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What are some things I could do to try and turn casual friendships into close ones? I feel like I have not made any "real" friends in a long time, and being that I'm graduating college soon I kind of want to make some more close friends while moving forward. I know most people will say closeness comes with time and experience, and you're right, but I feel like I will never have the same amount of time to bond with people as I did with my best friends in high school and my childhood(who are still my best friends now). In high school you were around people...
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>>16916308
pls respond
Kinda same. Bump
I'm absolutely crazy about a guy, like I can't eat or sleep or think about anything else. It's been like this for damn near a year
How do I regain my sanity? He doesn't feel the same way
I'm male but I know how this feels.
The best thing is to talk to him as much as you can and you'll become less and less interested.
>>16916334
We talk every day and have done so for years, he's the most interesting person in the world.
>>16916340
Anon, why can you never be with this person?
A quick question. What does it mean when a guy says he sees you as a sister? It's pretty obvious to me but I just want to be sure.
I'll also ask what does it mean when a guy constantly mentions his girlfriend to you?
You're being friendzoned.
>>16916301
How do I save my honor from this embarrassing situation? Do I just disappear without saying anything? A rejected woman is 100 times worse than a rejected man and I don't want to make him feel important and I'm scared that he tells everyone that I wanted him and he friendzoned me.
So how do I disappear without him thinking stuff? I never confessed myself to him by the way but he still said stuff like this and I feel humilliated.
>>16916315
Here's an idea.
Get a dude to stand in as your boyfriend and ask the guy and his girlfriend out on a double date. That will communicate that you feel the same way about him without saying it directly. If he and his girlfriend happen to accept, cancel and lie about some shit that came up. Don't reschedule.
>meet qt grill in uni class
>we talk a lot this quarter, become decent friends
>I start to catch feelings for her
>pretty sure I made it obvious; asked her to my club sport formal, but she couldnt go. It was something she 100% could not get out of and she apologized a LOT
>pretty sure shes into me too
BUT
>2 months ago she flew to a MALE friend's university to go to his formal
>hes flying in today to go to a concert with her
>MAJOR FUCKING RED FLAGS REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
what do you lads think? I wanted to date this grill but this shit makes me uncomfortable. She says they are "just really good friends"....
bump
You dont have any pull on her.
Just kill youself and save us from reading your threads as you spiral into depression.
>>16916416
How do you mean?
Also
>implying girls have any effect on my wellbeing
epic projection 8)
Howdy, first time poster.
So I'm dating this guy, we've been together since December 25, 2015. He's great; we both love each other, we enjoy talking to each other (I should also note this is a LDR), and we've been enjoying things. The only issue is, though, he has to leave for college in Germany on May 27th, and that's when we'll break up. We both agreed on breaking up when he goes, since we don't want a LDR that has such a small chance of actually meeting up (we're about a four hour drive apart as of now).
So that's...
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>>16916272
Dead relationships (relationships with a set end date) should all have a built-in clause that you are free to break it off at any time should you find a better relationship, on the condition of immediate notice to the other party.
There's zero point in passing up on a good potential relationship in order to keep a dead relationship staggering on for a few more weeks.
>>16916272
I forgot to mention, howdy faggot, go fuck yourself you little whiny bitch, thank you for posting.
Alright, so my next door neighbor has this massive great dane who they leave outside all day long and even at night sometimes. The fucker barks SO loudly constantly. The dog barks at anything and nothing all at once, my bedroom window is parallel to their backyard fence and this shit drives me fucking nuts and I cant have my window open for fresh air. This has gone on for a year or more, probably more. I just cant stand this shit anymore and I want to call animal control.
What I want to know is, will they be able to do something?
Do I need video documentation of the...
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>>16916197
what I want to know is, why aren't you asking animal control these questions? are you afraid that as soon as they pick up the phone and you say "hi I got a problem with the neighbour's dog" they're gonna drive over there and taze it to death?
just call them, explain the situation, tell them you don't want for anything bad to happen to the dog but you want to know what your options are.
or you can just call the police. if there's a noise ordinance in your town they...
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just thought of something else too. if you get the cops involved, but the dog doesn't get taken away, the barking might stop for a while but then start back up again because some people are just ignorant fucks.
if that happens and you find yourself calling more than a couple times, consider getting some of the other neighbours involved too. they're probably as sick of it as you are, and if there are multiple people complaining about the same person, it carries a lot more weight and it doesn't look like one person just bitching to make trouble for someone else.
I had a similar problem last summer: neighbors left their dog chained to a tree and it would bark incessantly, only for the owner to open the door and scream "Shut up!"
I called county animal control and left a message explaining the situation, including the owner's address. The next day a town cop pulled up, listened to the dog for awhile, then talked to the owner. Haven't had a problem since.
Just call your local animal control office and pray.
Hello,
So I've started to find myself over the years as "unlikable." I've never been called this by anyone but I've kind of given myself that title. I have plenty of friends but yet I still feel lonely and uncared about by anyone who isn't my closest family. The friends I have I only talk to inside of school so when I go home I resort to playing video games, watching anime and the other nerdy internet personality stuff.
I've tried/still try to talk to my friends outside of school and hang out with them but they usually put me off...
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P.S. I'm not looking for satisfaction from others, I'd just prefer to not feel lonely anymore and always have friends there for me and be able to make a great first impression on others without a problem.
>>16916194
Just be yourself. Take a deep breath.
>>16916883
I mean I am myself. But that doesn't fix me feeling lonely.
After my ex-girlfriend dumped me I've found it incredibly difficult to take the initiative and move things forward with women, even if the date went well. Should I take this to mean I'm not ready to get back into the dating scene? It kind of feels that way.
How long has it been since the breakup?
>>16916227
11 months
I posted on here yesterday about my bf complaining I don't show him affection or whatever. Today I went to see him and he broke up with me. I suck at relationships and guys just enjoy using me. Now I feel like shit. It took a lot of strength for me not to jump in front of a train on my way home. Not sure what to do now...
>>16916170
Learn from this.
>>16916170
Sorry to hear about it. It's my fear that my current bf will break up with me for the same reasons.
But fuck them clingy emotional bastards. You'll find one better
>>16916170
It is the nature of all relationships to end. To have expected anything else was to have expected nature not to occur. You wanted an impossible outcome, and now you must accept the fact that only things that are actually possible ever happen to you.
Fortunately, you'll find fortitude in this experience, and wisdom too, and you will not be so surprised next time, nor so devastated.
How do you deal with breaking up with somebody because you know you're not good for them? Hard mode: I don't have any friends to talk to, or to have distract me
This happened to me today. My bf dumped me because he said I could do better and he has to fix his life and stuff. It made me really sad and upset.
>>16916151
do you mean get over the break up? go out and make friends.
>BUT HOW
hobby shops. meetup.com. taking a 'fun' community college class. etc.
if you mean how to break up with them
>havea friend (err... family member) drive you over to her place
>go inside and say you only have 15 minutes to talk cuz you got an important XX event going on that you have to get to
>explain...
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>>16916184
Ordinarily I would say it just sounds like an excuse, but can confirm it feels really fucking shitty to know you're bringing somebody else down.
>>16916187
The former, and thanks. I'm socially awkward but I suppose I'll never get anywhere if I don't try fix that.
I'm a guy. How do I convince other guys to "experiment" with me?
>>16916091
>find gay men
>ask for cock
It's just that easy.
>>16916091
Go to gay bars or something?
>>16916091
its eaiser to find gay guys and just experiment with them.
if you are only interested in experimenting with straight men its pretty difficult.
if its someone you know you essentially have to seduce them. begin by initiating closer contact then you are used to. invinte them to do increasingly 'manly' yet homo erotic things. spontaneous wrestling. nude spas. skinny dipping. getting really drunk with just the two of you and then cuddling on the couch.
but theres no guarantee so you...
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I'm interested in tantra but I don't know where to start. Are there any website or workshops in north east US that can help?
>>16916087
yes, simply google 'tantra classes in (XX)' wherein XX refers to your general location. for more results, simply search for yoga, and call up local haunts and ask for tantra possibilities.
>>16916087
More interesting would be: where to search for mature women who like to fuck like pic related ?
I think I'm ready to leave 4chan
Any good sites you recommend, hopefully not to addicting/low usage
I would prefer not going back to something like Reddit since the people there are just as cancerous as here.
Idk site where oldfags go
Thank You.
>>16916025
Imgur.
>>16916025
>>16916031
Holy mother of god plz no that site is for literal Autists even bigger than 4chaners.
Killing myself in a month.
I hang out with people I dislike, I wear clothes that I wouldn't even look at and say things I don't really mean. I just wanted to have friends and be happy. Society taught me how to be successful but I'm not satisfied. I don't love my girlfriend - I have her because I don't want to be a loser.
My personality has died a long time ago - I no longer know what things I like and what do I want to do. I'm pretending to be an extroverted narcissist and it's extremely exhausting. It's more tiring than...
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How old are you?
There is hope for you. I'll state the facts:
1. You're going to die, no matter what
2. If there is an afterlife, you will have indefinitely wasted your life on earth.
Basically, what I'm saying is, stop giving a shit about other people's opinions. Some people are going to think highly of you and others won't. You can't impress everyone, and you can't depress everyone.
Also, let's assume for the moment that you become a ghost when you die. Another ghost asks you, "So, what did you do with your life?". What...
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>>16916068
Turned 20 in February
/adv/, I got some shit discipline. I rarely get the will to work out, when I don't do shit I'm lazy and lethargic as fuck and it's hard to me to start up. I almost missed the deadline to apply for graduation at my community college I lack discipline so much. I fap every day out of habit mostly, and I'm sick of being a couch potato.
I used to be incredibly high energy and I always did shit like working out and getting ahead on school. I am transferring out of my community college so I have one big thing going for me, but I'll be at a 4 year and I have to step my game up by the fall.
One improvement I have made is that I wake up early every day for school at 6:30, which does give me more energy and I never skip class like I used to, And I pay attention in class and shit.
BUT the second I come home it's like vegetable mode. I boot up the gaming PC and play arma or whichever game for hours, then I'll eat dinner and just fall asleep, and that makes me feel like a loser. Plus I've gotten kind of chubby so I really gotta get myself out of this weird funk. How can I do it?
It's super bad on weekends when my girlfriend is busy, I ain't got shit to do so I'm hardcore lazy mode. I want to be successful, hard working and be high energy like I used to, how can I kick myself in the ass about this?
>>16916014
If possible the best thing to do for gym motivation is find a committed gym partner, it helps ALOT I got with my friend 6 days a week and let me tell you I wouldn't be going that much without a partner. Like pick a partner that you know would always want to go, and that you would feel bad if you skipped a day and left him alone.
