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Where's the place to start? Any do's and don'ts?
>>16909424
I've had good experience with OKCupid.
But I live in a University city, so there's lots of non-failure women there.
I here that Tinder is the go to thing now.
Maybe that's true.
But OKC really helped me.
I'd take it over the others
>>16909424
OkC is the safest best as far as price (free) and spam goes.
I'm not gonna make a list or anything but just make sure you sound like you have a life outside of work and don't sound like you go on 4chan.
Plenty Of Fish worked for me, found my current girlfriend on there.
I didn't pay however, simply met her on there and immediately switched to talking through a different medium because fuck paying for that shit.
What does he mean when he says these things?
"Your parents adore you, and they did the best they could. Toughest job ever!"
"You're a student of your life."
"You're mother had an extremely fucked up life."
"You can do anything, you just process information differently and need accommodations. You're not stupid."
"You go to the beat of your own drum."
He's encouraging you. What the fuck does it sound like?
Sounds like feel good bullshit excuses to make you feel better about your stupid character flaws.
When this started happening to me I stopped going to therapy but I was there OCD and needed other kinds of outlets.
>>16909421
Backhanded compliments
Posted this yesterday and got no replies, c'mon /adv/, help me.
A quick backstory:
>Meet girl many years ago on the internet
>Become online friends
>Things start to get more intimate and romantic between us
>Eventually fly over to meet her, think she is even more amazing in person and fall hard in love
>After a few more visits we start dating officialy
>Notice she's not nearly as invested or passionate about the whole thing as i am
>After one year she breaks up with me over the phone
>Says she doesn't feel anything for me and don't want to see me again
It's been 4 months and she hasn't called or texted me yet. I want your sincere opinion guys and girls of /adv/, is there even a chance that she will ever come back or should i move on?
I've never been so sad and depressed in my life, i'm so heartbroken, i love her so much and i think i'll never find someone that will make me feel so strongly in love. It crushes my soul to think she is lost forever, i can't deal with this pain...
I did something similar when I was a stupid teenager.
I felt horrible for a long while.
The thing is that you were really never what she wanted.
That's OK.
Everyone is searching for who they want.
You want her because she was probably one of your firsts.
One of the first people you felt love for.
That's OK.
But you need to let it go.
Seek in your present life someone who you first meet, enjoy, and then love.
Just like you did her.
Let it go.
You have felt love and that's a strength.
Letting it go is another.
You are greater now than before
>>16909419
I know you might be correct in everything you said and i really should let it go but it's so hard man...
It's so painful, she's everything i wanted in my life, i can't believe she's gone, just imagining her in someone else's arms crushes my soul. Why did this have to happen to me?
>It's been 4 months and she hasn't called or texted me yet
>is there even a chance that she will ever come back or should i move on?
No there isn't any chance.
Yes you should move on.
It sucks but you need to cut your losses. Deal with the emotions and push on. Don't dwell on it and it'll heal, you'll eventually find someone else.
>want photoshop for new pc
>make a microsoft account quickly
>forgot password, try to log in 5-6 times
>reset password
>microdick says ive used my login attempts
>locked out of new 2k computer
>try to sign in on shitty mobile
>type everything in perfectly
>wont let me in
What do, /adv/?
Currently typing on shitty tablet.
>>16909369
Why in god's name would you link your user account to Microsoft? Should've just made it a local user.
format
I broke up with my gf of 1.5 months a couple days ago and it's been bumming me out pretty hard.
The thing is, I know she wasn't right for me. She was a tumblrina SJW with a low sex drive (she was an orgasm-less virgin with a hymen before going out with me).
We barely had anything in common and she was constantly depressed and not very supportive or nice to me. She was skinny and above-average looking, but had pretty noticeable acne and her buttcrack had little flecks of poop near the top sometimes...
I guess I can't understand why my heart aches over this. I've had longer relationships (~1.5 years each) with girls MUCH more compatible with me and those breakups were really painful, which makes sense since they were such long relationships.
Idk, does it always hurt like this, even if the relationship is shitty? Even though I ended it and knew deep down she would never make me happy, I can't help but feel sad about losing her.
I've never ended a relationship so early before so I don't know if any of what I'm feeling is normal or not... Please help a heartbroken anon.
Pic related, it's her
I'm a kissless virgin so idk man I'm sure you'll find someone else. More than I can say for my pathetic NEET ass...
Any advice?
Even some mean advice would be appreciated
>>16909359
Hey mate i know how you feel, my ex broke up with me the day after Christmas, she was often depressed and described herself as broken constantly but I helped her and loved her with all my being. I know that she ultimately left me because she knew I'd probably be better off without her but I feel lonely and have nightmares about her. It just takes time I guess like always, I'm not as depressed since it's been a few months but it still hurts from time to time.
I wanna fuck this one girl in my friend group, and she wants to fuck me too.
But I'm afraid of how the other friends in the group will feel about it.
I don't think they'd be too happy about it and I dunno if she'll stay quiet.
What do?
Also, side question: This would be my first time doing it. I think she's a total babe, but I dunno how I feel about losing it to her.
I'm not really in love with her, we don't really have the same interesting, ethics, and we just aren't that compatible. Are these feelings bogus and I'm just overthinking the idea of the loss of my virginity?
Thanks, /adv/.
Why wouldn't they be okay with you two fucking?
And personally, I think the idea that you have to lose your virginity to someone you love is silly. But that's just my opinion. If you think you might regret it, I would advise waiting. You can always find someone else, but you can't "un-fuck" someone.
I'm guessing that you are basically just thinking with the other head and friends in group might say something because said chic is kinda slutty?
You're overthinking things.
But it's most likely easier to not sleep with people you hang with on a daily basis, since sexual relationships, from my own experience, quite often results in broken hearts and drama.
So a year ago, the girl I loved more than anything dumped me.
The girl i wanted to marry and have a family with left me. It devastated me.
It doesnt hurt anywhere near like it did. But I still think and care about her.
I'm pretty much over it and her, but I really dont like to look to the future.
I feel like she was about the best I can do. Thats not a jab at me being terrible, or her being the best thing ever...cause no ones perfect. But I think she was my best fit.
It leaves me with the feeling of not ever even wanting to try again.
How can I shake that feeling? I dont want to feel like every girl I meet from here on out will fail in comparison to her.
>>16909337
I'm dealing with something similar.
But I'm kind of a deadbeat loner, and I doubt you have the same social anxiety problems that I do.
>>16909384
dont be so sure anon. i got a /r9k/ tab open.
i actually had a girl smile and say hit to me earlier when i was out, but i was too scared to say anything back.
But im not a deadbeat. kind of a loner though.
wish i could just have things not changed u know.
u have an ex u still love?
I'm also a heartbroken anon. The girl I ended it with wasn't close to my best fit but I cared about her and it hurts knowing I've given her up
We're gonna make it though, guys. It's gonna be tough but there's lots of cool chicks out there, even for lonerbros
Reconnecting with ex.
She's been talking to someone else for a few months now.
She's admitted she still has feelings for me.
But she's scared of leaving this other guy.
I want her back /adv/
What's my next plan of attack?
DON'T!
Well really do whatever you want, but I wouldn't recommend it. If she's gonna leave him, she won't be afraid to leave you.
Consider if she's willing to leave or cheat with another man she could be double-timing you as well
Don't take her back. If she has feelings for you while she's dating another guy, then what's to say she won't have feelings for someone else while she's dating you?
Get a hammer and hit your head with it until getting back with your ex stops seeming like a good idea.
How do people with generalized anxiety and depression pay their bills? It got really bad when I fell in love with a very religious girl I can't even hang out with. Now my abusive family will be kicking me out soon, and it's already hard enough for me to get out of bed. How am I supposed to pull through in this physically incapacitated state? I honestly don't know what keeps me around anymore, but for some reason I haven't killed myself.
Autism bux. $800 per month.
>Now my abusive family
Waaaah! My cruel and abusive family members are tired of my immature shit!!! How dare they!
Why are my aunts/uncles and my grandparents more hospitable and loving than my own parents?
bc ur parents are tired of dealing with your shit.
no but really, that's it.
your other relatives aren't around you 24/7 and don't expect anything poorly of you.
>>16909314
This
Your parents are used to your shit, your other family members aren't
>>16909314
This and they are being polite. There's a level of manners that rises the farther away relation goes.
Basically from what I remember from this old PC game is:
1. You play as a ugly-ass ginger (?) who's basically a floating head, hands and feet. No body.
2. Always on a surfboard
3. Turret sequences where you shoot pogo-stick eyeball robots.
4. Fast paced avoid sequences where if you fail, you get eaten by huge snake-things. You eventually fly out of the back of its head or something.
Please help.
I guess its not Rayman?
Is it a DOS game? It sounds vaguely familiar to me.
My goal is to start making 1,5 dollar a day playing poker.
Where should i start? I'm 21 years old,
and i haven't played that much poker yet.
I like game though.
What books should i read? How much should i practice? Is my goal even realistic?
>>16909289
1-5 dollars a day? or 1,500 dollars a day?
I work in a card casino/ poker room, and even though there is more skill involved in poker, it's still gambling and you're a fool to try and make a sustainable career out of it
even the best guys that play at my casino probably break even at the end of the year
Well you're not going to make a constant $1,500 a day, maybe $100 after 6 hours. So if your time is worth $17/hour go for it. Best night I've had was $600 up after putting $900 in. It's not the best bet to invest your money on random results. Maybe make this a week a month thing but don't expect to do this for a living. Sorry to burst your bubble.
>>16909318
>>16909333
I meant 1 dollar and 50 cents.. Not 1500.
It's just occurred to me that after a year of dating, my girlfriend puts in more effort in her makeup and general appearance and "looking good" with her friends than she ever actually has with me.
Even when we've gone out for drinks or date nights, she always looks better by a large margin and tries much more even if she's just staying at one of her girlfriends houses on a girly night. To the extent that I look at her in the photos and I'm like god damn why has she never looked like that around me?
For some reason it really bugs me. What's the meaning of it?
>>16909256
That's cause she trusts you
>>16909266
This and that she gets to be comfortable around you and knows she doesn't have to try as hard. Being around her friends is like friendly competition and stuff.
But that's not important. What you should be asking yourself is what are you gonna do about it.
Most women don't get made up when they're relaxing at home. It's a lot of work and nothing really comes of it.
Try taking her out more, she'll have more reason to get dressed up with you.
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I couldn't breathe properly due to the runny nose I'm having and started consciously thinking about it. Now I can't sleep because if I stop breathing I just stop breathing! I can't even distract myself with anything because I'm so tired. What the fuck should I do?
you have ocd. Go to therapy.
I need to decrease my sex drive
Wat do
Start working ANY job, go to school, have kids.
>>16909232
I go to college and have a sort of jobs.
No kids ever though, big ol nope. Kids aren't worth fixing this
>>16909248
/Thread.
Get a job working 40+ hours a week and that son of a bitch will go down like crazy.
