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I need to study, I have 6.6 hours of lecture videos + over 100 pages of reading to get done by Monday afternoon and I just can't fucking do it. I can't fucking concentrate. I'll get 15 minutes into a video and then compulsively click back over to 4chan or fire up an emulator.
How the fuck do I fix myself and just fucking study?
turn your computer off. i have the same problem. actually should be studying now. if i really want to get something done though, i will shut my computer down and move to another room
>>16908393
I appreciate this advice but my video lectures are on YouTube (lol hip teacher) so I must be logged onto the internet at my computer while I watch the videos. They've been queued up in a separate tab since this morning. I'm just fucking weak.
>>16908375
https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/stayfocusd/laankejkbhbdhmipfmgcngdelahlfoji?hl=en
This will help. Put the links to the videos you need to watch in the allowed section and then block everything else on YouTube, and use a firewall to block your emulators. The real issue is you yourself need to start doing your work on your own. You really against have even come here to ask for advice, you know what you need to do. You're just subconsciously creating excuses for waiting to do your work.
Never understood why people are so angry about abandoning friends. I mean, I feel that I don't fit in their tightly knit company anymore, so why should I pretend it to be fun?
Am I a dick after years of having self-esteem and trust issues, because of such treatment?
Nothing will change in my life or theirs, I can see it.
>>16908368
Please explain a bit more clearly.
Dude I spent all of middle and high school and a little afterwards with people who didn't give a shit about me.
I abandoned them all and made room for people who I actually enjoyed, though they were really really hard to find.
I've only had "real" friends for the past 3 years (I'm 23 years old). It came from wading through a bunch of shitty people and learning to avoid backstabbers, drama queens, and other selfish peeps.
Being around good friends has also helped me learn to be more trusting and generous myself.
Thats just my experience though. I only keep in contact with about 2 people from high school. The only other cool one died.
>>16908374
Thanks for reply, good to read a real life opinion, and not those sugar-coated "friendship is magic" ones (no offence to bronies)
When I ask middle-aged people, they reply pretty similar, so school friendships probably suck more often than not.
Dunno, my parents shared opinions on my classmates since the very beginning, and I started to see some patterns in behaviour. It left me biased and emotionally distant, but I don't really regret it. Every teacher claimed they've never seen such children before.
Luckily, now I have some people, who want me around, and I want to talk to them too. And I found them in a totally random situation. Quite scary to think I could've missed them.
Sadly, some people don't like me, because I don't want/didn't want to be friends with X.
One of them was my love interest, who had this thing about close eternal friendships, and (supposingly) a strong fear of loneliness.
Can't really understand why such people are treated as more kind and virtuous now.
To keep it short, was a player fuck boy fag, but then I fell in love with a 10/10. Great personality for me, this is what makes her a 10 besides her sexy Latina body.
Sadly she's not interested in dating, we're just friends. Not only that, she insists she's not that crazy about sex. While this is a huge dissapountment, I'm still determined to date her. She has moved away, in the same state but far enough to be a problem.
While advice on getting her would be appreciated, the main problem is I find myself no longer able to pull bitches. I can start up the conversation, give out a few signals and get them interested and what not. Then halfway through I get the thought that this is just gonna lead to a quick meaningless fuck, which is hot in itself lout the thought of not being able to be with girl I actually love kills my mood for it.
Can't enjoy myself to the fullest now, when a girl is really aggressive I'll fuck it and dump it, liquor works but I'd rather not become an alcoholic.
Advice please?
(Pic somewhat related, hate her for this but same time into teasing which she did a lot)
>>16908354
>While this is a huge dissapountment, I'm still determined to date her.
You need to see pic related. Stop wasting your own time fool.
>BUT I LOOOOOVE HEEEEERR
We know.
Tried, but it doesn't work. Just when I think I'm free, she calls to keep up in touch every once in awhile to keep in contact and I fall all over again.
Shit pisses me off
>>16908388
Girls do this on purpose to assuage their own loneliness by soliciting attention and making sure you're still in their pocket.
Developing strategies to ignore this now will help you later. BTW it's also one of the reasons she's not that into you. She knows she could get you easily. She wants to work for it, especially since she's hot and never had to work for anyone.
Long story short this fat fuck pretended to be a girl and we "exchanged" nudes for a few weeks. Last night he slipped up and sent me a pic of a screen that was a picture he already sent me. We were talking for a while. He's very gullible. He says he does this with a bunch of guys on kik friends. No doubt a lot of them are under aged. I turned on the charm and he told me his class schedule, his name, what he usually wears, his instagram, his dorm hall and what floor he's on, his. He seems genuinely sorry for the what he did and seems like a pretty nice guy. He says hes trying to stop doing this. What do you think /adv/? Should I get revenge? I live about fifteen minutes from his campus. Pic related, it's him. What should I do?
look at him. you knew op.
>>16908330
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>>16908337
He didn't send me pictures of him in drag, he used another girls screenshots and took a live pic of a screenshot to fool me.
What hair style should I get?
And yeah I know I'm fat but this is the quickest way I can think of to get advice
leave it as is, OP. Looks good as is
You look Mexican, so, high fade
>>16908322
Viper kill urself
>meet girl in Japan while studying
>she's in love with me, I find her slightly annoying
>currently here for a year exchange program
>literally never feel like hanging out with her, but she really wants to all the time
>she knows I don't see her as more than a friend
I flaked the last two times, I can't keep flaking but I just can't bring myself to hang out with her
>>16908313
You should just date her so we don't get a thread in 6 months about how you can't get a GF.
hey /adv/
i've been friendzoned in the most hardcore way possible, any advice i could get out of there?
>develop feelings for very good 9/10 friend of mine
>we talk daily
>go out constantly
>one day she was feeling a bit sad so i told her i really appreciate her in every way
>cheer her up
>tells me she loves me so much
>i thought i scored her
>rinse and repeat for several days
>i felt like asking her out on a date
>at that very moment she posts a pic on instagram
>it was a screenshot of one of our conversations in which i was saying how much i love and care for her
>caption read "you don't often find friends like this"
Go back in time, grow two testicles and ask out women to whom you're attracted straightaway.
>>16908308
you won't m8, move on, a shoulder to cry on is the first thing you offered yourself as , and the first and now surely the first and only possibility she sees you.
>>16908311
>Go back in time, grow two testicles and ask out women to whom you're attracted straightaway.
This and only this.
If you front yourself as a good buddy who will help with all her problems, that's all you're going to be. And she's justified to assume that's what you want to be. It's all you ever showed her.
Think girl is hot? Ask girl out. ASAP. No wuvey dovey feeling exchanges.
I'm sorry if I sound like a whiny bitch in the post, but, I'm feeling really bad right now. I really don't understand how to make or maintain friendships. I play a bunch of online games, such as CS and Dota 2. I have around 4,000 hours in them and I've came in contact with a lot of people I share the same interests with and get along with, a lot of the time. I've made friends with a lot of them and I don't know why but I just have periods where I feel like everyone hates me and remove a lot of friends. I try to talk to people about their interests and generally don't message when they're obviously busy or giving 1 word replies, etc. Lately I've been cutting off contacts with a lot of people and I'm not sure what's causing me to do this. I usually think that I don't really need friends or whatever but lately I haven't been talking to anyone and it's starting to fucking kill me, I really want to have friends to talk to but my personality just doesn't let me. I guess I'm posting on this to ask how to make & maintain friendships, because for me it seems impossible.
>>16908307
Friendships are such a mysterious thing, anon, I cut a lot of contacts recently too.
As far as I know, some fraction of people, doesn't treat a friendship over the game/internet anywhere as a real one.
Do you also meet these people irl?
>>16908353
No, I don't. I generally don't go outside irl except for working.
>>16908358
Maybe you should arrange a meeting with at least one person, if possible.
It will also make clearer their attitude to you.
Dota is popular fucking everywhere, there must be people from your city to contact. However, be cautious.
What age are you, btw, maybe it's easier to build more friendships out of online gaming?
Where are places you find a vending machine? Public, workplace, etc? It's part of a riddle and I'm completely drawing a blank.
>>16908294
train station perhaps?
School, the mall, outside walmart, airport
After browsing some threads, had to bad insights:
First: a guy very likely wanted to tell me I was more than a friend, but I behaved autisticly. Like really.
Dumb: if he didn't like the autistic me, does it mean he didn't really like me?
The question: how do I not let this happen again?
I get totally paralyzed when I talk to the person I like alone.
Take a deep breath and tell him you want the d. Everything will be easier after that.
>>16908276
Just ask him if he hes busy tomorrow and wants to go on a date. It'll take like 30 seconds.
>>16908283
What about general tips, how do guys expect it to go smoothly?
Fucked up that one completely, and kinda can't get over it.
Hey guys, im travelling in paris and soon rome, whats some advice you experienced travellers have to not get my shit stolen? Pic related
>>16908249
What are your accomodations like? Are you worried about pickpockets, scams, or just the cleaning lady taking your phone?
>>16908262
Probably just pickpockets. Accomidations seem pretty not sketchy.
>>16908249
Keep your phone and wallet in the front pockets of your trousers. Only carry a bag if you absolutley have to, and keep it where you can see it at *all* times (protip: that means not on your back). Make sure the straps of any bag you use are sturdy and can't be easily cut.
The cardinal rule - if someone stops you in the street you're a couple of seconds away from loosing your gear. Doesn't matter what it's for - selling you flowers, asking for help with something, even telling you they've just been robbed - it's a distraction so you don't notice the other person lifting your things. When, not if, but when it happens turn around QUICKLY (because the person taking your stuff is behind you) and walk away. It feels really rude to do it, but it also feels pretty bad to realise that someone else has all your cash, your credit cards and the keys to your hotel and hire car.
Hey /adv/, I just got out of a relationship, I regret what happened between us and I wish I could have her back but I know at this point that I'll have to move on. There's this girl in my German class, I've never talked to her before, I've never had an excuse to do so. She seems kind of shy and I am too, and she's cute. How can I approach her? What things should I say to her? What's the best way to make sure I'm not nervous and seem confident when I first talk to her? pic unrelated but kinda looks like her
Next time when there's a conversation exercise or group project happening in class, choose her as a partner and try and get to know her a bit better. You can start some small talk in German. If she seems to enjoy conversing with you, and you feel the spark is mutual, why not ask her out...
>>16908210
Ask her for homework or similar shit. If she is interested in you, you should have a nice talk. Just try bro
Should I just flat out ask this recruiter what the pay and benefits are for the position she's harassing me about?
Recruiters hit me up all the time because I'm good at a job most people find boring and shitty. They're always, "OMG I SEE U HAVE A GIRL.... I mean job... BUT DO U WANNA LEAVE HER... I mean leave it??" (It's like I'm dating these fucking people).
The things is... I don't mind leaving my current job, but it's entirely dependent on whether or not they'll A) pay me more or B) give me a shit-ton more benefits than I currently have.
I'm not interested - at all - unless this is the case because what I do is basically the same no matter where I am. So it really does come down to $$. I couldn't give less of a fuck about the "work environment" and "work life balance" because I work fine with everyone and I'm not trying to have "a life" I'm trying to have fucking money in this US economic shit hole we're in. So I REALLY don't give a flying fuck about the "opportunity" unless it pays. And there's nothing I detest more than wasting my time floating around interviewing with jobs I won't take.
But everyone and their mother tells me "Oh no don't do that, that's not how business is conducted." Why the fuck not? i thought business was supposed to be about making money, not massaging feelings.
Yeah, asking about pay and benefits is perfectly normal. Just politely ask, and if it isn't a better offer tell them you make more in your current situation, and unless they can offer more you aren't interested. I don't know who told you this is bad behavior, but tell them I hate them.
>>16908225
> but tell them I hate them.
Hahaha awesome, thanks man.
>>16908198
I'm curious OP, what is it you do?
drank about 2 1/2 cups of lean why do i feel nothing have 2 cups remaining
>>16908192
>drank about 2 1/2 cups of lean why do i feel nothing
That'll be your kidneys shutting down. Ever seen the part on the bottle where is says "DO NOT EXCEED THE STATED DOSE"? Yeah. They weren't kidding. Best you find yourself an urgent care clininc.
Goodbye OP
well what do you mean by "cups", like are you mixing it with something and that = cups?
tl;dr soldier looking for a legit online bachelors in liberal arts achievable in 2 years
I'm on a career path for linguistics, and I'm in the military. I am working fervently to get a bachelors degree (already got an associates), which I want to achieve in ~2 years, the end of my contract, so I can immediately start working on my graduate degree after I get out. I have been told by my advisor that it is possible, but he works at a glacial pace, so I want to start looking on my own to make things faster. Due to where I am and how I work, it'll be impossible for me to attend a brick-and-mortar institution, so I am opting to take online courses (my advisor recommended that I take a liberal arts undergrad in foreign affairs or language with a minor in computers). Does anybody know how to get the ball rolling in a timely manner on these courses? Anyone here have any advice for this path or counsel against the path I am thinking of taking? Thanks in advance for any input I can get.
