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I'm feeling horrible right now /adv/. There is a friend of mine and she is making me just feel horrible. I thought we had a better relationship as friends, I thought she valued me as a friend as much as I valued her. Recently I found out that she doesn't really care about me as a friend and doesn't feel comfortable around me apparently. We used to text each other everyday for months shared things, talked about our days, etc. She dated one of our mutual friends but they broke up a year ago, I wasn't trying for anything I just wanted to be her friend. I asked her if she wanted to hangout with me and another guy that she knew since she was like 13 or whatever, she replied later with a message that made me understand what I meant to her. She said "if anon ( her-ex) wasn't going then she's not going. She instantly I got really confused I asked why not? So she started making up this excuse of having different energies with people and how her ex was a positive energy so she needs someone like that around or else she gets tired and whatever bullshit. I had a long ass talk with her about this shit and I asked her this at one point. So let me get this straight, you only want to hangout if anon (her-ex) is there? Does that mean your not comfortable around anyone except him, like you can't have fun with us?
She replied 5 minutes later saying I never said I don't have fun with you guys. She completely ignored the part about feeling comfortable around us. To me this means fuck you guys I don't trust anyone expect my ex so I can't hangout with you guys unless he is there. She acts like were all gonna fucking make a move on her or i dont know, but it made me feel really fucking down because I thought we had a better friendship then we really do.
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>>16911702
Now on top of this she met a guy online and is going to try out a relationship with him by going to his house for a week. This just made it even worse because now im my eyes she trusts a fucking stranger more then me, just like that my eyes were opened to what our relationship really was, and it was nowhere close to what I expected it to be. I really want to be friends with her I had such a fun time but the more I think about it and the more I open my eyes up a little, im starting to think she really isn't my...
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Seen this before, been through it myself more than I care to admit. From my own experiences people will be quick to label someone a friend, when in reality it is just someone who is alittle more than an acquaintance.
Its easy too figure out who your real friends are. This isn't one of them from the sounds of it. Take it on the chin and act accordingly.
just send a final message along the lines of:
'you won't accept me for who I am, I always respected you for your gender and identity, etc. etc.', 'i have nothing more to say to you, but have yourself know during our friendship I would've helped you through any struggle' - which I reckon is true
just make her realise she's being mean and delete and block her
if she tries to get back to you, then good, otherwise protect yourself, bro
Hello /adv/ice. I am trying to learn c++ and all the things I've learned have gone over my head. What is the best way to learn c++ and where can I get free resources for this project.
>>16911680
"C++ Primer Plus, Fifth Edition" -Stephen Prata
I didn't read it, I don't use C#, but it looks like a good book and a good programmer recommended.
The only way you will learn is by writing code. Just reading will never work.
>>16911701
I don't use C++ / use C#*
I think that a good way is taking on small projects at a time and increase their complexity as you learn more.
Is it egoistic to want kids or not to want kids?
Both, as that is a decision of your ego.
>>16911674
It's very natural and a part of human instinct to want kids. It is going against human nature not to want them.
But then, you still fap, which is the urge to mate, which results in children, so I think you're fine. You'll probably just wake up wanting kids one day. Biological clock shenanigans.
I have a boyfriend, overseas.. We met on a dating app and we talk sometimes, on and off for 3 years. He comes to the USA and says he's staying at a hotel, and wants to marry me as soon as possible. I love him so much, but his love for me is maybe questionable. Could this be a greencard marriage?
Yes.
>>16911672
If he's a minority, he most likely is.
Expect for a bunch of the money he earns to go to his family in whatever shithole he comes from.
>wants to marry me as soon as possible
Yes, it's a greencard marriage.
>overseas
>we talk sometimes, on and off for 3 years
No, this is not what a boyfriend is.
Is law enforcement and criminal justice a good career path?
I know it sounds retarded and only CoD kiddies go for this career but I'm really into it, I just don't know if I'll have a good future like I would with an engineering or something.
>>16911666
If you mean a degree in those things, your only options are to be in law enforcement. So you better have dreams and aspirations to be a police officer. The only benefit a degree will get you in the police force is consideration for a promotion to detective. You're going to start at the bottom like everyone else, though. After 5+ years of excellent work, you may be considered for promotion to a rank that requires a 4 year degree.
Or, you can go to law school. Hope you're really smart and have a lot...
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>>16911666
>Law enforcement
Solid career, solid middle class pay guaranteed, solid union, gnarly scarred people used to seeing the worst in humanity all day every day for friends for the rest of your life, will become jaded yourself guaranteed.
>criminal justice
Hahaha nah
So I just told my gf I'm bisexual and she's pretty much flipping out. Is there anyway I can get her to calm down?
she seems convinced I'm gonna leave her for a big burly gay guy even though i told her it's more of an attraction to feminine dudes.
Advice?
>>16911662
Just use a strapon with her, problem solved
Dump her.
Straight people don't understand bisexuality in monogamy.
>>16911662
There was no logical reason to tell her that.
No, you won't get her to calm down. She's going to have to talk herself through it, because she can't wrap her mind around why the man she loves would suddenly and for no reason tell her something like that.
In the future, don't talk about that shit. Or tell the person up front so they can make a decision as to whether or not they want to date you.
For people who have not encountered a bisexual person, or who have no desire to...
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advice on how to give a good bj, please.
Think of how proud your dad is of you
>>16911638
Ugh. Just go to pornhub or something and search "how to give a blowjob"
The internet is full of already written out advice on this. Use google
A man who sexually harassed and abused me is with another woman now and I'm really scared for her but the problem is that I probably can't talk to her about it because I have no idea what he's told her about me. I can't go to the police about this yet but he will be registered as a sex offender when I do but I'm not ready to deal with that because of PTSD (actually diagnosed)
Sorry if this is super disjointed idk what to do
Go to police 1st, then the other woman will know without having to listen to you
how to approach a qt in a large lecture?
I'm in a 300 person philosophy lecture and there's this girl I think is cute, not really sure how to approach her though without context
thanks /adv/
>>16911621
>300 person lecture
Find another school. Goddamn you aren't gonna learn shit.
>>16911621
>he goes to a massive state school
top kek
>>16911646
I'm surprised they have enough people interested in philosophy to fill it
So a couple days ago I got with this cute nerdy chick who's been into me for a while. We spooned, cuddled and it was great but she kept talking about her boyfriend. I can tell that she loves him but she's sexually open and obviously wants to have fun with me. I don't want to take her bfs place I just want to have fun.
I want to continue where we left off but I don't know what we are, I feel restricted.
I want to go see the vvitch but I don't know if I should invite her, it maybe too much of a "date" and the last thing I want...
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>>16911606
You shouldn't do anything with her because she has a boyfriend. Seriously dude
Don't listen to this guy >>16912040
Go get that pussy
Is this a good chair?
http://www.amazon.com/Seating-Professional-AirGrid-Adjustable-Managers/dp/B000PWGZOI/
Was thinking of getting the meme markus chair but I've heard too many horror stories of it fucking up posture and not feeling good on the lower back
Current chair: www.amazon.com/Flash-Furniture-GO-ST-6-BK-GG-Mid-Back-Computer/dp/B0049FVB2I/
Pretty budget-y chair. Would be fine but when you lean back in it (Even if you lock it and tighten it) it goes way too far back. It also started randomly sinking like 6 months in.
>>16911597
My experience with fancy chairs is that if you aren't willing to drop $500, don't bother. I sit all day at work, and I have been running a $30 foldable plastic chair with no padding for the past 6 months. Then again, I sleep on the floor.
Every guy on my mother's side has one but on my father's side it comes in patchy.
I guess you'll have to try!
Guys, what the heck? Girlfriend says this to me after she had to go stay at the clinic for a week (some mild recovery after an operation), 'Anon, I feel like you were with some darkhaired girl this week while I was away, am I right?'
What the heck? 'I "feel"'!? What kind of mental disorder is this when a person imagines things like that?
She had some history of cheating ex-boyfriends in the past. I understand. But I am a different person. I never cheated on her.
Please help with advice. She needs help, but I don't know...
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Either she is new-age insane or she was "feeling" a long dark hair on your clothes
it's likely something like a friend of hers called and said they saw you with a dark-haired girl
you neglect to mention if you were actually with a dark-haired girl, OP
>>16911589
i think she means new age insane. my ex used to do shit like this. it was so stupid. Why is it always women that are into this new age shit?
I'm always complaining about shit that I don't even care about, but that other people complain about. Partly because I don't know about what else to talk (I do it more with people I don't know well, but also sometimes with friends), but also to fit in. Does everyone really care about the things they complain about, or are they just looking for something to talk about? Is it wrong to care less about everything than everyone else?
>>16911570
It's a common small-talk topic. Also, there were studies that showed that crying about something subconsciously makes you feel fulfilled, like it's not your fault you are a failure. It gives a false sense of closure.
Of course, not doing it would mean that you need actual interesting topics, and will initially make you even less likely to fit in.
And no, I am not goin g to find the studies for you, I don't remember what they were called and it would be a bitch.
I know numerous ways to fix my life, but I just can't. I have difficulty trying to even convince myself to shower. I just graduated high school last year. I know there's still hope for me, I really need to know why I have issues with these things, and more importantly how to fix them. Pic unrelated.
>>16911564
There is absolutely no answer other than "just do it." What makes someone "just do it" and others not, no one knows. Though we do know that habits are sticky once formed.
Let's play a game right now. We turn off everything else except this thread. I will do 3 hours of productive stuff and you do 3 hours of productive stuff. I report to you, you report to me, anyone else who plays can join. Updates every 30 mins or hour.
This is a common question on here, to the point where...
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>>16911564
I like the gimp suit in the "what other customers viewed" section. Kek
>>16911579
And the infection circumcision training device
