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Hey /adv/
I'm an American living in Italy, and I have to go into work for a couple hours tonight around 12am-1am to do this stupid time change thing.
I don't have anything else to do and I was wondering /adv/'s opinion: Is it 'too' lame to go to a stripclub on my own afterward? I mean, I've got nothing else to do, and the clubs are open til like 4-5am, so plenty of time to swing by.
The stripclubs here are way different than in America, FYI. There's a lot more one on one and conversation. No one goes up to stage to give money to the dancer, and the dancers are never dancing as wildly and extreme as American dancers. Most of them just sit around until someone approaches them, then they talk for a while, maybe get a dance. The girls are beautiful (less tattoos/scars, always thinner), but not anywhere near as sexual as American strippers, until you get the dance - then they get way more sexual than I was expecting.
I don't really even want a dance. I just wanna have a few beers, see some tits, relax, then go home. I honestly don't really want to do the talking part - I just wanna have a few beers, see some tits, relax, then go home - but it's sort of expected that you sit and talk with a girl if you go to a stripclub here.
So what does /adv/ think? Is it worth doing without friends, or should I do something else? Like what, what else is there to do?
My advice is to learn to make decisions on your own.
>>16908204
Lol, excellent advice, desu.
Thing is, I'm just on the fence. I could do nothing, stay home, and be boring (but save money), or I could go see some titties (but spend money). For the first time in my life I have over $20k, and I've kind of got into a habit of enjoying having the money more than doing anything on the weekends and spending it. Was just wondering what others thought.
Genuinely good advice though.
>>16908242
>>16908153
... MMMM well are you getting fucked outside of the strip club..?
Because if you're getting fucked already, why waste money on tits? Tits aren't that interesting, most of them look shitty, and the ones that look good almost all look approximately the same just different sizes. That'd be like looking at different sized Air Jordans all day... it's still just a fucking sneaker.
I'd save my money unless you're going there to get something worth it. You can't flirt with pretty women all day usually, so if you were going to *flirt* and get danced on...then maybe. But going to just look at tits? I feel like you can do that on your computer at home.
Do the italian strippers sleep with men ever? VIP rooms?
I've always been mildly depressed and apathetic, but I've managed to function normally and live a pretty fulfilling life with quite a few friends. Lately I've felt so deeply unmotivated that I can't be bothered to socialise, and when I do, I can't even be bothered to contribute to the conversation. My social circle has nearly completely whittled down because of it. Normally I've felt some sort of enthusiasm for being liked and am known as the goofy jokester, but of late people have been asking me why I'm acting so different. I don't know what's going on. I feel like part of my soul has died. Will I ever get it back?
>>16908139
See a therapist. Similar thing happened to me and seeing a shrink and having someone to pour everything out helped with controlling my emotions. And exercising.
>>16908152
I'm doing CBT and hitting the gym 6 days a week. I guess it might be better to hash things out with someone rather than CBT
>>16908139
Anhedonia (loss of interest in pleasurable activities) is a symptom of depression.
CBT, specifically Behavioral Activation is a great treatment for depression.
If you can't be bothered with that, try this:
Pick up st. john's wort standardized dose at any walgreens and follow the directions. Also make it a point to talk to people anyway especially when you don't feel like it.
Hello /adv/, autism here. I have a question.
So I've been seeing a girl, we have agreed that she will stay at my place tomorrow night, we're dating but never had sex yet. I assume this will happen tomorrow, then she will be staying overnight. She said she will be bringing her pyjamas.
Anyways, I normally sleep naked. would this be an issue? Should I wear briefs in bed or?
>>16908119
Boxers and a T-shirt.
>>16908119
Boxers and a loose shirt.
Just boxers should be fine.
Hey, I need advice on my website.
It is a platform on which you can either begin a new story or continue an existing one.
Every time you write to a story, you have only 5 minutes.
So the idea is about collaboratively writing stories.
You can visit the website on nessir.com, a few 4chan users already tried it, some liked, other never used it after register.
Here is the longest story ever written yet: http://nessir.com/viewer.php?textid=3
I want to know how should I develop the idea further, and would you use it, why not? And if you think it's a fail from the beginning, just tell me so I don't lose any more of my time and effort on it.
seems a bit broken, the buttons go off the screen on my 1336x768 monitor
otherwise good idea
>>16908504
[Op here]: This is a very early version of it, I am working on a very modern design for it.
It will be better in a few weaks.
Good to know you like the idea, I will definitely further develop the product than.
Im afraid of taking risks. My whole life ive been afraid. Now i realize that i need to change. I just dont know to start. Im going for a business degree but love art. Im sn atheist but go to church every sunday. I feel like this comes from efforts of becoming myself being crushed by parents as a teenager. I compare myself to others and always think about what they think and am afraid to be disliked and seen as stupid. Ive been try to change but i dont know how to start. Ive become afraid to be myself. Ples help
>>16908090
Listen, taking risks are great sometimes but you have to use logic before doing them. Take for starters your business degree.
>Are you failing your classes?
>Do you hate your classes?
>Are you actually decent at art, and what medium?
>Does your medium allow you to earn money through other means than commissions? If you're decent with digital you could potentially go into graphic design.
>Is it even possible for you to switch your degree right now without too many consequences?
If you're an atheist don't go to church m8. But it sounds more like you're agnostic than atheist if you've kept going every Sunday. There's also nothing wrong with comparing yourself with other people. but unless you work for them/with them, are friends with them, or love them, their opinion doesn't really matter.
>>16908090
>Im afraid of taking risks. My whole life ive been afraid.
The only way to change is to throw yourself into new situations that force you to adapt. One way to acquire a risk-taking mindset is to try doing some dangerous activities like mountain climbing, skydiving, hang gliding, visit dangerous neighborhoods, bicycling in heavy traffic, etc.
>>16908090
Your problem is that you have no confidence.
Make that your aim, to gain confidence.
If youre male, boosting testosterone is a subconscious way of boosting confidence.
So i knew a girl years ago, who worked at walmart in upstate new york. She's probably a 4/10 by most people's standards, but we talked a ton years ago and gamed together. Talked off and on for a few years, and i had my first erotic (very mild though) experience with her (long distance/online i mean).
i still think about her sometimes, and can't help but wonder if there are more pics of her (or even nudes?) out there. Is there a way to find some or get help finding some? when we stopped talking she had been a bitch, so i really don't want to look her up/get in contact with her again... I currently live in canada... Any help would be appreciated!
bump :S
sent ;)
>>16908083
You are mental.
Hey everyone,
Im new here and just came to see if anyone could relate/solve my problem. so here it goes
I have recently been getting depressed at night. when Im alone or out with friends i just start getting really quiet and don't want to talk with anyone and just sit there. I dont really think its a problem with something in my life because im doing everything i love and im sorrounded by the best people and everythings positive. but i just seem to get really depressed at night because i think of this girl that i really like and i think shes perfect but i can't get a clear message if she likes me or not. What do you think is wrong with me?
Thank you for helping in advance
>>16908073
Maybe it has something to do with this:
>but i just seem to get really depressed at night because i think of this girl that i really like and i think shes perfect but i can't get a clear message if she likes me or not
>>16908077
what should i do with her?
>>16908084
Stop thinking she is perfect, nobody is. Thats one option, other option go talk to her ask her out or if you really got the balls tell her what you think about her en ask what she thinks about you.
You and your partner of two years break up.
You miss each other and want to get back together.
After a month apart, you call each other up, decide the breakup was a mistake and that you should get back together.
Your partner admits they hooked up with someone during your time apart. They honestly had no feelings for the person and no further interest in staying in contact with them.
Would this upset you? Would it affect your decision to get back together?
>>16908048
If she thought you weren't going to get back together, then na. Everybody says the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new. Even though it's shitty advice, people are willing to try shitty advice to try and get over breaking up with someone they cared about
>>16908055
Let's say they didn't expect to get back together, at least not any time soon, but they hoped for it eventually.
>>16908048
lol
I'm looking to purchase an old model 60GB PS3 off Craigslist with controller.
What is an appropriate price to offer? Is it safe to buy off of Craigslist generally, if it is in your hometown?
$70?
In the last month Im extremely bored... I dont have motivation to do anything... What to do?
>>16907981
Relax, your body and mind needs it. If you don't, depression is ahead. If you do your motivation will come back by itself.
I wanna be more social and meet more people . I love outdoors and yoga are there clubs or online groups that schedule events I can join?
>>16907980
Try googling it my friend. We can't tell you what is and isn't in your area unless we live there.
>smoked a medium-large joint last night without much of a tolerance
>caused: anxiety, social anxiety, disturbing delusions, paranoia, (probably) psychosis, fast heart rate
>back to 'normal' today and actually feel really good for some reason
>despite feeling really good today, I skipped dinner last night because of the high
I've had pretty nasty anxiety and social anxiety for the past 3 years or so (marijuana use exacerbated my anxiety). I'm just wondering if there are any long-term effects of acute marijuana-induced psychosis...? I can't imagine that there aren't, and I'm afraid of what might happen if I spend too much time in those marijuana-induced states of psychosis.
I'm not sure if psychosis/delusions can occur in *anyone* if they smoke enough, but I'm hoping that was the cause for the last night as opposed to the marijuana heightening some dormant schizophrenic gene(s).
Just for fun:
>ex-girlfriend had a stroke when she was about 15; had to learn how to walk, talk, etc all over again
>2 weeks into dating she said, "I'm hungry for your soul" in a deep, raspy voice after mentioning skipping lunch
>gave her the benefit of the doubt despite concerns; strokes do weird shit to people, etc
>lost virginity to her
>2 weeks after the first incident she says, while drunk, "I ate my own soul" and "I ate part of your soul"
>broke up with her 2 days later
Last night, I felt like some sort of evil spirit was pinning me down (it was couch lock, but it was so intrusive that I wasn't able to override it). I also felt like an association between sex and her 'evilness' had ruined sex for me. I haven't had sex with anyone since her, but I'm pretty sure she fucked me up much more badly than I originally thought.
You are just a weak ass bitch nigga
Grow a pair
>>16907984
pic related is me
so not true
>>16907971
From everything you're saying here, it sounds like you should avoid drugs for a while.
I smoked weed pretty heavily for about six years, and every now and then I'd have a bad experience kind of like you described. Paranoia is definitely a potential side effect, there was one particularly bad night where I was actually convinced I was having a heart attack, which I think was a legit panic attack. (I quit shortly after.)
I don't think there have been any permanent effects on me, my mind/body kind of went through an "adjustment period" for the first two months or so without constant THC (I wouldn't call it withdrawal, but like a much milder version of withdrawal) But after a few months without smoking I felt pretty normal, it's been a few years, and I haven't ever had any anxiety/panic symptoms like I sometimes did with weed
It sounds like in your case, these conditions existed in some form before you ever did any drugs, so I really do think it's advisable for you to steer clear of drugs entirely. But I don't think you've done any real damage to yourself with the experiences you've had already. The effects of THC can linger in your system for weeks, so you're probably still feeling it a bit. Once you've detoxed fully I'm pretty sure you'll feel better.
Hey /adv/ I've posted here recently, basically I'm a bit of an airhead cellist. I play cello. All day. Its all I do. I used to spend my time playing video games but now all I do is play cello. I've gained weight from sitting down and playing so much because I eat too much (it takes some energy to do that all day, especially since the movement involves the use of the elbow not wrist, and one must sit upright so my abdomen and back are typically flexed).
Is there a way I can make money by doing this? I have crippling anxiety and take meds but sometimes its not enough. I just got a part time sales job and my parents are pushing me to go back to Uni this fall. I'm just scared and alone.
I don't know anything about the modern music industry, I just learned how to play and played away, my favorite being Bach Suites since I like to challenge myself by playing via memory. Hard, but I'm learning. One day I hope to do what Yo Yo Ma did, suites 1-3 small adjustment because different key to play in then suites 4-6.
TLDR how to make money by playing cello, enough to live by?
>>16907955 you wont ever be like yoyo ma if u continue to post on 4chan. Go to music conservatory and try to go big and join an orchestra. That's all I say. Bai.
>>16907955
>TLDR how to make money by playing cello, enough to live by?
Be versatile. You likely won't get a job playing all of what you want, so you need to be able to play whatever is given to you. Audition for local symphonies, find groups looking for cellists, weddings, churches, studios, etc. you'll find lot's of shit.
>>16907955
I write music for string quartets. Not now, but I'll be wanting to contract musicians in the future to record my music. There are people like me out there.
Well, I don't have work for you right now, but I'm inclined to contact you anyway, just one of those intuition things. If you want to shoot the shit, hit me up:
[email protected]
Stuck between mechE and finance or econ at this point. I love math and have always wanted to be an engineer, but its losing its glamor at this point.
Im feeling very lost and would appreciate some help.
Go for MechE.
I was talking to some engineers, and they said that with a short time doing MechE, you could do any business/ econ stuff. If you switch to finance or econ, however, you'll likely never be able to go back to doing engineering.
>>16907948
Typo meant to say chemE with the oil price going down, tons of chemEs are getting laid off isnt that worrisome?
Oh wow, yeah. That's pretty bad..
How far along are you in studying chemE?
Good afternoon y'all.
I'm 21 and my dad has a pill problem. Usually an oxy/Xanax cocktail. Sometimes methadone. He's past trying to hide it. Doesn't seem to care to get better anymore.
I've tried every approach you can think of in efforts to get him to stop, besides calling the police. It's been 10 years since he's been sober. I've developed a pretty bad anxiety/panic disorder because of this.
Any advice on living with/dealing a drug addict? Mom is not in the picture btw, but I have a 16 y.o sister, she's aware of his problem and it effects her too.
What are his "side effects"?
And how did it effect you so bad to give you "anxiety/panic disorder" ??
