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How do I deal with tinnitus?
I can't hear it only when I listen to music, otherwise it's always there.
I also apparently can't go to concerts anymore, because even if I use ear plugs I still feel that it's become worse the next day.
Has anyone tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Tinnitus? Did it work?
Do you have trouble sleeping? A white noise machine could help.
what is tinnitus
is it a "peeeeeep" noise that you hear?
>>16914344
I can sleep, but because it's so loud at night I feel really anxious before sleeping. I fear it will become worse as I grow older (I'm 28).
>>16914345
something like that, it can also be a ringing or a "whooosh" sound, depending on the person
Hey /adv/, I just need some advice on how to not fuck up an almost 3 year LDR relationship.
We've been together for almost 3 years now with almost no issues, however, earlier this night she said she doesn't know whether or not she wants to break up with me. She claims to love me and doesn't want to hurt me, but she knows fully well breaking up with me would do the worst. (Not suicide, but, severe depression.)
I know it's because of my constant pestering about who she's talking to or what she's doing, but that was only because she just closed up. She was open about this kind of thing and now it's driven a wedge between us.
I've changed and I've gotten over asking her constantly what she's doing or who she's talking to, I've given her the time away she's wanted but.. I don't think it's going to change her mind. I believe she truly does want to end it with me.
I don't want to lose her, she's my best friend and I've done so much for her. I do want to live a long life with her, but now I don't know how she feels. I try to not message her but I get upset and guilty message her.
How can I not fuck this up so I don't lose the love of my life? I don't want to be a lonely prick and lose the best thing that has ever happened to me in my sad little life.
>>16914332
Any way of finally meeting up? Long distance relationships only work with the prospect of working towards meeting up and actually continuing the relationship together. Think to yourself, is there any possible way you could finally be together? Am I willing or prepared to make this happen? What will my future look like with her? And plenty of other questions like that. If your answer to most if not all of those are no, then break up is probably your best solution because it's a dead end relationship. If yes, pack your stuff and go (so to speak). Your call, anon.
People change. Within three years, chances are she has changed as well. She is acting differently than she has before, which is more evidence that she has become a different person.
This doesn't necessarily end a relationship, but you did heavy damage by being controlling when she "closed up." You didn't accept her, and she mentally stepped away from you and realized she preferred it.
You can pull things back to being good, but it will take something drastic, and even then it may be too late.
Sad OP. I feel pity for you, but there are other women, it will just take you finding the next one.
Okay, first and foremost, what I'm about to say is completely hypothetical. Secondly, I'm a little drunk. This is sort of a non-issue but I'm interested to get /adv/'s take on it. All right, here goes.
>So my "friend" met a girl on Tinder claiming to be 19.
>This "friend" of mine is 23.
>This girl looks really young even for a 19 year old.
>In a kind of flirty way, trying to compliment her, he says that she looks 16 at most.
>She responds saying she's 12.
>My "friend," not knowing if she's joking or not, immediately stops messaging her.
>She messages back shortly after saying she's joking and that she's 19.
>He continues messaging her back, but warily, asking her multiple times if she is really 19 like she says she is, and she says yes she is.
> Reluctantly, he goes to meet up with her the same night of messaging her back and forth.
>My "friend" had already had a few beers but the place wasn't far.
>She texted him saying she had a curfew and couldn't go out to meet anywhere.
>Another red flag.
>He checks the address she gave him carefully. It looks legit, like a normal house.
> It's 2 am by the way.
Cont.
>He parks at a fire station right by her house. >He texts her to come meet him there. >She says she can't because if she tries to leave she'll wake up her parents. >This is bad. >She says to come to her window. >"And do what?" my friend is thinking. >"I'm going to get robbed or something," my friend is also thinking. >He eventually walks over and goes to the window. >Well, at least it really is a girl. >Warily, he approaches. >The girl climbs out the window. She's very short and frail. >They talk for a minute. >The girl admits she's 15. >Nope.jpg >He tells her that he could have been some crazy fucker who wanted to hurt her and that she should be more careful and he leaves. >He should've deleted her number right then and there. >She texts him shortly after, telling him she really wants to be with him, blah blah blah. >He tells her again that she's lucky he wasn't someone who wanted to hurt her and that she should stop talking to him. >She wants to see him again tomorrow. We all know what "my friend" should do, but I'm curious how you would handle this situation. I can -- I mean "MY FRIEND" can still smell her smell on him as he types this. Well, as he stands next to me I mean.
I think you should work on your baiting game t b h w y f a m.
Pretty weak. s m d h
If it sounds like a bad idea, it IS a bad idea.
ITT: /adv/isory screencaps, infographics, etc.
No strict topic, just make sure it's good.
>>16914304
Here I found the one for women:
>just b qt
bump for interest
Hi /adv/
I feel more and more addicted to my bf, and it is heavy going for me. What should I do?
Marry him.
Tell him you love him and then kiss him.
Unless you are both male, that being the case kill yourself.
Is he cool with you being so addicted?
My girlfriend and I are becoming more distant, things I used to tolerate now really really fucking irritate me, she's really lazy to get a job of sorts and down right refuses to even try to learn to drive (though she has already drove for 10 hours of lessons.) I feel like I'm being weighed down, in my life I want to eventually go to work in America, I want to have an adventure based life such as rock climbing, shooting, archery etc. Here's the part where I may be an asshole, she has got cystic fibrosis, now I know it's a deabilitating condition, she is very well of in terms of the illness but won't try to even walk a small mountain ( Yorkshire peaks for instance.)
What do adv? All I want is a shooting adventure type girl, though I'm sure those are very rare
>All I want is a shooting adventure type girl, though I'm sure those are very rare
Go shoot and go on adventures more, and you will find them.
>>16914287
Not cyctic fibrosis, cerebral palsy
Fuck it's too early if I'm making mistakes like that
>>16914287
>What do adv?
You're not happy and you're letting her hold you back. Someone like her isn't going to improve unless they absolutely have no choice. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with a woman-child?
>All I want is a shooting adventure type girl, though I'm sure those are very rare
Not so. They're out there living life.
They're doing employee appreciation things and there's a bulletin board we've been stapling flowers with messages to. They say things like "Jane- working with you is always a pleasure!"
I wrote one to the lovable asshole we have. He jokes around constantly and is a lot of fun. So I wrote "Jeff- you mean well."
On my flower and put it up. But now I'm having second thoughts. Mine is the only snarky message up there and it sticks out maybe. Is this okay or should I take it down before anyone sees it?
Sorry if this is dumb.
>>16914271
If you are having second thoughts take it down.
Better safe than sorry.
Or add to it - 'You mean well, and you're an overachiever'
>>16914285
He's not an overachiever though. He's mostly an asshole. A crude asshole.
Idk man maybe I'll just take it down
Think he'd love it though desu
>>16914298
I don't get it, are you trying to be accurate and truthful here, or are you trying to pander to the work crowd?
Why say anything about him at all? He's a crude asshole, and this is the appreciation wall..
I am interviewing an 80 year old man and must write about his life. I need some interesting questions to ask him.
I would avoid doing mostly historic questions OP (what was WWII like or what was the Cold War like) and shit like that. Maybe one or two if he had any interesting information on them, but otherwise, do some cultural questions. How was school life like? What are things people do today that they didn't do then? Things that you could ask someone at about any age, but at something like 80, the answers will be much more rare.
Men of /adv/, how would you feel if your girlfriend denied you two had sex because you didn't orgasm during penetration during the 20+ times you've penetrated her? Let's say for some reason you couldn't (ex: couldn't cum into condom). She believes that 'it's only sex if both partners orgasm during penetration'.
Pretty shitty? Is this even a question?
What is this retarded question?
I'd feel suicidal and kill myself for being with such a stupid fucking cunt. God I hate people. I hate men, I hate women, I hate everyone equally. The only thing I love is my dog because it isn't a stupid fucking faggot or cunt. I hope a huge asteroid destroys Earth and wipes out this cancerous species. You're all fucking idiots.
Hey /adv/
I met my girlfriend around 5 years ago. 2 years ago she became depressed and im the only source that keeps her happy.
I love her alot but she is starting to take it as granted. Starting to ignore me and cutting me off when i speak, bingeing, talks about things that she knows i hate, expects me to help her lose weight that she gained when she got during her depression.
Im starting to get a social life and talking to people. I want her to experience it as well but she laughs and calls me stupid
Im thinking of pumping another girl and tell her about it so she will acually rely less on me and possibly help herself up
Would this work and would it be ethical?
(P.s she has barely friends and i know her enough and she isnt cheating on me)
Also pic unrelated.
>>16914241
>Im thinking of pumping another girl and tell her about it so she will acually rely less on me and possibly help herself up
i think it's awful that you're trying to justify your desire to cheat by framing it as being the first step in helping to improve your partner's life.
if you TRULY believe that doing that would somehow help her, you're delusional.
with that having been said, i think it's fair for you to be unhappy with your partner. tell her what you just posted here. explain to her that things have changed and you're unhappy. if you're willing to work on it, tell her that you're willing to try and change things if she is too. if you're ready to leave, end the relationship.
I'm a lonely bastard and I'm almost 22.
Today I got into habbo hotel and I was just chatting with a 16 year old girl that lives in a different country (right next to mine).
I ended up giving her my phone for whatsapp because she said she rarely plays habbo, am I fucked?
How fucked am I? I genuinely don't want to fuck her or to get her nudes, I just want a friend.
want to suck my dick. im in for some erotic experiences on the habbo hotel
>>16914195
chatting with teenagers isn't illegal. just don't be a dumbass and everything will be okay.
Alright /adv/. I'm having a problem with the guy that lives in front of me. He's a drug dealer, and apparently an ex pro mma fighter. He's lived there for about three years. I have had nothing but problems with the guy. For some reason he's after me.
>>16914193
This all started three years ago, in the summer. The woman who owned the home died and her son moved in, the guy I'm talking about. Things were fine, didn't talk to him, he left me alone, I left him alone. Wasn't really interested in knowing anything about him.
One day, I was bored as hell, and went for a walk. I was walking when he was driving past and my mp3 player died. I kind of did this "what the fuck" motion in anger of it dying not even a block from the house. He saw it, slammed on the brakes and spun around in the seat and started cussing at me. I acted like I didn't hear him and he drove off.
>>16914193
Keep arms in ur house and car, and get a cc permit asap. Try to talk to the guy, but always prepare for the worst.
Can u give more background?
>>16914193
So I think he thought I was doing that motion at him. Since then he's been confrontational. It started with little things, staring, pointing and staring with his friends outside. Things that made me worry about his intentions. Trying to be the better person, I tried to ignore it, and I did. The last two years have been like that. Being really uncomfortable when I'm outside, feeling like he's going to kick my ass pretty much.
Boyfriends ex is in another country with another man, seemingly happy
He still talks to her as they became friends again 6 months+ after the breakup
Always thought he broke up with her, actually other way round
Their relationship sucked and he didn't love her, says she was crazy etc
Been helping her deal with her issues with her current boyfriend
Saw her sending some flirty messages to him while we were out one day
Few days later hands me his phone and asks to check messages and reply to people if they need him while we were at work
Saw their chat and looked
Last thing they talked about was her telling him how much she regretted breaking it off with him and why she was the way she was etc
Freaked.jpg
She said isn't it great though that the universe worked itself out and he has me and she has her guy
Feel super threatened but him and I are really happy together
What do?
>>16914154
Up your blowjob game.
The relationship between me and my dad has gotten bad because of my decision to join the military. He said he'll do whatever he can to make sure I don't go, which includes tempting me with a woman. Apparently he's 'concerned' that I don't have enough testosterone since I'm apparently not interested in women (I am, I just hate the majority cause they're normalfags) and he said there's some girl that would have sex with me.
At first I said no but after looking at her pic I'm considering it, but it might be a trap, maybe he thinks I'll get her pregnant or get an STD, or it'll make my mom hate me (she's trying to get me into a relationship with this 15 year old girl and I'm 22). Should I take the risk and accept the offer? Or think with my top half and not risk anything? Pic related
>>16914129
You're 22. Why are you fighting with your parents like you're 14? Did you never grow up and move out?
>>16914139
I'm trying to keep relations with em, my dads threatened to disown me and I'd rather that not happen
>join the military at 22
>dad is 'concerned' that I don't have enough testosterone
>sex once = pregnant or STD
>is this girl a trap
>she's trying to get me into a relationship with this 15 year old girl and I'm 22
go the fuck to bed memelord
http://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/16658684/#16658684
contradicts with
>>16913551
simply because all the good ones are taken and almost alp the divorced ones have kids.
>>16914101
>Why does /adv/ contradicts?
/adv/ is full of different people with different backgrounds and opinions. It's simple.
>>16914101
yeah people disagree on stuff.
>>16914101
Those two threads are asking very different things.
