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Hey, /adv/ I've never posted here before but I'm pretty down and do know who to talk to about all of this.
Last Friday my girlfriend of four years asked if we could open up our relationship. We're both very open about sexual partners and neither of us agree with monogamy so I was ok with it. Well, there's a girl that I've been talking to for the past few weeks that I've really been into. She's constantly on my mind and we talk all the time. Sometime I think she's really into me as well but at others times I feel like I bother her more than anything, but she insists that I dont. She was the first person I told that my relationship became open and she seemed to show interest of the idea of fucking. Well yesterday we were talking and I brought up that I'm into her and all that shit and she said I was "freaking her out and making her uncomfortable because I have a girlfriend." This didn't bother her a few days ago and I don't know if she's just using that as an excuse for not liking me or if that's really the reason. I asked her why it bothered her all of a sudden and she responded with "I don't know, I don't want to talk about this." So, I dropped it.
Is she into me or not? Is she just afraid of her feelings getting out of hand and not being able to have me because I'm in a relationship or have I majorly been freaking this girl out for the past week?
Tldr: in an open relationship, talk to new chick, down to fuck, decides the fact that I have a go freaks her out. Is she into me or not? Should I just stop talking to her?
Open relationships are gross and creepy cuck senpai.
Yes stop talking to women.
>>16913531
>She's constantly on my mind and we talk all the time.
openrelationshipfag here. You are wandering into dangerous territory.
I can tell you for a fact that if you don't set the emotional and physical boundaries right now you are dooming your relationship.
If merely having sex with other people is what you've agreed to then you need to cut this emotionally obsessive shit out right now, if she wants to fuck cool, if not, cool.
You have a girlfriend. The only person's feelings you should put first is your girlfriend. You're looking for a NO STRINGS ATTACHED fuck here, not another relationship.
As soon as you start falling for someone else the entire point of the open relationship has failed and you know as well as I do that your concern for this girl is crossing a boundary that your girlfriend probably wouldn't be comfortable with.
Whether she's into you or not is not the issue because you seemed to have not established the fact that whether you have sex with this girl or not it can't go any farther than sex if you are to maintain your relationship with your current girlfriend.
Figure your shit out dude, because you're blurring the lines a bit and its not cool. As soon as shit gets complicated with you and a potential sex partner you bail because you owe it to your girlfriend to keep your extracurricular activities completely separate from your primary relationship. You owe that to her, and if you really give a shit about whether this girl is into you then you need to leave your girlfriend and try something else out.
I'm having a psychotic episode right now and I have a final tomorrow. I can't see my psychiatrist until Wednesday, and studying for the final is futile because I lose my train of thought every few seconds and I can't grasp the semantic meaning of text, so I have to read a paragraph at least 3 times before I can understand it.
Is there any way that I could postpone the final if I have a note from my psychiatrist or some shit like that? I already emailed my professor and asked him nicely for an extension, but unless I can find some other way to postpone the...
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>>16913495
definitely try to get a note from your shrink
I'm a 27 y/o emergency physician(male) that has the next 10 days off work.
I got home today and the first thing I did was clear out my whole apartment and literally chucked out all the shit accumulating in my apartment. It felt great, but very straight edge.
I feel like fucking up my whole worldview, learn new shit and unlearn a bunch of old shit. I want to fuck up all my paradigms and perspectives - and rebuild it again.
So, how to deconstruct and rebuild in 10 days?
Aw man do I what I missed the chance to do with that time off and take a road trip.
I got like 8 or 9 days off through a freak quitting old job/getting new job delay and got my car all tuned up for it. Then I get a call from my parents who needed me somewhere right in the middle of it.
I live in CA but I would've taken a trip through portland to seattle with my brother. We had a bunch planned out so I'm still waiting for another chance to try it.
Look for music festivals and other stuff too.
Well, I'm just a newbie here, and you might think that I'm one of what you call 'Normies,' and shout 'REEEEEE' at me. But aside from that, I want to try visit The Deep Web, I might as well download TOR. But do you have any tips on what to do and not to do?
Just search for the Hidden Wiki. The Tor browser has a custom search on it's own sites, and the Hidden Wiki has a pretty large list of some "interesting" sites. Just don't do anything, only click around.
>>16913476
>Just don't do anything, only click around.
>>16913476
TOR is not a place you just go to hangout. its not 4chan, its not youtube, its not newgrounds. its not a place where we people post a wide variety of shit to keep you entertained, because they have no reason to.
TOR is amazon. its craigslist. its a place you go when you are looking for something specific. oyu go in to get what you are looking for, then you get out, cuz there is no reason to hang out.
what are you looking for?
Hey /adv/, first time posting here.
I could use some career advice. Is design/engineering technology (drafting & design) a limiting career? Is there opportunity for advancement? I'm worried that I'll be stuck making under $60K/year.
>>16913468
>I'm worried that I'll be stuck making under $60K/year.
Do what you love, the money isn't important if its something you're passionate about. When you do what you love your passion shows through your work and thats more valuable to any company than even the most educated and qualified of people.
Don't turn 60, living the last decade or two of your life and realize you spent your life doing some boring shit you didn't want to do just because...
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>>16913488
That was inspiring anon, thank you.
What I want to do is build and race cars. But unfortunately that takes a lot of money.
Wanna text my ex. I miss him, it's been almost 2 months. We were both stressed and argue a lot, but we never (to my knowledge) cheated or whatever. He said he loved me. Had instances where he gave me silent treatment cuz he said he hated the stress of arguments and me being moody (wasnt in good place atm) and needed space.. he wasn't perfect either. Anway this time the "were done because its enough" actually turned out to be real. Said he'd get back to me/we'd talk when I saw him in person at a bar 2 weeks later, never happened. I stopped sending...
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Sorry for the ill fitting image.
>hey... it me again. Bumping this thread...
Is it possible to move on from a relationship too quick? In early February my girlfriend decided she didn't want to be in a relationship after three years, after 4 months of me trying to fix us. I cut contact completely a few weeks ago, but since I'm still young and don't want to become a sperg I'm trying to learn how to actually date people and talk to girls, but in the back of my mind I feel like I may be moving on too fast. I've been trying to justify it with the fact that the past 4 months couldn't even really be called a relationship with the...
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>>16913417
4 months is still incredibly early mate, I broke up with my lady in October and still have some lingering feelings. They say that it tends to take about half the time of your relationship to fully get over someone, so you're looking at around a year and some before you may stop thinking about her.
but to answer you question, yes I would think 4 months is still quite early.
Any students/former students here?
What are some time management tips you would give to others?
Always plan your work hours for the year (from 6 to 8 on Monday... )
Every Sunday make your precise plans for the week (economics on Monday...)
Always write your time table with your work and leisure hours and pin it somewhere in your room/flat
Treat school like it was a 9-5 job.
Don't own a cell phone.
Don't have friends or a girlfriend.
Don't have a life.
I was a 4.0 student in high school. Then before I went to college I got a phone, friends, a girlfriend, etc. now I'm 24 years old and still in community college because I can't pass my classes. And my GPA is fucked so no university for me!
I'm bored
I'm a 25 year old male, middle class worker. I have a pretty set routine during the work week. And honestly I'm just really bored. Typically I work 2pm-10pm, get off work, go home work out (every 2 days) at home, then shower, make some food and watch political news for a few hours Until I go to sleep. I enjoy watching politics, especially this campaign season. But I'm just bored. Other than following politics, the only other hobby I have is shooting guns. But I can really only do that once a month. I just don't really feel like I have...
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>>16913398
Do a sport,learn a something you always wanted to do,if you are REALLY desperate read the bible.
>>16913475
I'm going to take a class to learn Italian, but that won't start until the end of May
>>16913489
Well, try reading a book or meeting new people.
So I'm a 17 year old male looking to start going to the gym. I don't want to go with my dad, and I don't have any brothers to go with, so how do I find someone to ask, and ask them if they want to start going to the gym with me?
>>16913383
Ask your friends?
I started going with my friend, and he was a good help. After a while, I started going by myself.
Usually, there are always total douchebags at the gym. Although, there are a lot of nice people that are willing to help you. I'll ask a guy if he could critique my posture while dead lifting. I got my posture down on just about everything just by asking people. I go by myself most of the time, and it's a great feeling.
>>16913383
Get the fuck outta here you underageb& shitcan.
Go by yourself you literal baby.
Ok so here's the thing.
There's this two girls that I met at a friend's party, they are always together.
Both are cute but I have a thing for girl A.
But girl B tried hitting on me quite heavily.
Should I actually play along with girl B to make girl A jealous or just make my move with A?
>>16913382
>Threesome
>Done.
>>16913382
Make your move with A, don't be a prick by making others jealous.
>>16913382
Girl A will only get jealous if she's interested, and if she's interested you don't need to make her jealous.
So just go after her directly.
I want to start learning how to do animation. I'm serious.
>Where should I start if I want to learn how to animate for film, or movies etc?
>What I know if I want to learn how to animate for the sake of employment?
>Are there any special classes I could take to do or help me with this in college; maybe give me reason to still slog through it all?
>What programs should I start out with when we're talking about animating things...
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You need to decide a kind of animation to pursue. (frame by frame, motion comic, 3D, traditional, digital, etc.)
In the meantime, there's books you should study like "The Animator's Survival Kit". There's also good stuff on youtube, there's tutorials everywhere. Utilize them.
The best way to learn to do animation is to start doing it. You don't have to go to a school for it but you do have to have enough motivation to keep pushing yourself to work and improve. Study, practice, watch good animation and dissect how they do it, learn...
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>>16913409
Also, don't drop out of college to pursue this. Practice it on the sidelines and see if there's college courses you can take. Yes dropping out of college will give you more time to work but that's also a huge risk and a foolhardy one to take. If the animation falls through, you are going to regret wasting college while you had it.
Take it form someone who does art as work, it is damn hard to support yourself with it and impossible to do so when you haven't built a platform. That old adage...
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>>16913433
Are you familiar with a program called Poser Pro? How can I approach learning how to use such a thing? Is it difficult? Do I need prior knowledge of certain things beforehand?
Also, is there a certain major I could follow that would help me in this animation pursuit? I'm currently a pre-pharmacy major, and I absolutely despite every second of it. I would rather die than waste away handing pills to someone for the rest of my life.
I'm a huge fan of some of the things done with that particular...
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Does anyone on here have experience having a "record"? If you get into serious trouble (police were involved) when you were a junior in high school , will employers be able to see it?
>>16913377
As long as you didn't do long period jail (over 6 months) you'll be fine.
It will depend on your employer though.
t. Guy who didn't take public transportation...
>>16913413
I didn't go to jail , I was sent to a mental hospital of sorts for a bit.
>>16913423
Well i don't thing he'll be able to see it. Especially since it's from Junior high
Alright /adv/, straight off the bat: yeah, this is yet another problem about a girl. My issue is that she confuses the crap outta me.
A little backstory: A buddy and I had this sorta immature "rivalry", I suppose, with this landwhale, where we basically just slung insults at each other wheneve we saw her. She dragged around this cute goth-looking girl since she didnt have many friends, and when the landwhale inevitably disappeared from our lives, this goth girl ended up in the same social group as my friend and I because we were so used to seeing her around.
Now,...
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OP here again. Little more info for those interested: she'll stick with the nicknames and so on even if there isnt anybody there to witness it. I speak to her occasionally on messenger since she's pretty much the only person up as late as I am most nights, and the tone is generally very sarcastic. She'll send some stupid gif about love, i'll send back an autistic gif i've saved from /b/ or somewhere, and it'll escalate from there. It's simply the persistence knocking my confidence in her intentions.
Shameless self-bump.
only one way to find out, friend
Anyone overcome their depression and anxiety? I typically have the hardest time with motivation and energy, despite improving diet, medicating, etc. Anxiety attacks aren't as bad as they used to be, but because I only get them around my girlfriend I worry she will one day get tired of my mental issue popping up time to time.
Sometimes if I manage to wake up, get showered, and leave the house early enough in the day, I'll take an adderall and will spend the day at the library looking for a job. But often I wait too long into the day to get started and end up wasting the whole day.
>>16913361
Adderall likely wouldn't help me especially since stimulants can make anxiety worse. Sorry to hear about your issues as well.
OP I had severe OCD for a couple years and it fucked with me for most of college but I learned to control it and fight back. I still have moments where I let it get to me but I'm doing better. Keep your head up and think about what you can do every day to improve your lifestyle. It doesn't happen right away, it starts with baby steps on the way to improving.
Anything specific you want to ask?
