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w-what rule did my thread violate ;___;
all, probably
stupid kike mods
the cuck thread?
it was 300 posts of pure flamebait
>>16917966
no the selling-self-as-a-housewife-over-the-internet one lel
I have a bipolar gf. she is maniac, she got medication now. but i still feel its not her. how much time i have to wait to get her back? she says she love me and wants to be beside me. but it sound like lies, like she is mocking me. i need help. i dont know what to do.
My mom is bi polar. I tell her I love her and sometimes it makes her angry. I have met a couple bi polar people they are like regular people only their emotions sometimes do not fit the situation and it is not really how they feel. After a while of being with her when she acts out you will be able to tell what she really feels when she acts out its like her mind gets trapped behind as unrelated emotions take over. If you show you love her and do things because you want her to be comfortable it will help you be able to get to the point I am with my mom where I can tell how she really feels and try to get rid of whatever set her off.
How long have you been together? And do you have any of your own issues? If you're paranoid about how she really feels, you can't be the stable one in the relationship. Two unstable people can't work together well to solve things.
Medication can vary. Sometimes people need to switch meds because they aren't working.. Bipolar will still be a problem and still cause issues, even when treated. It doesn't cure it or make it go away.
>>16917945
Run away. Run very far away.
Mentally ill people like this are not worth the time or tears, and you'll need plenty of both.
Leave unless you're a completely unattractive neckbearded social retard who will never get laid by anyone else.
She's really not worth it.
I overreact and overthink everything. How can I be more decisive? It's ruining my life.
Even things as minute as posting a Facebook status or making a Reddit account are too stressful so all I do is post anon here, I can't stand the thought of people knowing too much about me and thinking I'm a retard
Please help /adv/
Sorry for the stupid picture, I thought maybe someone would enjoy it
Why do you hate yourself so much?
>>16917939
My parents always told me how much I sucked at everything, and it's still true as an adult. I don't have any real hobbies or talents. So I try not to express myself IRL and just listen to other people and learn as much as I can. It's just so much comfier than putting myself out there, but it sucks because sometimes I really have some information other people don't but I'm afraid to say anything
So recently i had my birthday (25) and a neet who does freelancing to make a living. I´ve been feeling down lately thinking i have never gotten a girlfriend before or someone i could really call a close friend. Wanted to hear your advices on how to open myself more, i was thinking on maybe going to some bar or something, but i am scared i would look like a loser going by myself. Any help?
>>16917859
Bars can be difficult if you aren't really confident to begin with.
Have you tried a site like meetup? It's essentially clubs for adults. Then you can meet people who like the same things you do in order to start conversations.
If you live in a big town, there might be meetups for the type of work you freelance which could be both networking and meeting new people.
>>16917868
Im from Argentina so i dont think we got a variation of that site over here.
>>16917868
Well i´ll be damned there is people from around me there. I will try that, thanks.
I want to know the ins and outs and how to use this site.
Lurk more
read the faq
>>16917864
>Lurk more
this.
browse the boards until you find one (or more) you like and then simply read the threads for fun and post when you want. it's all anon so you can post whatever the fuck and then reply to your post and call youself a faggot and no one will know. it's beautiful
So, there is this girl that i assume likes me, and i like her.
We normally would go bowling or watch a movie or some shit like that
But we kinda never hang out at each others house because it always gets awkward with both of us not knowing what to do, Im really bad at holding conversations and i think she already knows that...
Anyway, she told me she just wants to "come over and we'll figure out what to do then"
So unless some miracle happens where i get social skills then sexual ANYTHING is probably out of the question...
Any advise on what to do? We're both 18 and both really nerdy people
>>16917825
get some condoms.
>>16917825
...she just wants to be around you.
This is the best case scenario. Put on a shitty movie, sit close to her on the couch, and find a stupid reason to touch her.
I swear to God, anon, if she say's that she's cold and you go get her a sweater I will find you and end you.
>>16917846
But thats the problem! I've always done that with other girls but this one is kinda, just, blank...
whenever we watch movies she kinda just sits there, silently and not saying anything or moving....
How do i move in on that?
So up until recently I thought I had a mature hairline, but after further prospecting I've noticed "baby hairs" near the edges of my hairline which is a major symptom of balding. Now I'm in full disarray and panic mode.... I have a legit fear of hair loss and I don't have thousands for replacement surgery.
Can anyone who's experienced with this sort of thing identify which one it is? I'm only 21 and not very wealthy, so if it is the worse of the two what are my options? Is there any cheap means of controlling future hair loss if it is balding? Send help
More info:
I use axe putty styler and fructis shampoo used to "strengthen" hair... not sure how those affect anything.
Just shave it all off, nobody gives a shit.
I'm sad that I'm balding not because I care what others think, but because I like my hair.
>>16917836
I literally don't give a shit what others think... I just really enjoy my hair, same as you. I'll do what I can to keep it as long as I can.
Second, I have no idea if it's actual balding.
Like what i've said above, I'd like to start going back to church because I used to as a kid and for some reason stopped. I'm not a religous radical I really just like a nice place to go for a couple of minutes and enjoy the company of other nice people because I feel there's too few of them around these days.
So now my real asking starts here, which churches are safe to attend? I don't know anything about the different kind other than the differences between catholic and protestant (catholics are bad pls no catholic).
Any other church goers out there willing to help me out?
>>16917768
I forgot to add
The church I went to as a kid was Moravian and then when we moved we attended a UCC.
>>16917768
That depends. What do you like about church?
Do you like the ritual? The communal feeling? Singing? Private prayer?
>>16917768
?which churches are safe to attend?
in what fucking sense?
So, I'm, 20, 6'3 and 288 pounds, I've been exercising since last September but I recently had a conversation with my friend and he said I'll need surgery for my skin if I ever hit the weight goal I want (201)
It's pretty much killed my motivation for working out, it feels like I've ruined my body for the rest of my life and that even if I lose weight I won't have the body that I want.
I just feel like killing myself, and could use some advice.
Lose the weight slow and steady. Work out. You're only 20 years old your skin can come back.
>>16917625
If you have the money for surgery then just go on jenny craig for six to eight months.
If you follow the system you'll get to your goal and you won't have skin like a flying squirrel.
I lost over 100 lbs in less than a year when I was 23. The skin-sagging was not that bad for me, but everyone is different.
What you ought to do, if it's possible, is go to your doctor and ask them about it.
GF has been liking the pics on Instagram of 3 guys she's had sex with before. She's been doing this before we got into a relationship. What I don't get is she talks about how much she hates one of those guys who were her ex's. Like absolutely hates. She always tells me how much she hates how he treated her and who he was. Another guy was a ONS who ditched her and another was just a casual sex guy.
Am I just insecure and jealous or what?
And I doubt they talk. She put my fingerprint on her phone and doesn't care when I snoop around
please help.
Also she's had plenty of opportunities to get back with these guys but she hasn't. Including her ex that she hates.
It sounds like she still likes the attention of these guys, even if she doesn't need it right now.
She wants to make sure they're still around if you aren't.
I don't have any dreams or illusions.
Nothing excites me
I don't have any important goal in life. I want to extend my lifespan as much as possible (Ray Kurzweil, etc.) and to live a comfortable life with minimum stress. I don't have any bigger professional goals (of course I will always try to improve and I have a couple ideas for a startup, but I'm fine already).
I want to live in my actual city (Madrid) forever.
Nothing really excites me. I'm not interested into displaying wealth or even trying to become rich because I want to avoid crime happening to me. Rich women bore me. Women bore me. They attract me, I fuck them and they bore me. I don't want kids. I don't want pressures in my life. I'm the unwanted product of unprotected sex. If a wealthy woman appears, a woman that can't ruin me financially and it's good, and let's me fuck other women if so I please (while she doesn't fuck anybody else) maybe I'd have kids.
But I have no illusions.
Playing VR games maybe.
Becoming a cyborg and exploring the Universe (if we get to that point).
I even think that the end of the human species is near. Not because of war or anything. We'll just trascend what it's now considered human. We will enhance our senses, enjoy the nanoworld, the picoworld, maybe other dimensions. It will be fun for a while. After that, emotions won't be needed (outdated mechanism of survival), and everything will be moot. We may be comprised into nanoscopic particles able to travel instantly from any part of the universe to the other.
My instincts dominate me (hunger, sexual desire...) but after I satisfy them, there's nothing. Reading about anti-aging and science, playing some games... but that's for a while. I'm self realized, but I don't want to impress. It seems that the approval of other people is what drives us. If you don't need it, you are psychologically dead.
Anybody feels like this?
Please fall down the stairs.
But why would any of that make you want to extend your lifespan?
>>16917508
Go outside and take a walk, everyone has ambitions, trust me and the only thing that makes you not think so is staying in your house overthinking things.
Go to a place full of people and socialoze, if taking a walk doesn't cut it, get lost in the world of people, drama and life. Whether you like it or not, humans are social creatures and as long as you're human, my plans will work.
>18
>Senior in HS
>Girl I'm talking to is a senior, too
>Live in small-ish town (20,000 people or so across a very large area)
>Girl moved here last semester, doesn't really have that many friends
>Eats lunch with her father, doesn't really talk to anybody besides me and a few other people
>Get the feeling she's really into me, she said she thought I had a "beautiful face" last Friday
>Sends a fuckton of mixed signals, in large part because she's really shy and awkward I think
>She's really fucking cute (like a solid 8 imo)
>Never really thought I had much of a chance with her until recently when I found out more shit about her and started talking to her more
>Not really haughty/stuck up or w/e like I used to think, just really shy/reserved
>Don't really talk to her outside of my 5th period
>Today I asked her after class if she liked a friend of mine that she talked to sometimes, and her response was "don't say that, or I'll think about that all day"
>Don't really talk to her outside of class, I never thought about getting her number/facebook until very recently
>Really want to talk to her and get to know her better, but I'm afraid of fucking something up or how I can tell if I'm coming off to strong (which is a very bad tendency of mine)
>My friends tell me that I should just go for it, more inclined to do just that
Can any anons or femanons (preferably shy ones) give me some advice on what I should do or put this into perspective for me? I can't really read her like I can other people.
Bump
>holyfuck
>>16917499
Just fucking do it man, what have you got to lose really? You will feel better for asking, because at least you feel like a man for trying than a pussy for not doing anything at all and never leaving the comfort zone.
>>16917620
Nothing, really. Might as well start pursuing her then
My ex and I have been broken up for a few months and we're still in a bit of a complicated situation.
She started dating other people immediately. She had a dating profile up and I found out she made out with some guy the week after we broke up. What is making this hard is I don't feel like dating anyone right now and want to focus on improving myself and I thought she would take a similar path.
We've been in contact more lately and she started saying none of the guys she went on dates with make her feel like I do and she still has feelings for me, but we need to work on some things. Granted I had to start the conversation and I had to find out about this one date and her dating profile on my own. She says she hasn't slept with anyone else, which I guess could be possible but I'm sure anyone would assume the opposite. I just feel strung along that she would say something like that and still want to stay on the dating scene. Through some snooping I found out she invited the same guy she went on the first date with over the next day that we had that conversation.
This is fucking me up a bit, I don't know how to deal with this. I've never done casual dating and I feel like she's stringing me along if she's still trying to date other people. I'm not sure what to say to her aside from I don't want to be in contact with her until she's 100% not dating anyone else. Hell I'm not sure I can get over her earlier actions but it seems possible.
She's probably going to cuck you if you go back to her desu m8. Obviously she wasn't very torn about it if she started looking for other guys immediately. Idk. I'd tell her to take a hike.
>>16917458
Move on, she's stringing you along.
>>16917484
>>16917478
Yeah I supposed it feels kind of fucked. The reason she told me she started dating right away is that her biological clock was ticking and she wanted to "feel pretty". I was pretty shocked when I found it out, I didn't have her pegged as this kind of person. Maybe I just love who she was.
Is it expensive to live in Canada? specifically Vancouver. I'm gonna attend college there in a few moths, so I'd like to know.
How much does a single person there need every week to live kinda comfortably?
More like the most expensive city in Canada surrounded by junkies
Vancouver is expensive. Gas is a lot, insurance is a lot, rent is a lot, and the vacancy rate is right under 1%.
Unless you're coming from money, you're gonna have to choose between having a car and a place to live.
Good luck with UBC though, hope you learn mandarin okay.
>>16917448
depends on your deifnition of expensive and comfortable
>Know I need to seek professional help
>For some reason, I'm just too goddamn terrified to talk to my doctor about it
How do i build myself up to actually do it?
>>16917413
write on your forehead in sharpie. dont cancel appointment.
OR
make a friend go with you to see it through
if your answer to any of this is
>BUT ID JUST NOT DO THAT TO BEGIN WITH
then why ask for advice?
>>16917429
I can't even bring myself to call and make the appointment, honestly. I'm sure once I make that appointment I'll probably keep it
>>16917439
then call and make the appoint,ment.
