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Around 8 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend, because being in a relationship with him made me unhappy. No hard feelings, we were/are still good friends and occasionally having sex. But recently, I begin to despise him more and more. When I'm reading books, characters I don't like remind me of him. Having conversations with him frustrate me. I feel used when we're having sex. And yet there's still something inside me that wants me to take care of him, and I hate myself for thinking so bad of him.
What do?
>>16916977
Get dick somewhere else.
>>16916989
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>>16916989
Would work if he hadn't given me goddamn herpes, pretty much removing casual sex from my life. But even if that wasn't a problem, I know it would still hurt him and thus I wouldn't do it. My libido isn't that high anyway.
I have a very aesthetic and good looking face and a lean body, i'm smart, i can make people laugh, but i have one of the worst flaws a man could possibly have. I'm short, really short, i'm 167cm, i think that's about 5'5" in imperial units. I feel like my size killed off all the potential i could have had in social life with my face and strong personality.
I don't think about it too much but when it comes to dating i have a really hard time since many girls nowadays are taller than me and even shorties want tall guys, i don't blame...
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Confidence trumps every single other aspect or facet of a man.
Look at Peter Dinklage for gods sake, the man is a literal midget and he's insanely famous and while his wife isn't the classic supermodel an actor dates, she's nothing to sneeze at.
And do you know why?
Because the man is CONFIDENT. He knows what the fuck he's on about. You could be the most beautiful man in the world but if you're going to be a pansy bitch about some quality of course no woman wants you.
Women are emotional trainwrecks. They look to their man as a source...
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>>16916974
A million times this. I have found people 10/10 when they're really 6/10's because of their confidence alone.
I know these types of threads get posted a lot so I'll keep it brief:
Had a oneitis, we texted regularly, everything was going well. I wanted to get to know her more instead of just texting and she basically said no to both times I did (going out for lunch and helping her with some tutoring). I even noticed her trying to avoid me but we did have brief chats before. We're both kind of awkward I'll admit.
I took the hint and moved on and kept it cordial, now for some reason she only texts me for small stuff like asking if I took a certain class, or if she can borrow a textbooks that I don't have, but she never wanted to meet for anything before.
But I texted her one day because I lost something at the building she works in, I saw her and didn't say anything but she told me I should have come said hi.
do I just keep going my way or engage her more again?
We saw each other today while I was chatting with a mate and she crossed her arms and kept walking. Maybe getting uncomfortable with me.
I'm confused
Listen, niglet. You have to treat her like any other person. Normal as shit. Get down from fantasy land and lower your expectations with her. Only after so will you be able to have her.
>>16916927
>I wanted to get to know her more instead of just texting and she basically said no to both times
>do I just keep going my way
I think you have your answer. You'll learn soon enough that people like this will continue to walk all over you as long as you allow it.
She realizes that she has complete control over her relationship with you because she can deny you whenever she wants, talk to you whenever she wants, ignore you whenever...
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just let her go.
Last thread didnt help at all. My GF has an ex. He is an asshole and always pushes his way into her life.her and I have agreed to get rid of him. So how should we do it?
Six feet under
First, you want to make sure that you do nothing to get yourselves in trouble. That is primary.
Now when you say "get rid of" I'm presuming that you just want him to stop hurting your gf and you. Do you know anyone else this person has hurt? You might want to enlist their help or at least talk to them to get information. They might be able to tell you some things that could be useful. But first off don't even consider doing anything that could possibly get you in trouble.
Do you mind me asking what this person did?
>>16916880
>He is an asshole and always pushes his way into her life.
CORRECTION:
>She always allows him to enter her life.
Rape, assault, and harassment can all be stopped with the use of police, restraining orders, and self defense. For your girl to "accidentally" find herself "the victim" of her ex....? Yeah no lol. That's about as bad as:
>OOOOPS, I tripped and fell on his dick!
You've got...
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Alright, here is what's up: are my parents controlling? I'm 21 years old.
My girlfriend was thinking that me moving to her apartment (which she'll be getting in a bit), would be an awesome idea, but then I was concerned about moving over. My parents would never accept me moving to her house.
My girlfriend and several of my college and high school friends have been telling me since forever that my parents are controlling and manipulative.
It's hard for me to go out several times a week as I don't have a well paying job (work as a...
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>>16916868
>are my parents controlling? I'm 21 years old.
You are far too old for this to be an issue.
You are a grown man who still has a curfew and gets scolded by his parents. Its fucking sad.
When I was 18 I moved out of my house, crashed on a couch I found on craigslist until I got a shitty job at a tattoo shop and scraped and pounded the pavement every single day until I could afford a place of my own and now I own a car, my own apartment and a successful business.
The...
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>>16916913
Fuck, you're right. It's daunting, but it is something I have to consider. My tuition is being paid by my parents, and I'm currently missing two more years before I graduate, so that'll be rough to do. I have to be able to do it somehow, though. You're right.
It's just rough. They question everything I do. But even then, I feel like I can't let go. Fuck, this really sucks. My college has a free psych clinic, so I'm going there for advice also.
If your girlfriend is offering you a place to crash, by all means take it. If your parents 'won't let you get a student loan,' you need to disentangle yourself from them fast. At your age, they should not be involved with your finances at all.
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Pic is unrelated, I thought it looked cool. I don't know if my question is right for this board or /mu, but I'm going to post anyway.
I'm a design student currently getting into cover design and trying out various different styles. There's a musician, with a pretty big following on soundcloud, I like and who I'd really want to create covers for. I've finished a design of one of my fav songs as I thought, that would be a good way to show him my skills, rather than linking to my instagram.
My question is: How do you write such...
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Musician here, look at his SC bio. If he's a small thing on SC sending an email saying what you want and telling him your appreciation for the music it will just be flattering. Just do it, I'd love for something like that to happen to me
>>16916838
>How do you write such an E-Mail (short but filled with enough info so I present myself good)
You're overthinking it. Just send him your art with a short, friendly e-mail and if he doesn't answer back or isn't interested move on to the next project.
If you spend all your time analyzing every approach and every word you expend in trying to pursue your dream of art design you'll narrow your focus too much and not cover enough ground.
If...
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>>16916850
he has gotten a lot of momentom lately so he's got 60K now.. But thanks, I guess I'll try it like that
How to stop being lazy person and start reaching life goals? I'm so tired of doing nothing.
>>16916817
Make it your life goal to do nothing.
Self-control.
Achieving worthwhile things is hard. Much easier to sit at home playing video games and masturbating to porn. You gotta have enough self-control to realize that short-term pain means long-term success.
A girl I work with I'm into said she had a a really bad week and changed her Facebook photo from one with her boyfriend to just her.
She knows I'm into her, she seems interested but she's obviously with this guy and cheating is obviously a no-no for us both.
Should I just send a friendly text? Just one? Or fuck it, let her make a move if she wants.
>>16916763
If you don't know do nothing. She'll talk if she wants to talk
>>16916763
>A girl I work with I'm into said she had a a really bad week and changed her Facebook photo from one with her boyfriend to just her.
Sneaking in like a hyena on a wounded buffalo at the first scent of problems in her relationship is a really shitty, creepy way to pursue a woman.
She knows you're interested but she's not in a position to start anything with you. You don't need to breath over her shoulder and remind her you exist.
She knows...
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>>16916841
>>16916796
You guys are 100% right, I just needed to hear someone else say it to assure me it was the best move.
OR, talk me into being stupid.
/adv/ is best board
Is this normal?
I'm smoking for like about a year now. Every time I smoke i feel like a bit weird when taking a deep breath to let the smoke get into my lungs,it feels like something stuck or so and also,I don't know how to say,feels like a cough. I don't know if I'm not smoking in the right way or I should stop because my lungs are too weak for this habit?
>2016
>still smoking cigarettes
>>16916762
>smokes coffin nails
>feels weird
Could be involuntary glottic closure. Try tilting your head upward slightly or inhaling slower. Have you thought about quitting?
Yesterday after drinking half bottle of wine, I made a very sarcastic comment and my boyfriend got mad, lifted me by my neck up and asked where is your power now. We both take psych-meds.
What do. How to help him/me
>>16916746
grab his balls, and say "Right here"
Don't mix heavy medication with alcohol maybe?
how "much" of violence is "ok" in the relationship?
Somebody stabbed me in the back, but is trying act like my friend around people who don't know about the situation.
I don't want to look like a gossipy bitch, but I also want to stand my ground without looking crazy and rude.
Please help?
And then she sends me this bullshit over facebook. I know you don't want inane details, /adv/ice, but she knows very well what she did. It was carefully planned and premeditated.
>>16916761
Mail her some glitter. Or a bag of sour dicks.. then punch her stupid face and give her your sexually transmitted diseases.
Dont bring attention to it. Dont spend time or talk with the person outside of any social event you both attend. When u see said person at a social event dont go out of your way to talk to them. If they try to talk with you keep responses short and hard to continue a conversation with. (Think like when u text someone "K") stay civil when you go out. Person cant just stab you in the back and then pretend like they care. Chances are (if you are self respecting) that your relationship will never be what it once was.
Ok. So my girlfriend has an ex. He is the most stubborn person ever. He ways pushes his way into our relationship and fucks things up.. My girl and i nother agreed we wanted to ger rid of him. What I wanna know is what is the best way to get rid of an ex. And when I mean stubborn I mean he started cutting himself just so he could get attention from my girlfriend. And he is a complete ass hole. He hits girls. And he's hit my girlfriend. So what should my girlfriend do to get rid of him.
BTW she goes to the same school as him. And I go to a different highschool.
Thats her probplem. If she to stupid to stop giving him attemtion than u are stupid for continually chooaing to date her. Chicks gotta drop her own baggage off.
>>16916719
She doesn't know how to get rid of him... And see been trying
>>16916705
Your girl is useless fampai. Put on the boy pants and some dirty work.
You bigger n he is senpai? Tell him to fuck off and if he doesn't, beat his ass like he beat her.
But I expect you'll just piss off your girl by doing that because she likes having the attention.
So really you can't do anything.
Hi /adv/, what do you do when you have absolutely no direction in life?
I'm in university in the UK doing forensics, I was hyped before I started but now I just want to quit it, university was the worst mistake of my life. Now I have 0 motivation to do anything and I have absolutely no idea what I'd like to do in life.
I don't know if this would help but I've recently been told by my GP that I have something called onset insomnia? Possibly brought on by anxiety or depression.
>>16916696
>what do you do whe nyou have absolutely no direction in life
find direction
>BUT HOW
take time off, work a horrible job, and realize that being a boring forensics student is way better than working at the gulp and go.
>>16916696
Defer for a year
>>16916701
This sounds like an alright suggestion,
>>16916706
I don't exactly know what that means..
Is it wrong go want somebody to love you for certain reasons? Context: I love my boyfriend and he says he loves me but it's apparent to me that the biggest reason be loves me is because I love him. We are long distant. I don't know what to do.
You mean he's just saying it because you do? You said it first? Not really sure what to tell you, why do you think he's loving out of obligation?
>never even been in a relationship with this guy
>we were friends but that got fucked up and now we're semi-strangers
>I think about him 90% of my time, miss him like crazy and feel super jelly whenever I spot him talking with a girl
What the fuck do I do to regain my mind? I do not want to think about this fucker in every waking moment. Goddamn I hate it
Tell him u want to fuck. After an unsatisfying sexual encounter move on with your life.
Your story is almost similar to mine except i'm a guy had a quick fling with this girl but she didn't want anything serious later she got a bf and i'm also jelly as hell. And i also fucked it up. Haven't seen her in months
>>16916678
Hes not gonna go for that tho
