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So on another board I posted a picture of my self which I edited.
Immediately someone responded with the file name, and also my real life name.
How the fuck did they do that? and did I fuck up big time?
>>16918241
Google EXIF data. It's data pulled from whatever device you took the photo with, which you've often probably registered with a name or something. It can even include location data, if taken with a phone or something. It's easy to clear though.
Did you grab the pic off your facebook?
Well the filename is always right above the image. See? The one you have here is "fuggme.png"
So, was the filename of the image you posted on the other board your real name? If so, you fucked up.
But may not be actual trans? Tell me if I'm doing the right thing or not here. I'm happier with my body now but worry about what others think. And sometimes I feel so different from cis girls. I don't fit in with them and in some ways their minds work in ways my don't. But then it's the same for men. Don't fit in, notice obvious differences. So was transitioning the right thing to do?
>>16918238
You aren't trans. You just don't fit in. A lot of people don't.
Don't mutilate your body; just look for people that you feel understand you better.
>>16918238
this is probably one of the worst places to explore this, anon.
especially with people hyper sensitive against those so called 'trans' who have decided it for themselves and not done anything reassigning, or had the first word with a doctor about things, but still want to talk like they know something and can shame everyone else.
time to talk to the mental doctors that put you on this path again about your current mental state. They are best equipped and know the most about what you've done.
>>16918265
This.
I am a female and do not relate to other girls I just realised that my hobbies did not fit a label so people were not prone to understand. Over time I found people who also had hobbies they enjoyed without falling under sterotypes and labels. Find people who are passionate about their hobbies or live and breathe for them then you will find your people and will learn a lot more about yourself. Enjoy yourself OP you are you do need not labels.
I have an idea for a sort of mulitmedia art project i want to do, but I can't seem to get it off the ground because i'm constantly making revisions to it and i'm nervous to announce something i'm not done with.
I guess my question for you guys is, how / when do you feel satisfied with something you've made? How do you get out of the comfort zone of imagination and make it a reality? How can I tell myself my art is good enough to show to the public? Should i tell some close friends for motivation, or keep it all a secret until i'm eventually satisfied??
Drawing here, when I make a project I set a goal for something I want to improve. Say I really want to improve my rendering skills so I pick a subject I know I have issues with sometimes. An example being skin and armor once I write down what I want to generally accomplish I will brainstorm quick 5 min drawings for the composition of the piece usually I will do 10 of these. Onice I have that I make a pallet mix colours on a layer and then start adding to it. I only find I will scrap a peice if I am not accomplishing my goal of slowly improving.
Do Anon is your goal to...
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>>16918243
>Do Anon is your goal to get good to show others your work or to get good for yourself? To be happy you need to get good for yourself first and create a base then you can get good to share with others.
>If you get good for others first you will never be happy with your work.
well that's the problem. I've worked on things for years and never been happy with them. I have pretty low self esteem and i constantly compare myself to professionals...
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Analysis paralysis.
That's what keeps me going. It's hard to do something while analyzing it.
>how / when do you feel satisfied with something you've made?
when I finished it and review it. You set your own standard and if you can accomplish that (within the time limit, deadlines) you'll be a happy man. I usually left one day open before deadline for rework or some feedback.
>How do you get out of the comfort zone of imagination and make it a reality?
you just do it. Your comfort...
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I am a woman who is not attracted to other women in real life, yet, I like Hentai and porn with women with HUGE natural breast jumping up and down.
What is wrong with me?
I also get turned on when my sexual partner pays attention to mine. I am petite so no usual attention to them.
>>16918185
>petite
doesn't matter.
even a flat girl can highly sexualise herself through body contact and body language, and especially relative positioning.
>What is wrong with me?
Nothing. You were lucky enough to end up with an extremely mild and common fetish. Even with this you still might not even be far enough down the homosexual spectrum to qualify as bi.
Many, many people have much more unusual things turn them on for no discernible reason, and while I'm sure your issue is annoying and maybe a little confusing, it's nothing to be ashamed about. You could have ended up with a vore or piss fetish or something. I'd just suggest avoiding weird porn if you can help it...
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Female here I am not even gay and I like anime titties. Enjoy yourself and use protection when touching genitals. Enjoy your exploration friend.
How can I supplement my income as a contractor during dry spells of my main line of work? The money is good when I'm getting work, but when the industry is slow (this will happen every summer) My job would require me to leave for up to months at a time to work in a remote location, so I wouldn't be able to hold down any sort of part time work. The only option I can think of would be being a taxi driver, maybe one day I'll get that desperate but until then, what options do I have? I live in Australia btw
>>16918151
jesus i fucked up that second sentence bad, it's meant to read like this
>The money is good when I'm getting work, but when the industry is slow (this will happen every summer) all i can do is live off savings.
please respond
>>16918151
>Summers are slow
I don't know how it is there, but HVAC techs get a stupid amount of work during summer here. Maybe you can look into that.
How do I escape a life of wage slavery?
I work part time as a burger flipper, and not all my days are taken up by work but the days I am off all I wanna do is just play video games and forget.
I legit have no idea what I want out of life career wise, and that alone scares the shit out of me.
The fuck do I do?
Night classes
>>16918135
I don't make enough to buy a car, and I don't have my GED yet. That is another thing I am horrified about. I have always sucked ass at math.
Today I worked on front counter and barely made it through without having an anxiety attack.
18 years old and I can't fucking subtract decimals on the fly in my head.
Have you considered skilled trade? Amerifag here; welders, machinists and certified workers make great money for minimal investment/training.
A girl I hung out with over the weekend unfollowed me on social media and hasn't replied to my text today. It seemed like we were having fun. Should I move on?
>>16918121
lol
Unfollowed? Jeez, do you want a notarized letter?
>>16918130
How about a restraining order?
I met this girl recently and I think she is the most incredible girl in the world, she's completely different from anyone I've ever met and she's so unique. Her friend, her and I hung out last weekend after she asked if I wanted to hang out with her and it was the most fun I'd ever had in my entire life. I've been texting her recently and she replies to my texts but usually 5 mins later and she gives me this feeling that she's not interested in me. I plan on asking her out later in the week but I don't know if I should if she's not even...
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Date other girls and see if she gets jealous
Ask her out and you'll have an answer. If you don't, you'll keep wondering if you should have just asked
>>16918139
How do I do it? Do I just start off a conversation and talk about something for a little while then bring it up or what?
I've fucked up really bad.
I go to University, and I've been diagnosed with Schizoaffective disorder, and I have panic attacks and general anxiety, so basically I've missed a third of my classes because I've been too mentally ill for even the campus mental health center to properly treat me. I dropped one class, got a D in the second, and I'm anxiously awaiting failing my last final.
Is there anything I can do to retake these classes without fucking up my transcript on the grounds of me having severe psychological disorders? Like an appeal...
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>>16918114
funfact: future employers wont even care what your undergrad degree even is, much less that you had to retake some classes
>>16918123
Is this true if I'm a Psychology major?
>oh the irony
Also, my psychiatrist recommended temporary hospitalization if that's relevant
Femon here,
My childhood friend gives me nightmares to this day. She was very normal until her teens once she hit that she became the devil in sheep's clothing. I tried so hard to help her. I saw her do unforgivable things. She made me do things that cause me a lot of problems. When I was 17 I caught her pimping out some 14 even 13 year old girls I did not know what to do so I ran away. I felt guilty that I did not report it to the police. I have trouble sleeping at night I fear she will find me and make me come with her or she will just snap one day and kill my...
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>>16918085
If she is really that big of a threat to where you suspect her of murder, you need to report her to the police or whoever the authority is in your town. Make an anonymous report, say you fear for your life. You can still tell them about what you saw with the others. Get this girl on a radar.
>femanon here
Why does it fucking matter
Jesus
>>16918087
I have no evidence and she is extremely manupliative she is very attractive and uses that. Knowing her she start crying and saying I was an ex or something. She is very sneaky and clever. She easily be able to hide her trail. She has no clue where I went because my family moved. I have not been bothered in 3 years now which is good but I feel really guilty that I know what she is capable of and she is out there hurting people.
Welp, anyone can help me please I have a question, my girlfriend and I are into some pretty interesting sexual behaviors like a lot of choking and pain related stuff mostly being done to her. She then told me she wants to get hurt like in a moshpit at a big metal show like she desires to be hurt by really big motherfuckers, "to the point of bleeding" is this sexually stimulating for her or is this more like for herself personally?
Who knows, but it sounds like it's time to hit the gym.
>>16918080
I'm pretty big already, and much much larger than her so, maybe your right I need to get even bigger
Neither, it's natures way of trying to get her killed off because she's crazy.
pls dont delete my thread
How do you approach a chick you not really have a connection with?
So okay, there is a chick that i like, but we don't really have any connection really. Usually, if i liked a girl we had some sort of a connection, such as mutual friends/class together/whatever and i never really approached a girl by myself in that way before, all chicks that liked me have approached and asked me out by themselves. I have rejected many, because i am too picky i guess and now im 18 and virgin, but whatever, thats not the point.
The point is:How do i approach...
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Stride over
Stick out hand
Say, "Hi, my name is ________, what's yours?"
as you shake her hand
>>16918049
>now im 18 and virgin
Lord sweet Jesus. No one cares. Stop telling women this. No one cares. Literally. NO ONE.
There is too much pressure on a guy for being a n00b.... but jesus man... just fuck her. she won't care. seriously. for real. stop kidding yourself. you're not in a ROMCOM.... just.... fuck her, enjoy it, she'll enjoy it, and get out. get it over with.
you are putting too much value on it. just fuck her and get it done.
>>16918049
bump
I talk to myself. An unhealthy amount. I try to keep it to times when I'm 100% sure I'm alone, but there have been a few instances where I've slipped up and unintentionally spoken to myself around other people.
I'd like to stop because I know it's seen as a sign of insanity. I don't think I'm insane, although I might be who knows. Either way I'd like to stop.
advice?
Just take note of it when you do. Keep noticing it. You'll stop.
Meditation
My brother (used to) do that even when not alone.
I do that too but not yet when I'm not alone.
I know that the reason behind these actions is that we ask ourselves too many questions, like whether this was a good or not decision.
I'd advice to not turn to the past or future but rather the present. And if you can, shut your brain or let it do the reasoning without words.
So I have a fear of guns and a distrust of cops. I've always been scared of guns and in my experience, cops have always done more harm than good. However, my boyfriend is very pro-gun and he's about to begin training at the police academy. I guess my thing is that I'd like to get over both my fear and my distrust because I care about him and I don't want to be scared anymore, plus my fear of guns makes me feel like a huge wimp. Are there any ways to do this or just overcoming fear in general?
First, you need to figure out where the fear comes from.
Why are you scared of guns?
Do you have any specific situations that make you distrust the police?
>>16917979
Why are you afraid of cops? They're literally there to protect you.
The best way to overcome fear is to confront it. Go shoot a gun at a range, get training... maybe start with something simple, like a BB Gun or .22 that couldn't really hurt you or anyone else if you tried. Just get comfortable.
>>16917985
>Why are you afraid of cops? They're literally there to protect you.
I'm black
Any psychologists or neuropsychs here?
I recently completed a battery of neuropsychological tests and the examiner found several learning disabilities in addition to depression. They said I needed disability accommodations in college and I should get career counseling though my state's vocational rehab. Dept.
Here are the diagnoses:
Axis 1: depression, delayed sleep phase, adhd, dyscalculia (sequencing), residual language disability
Axis 2: deferred
Axis 3: n/a
Axis 4: emancipation, career planning
Axis 5: GAF 70
In spite of all...
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>I recently did these online surveys! Somebody validate them!
No you fucknose, if you were actually evaluated you'd be listening to the doctors right the fuck in front of you, not random shithead #8 from the internet.
>>16917975
No I'm posting here just to see what people think. I've already heard my doctor's opinion.
It entirely depends on what you want to do with your life, and if you actually do it. If you want something badly enough you can have it.
Two years ago I was diagnosed with PTSD, temporary psychosis, and depression, scored a 42 on GAF. I'm doing much better now and am starting the path towards becoming an MD.
It really depends on whether you're willing to seriously examine yourself and start making changes. I have an IQ S/B scale of 132, and that didn't stop me from dropping out of school the first time round. Stop telling yourself you're smart....
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