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Hey adv, I had a question
So me and a female friend are v close, but as of lately her reply times went from 1-2 min to 10-15 min sometimes even longer. When we talked a few months ago, we both asked each other to hangout and now, it's usually me asking. Irl, everything seems fine and her and I are going to prom together in a week. But over chat, she now seems a bit muted in contrast to how she used to be. This may be BC of school stress but I'm scared if it's not. What do ? Am I overthinking?
>>16907906
Not here to make you scared or anything OP but my girlfriend started doing the same exact thing and she broke up with me a little over a week later. If you two aren't already dating, you need to pop the question while you can, she might think you're being to slow with her.
>>16907930
Well here's the thing.
She had told me a few month ago taht she doesn't want anyone liking her BC she's scared taht would ruin the friendship. I don't think I like her in that way and I don't want a relationship in case It ruins our current friendship
Stop being her girl friend.
First time posting on /adv/. I'm 21 and want to ask out a qt girl in a Uni Class we both have. I'm about pretty sure she likes me or at least likes my company, but I never have 1 on 1 time with her. I have her number and Facebook (because we're in a group project for the semester with 3 other people) but I wanted to actually ask her out in person. I sit next to her in an auditorium with no breathing room so It's always packed and I don't want to get myself embarrassed if she says no. I was thinking whispering it in her ear after saying something like, "Can I ask you something?". She also leaves the class with her friends so I can't go with her after class to ask her. Any /adv/?
Do you ever talk to her in class normally? Just ask her if she wants to go get coffee after class. If she doesn't say yes, there's a 99.999% chance she'll make up an excuse which could be legit or not, but not flat out ignore you. Once you're 1 on 1 at the coffee shop you can get into details.
So I've had depression before and I've been medicated for it.
Lately I've been getting thoughts like "wow, life's pretty shitty. Might as well off myself"
Their small thoughts without much planning. I don't think too much about it but I know these thoughts will just grow from here.
I really don't want to get back on meds because it took me forever to get off. My insurance won't cover a therapist, plus I don't have the time with school and work.
What are some things I can do to get rid of these thoughts?
>>16907869
When you use the wrong their/there/they're, I don't think you should get rid of those thoughts at all. Actually kill yourself.
so after my suicide attempt i ended up in a mental hospital for 3 months where i girlfriended a nurse, thing is i only did it out of boredom and she's fallen in love with me when i have no feelings
also recently she had a sad event in her life so it doesn't feel like a good moment for break up, wtf do i do
Send her my way, I'm in the market for a crazy.
What kind of person is she? If she's not very difficult or crazy, you might pull through, or she just might understand you.
Sorry that I'm starting another sex-related thread, but I've got a serious specific question that has been on my mind for a long time.
How do you make sure that a condom doesn't slip off, break or otherwise fail? What are the protips or extra safety measures to ensure that a condom doesn't fuck you over?
I am terribly, horribly paranoid of making a girl pregnant or causing her distress or insecurity, and looking forward to hearing whatever could make me more safe or confident.
Make sure things are well lubricated, as this prevents the condom from ripping.
If you use a lubricant, be sure it's water based; silicone based lubes degrade the latex in condoms.
Check the expiry date frequently, and before you buy them.
Don't skimp on brand. Buy Trojan or similar brand.
Buy the correct size. Condoms that are too loose pose the risk of falling off, or fluid exchange. Durex is known to be good for smaller dudes, and magnum for vice versa.
Don't keep them in your wallet or car! Risk of perforation, etc etc. Condoms should be stored in a cool, dry place; in a nightstand is perfect.
Hope this helps! as long as you use and store them properly, most are electronically tested for effectiveness. :)
/Adv/ice how do I set up my iphone to *only* display text messages and other alerts on the pull down menu in the lock screen?
I don't want text messages vibrating or my phone lighting up and showing "Name" on the lock screen. I also want there to be some way to check that I've received messages while my phone is locked.
Yes, this is to make it easier to fuck multiple women at the same time. It's gotten pretty awkward when my phone is blowing up with texts and calls while I'm balls deep in someone else. I would like to avoid that.
One can only hope that Hell won't have cell tower availability so these fuckbois will just have to fuck the same hideous demon with vagina dentata over and over and over again for all eternity.
Cheers!
>>16907915
hahaha what the fuck did i just read
I wasn't raised religiously, though I was baptized at a Lutheran church (mostly for the sake of my grandparents) but I never attended church growing up. Recent events in my life have started me thinking that going to church on Sundays may not be a bad idea (a bad breakup, recent brush with death working, a few weeks in the hospital, lost my job because safety violation, had to move back in with parents, etc...) So, yeah. Maybe I need a bit of support or something to help me though all of this. My question is, what religion and what is it like joining as an adult? I'm Irish in the US and spend a lot of time hanging out with Catholics, so I'm leaning towards that, but I have no idea. Do you just walk in during Sunday mass? Is there a form I need to fill out? What is /adv/'s opinion about it?
Well you don't seem to even know what kind of church.
Yes, you just show up on time for Sunday service. Sit through the service. Did you enjoy it? Wait around and try to have a word with the pastor/priest/rabbi and explain your feelings, they will happily welcome you.
Didn't enjoy it? Try a different place next Sunday.
My opinion is that adults don't join churches, babies do.
It's now the age of the internet. Google the church you want to go to, from there you can just show up at the posted times.
How do you move somewhere like Miami if you have no skills or college
>>16907780
You don't. Also, it's hot as fuck.
I have a weak stomach, in the sense that every time I have new food I have diarrhea. Can anyone suggest some resources to fix this?
If you're eating healthy, and I mean no unnecessary sugars plus some forms of exercise, and you should have diarrhea, you might want to talk to a doctor. You might have some infection/something wrong with your intestines.
Some people have a more sensitive stomach and can feel very fast if something is not healthy for them especially if you are not accustomed with the food or if the food has started to go bad. Same like >16907921 I advise you to see a doctor but try to see a doctor that will prescribe you a natural remedy.
>tfw 24 year old and have to ask parents for help with paying for college
I can't stop feeling shit about it. I know that they will have to take a loan (bank won't let me have one in my name) and I can't place the blame on high tuition fees since it's mostly my fault for being a piece of shit in highschool and getting low marks for any sort of eligibility for a grant.
What should I do? I'm finishing 1st year soon (managed to paid it with my own savings but almost ran out of money). Should I drop out or take some private loan from shady people?
I can't deal with the embarrassment of asking them for money in my age
>>16907772
It's an investment. If they can help, they will.
Try Financial aid from school
or better yet
take a year off and stack money money money
>>16907777
First off, thanks for replying.
I know that they will help, it's just that it feels like I'm wronging them.
>>16907772
If you don't mind the 8-year plan, you could go part time and work. Do you still live at home? If yes, you should have no problems paying off your school as the bill comes due. If not, see if they'll let you move back in, as that would help you without putting significant financial burden on them.
Keep it or get rid of it?
http://strawpoll.me/7062551
>>16907755
Can't decide if you don't show your full face but unless you are a drug dealer, a hipster, a dude stuck in the 80's or Revolver Ocelot moustaches almost never look good, grow a full beard instead
>>16907755
dear god, GET RID OF IT
>>16908261
I second that.
Do Nike Air Max's or Roshe's raise your height by at least an inch? I'm looking for shoes that raise your height by at least 2-3 inches. I really don't want to get elevator shoes.
You can get inserts on amazon that give you 1 - 3 inches of height.
I know that feel, fellow manlet
>be closet trans
>met trans online
>met her in real life
>hang out a lot
>she's a bit ugly and neet but very intelligent and loving
>she tells me something, i think she told me she likes me and want us to be something
>im awkward and dont 100% like her
>tell her i dont feel the same way
>still hang with her because im her only friend
>keep her as a backup plan in case she gets pretty and start studying (she's clearly very intelligent)
>she overcome her depression (thanks to me I guess), accept herself, and start making new friends
>she always remind me im her best friend and the person who have helped her most
>spend a lot of time with her, watching movies, playing videogames, i borrow her my comics, she borrows me her music.
>spend a weekend at my house (my homophobic parents are out) and have such a nice time
<on the other side, my life keep getting worse, i get into selfharming, throwing up, im still a closet trans and im very homophobic from time to time, and i only think about killing myself but that have nothing to do with the story
>she start hanging out with another trans (or maybe crossdresser, we arent sure)
>she's always talking to her
>i start to get jealous
>she invited me to hang the 3 of us
>feel way too bad to go out
>dont like going to public places with her because im ashamed of what people think
>friend's birthday
>met the other transgirl
>she's pretty cute, put a lot of effort on passing, dresses a bit like shit but all the makeup and shaved body works fine
>they holds hand a lot and talk a lot
>utistic as fuck and also feel pretty bad deep inside
>in a room with a transgirl i like a lot in a sentimental way and a transgirl that turn me on physically
>afraid that they get closer and i get just left behind alone
>they are going to hang out in 3 hours and she invites me
>too scared of getting full awkward again
>ashamed of be seen with trannies in public
i dont know what i should do anymore
ask me anything while i decide if i go or not
>>16907706
FL turns people trans. It all makes sense
>tfw you will mever be Yoshime
I should be there in 30 minutes and Im still undecided
>>16907706
>she
>her
Are there any essay generators or shit like that? Have to write a 3000 words essay in english for university. As a non-native speaker that is kind of difficult for me.
>>16907684
You can pay a ghostwriter for you but it can get expensive if you want a 90-100 mark
>>16907736
where to find a ghost writer?
>>16907747
usually they are in your local campus boards, english department boards, and random people offering to "edit" your essay, where they just write it for you.
There's some professionals online, just google them. If there's like 20 sources, and you have to find your own source, it's more expensive, espcially if there's a lot of required reading.
1 and a half months ago, i made a post here. It was about how lost i was since i had no motivation to study. I ended up surviving the first semester with shitty grades... Now, i'm in the second semester and something weird has happened. During the 1st exams period, i was talking to this girl via facebook. We talked a lot. We supported each other through the stress of the exams. I was starting to be into her but i felt that we didn't really know each other cuz we had only talked face to face like 2 or 3 times casually. When the second semester started, i wanted to be with her irl. In a party that happened almost a month ago, i found her. We spent hours in the cold talking. We ended up only sleeping 40 minutes before the classes in the next morning on a couch together. We didn't kiss, nothing happened but i really liked the time we spent together. That happened on a thursday. Next monday, i took her to a semi-romantic place and we kissed... However, something was feeling off. I liked her but she told me that she didn't know how she felt... that she was confused so i suffered a lot cuz she said something about those kisses being physical. However, next weekend, she told me that i knew it hadn't just been physical and that i just wanted her to say it. I was confused but desu that made me happy. She told me like 3 times during that weekend that she really wanted to go to the cinema soon. So i joined those 2 thoughts and invited her to go to the cinema on monday. We went and she spent the whole time with her head on my shoulder. At some point, she even put my hand in her leg... I was in heaven... In spite of the way she acted, the next day she told me that what happened in the cinema was just us being friends... Again, i was confused and suffering. (continued in the comment)
During the week that followed, we studied together but i acted just like a friend would. Maybe in a cold way. In the next weekend, we spent hours chatting on facebook and she finally said it… She liked me more than like a friend but she didn’t want a relationship. I took it like being friendzone’d. I accepted that. However, the next day, she was acting in a weird way… again. We didn’t really talk all day, but at night, she called me. We talked until 4 or 5 am. She told me that she wanted things to stay the way they were. She even texted me after we talked saying:”I like you a lot”. Goddammit, i’m bad at knowing what other people are feeling but it was particularly hard with her. I continued not knowing how to act towards her so i barely even said hi. Since then, i’ve been studying a lot. It’s stupid… I was really frustrated because i wasn’t able to study for like 4 months. Now, when a girl comes and destroys me emotionally, i can study. That has been making me happy but, at the same time, i’m isolating myself from my really good friends. Me and her haven’t talked much irl or through text but when she texted, i kept the conversation going. 2 days ago, i was the one starting the conversation… I was feeling weird cuz for like 3 or 4 days it was always her talking to me first. During that conversation, she gave me simple answers asked nothing back. Yesterday, she did the same… So, at night, i told her:”When i barely answer your facebook texts, you even text via phone and call me so we talk. When i’m the one saying something, you give me these shitty answers.”. Right now, i’m feeling really crappy… I actually like her… I really like her… fml… i don’t know why i’m making this post... but well… it’s been written.
After i sent that text, we had a fight about never talking again. I wanna text her but i feel like i could just let this be the end.
