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I'm fed up with seeing everyone else in a relationship and can't even get a girl to keep liking/show interest in me. I've been told that I'm not ugly by men and women alike, I have a manager job type position, a decent running car that doesn't look beat up and a place of my own that I don't even pay rent on because of my job... yet I get nothing. I even lost 70+ pounds and I still feel like a ghost to women, even if I do manage to flirt/make them laugh. I'm at the point where I just want to throw it all away and suicide. I feel like even my...
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How girls have you actually asked out?
>I want to die because I can't get a gf
Your problem is that you think in memes.
>>16919473
I would say well over 5-10 so far in a span of 4 years.. idk, not necessarily want to kill myself because I don't have a girlfriend.. I feel like dying because I feel unwanted, even by my own family.
>>16919488
Also forgot to mention I'm talking to my ex again, and even she at first seem interested in getting back together, but now she seems like she doesn't which is partly why I'm giving up and saying fuck it.
What kind of exercises I could do in my room that will make me lose weight? I don't have money to go to the gym and nor do I have money to buy aparatus for this mission (so exercises that wont use anything besides towels and things I can find at home already)
I need to lose 10kg in 2 months.
Pic related just cuz I want to be as thin as her.
Read /fit/ sticky
Count the amount of calories you take in.
Go for a jog every morning.
EAT LESS CALORIES THAN YOU BURN A DAY
>>16919380
Run, faggot. Gtfo out of your little cave and go see that big, yellow ball that most of us call the sun.
Also, 70% of weight loss is nutrition.
Exercisizing won't mean shit if you keep cramming potato chips into your fat face.
Learn2salad. Vinegar dressing, not blue cheese
One more thing - 10 kg = 10 weeks. Any faster and you won't keep the weight off. You're just crash dieting.
> Inb4 buh buh I like my junk food
Then stay fat, weakling.
So not to long ago I made a thread about finding my girlfriend in a porn video. We had a huge fight and I went in ready to end things. But when she started crying I lost my resolve.
Conversation kinda went like
>your friend had no right to dig into my past and I dont want to talk about it. Let it go.
>We need to talk and what it means for us
>I do want to. It my past and I have to right not to talk about it
>Just like I have to right to kick you out...
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Knock her up senpai
How attractive is she? Show the link so I can judge.
How good of a girlfriend is she in other areas?
Sometimes the past is the past and she could be devoted to you now if you give her a hard time on it but let it go
>>16919273
Don't be surprised if your friends are urging you to break up so they can attempt to grab a piece of that delicious pie.
>I dont want to be with a slut but then I dont want to hurt her.
What is your definition of a slut? Are you unhappy that she was with others before you or is it that she was paid to do it?
If she's no longer in porn, and you both care for each other, I don't see how it's cucking you. A lot of people throw that term around on here...
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Greetings,
I'm not from the "planet" "earth", and was wondering what advice you might have for a "visitor" if any?
I would be more than happy to answer questions as well, if there are any.
What's your purpose again?
>>16919233
go away
lizard people got here first
Morning/Afternoon/Evening the /adv/ board...
So to make a very long story short, I had recently called the quits of a girlfriend who I had loved. The relationship was not perfect and it was just not going to work after five years of dating.
Now this is the part I do not understand. She knows that I quit this relationship, yet she continues to text me on a daily basis about how she loves me, how she grossly wanted kids with me but never had the courage to say it, how she was looking forward to the days of us getting married, and all of this bullshit.
I do...
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>>16919219
You have two options.
1) Tell her, point blank, that you are really through and you would like her to stop talking to you. Unless you do want her to be your friend long term (I advise against this, since she's already going batshit), don't tell her you want to be friends. Tell her you really, truly are over; that it could never work; and that you're moving on and will not communicate further with her. You wish her a good life, and a happy future, but you won't be in it.
Then, cut...
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>>16919244
While she may grow bored and leave you alone, it's unlikely she'll do such without a final lashing out. Consider her, at this point, to be a stranger regardless of your history; she gave up any chance of you two even being friends when she began behaving this way.
She will likely contact your friends. Do not tell her to stop, do not get involved. When THEY talk to you, explain the situation. If you don't think they'll take your side on ignoring her, tell them you had to end it because you...
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>>16919244
Both options are great, but I think the first option wouldn't work in the situation I am in. I told her something along those lines the same day we broke up, yet she continues to text me. Honestly, I just want to avoid talking to her until she gets her head out of her ass and acts like a damn woman instead of a child.
The second option is what I'm gonna be doing. I'd be willing to talk to her about this whole thing, but I know that if I talk to her, I'm going to be baited back in being...
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Hey, so I just started college a month ago.
I moved in with my girlfriend
I enjoy late nights, going to play d&d all night or 20+ hour gaming sessions every now and then.
I don't want to have the responsibility of having to cook her dinner every x,y,z night or have to eat with her every night.
I want my free space and to be able to have freedom before I have to join the workforce.
She hates this and thinks we might break up because of it.
I had a bad childhood and I just don't feel happy being under pressure like that.
advice?
>>16918834
You're going to have to learn how to take care of yourself with or without your girlfriend.
If she breaks up with you, you'll probably be cooking meals alone and wishing you had just bucked up sooner. It's only an hour out of your day, or less if you make something like stir fry.
If you get good at cooking she will probably get jealous and pick up the slack, most women would prefer to be the best cook in the house.
>>16918857
Yeah, it's not I rely on her. I make 'dinner' at like 4:30 pm for myself. But she won't eat it when she gets home because I put tomatoes in it or it has gluten (She allergic)
She won't eat mushrooms onion ect.
Made me go across the street to get her macdonalds but I talked her into coming.
She wants me to sleep with her every night. We had to talk about a bed time for me, I have to be asleep by 1 am or she gets pissed. Because I have more 'energy'.
It's...
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>>16918870
I understand :/ relationships can be vexing, but if she's worth it then the effort is well invested.
Doesn't really seem like you'd do everything and anything for her, which isn't an end all for all relationships but is impacting yours.
When I met my boyfriend he was 19, I went through so many WOW and Diablo expansions that it was hell trying to get his attention. For years I put up with the constant gaming until we found a system that works.
He can play late but has to play quietly,...
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Hi /adv/, I've posted here before but I am going to post this again as I have something to add.
I'm 38. I've never had a date in the past as I had depression and was very reclusive. I'm now better, but from what I understand, dating is already too late for me. I see 30-year-old femanons posting on /adv/ and people already tell them it is too late, they're a loser, all the good ones are taken, they are stuck with creeps or forever alone. The fact that I've never dated is perceived as a red flag by men. All is hopeless.
I have more to...
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Stop being a whiny retard and keep dating
>>16918829
What is there to see? Like people in that thread said, dating a guy with kids just leads to extreme unhappiness in almost every single case. And you know, the dating pool is pretty much mostly divorced men and most of these men have kids as most people choose to have kids.
>>16918824
Shotgun to the head, get hit by a train...
Lostallhope <---- This site has good coverage of methods.
Unless you're looking for the 'holy grail' (no pain pls) the answer to which is probably not pills, since you're more likely to end up in the hospital with a fucked up liver and kidneys and more pain than you would like.
The shotgun is reported to be the best, since you blow your head off, the pain has no time to register.
I'm Asian. I sound pretty American as I practice really hard but there is this really annoying Asian undertone that will never go away no matter how hard I try. It doesn't matter whether I am speaking English or another language or just singing - the Asian undertone is always there. How to get rid of the "Asianess" in my voice? Nobody likes an Asian accent as opposed to other non-native English accents which are perceived as "sexy" and "exotic" by the general public. Nobody will think of an Asian accent as sexy, even if it's an American...
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>>16918790
my gf has the same problem, shes gotten better since we started living together because she practices all the time with me
>>16918790
That "asianness" is hard to change, it has more to do with facial structure affecting tone. Over time I guess it may help to try and imitate speech and mouth movement of native speakers.
>>16918822
But a lot of Asians who grew up in America sound fully American.
>>16918820
See? It is a "problem". I absolutely loathe my voice because there is nothing I can do about it. It is something that I am plagued with for my entire life.
I fell in love with a girl with borderline personality disorder. We were together for two very hard years.
It ended 5 months ago. She has only gotten worse since then.
I'm also from a broken home, like her, and really wanted to help her get better. I really wanted to be her man.
Anyone have experience with borderlines? How should I approach everything?
My grandmother is borderline. They don't change.
>>16918778
You shuld leave.
4 years lost here.
2 was pure pain. I hoped that love would have helped,and in the end, win.
She went worst till 23 y/o. She had an aout with the same issue gettin in and out hospital.
I did my best, but it dosn't matter.
For once it's not really "about you"
did she get an official diagnosis?
>>16918798
she had an AUNT
Girls would you go on 1 date with a 50 year old married man for $200?
Asking for a friend who is considering this
>>16918626
It is prostitution but if you're okay with that, then do what you please. Morally, it is shameful.
>>16918626
go to sugardaddy sites
lots of sugarbabies there
>>16918626
Depends if she has to pay and no profit is made then no. Profit is life.
theres this girl I like and she expressed interest back at me, even asking me out on a date that she paid for
things were going really well
we chatted for a few hours at a time talking about our childhoods and stuff like that, I thought she was really opening up
I was feeling really good about it but now she hasn't replied to my text in a few days, and the last 2 times we talked were not really conversations, mostly just hey hows it going type stuff
she might have just been busy with this big end of term project but I'm not sure, she didnt...
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>>16918609
Girls use their phones 24/7, if she didn't reply within 2 hours you should delete her number.
you are friend zoned kill yourself
holy shit guys she just texted me back how long do I wait before replying I dont want to even look at what she said in case it notifies her that I read it
I hope it has elves.
Oh my god, I completely forgot Questionable Content existed.
>>16918397
Play Tinder, it doesn't have elves but the gameplay mechanics are pretty easy to learn and the userbase is huge.
>>16918399
I bet in real life, the creator doesn't look as girly as the character and probably barely passes as a woman.
If she calls you sweet, does that mean you're in the friendzone?
How are we supposed to know?
>>16918357
Not necessarily, a lot of other things come into play
>>16918357
It depends. Is that all she has to say?
If so then yes. The same can be said if she says "he's a nice guy"
I've been friends with this girl for almost a year.
We've basically become best friends and I've developed feelings for her. She flirts too and likes to be alone with me and stuff.
The problem is... she has a boyfriend.
He is the opposite of me and is the most boring person you'll ever meet. She sticks with him but obviously prefers everything with me. I don't know, will she leave him? What could be the reasons for still being with him? Is she afraid to leave the relationship or have one on the side, or am I being friendzoned? Help plx
>>16918056
those are typically the worst kind of girls. you are either friend zoned right now, or she's trying to decide if you're an upgrade over her current bf
lets say she does dump him and you two start dating, don't you think she might pull this shit on you?
>>16918056
that's not a girl, that's matt zuckerberg
>>16918064
please
I'm at a party, minding my own business, and this girl starts chatting me up. We share a few jokes, and I introduce myself "Hi, I'm anon" and I put out my hand out to shake hers, just as courtesy. She responded as pic related. I didn't think anything of it, but according to one of my friends you don't do that to a girl you're trying to flirt with.
Is shaking a girls hand when introducing yourself really THAT bad? I just thought it was common courtesy to do that when meeting someone.
>>16917912
It's literally not a big deal at all. Maybe she's just bad at handshakes.
Don't be an aspie about it but a casual handshake is totally chill
Unless conducting business, I don't shake hands with men.
Learn some gender roles.
>>16917915
Good. I didn't think it was bad at all, but my friend said "Dude you're such a fucking idiot" and I started rethinking that and thinking "Holy fuck he's right."
>>16917916
What are you even on about?
