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How would a female get bigger boobs without the use of surgery/hormones/having a kid?
You don't but you can do squats to improve dat ass and make up for it
Boys don't really care about boobs anyway
guys, how can i get more intelligent without learning?
anyone know a good way to lose weight? my only requirements are that i wont eat healthy and i wont exercise. suggestions?
I've known this girl for about 8 years, but not super closely... over the past year or so, we've really turned up the banter, we occasionally drink together, we're pretty active with each other on Facebook.
We like a lot of the same things, get along really well, and she's pretty cute. Over the past few months I've been wondering if we'd be a fit actually dating, or if our casual friendship is enough. We've joked about it, and my friends who see us together all think there's something there, but I haven't really cared enough to pursue it.
Before it's brought up, I don't think we're close enough for me to be "friendzoned," but I definitely don't think she'd be expecting me to ask her out ever, and "asking her out" formally seems weird and doesn't seem to fit into our style.
How should I approach this?
>>16917674
Decide if you want to date her and then act appropriately for that decision.
>>16917698
this. best advice you will get.
>>16917698
>>16917700
Alright, for the sake of argument let's assume I do want to date her. What then?
Why do guys only change when you leave?
I was dating this guy for 3 years, I loved him he was just too unmotivated, we'd only ever watch movies and play games towards the end of the relationship, I asked him to change his ways so many times but he didn't and I left.
I seen photos of him recently and he looks really good, like he's been living at the gym or something, he's actually playing at open mics (he only ever used to play music in his room when no one was home) and apparently he's been learning Jiu Jitsu and hes in competitions for it now, why couldn't he do all this for me when I was with him?
I thought he was doing it to get me back so I messaged him and essentially he just told me to go fuck myself and called me a shallow pig for messaging him "now that [he] has muscles"
>>16917645
You probably dragged him down. Whats the one constant in all your failed relationships?
Honestly it was probably a kick in the butt when you left. Probably kick started him to get things done. People don't do unless they're motivated, guess the break up was his motivation.
>Why do guys only change when you leave?
Why do women think men are projects that have to be "improved"
I can't afford a gym pass but I want to gain muscle mass what are my options?
6'0
170 lbs
not toned
Push ups.
Squats. (Buy some free weights)
High protein diet.
>>16917518
download a program like p90x, and follow it strictly. its mostly body weight routines. just go slow isntead of fast, as that will help muscle growth as opposed to calorie burning.
essentially though its push ups and pull ups and squats.
>>16917532
thanks
how much does a set of free weights cost?
Shower at night or in the morning
>>16917480
Morning.
>>16917480
Morning.
And again at night if you had a heavy day/went to the gym.
Both, you filthy fuck.
I really want to stop jerking off as often as I do (once or twice daily) or completely. I have tried this before but I have absolutely no self control and can barely make it a day without fapping.
What are some steps I need to take to achieve this goal?
When u want to fap, look up gay porn. Its an instant boner killer
>>16916983
Find a woman to jerk you off with her hands or mouth or tits or vagina or ass instead.
>You don't want to cum on my titties anon?
There are very opposite viewpoints in the thread, and people gave reasons as to why the people with the other viewpoint is biased.
>>16913551
>>16916903
Are you actually asking for advice on advice on /adv/?
>>16916911
Yes, because that thread is confusing with polarised point of views. It is more confusing when both sides give reasons as to why they are biased.
People just like to paint things black-and-white or come out with some convictions that are dubitable when held up against the reality of human life. A lot of people on here are also very young.
You have to ask yourself if the ultimate outcome of an action should be the only determinant in judging its merit, and what exactly that means in regards to a romantic relationship.
Let's say you meet someone, get into a relationship with them. The relationship lasts three years, and then you have a painful breakup. Was it good or bad to enter that relationship in the first place?
Let's say you enter a relationship, and the other person dies in a random accident after two years. Would that be better or worse than the first option?
Let's say you enter a relationship. You go on to marry and have children. After 16 years, you go into divorce, have an messy breakup with teenage children and court and division of assets and what else. How many happy years justify the bad ones? Or does the existence of children mean everything was worthwhile?
There's fairly thin grounds on which to classify this kind of human interaction. If the only good relationship is the one that lasts until simultaneous death, or lasts a number of decades until the death of one person, or perhaps ends in a Hollywood-esque mutual understanding and frolicking on a green field, then it's very difficult to find that and get it right in one go - predicting that this will be the case in one go.
In my opinion, the only really sensible rule in human relationships can be emotion and will. If you feel an emotion, and if you have the will to follow it. Personally, I'd rather be hurt immensely and feel soul-devouring pain instead of spending my limited existence trying to perfect imperfection until I still die like any other fucker. Allowing the chance for failure, or the fear of it, to completely dictate one's actions just leads to paranoid paralysis.
>Back in high school
>Girl whose daddy is a lawyer and mommy runs a bank decides she doesn't like me
>Starts a rumor that I'm gay
>Goes out of her way to make life hell for me for years
>Fast forward to college
>She's using adderall, ritalin, vyvance etc as a study aid
>Gets heavily addicted to amphetamines
>Can't afford them anymore
>Switches to meth
>Drops out
>Fast forward further
>After work
>Spot someone familiar looking standing on a corner shortly after rush hour
>Isn't that....?
>It is!
>Roll up
>She visibly cringes as she leans into the window and recognizes me
>Doesn't walk away though
>Ask her how much
>$10 for her mouth, $20 for her pussy, $50 for her ass
>Give her $10 and pull into empty parking lot
>Bust in her mouth
>Come by the next day
>Bring a $20 this time
>It becomes a habit
>Mon-Thurs I come by during lunch with $10, and during rush hour with $20 to have some fun while waiting for traffic to clear
>Every Friday I bring $50
>Started taking her to a hotel room to spend the night with me a one Saturday a month
>Now I do it every week
>Did the math
>I'm going to blow over $10k on her over the course of a year
Not sure what to do.
>>16916778
that cheap?
she must be hideous
>>16916789
Not hideous, just very desperate. She hasn't worn clothes this nice in a looooong time though.
>>16916778
Brother, I can't say that I can really condone these kind if actions. I just can't see the appeal in revenge sex, and the fact that she's on the streets as a hooker saddens me, to be honest.
Sure she was a terrible person to you, but I would try to help her out, get her off drugs, and at least try to get her back on her feet.
Do her parents even know she's like this? If not I'd try and get in contact with them, because if they are as wealthy as you claim, then they most likely could afford to get her treatment, if they cared to.
How can I stop being attracted only to 2D?
I bet you've got some more more pressing problems you should be focusing on.
>>16916521
My life's actually going pretty well at the moment.
I got married and still am mostly just attracted to 2d
Barely have sex in real life ever...
What's so great about NEET life exactly? I was a NEET for a year after dropping out of uni and it was fucking awful. Time felt like a blur, my motivation and discipline dropped like a stone, and it extended to video games and anime, too. By that I mean when you can just have your entertainment whenever you want, it loses it's value and you get tired of it fast. Even when I was working a shitty retail job I still saved up and life felt like it was moving.
What do so many people see in NEET life, and why do NEETs constantly brag about it on other boards?
Probably because they're either trying to make themselves feel better about being the most useless members of society, or they genuinely believe that they're superior to others. Not mutually exclusive, btw.
>>16915914
This
>>16915914
This guy right here. They're delusional and trying to make themselves feel better.
I'm currently a NEET of 1 year 1 month and I'm fed up. Depression and laziness took hold andI'm feeling exactly like you described. About to snap each boring day and looking for any mcjob.
Dunno how people do it for more than a year. Had a buddy NEET it up for three and I'd go mad doing that shit. I'm already going crazy with what little spending money from savings I have. I try not to care about others opinions but when you literally say "I don't do anything" there's that moment where you realize you're pretty much being looked down on.
Is it possible for a man to get into a stable relationship with a woman who's into BDSM and can dominate me or am I just fucked up and that's only something in porn.
Anything is possible, but are you ready to get slapped in the dick?
>>16915706
I'm not into dick slapping if that question is literal
>>16915699
bump
I should be able to work this out because I'm a postgrad psychology student, but I don't know whether I'm depressed or have something else wrong with me.
It all started 3 years ago when I got dumped. I had the typical reaction which is similar to depression - loss of appetite, difficulty sleeping, loss of motivation, and frequently being upset. Naturally this passed over time, but I was still suffering and I turned to philosophy to try and understand what was happening to me (I know that makes me sound like an edgy teenager, but hey, it's what I did). I managed to get enough insight to not feel the emotional pain so much, but also reached a series of conclusions that made me think a happy life is only possible if you deliberately 'live a lie'. I don't want to explain this too deeply in case I convince anyone (it's not a fun mindset), but basically it comes from the fact that I don't believe in God, patriotism, eternal love, or any of the things that people use to give their lives 'meaning'. And so I live a life with no purpose.
And so my days pass and I don't feel as sad as I used to, but I still feel completely unsatisfied with my life, disappointed that I'm not able to connect with any real sense of enjoyment, and I think my state of mind is entirely logical (if unhealthy). I can't imagine any future circumstances that would make me happy, at least while I have this mindset (and I can't change it, because I believe it's logical). I can still laugh and joke with friends, and still go to the gym daily and get high grades out of habit, but I don't really enjoy anything I do. I have occasional suicidal thoughts but no intention of acting on them - life just sort of goes on, whether I like it or not.
So do you think I'm depressed, or is it something else? Any advice greatly appreciated.
Same here.
Can't enjoy anything. I do things I don't want to do and I don't really have a target in my life - day after day I get more tired with being a cynical fuck who just hates everything in this world.
>>16915691
Sucks. Do you feel like you've got depression, or is it something else?
also, bump
>>16915669
>a girl dumped me
>i turned to philosophy to try and understand what was happening to me
>i know thats edgy, but this next part isnt:
>TO BE HAPPY YOU HAVE TO LIVE A LIE
>i dont believe in literal fairytales, SO I LIVE A LIFE WITH NO PURPOSE
maybe try existentialism. the concepts vary, but its essentially boils down to two ideas
>life is inherently meaningless
>nothing is pre determined (we have choice)
therefore, it is our choices that give our lives meaning. when we pretend we dont have any choices, we stop being human and start being 'tools' that an indifferent universe uses to carry out its intricate plan.
I was with a guy who went behind my back to try and be with another girl during our relationship. He refused to try to make what we had work, I wanted to put more effort into it, try and fix things, and he just will not have it. The break up came out of nowhere, the day before we broke up he called me 'baby' and said that he could wait for me, he never talked about how he really felt or his concerns... I had to pry the truth out of him. Eventually he told me that if he would be with me, then he would just be settling. I was second best.
He still wants to be friends because, well, I'm a good friend. I'm not stupid, I know what my assets are. I'm too loyal for my own good. I don't think it's fair that he gets what he wants without even considering what I want, but I'm still a stupid bitch. I still love the person who loved me and I don't want to lose him. He knows I still love him, he doesn't care. It hurts, all the angst, the usual.
I've been trying to figure out why he doesn't love me anymore and he says that there's no reason. It just 'happened'. We've been constantly fighting over this for two months, now, ever since the break up. I've been trying to make sense of things and he just shuts me down, telling me that it's stupid to think that way. He expects me to just deal with losing the love of my life, and he can't even deal with me thinking a certain way. It's not like I'm searching for some life-altering event, I just think that certain factors might have led to this and the only thing he gives me is just 'nope im not in love with you anymore just because'. I'm just trying to find peace with this and it's like he can't allow that. He can't stand me thinking a certain way.
Am I being stupid? Am I making too much out of this, taking this too harshly? Or is this whole thing just fucked, and should I bail out now? How many of you are still friends with your ex?
I haven't seen it work out with exes before but maybe someone else has. I don't think there's a lot of luck with something like that.
Lol absolutely not. A new start for you.
>>16915574
>Am I being stupid?
Yes.
> is this whole thing just fucked, and should I bail out now?
Yes.
This whole thing was fucked from the start--or rather, from your end as a couple--and trying to be friends would never work out.
Closure is a myth.
Get out, move on, live your life. That is how you get "closure". Not by scrambling to try to find a why--you will never get one and it will just keep sucking you back in.
okay guys im back to do another small questions thread. if you have a question that you think is too small or not important enough for its own thread ask it in here and ill do my best to respond to everyone.
How do do a home run with a girl? (Straight sex)
First of all you have to get her phone number. You work on her until she is wet enough and then you ask her to meet. Then you bring her to your house and she will be horny enough to fuck with you
are college certificates worth much? i'm trying to finish an AAS and found that i can squeeze in a certificate on the side. it's not too much extra work but it still is a bit of time and cash that i rather not spend if i don't need to.
the two that I need for the cert are at some inconvenient time slots(late night or other weekdays i'm not at school meaning more driving and expenses) but at the same time, more is better right?
I started dating a guy, and he keeps asking me out but I hate going out.
I said yes once and we went to some cafe and it was okay I didn't die obviously but I would have way more fun eating at home.
My idea of fun is going on a run/hike together or going to a nice park, or staying home and playing video games...
I really don't like going out to restaurants/bars/karaoke things, especially if it's a "date" it just makes me uncomfortable. Yes I have social anxiety but I was treated for it and now it's not as bad.
I don't want to be a bitch to the guy and just say no to everything he suggests though...
What to do?
Jesus, you are a female version of me and I hate you.
There's nothing bitchy about making your own suggestions in place of his. It only sucks when your date shoots down an idea *and then offers no ideas of their own.*
Those sound like legitimate date activities...just suggest them.
