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I'm a 24 year-old girl, and last year my friend (also female, 21) told me she has a crush on me while drunk, and we kissed for a bit. Then, later I asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend and she said she doesn't really want a long-distance relationship (we live in different cities), and also that there's this guy from fucking Netherlands who has a crush on her and whom she still apparently meets regularly even though it costs a shitton to travel. They were friends apparently, but he wanted more and she had said to him that she want a long-distance relationship....
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>>16911529
She didn't want a relationship with a woman. She might be struggling with her sexuality, and in this case is leaning more toward men than women. Get over it. None of this has anything to do with you, and everything to do with who she wants a relationship with. It's time you learn that you're not going to win every time, and people will say/do things you wouldn't say/do, because they are different than you and there's no explaining why that's the case.
>>16911534
She's been in one with a woman before tho
>>16911538
No one gives a shit. She's probably bisexual. She's exploring her sexuality. Just because you're pretty sure you're a lesbian doesn't mean every other woman is sure of their situation.
I'm 19, unemployed, and so far have been fired from basically the 3 easiest jobs on earth, unloading trucks, stocking shelves, stocking produce.
The first two I lost within one week of working because at both of them I was given 50 hours in my first week, and was 90 pounds overweight at the time, which led to me not even being able to stand up at the end of the third day at both jobs. Since then I went a full year unemployed because I couldn't find anything, got a job stocking like 20 hours a week, lost a shit load of weight, and although I didn't have...
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>>16911522
If you are in the US, no one is going to check your nonexistent work history. Just make up some shit about how you stocked shelves at uncle Billy Bob's house down in Tennessee in the summers or something. Have some relative vouch for you.
If you aren't going to college, consider the military.
Join the Military
I went through a string of crappy jobs I fucked hated between 17 and 23. What's worse is that I was legitimately shit at them as well: I was a weakling, I was terrible with people, I couldn't stand the abuse from co-workers and bosses, and they were just so fucking boring.
The only way out is to move into a career where employers won't treat you like complete dogshit for no logical reason.
It will be weird the first time you work in an office and no one is calling you a piece of shit, workload is easy, and you finish on time every day.
That's...
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Ok so I want to put myself out there and start dating.
Apart from asking a few guys out and going on dating sites I don't know what I'm supposed to do to get dates/a boyfriend
How is it meant to be done? Girl in early twenties by the way
>>16911482
Giggles when a guy looks and talks to you. Go places where guys hang out. Shit in the back and giggle when they try to hit on you.
>>16911482
That ho thick tho, dammm.
Yo, you gots some opions gurl. You can just be one of dem basic bitches and be goin to dem clubs n shit with yo bitches, and some of dem real niggas be coming up all in yo grill like eyyy gurll.
Den you got dem gym options, and everybody be looking at yo ass n shit and den you just say hi and dey yours.
Unless u ugly n shit. Den get dat datin site profile and get de, secondhand goods, know wut I am sayin.
>>16911485
>Shit in the back and giggle when they try to hit on you
zoozles
So I fucking impregnated my sister, what do???.
>>16911480
Bait!
>>16911480
DONKEYYY PUNCHHH
>>16911480
is there a way to undo years of fapping to hardcore shit and just go back to vanilla hand holding and boobies?
dead inside, nofap day 1 today
>>16911449
step 1. Stop watching porn.
Fap as much as you like to you imagination. But do not watch porn. Also try to make it mostly your imagination and not you remember porn.
Step 2. No fap for a whole month.
A whole fucking month. When no fap and no pornographic media you are going to be incredibly horny so even a pair of boobies will set you off.
step 3. fap to said pair of boobies. I recommend katee owen. Just stare and fap away. You male instincts will kick in.
step 4. quit porn all together and no...
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>>16911460
>fall back into the trap
god dammit anon but thanks, I'll give what you said a try.
Just trying to lose weight get used to my new psych meds and maintain a daily schedule while living in a hectic household while training for a new job that starts tomorrow.
Oh fuck me man.
I have faith bro. Do it to it
What is this and how fucked am I?
Also, i seem to have a fungus/yeast problem on my body and need to combat it asap before meeting a girl for some "fun" later this week.
>>16911446
That is almost positively mold. It's impossible to tell whether or not it's dangerous from a JPG on the Internet, so if you're concerned, you should call in a specialist to take care of it. Cleaning it yourself is probably a bad idea because if you don't know what you're doing you'll send mold spores all over the fucking place and that could lead to an even bigger problem, most likely.
Look into dehumidifiers.
I'm not sure if your bodily fungus problem is related,...
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>>16911446
Looks like black mold. Better call a pro to eradicate it. That shit is dangerous.
>>16911951
>>16912675
This may be a long shot question but if im gonna be moving out, am I going to take the mold with me IF my bodily fungus is related to the mold?
Also, what would be the quickest way to heal from a fungi infection? I used creams for a few weeks but it returned. Seems that there could be a connection between the mold and the body fungi
How the fuck do you meet girls when you graduate school other than at bars? All my friends are in relationships or are getting married and do not seem to know many single girls, I tried Tinder but no one ever responds much. I was in a 4 year relationship, so I might be really rusty at this kind of thing.
>>16911435
Online dating (paid sites are better, free shit like OKCupid are worthless)
On the job (don't date a direct coworker, but someone who works in another department is okay, as long as there isn't a policy against it)
Social events/gatherings in your city. It's spring/summer soon, there will be no shortage of opportunities to get out.
Ok so what is like the best way to start talking to someone through social media? I really hate talking to people through text but I know that its a necessary evil in order to actual meet up with people.
Theres this one girl and we've both been liking each others shit quite often and I really need to get in there.
And no its not like a 'she liked one of my posts so she must want my cock' kinda thing. We've been liking posts back and forth for a bit now and its obvious theres some sort of mutual attraction.
I really hate all this social media...
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Make sure you like every single post so she knows how desperate you are.
I'm actually watching this same scenario happen on fb , and it's pretty hilarious. ( liking every idiotic, unoriginal post she shares hoping to be dick # 5 or 6 for the month)
Just ask her out. Don't be the pathetic one.
>>16911520
It's strange though, like the amount of times she posts some shit like 'someone talk :)' or 'feeling alone' is unreal.
But like yeah I want to do that. Is it best to break the ice with a 'hey hows it going?' or should I literally just send one message asking her out for a drink?
Christ I feel like I have severe autism but I don't I promise.
>>16911543
I'd start more platonic with a hey how are you/ what's up? and feel it out from there. Straight asking her out will probably not go over. Idk the details of how you know her and all that though.
Can two people who are attracted to each other but have their own separate relationships have a platonic friendship?
>>16911416
No. Have you not read the million posts about this?
Should we stop talking then?
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I hate my sexuality. I haven't had a genuine friendship in so long because my feelings get the best of me. I have to resort to staying with shitty friends who would never be attractive to me (in terms of looks and personality), but the minute I meet someone who genuinely doesn't treat me like shit I start to fantasize about our life together. Well, not that instant, but you get the idea. I ruined so many friendships in the past because I couldn't control my feelings, with regrets piling up year after year. Anyone else know how to deal with this?
>>16911387
Stop being a faggot. Its really not that hard.
You shouldn't hate yourself for this. You are lovely and you need a partner. People have needs and that's normal. Just learn to express them well so you become appealing to others.
>>16911395
Lonely
What would you do if you were me?
Long story short, took a girl back to her place from the bar last night and we fucked for a bit. I don't live in this town and she does. I'm here until the end of the week but may move here in the future.
Like a dumbass, I didn't use a condom but I think we are both good. Time will tell. She doesn't have my number but I have hers. Last thing I need is her contacting me in a few months telling me she is pregnant.
She wants to hang out and fuck a few more times before I leave. I really don't want her...
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>>16911365
>I didnt use a condom
Shes going to find out who you are no matter what... You are an idiot. Tell her to go get plan b now and take it and then use a fucking condom.
Do you really think a number is the only way shes going to find you?
>>16911401
Ya I figure as much. I want to tell her to get plan b but it's not like I can force her. And she may say she is on BC but could be lying.
I'm a dumb fuck.
My boyfriend has met a girl on an online game her plays, and now he plays the game more and more. He spends so much time on that game that it is effecting our relationship, and when I bring it up to him, he just dismisses me, he says it helps him relax after work.
I know hes been playing with her, shes a complete asshole. Shes introduced him to some shitty youtube shows that hes really into, she used to be ok but now she flirts with him, hes bought her expensive stuff in game... I don't know what to do? am I really competing with a mystery online woman?
>>16911356
LOL
>>16911356
You are competing but not in a bad way. Hes just made a friend. You realize that you are losing in interest to a female gamer online. You arent competing for him per se, just his time.
Hes not going to dump you for her. In game items are things you buy for your friends.
Hes not falling in love with her or anything. You are just jealous he found a good female friend. Id be more of a problem if it werent online since youd have to worry about what they do alone and if its really just friendship.
>>16911366
She works in the town we live in... I don't play the game he does, so I don't get all their conversations but I do see some over his shoulder and they seem to chat ALOT considering its an action oriented game.
he also constantly watches the shows she sends him, they're like, these political shows, ones that make me think she might either be completely insane, or shes actually a dude, who is insane
How do people with generalized anxiety and depression pay their bills? It got really bad when I fell in love with a very religious girl I can't even hang out with. Now my abusive family will be kicking me out soon, and it's already hard enough for me to get out of bed. How am I supposed to pull through in this physically incapacitated state? I honestly don't know what keeps me around anymore, but for some reason I haven't killed myself.
>>16911336 i had a guy fall in love with me like that too (I'm very religious). I really regret making him like me. (though he started to like me first).
To answer your question. Why don't you go to college? Or get a part time job? Promise your parents that you'll make an effort and go to therapy and take your meds on time
>get treatment
>get well
>get a job
Alternatively;
>apply for disability
>get paiddddd
ask a man who became a demon anything.
>>16911327 demon like anti-christ stuff? Did you sell The soul?
>>16911346
you could say that.
>>16911327
how does one become a demon?
I never thought that I would have this kind of problem, since I am a social guy with tons of friends.
Few weeks ago I realized that although I have a good social life, friends, social skills and everything, people don't invite me places, not in the self-absorbed, egocentric way, but even good friends, whom I know for years seem to jump over me when inviting people out or when I try to invite them out. I see myself as a relaxed, funny guy.
Help me out /adv/. Why can't I keep friends and although I'm not an asshole, people still refuse to go out...
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Don't change anything about yourself.
Change the people you hang out with.
>>16911403
that is hard. And what if I'm the problem
