise.
I'm not ugly, I'm in alright shape. I've just recently gotten over my fear of talking to girls after a solid year of intense self-actualization, and I'm stuck at this roadblock.
So, is this just how adult life is? Or is it something about the type of girl I go for? What places are good for meeting single girls?
Pic not related.
I think it does happen a lot, generally people you are drawn to who are social and friendly are pretty likely to be seeing someone.
Honestly I would suggest online dating, at least you know people are single and what they want.
>>16909162
Its a numbers game, and you happen to be unlucky. Don't take this as anything more than that.
>>16909184
You're probably right, the romantic in me probably just wants to find some ridiculous divine reason for this being the case.
How do people with generalized anxiety and depression pay their bills? It got really bad when I fell in love with a very religious girl I can't even hang out with. Now my abusive family will be kicking me out soon, and it's already hard enough for me to get out of bed. How am I supposed to pull through in this physically incapacitated state? I honestly don't know what keeps me around anymore, but for some reason I haven't killed myself.
People can get SSI for mental illness.
It sounds like your stuff is more situational than mental though. I would suggest trying to get with a temp agency, it will make finding a job a bit easier for you. Also try to stay with a friend temporarily or something. There are also a lot of resources out there for people if you are literally homeless, you just have to look for them.
Shortly put, I have never had romantic feelings for anyone.
I'm 21 years old and I have never been in love. I've been on many dates, kissed several people. I've had sex with 2 people, which both of them I dated a while and slept with several times.
I see hot and interesting people whom I wanna hang out with, but that's always it. There's no special spark, there's no nothing. I meet new people all the time without even trying. But still, it's like nothing gets me, no matter how hot or nice or funny or smart the person was. I find things like massage and eating way more pleasurable than kissing or dating or even sex.
Is it never gonna change? I can imagine what being in love feels like. Yet in reality the feelings never creep on me.
>>16909134
Yes, you faggot.
It's not you, it's them.
Just because you haven't felt a "spark" with someone, it doesn't mean you're incapable.
You're probably a woman ,yeah?
It might not. Who cares? I'm guessing there are other things in life that make you happy. Do what makes you happy.
I know I'm gonna get shit for this, but have you considered that you might be aromantic?
It's generally considered a special snowflake identity outside of tumblr, but I have a couple friends who identify that way, and I can confirm that it's a real thing.
>Have hard to read friendship with girl, have same social circle
>Into her, not madly in love, but into her
>Can't tell if she reciprocates, mixed signals
>Together at a bar, drinking outside
>Sitting next to her
>Kinda drunk
>Angle my legs to make contact, figure that could be a signal for her and I could read how she responds
>She moves away slightly
>I stupidly persist a couple of times, kinda gently, could be read as an accident
>After like the third time, stop.
>Leave without mentioning it when everyone's done drinking
So how badly could I maybe have fucked up? People tend to react badly to this sort of shit and I've made myself paranoid.
>>16909124
You did nothing wrong, she just doesn't like you that much.
Tell me you were engaged in conversation while you did this
>>16909133
Engaged in conversation *with her, pardon
After a ~year long depression which ended roughly a year ago, my mood would change from depressive to happy often, without reason. I thought it was because I was still healing, but I still have them. The duration between every mood varies from a few days to a few hours. Lately (past weeks) I'm very happy, a few hours later depressive and then a day of normal, inbetween. I've never been a stressfull person, and don't get angry.
It doesn't seem like bipolar, and while I'm very sensitive to hormone changes (taking the pill for 2 months is probably what triggered my depression, and I always get sad when my period starts), blood tests showed that my hormone values are alright, except for more testosterone than normal due to pcos, but not extremely so.
What could it be?
Er, why don't you think you're bipolar? That sounds a lot like bipolar disorder.
>>16909112
Because, for as far as I know, with bipolar disorder your mood doesn't change every few hours, the swings are less often and a relatively long depression doesn't in there either.
I feel a drive to worship my gf's pussy, but she really hates the word "pussy" — what do?
>>16909084
call it her ham sandwich and ask which one she likes better
>>16909118
Axe wound also works
How can I triumph over my rivals? Also how can I bring physiological torment upon another person?
wtf
triumph over your rivals? bring physiological torment?
what's wrong with you, you sadistic crackpot?
My gf is chinese and her mom happens to be really conservative and traditional.
Recently she told me that she knows how we are going to break up.
Apparently she thinks that our relationship will end due to her mom not approving and race issues.
I asked her if she is happy with me and she said yeah but she keeps worrying about her mom.
We only have like 3 months of dating so I figured its something to not really worry about until later, but she said its inevitable.
She also said that she wonders why she agreed to date me in the first place if she knew why race was going to be an issue.
Kinda felt a bit bummed out when she said this.
Wat do? Stick with her until the very end? Or accept the fact that it is not gonna work out?
>>16909072
Dump her as soon as you can.
Or try to stick with her until the very ending.
well, judging from your pic it would appear you have an asian fetish and she has a white fetish
you seem made for each other. Good luck with that marriage and good luck with your future son!
>>16909072
I dated a chinese girl. Their parents did not like me since I was white. But, they ended up being nice to me (didn't really speak English but bought me food and let me stay) and tolerated me. It helped that my dad is a doctor.
Just be nice and polite, they will more than likely tolerate you if you are nice to her. I do know some crazy asian parents, but generally they give up since they are no longer in old country.
I need some fun anime to watch. Anything good airing this season?
>>16909068
boku dake ga inai machi, is not a comedy tho. More like a thriller, but is pretty good.
Try Toradora if you haven't watch it, literally the greatest love story ever told.
>>16909068
Akira
Robot Carnival
Fist of The North Star
Odeo 808
Studio Ghibli Films
Dominion Tank Police
....oh, wait you mean your modern pedo crap.
Don't watch anime.
It turns you into someone who can't live in reality
>Have a gf of 3 years
>Love each other dearly
>Say we can't live without each other
>She wants one thing, I want something else in life
>Compromising has become hard, we've come to our limits
>Tell her I need a bit more time and then I'll drop everything for her
>Says she can't wait much longer
>Feel the pressure
>We argue a lot lately
>Everyday it gets worse and worse because she degrades me and says horrible stuff that hurt
>After about 2 hours of arguing she cries and says sorry for all the mean things, that she loves me loads and she will do her best to wait but she can't stand the situation anymore
I giving it all I've got because I love her so much. I'm hurting myself in the process though because I'm not sleeping, eating well and I've become clumsy at my work, been getting sick a lot too. All I want is a bit of support from her and I've told her this but she tells me due to her nature she reacts this way and she tries to control it but she can't. I don't want to leave her, she is everything I wanted but it's hurting me and I don't know how long I'll last. Do you believe this will hurt us both in the longrun though? Or is it just a storm and it'll pass, I've just gotta give it my everything till I go numb?
>>16909066
You need to move on if you cannot reconcile this problem immediately. It's okay to compromise on certain issues but it looks like she's pushing you towards the limit. Time to move on.
>>16909066
That's textbook abusive mate. She's hurting you deeply and then she apologizes and says she'll change or get better but it isn't really her fault or she's trying to control it and you're falling for it. You need to have a talk, no screaming or yelling, just sit down and address this shit now, before it gets worse. Tell her how this is affecting you.
If during this talk she continues to deflect by saying it's just her nature rather than taking responsibility, I would end it. If she doesn't do that and actually listens, then I'd give her another chance. But only one more, because if even after you tell her all this she still blows up, it's obvious she won't ever change and really doesn't care how you feel.
I am trying to use the app to post and when I do it fails and says "File Not Found". I'm not trying to add a file. So I tried m to add one and it just takes me back to the main menu. WTF am I doing wrong?
Won't even let me reply on the app...
Sure, now it'll do it...
Somebody into gambling and online casinos here? I'm trying to find a good one for slots, with a good deposit or no deposit bonus.
Everything I find on google is crap, obviously manipulated ratings.
Gambling is essentially stupid tax.
Don't do it
>>16908972
I think you're thinking of the lottery...
While gambling does involve a bit of luck sometimes a lot of the games can easily be in your favor if you knows how odds work, how to read people, and generally how to play.
I play a Texas Hold 'Em game about twice a month. There's usually $1,000 on the table. I've won more than I've lost playing because I play a lot. So I don't see how it's a tax if I'm up money.
>>16909033
Casinos only exist because a majority of people fail.
Everyone thinks that they're in the minority that comes out in the black.
But you aren't.
Don't tempt fate.
If you want to get your gambling addiction jollies off, go into stock trading.
At least that isn't designed to fuck you
What job can I get that will allow me to travel constantly but doesn't require specific experience/a degree?
>>16908936
Prostitution, drug dealing, the possibilities are endless
>>16908936
A guy at my gym, worked for a company that laid temporay floors for big events like conventions and stuff. He got to travel alot in and outside europe. It was hard work he said, but he got to see some awesome places.
>>16908936
Join the Navy.
Not even kidding.
Get stationed on a ship, see the world.
How can I live without employment? I'd be willing to work for food and shelter only. WWOOF looks nice but seems to be short term only. I don't want to live on the streets...
>>16908907
>I'd be willing to work for food and shelter only
So like everyone else in the world?
Are you some faggot trying to take a stand against the "system" or something?
>>16908907
I've been in similar shit lately
1. find a place. if you have money try to convince someone in giving you a place to sleep even if you don't have a job
2. Go in a bad part of your area and ask people for Jobs, saying its ok even if its irregular
3. Check churches, religious associativa and such, they can often help in these situation
Last, be prepared to put aside pride or to the possibility of committing crimes if you want to survive. for your mentali health, keep in touch with friends or online communities you're part of. Helps keeping your ego togheter
to survive the only thing you need is the will. everything that's not part of your body is an accessory and can be substituted
You're free man
