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Guys, what can I do about a roommate giving me problems?
Here's the story, I invited a friend to move into my place almost two years ago. He works a shit job six days a week for a paycheck that is about $650 after taxes and such every two weeks. My place is just that, mine. Paid in full, land, house, everything, and given his shit cash flow compared to mine which is almost triple his, I didn't feel comfortable asking him for rent so I told him to keep the grass cut and pitch in on the food bill.
Two years later, the grass is rarely mowed, the only thing he buys for food is pancake mix (and I am not a big fan of pancakes) and occasional stuff to make an actual meal about once a month or so. He got a dog. I already had two housebroken dogs myself, but he gets a puppy under the condition that he trains it and picks up after it.
His dog has fucked up the skirting of my house, ripped up the carpet in the closet she stayed in, and just acts like puppies do (I.E. destruction machines) and she is finally settling down.
He knocked a hole in my wall because he worked out too hard one day and quasi-blacked out and put a dumb bell through my wall on his way down. He borrowed $500 from me to get a car and was told 'Pay me back when you can, no pressure, but do pay me back'.
Car has been paid off for over a year now, he doesn't put in toward in bills, his only bills are his minimum car insurance payment, cell phone bill ($50) and a small credit card bill.
I have not been paid back for his car. When I mention fixing his dog's destruction he gets pissed and says my dogs fuck up things more than his does (claw marks by the front door where they ask to be let out), and he has made no attempt to repair my wall, or replace the torn up carpet besides saying 'Those are totally easy fixes, man.'
I like having someone with similar interests to talk to, but holy shit, man. I am tired of carrying this fucker.
>>16914804
The reason I mention how much money he makes is because he always bitches about being flat broke. My central AC unit died, it was old as hell, so I just got some oversized window units to keep the house cool on the cheap. Did he pitch in for that? Nope. I told him to just get a small one for his room. Didn't do that either and instead he just sweats it the fuck out in there.
I feel for the guy because he has sleep apnea to the point he is practically a narcoleptic. However, this son of a bitch is...
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Holy shit you are being taken advantage of so hard it's incredible.
Your house should be your pussy-pad, right now he's cockblocking you in addition to being a leech, you need to get rid of this guy.
What is your exit plan exactly? Let him live there for the rest of your life? He can't even pay back a car bill, you think he's gonna move out when he has free food, rent, electricity and all that stuff?
He's your friend, I get it...just tell him you've been planning on having a girl you know online move in with you and that you...
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You're being a cuck
Just give him a date to move out (3 months from now, 2 months or something) and have that be it.
I feel like I'm in an endless loop of distracting myself. I cycle from video games to YouTube to porn then back again. That or I'm either high or drunk. I do have a job and a girlfriend that keep me busy but I feel like I could do more. I use to be so motivated but now I have no idea what I want in life. How do I get that focus and drive that I lost?
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Try meditating. Just turn off your PC and mobile phone and just sit for a while in complete silence, and think about whatever.
>>16914847
> and think about whatever.
no , concentrate on the breath
wherever you feel it best chest , belly or nostrils
thoughts will come but let them float away like clouds and come back to the breath
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D8oKWQiEWYs
I used to take half a Sertraline in the morning, and half at night.
Now, I take both halves at night. Could it be making me have trouble sleeping?
>>16914756
Sertralin is an SSRI, and so you should be building up and maintaining a steady level in your body, so things like missing a day, or changing the pattern of when you take it slightly shouldn't affect you very much, if you are otherwise regular, and have been taking it for a while.
But if you feel like it is, maybe it is. Regularity is important, same time every day. Maybe you just need to adjust to the new rhytm.
It isn't just anxious thoughts, keeping you up?
>>16914781
I go to bed at 10:34, and if I'm not asleep by 10:50, I take a sleep formula. Do I need to give myself more time?
>half a sertraline
I'm on sertralin (note missing E, hopefully the same thing, I'm Swedish so it's likely just that) and I'm at 200mg. I was given a schedule which was basically start with 1 (50mg) and add one every week until you're at 4. Benefits started week 5 bordering on 6. Before then I got tired and yawned. Excessively, like 10 times an hour, big yawns. Enough that I'm not sure I was tired but just thought I was.
But really your doctor should have given you a target dose and instructions. I'm sure...
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I'm worried a guy I've been dating for about a month could be closeted gay/bisexual. He comes from quite a traditional culture so he could be pressured into acting straight. For example last weekend:
He invited an openly gay friend of his over his place, cooked for him and they went to a party together. The friend got wasted and stayed over at his place (he said on the sofa) Then they spent the whole day together before he came over to my place Sunday evening.
Also, he likes to have sex with the lights off. None of my previous boyfriends have had this...
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Can't you just be happy for the guy? He has something we straight guys can never really have. True love. Not this man-to-woman crap where priorities are so different you can't really honestly say 'I love you'.
I'd say you should offer a threesome (say you're into that sort of thing). Even if he's suppressed he might go for it. Because there's a girl there and it's only gay if the balls touch right? You'd get info and he gets to know himself, dump you and live a blessed life.
Or you could just point him to this...
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>>16914768
Haha well I'd obviously rather have him live true to himself and be open about his sexuality. I actually wouldn't mind if he's bi and told me about it but I'm worried of falling in love with him and later finding out he was in the closet all along and that our relationship was a lie. If he's gay I'd be fine being friends at this point. I guess I'm just worried about offending him in case he's actually really not gay. I mean he's been friends with this guy for a long time...
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>>16914783
Yeah ok I see. Well I'm not sure how to break it to him. You know him better. If he was like me I'd just like to hear your concerns and respond to that.
I have spent so much of my life turning people down. Saying no to different social offers and opportunities. I have shut so many doors that have been opened to me. But I have reached the end of the hallway and there are no more doors.
If I had just gone through any one of those doors I could have entered another hallway with even more open doors, leading on to even more. But I have closed every door and left myself trapped, with no escape.
I am crippled with this anxiety that prevents me from trying to escape. No one opens any doors to me any more as they have all since...
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There are unlocked doors everywhere around you, you just have to open them yourself.
>>16914751
Several social anxiety makes sure that doesen't happen.
Could always move. Find a job in another state, start all over, that's what I did anyways.
I know, another love life question, but i really have no one to turn to.
With girl for 5 years, move out of state for new job. Visit gf like once a month back home, over a weekend.
Work gets harder, but she never visits me, so we go a littler longer without seeing each other, but talk daily still.
Hang out with new friends, get along with a girl who is 19. Im 30. Didnt even know how we ended up together. Ex knows we talked, saw pics of me hugging her and the relationship kinda endeded namely bc of longndistance i felt and the unknown of me being...
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TLDR: cheated, regret it, been a year still love ex, but dont want to hurt current gf. Wat do?
Wait, it takes time. Didn't get over my EX for a few years, had to move to another state so I didn't of anything stupid. That's the only thing that'll fix this. Just stay with your current digs, it's not the easiest to find women. Just wait, and if you have anything like Facebook or see her a lot block it and change routien.
hey guys,
so i know some of you are just as pathetic as i am and have already tried this. but im too dumb and cant get these instructions right. can you help me?
1. tie the thumb and pinky together? but how am i left with 5 fingers then...?
bump
I'm seeing a lot of sad sacks around here. I'm not gonna pretend that I'm perfect, but I think I can help you out. Ask me some questions.
I'm in love with a relatively famous artist/performer
>>16914641
Consider reality and move on.
>>16914634
I have deep seeded feelings of guilt over the death of a loved one. When the opportunity for something good comes up, I subconsciously try to fuck things up to punish myself. :(
What do you do when you discover your daughter grew up to be a beautiful, intelligent, successful young woman with a great life, but she resents the shit out of you for walking out on her landwhale bitch of a mom when she was little? Compound this with her blaming me for almost never seeing her when it was the Michelin Woman always fucking with my attempts at visitation before they moved. I did pay the meager child support payments that were the most my financial situation would allow. Eventually the Michelin Bitch moved out of state for a new job, remarried, and apparently...
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>>16914618
Set what right?
There's nothing wrong that needs to be set right. It's thanks to her mom and step dad that made her into the girl you're proud of today.
Send her a letter. Be respectful of everyone. You're a stranger, not really her father genetics aside, so don't try and act like one now.
>>16914633
This.
The only thing you can do is ask for her forgivness ... you dont deserve anything
>set right
You want her to be your daughter. Send her a letter explaining this stuff. Obsess over the letter. Make multiple drafts and have someone who understands how important it is to you read the versions.
Hi all. I was interested in buying a fleshlight but since it is my first time, I wanted some advice and experience stories. Model Advice would be great too. I am personally interested in the "freaks alien" model
>>16914607
shamelessly self bumping
It's not all that. Don't buy the powder it's just corn starch, check the back of you don't belive me. But after you're done pounding your pud you have to clean this fucking thing every time. Really not worth it.
Fleshlights are nasty. Too expensive and a pain in the ass to clean and they eventually pick up the odor of your dick. Also, you can't leave that shit laying out, it's blatantly obvious what it is.
Get a tenga 3d. They're cheap, feel better and clean easy. They don't look like pussies. Trust me on this, I've had both. I'd never tell my girlfriend about the fleshlight (if I hadn't thrown it away), the tengas (bought two) sits out in my shower. She doesn't know what it is, and if she ever asks I'll show her.
I need a clean, dry and intact ribcage for a project.
Was thinking of buying a roast chicken then leaving the ribcage in a tank of meal.worms to strip it bare.
Anyone know any better?
>>16914592
a chickens ribcage is very small, but if it doesn't matter to you I'd just peel all the meat off a roast chicken
boiling would work
maybe just drying it in he sun
worms would take a long time and make a real mess
flesh eating beetles
just ask a butcher
Hey /adv/ need some late night advice.
>Girlfriend, beloved has severe depressive episodes
>Today while I was at work she had a panic attack and has slipped into a depressive episode
>This one was due to her appearance, most of which was her hair
>She freaked out while having her panic attack and started to try to cut her hair herself but ended up messing it up quite bad
>She wont even show me it
>This...
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change of direction well end of thread, found her looking at other guys, gn /adv/ time to start a whole new adventure, fuck life.
>>16914739
Where was she looking? On The phone? Maybe wasnt for romantic interest
Does anyone else come to /adv/ and just look at the pictures?
Sometimes I reply to a thread based purely on the pic used. This is an example of such.
Sometimes I post them
I have made a contract with my current employer lasting until certain date. However I got offered another place, higher salary, different location abroad and generally a great opportunity. I'm not sure if I'm perfectly qualified for the job though, but however they wanna hire me. This would look good in my CV, whereas my current job isn't even related with my major.
My current boss and I have become pretty close. (I mean in a friendly way, I'm a female too.) She needs me and by leaving I'd leave her in trouble and give a bad impression.
So...
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Well this is an interesting situation. When are you required to provide an answer by/do you think your could provide your old boss with sufficient notice and support?
>>16914551
I could tell her a month beforehand, but still I'd be breaking the deal we had.
Do not feel loyalty to an employer, ever. No matter what, they can kick you to the curb without warning.
Is penis enlargement possible what are methods or surgery that won't take years I'm 18 and have a 3.5 inch penis erect I don't think I can live with this the rest of my life.
>>16914519
All you ever hear are broken penises after taking pills or stretching.
>>16914519
I know nothing about pills but I heard that most are scams, stretching techniques haven't been proven safe or effective. Surgery is the best option but procedures are quite invasive, there can be risky complications and recovery can be very painful.
>>16914519
Have you tried jelqing? If not then you should because you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain. Just don't death grip your shit.
