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Is it a good idea to eat before a pub crawl?
yeah you need to
dont evereat though go with something light
>>16915731
You can eat at the pub.
I prefer fries. Chips, if you're of the British persuasion. They're convenient, saltiness works up a good thirst and the folk wisdom is that the grease "coats your stomach" so you can better handle your drink. That last part is bullshit. Bullshite, if you're of the British persuasion.
I'm tired, /adv/. I'm currently living with someone insufferable and that i despise the most. Everyday i'm here i feel like killing her or destroying something. The ambient is so very stressful i can't study, work or function inside here. I workout, do gym, go out, everything. But as long as i come back to this house, my life goes to hell. This person has done a lot agaisnt me and still does, yet she allows me here to keep control on me. She's my grandmother. My relatives always says they wish to help, that they understand the situation but i need to be ''strong'', yet none offer nowhere else for me to be. None. They all admit she's a lying, angry bitch of the highest calliber, yet no one does ANYTHING. And one even goes as far as to say i should endure it just because it's the way she is. I'm cringing and raging as i'm typing this.
Why can't i move out? I don't have money. My wage isn't enough, since i have a lot of debt to pay. In one month i'll receive more money, but there are still this much days before it, and i'm going insane. I can't look for apartments now since i don't have money, i don't know what the fuck to do. 10 minutes here is enough to already make me stressful, being in the same place as her already makes me test my willpower to not kill.
I've tried my hardest to see it as goodwill of her letting me live here, but she's literally doing it to control me (she's obsessed with controlling people, hence why none of my relatives stay more than 2 hours with her), my own relatives knows this. Help me, /adv/. I can't take 3 more weeks of this. I've been here for 2 months and half and there isn't a single hour i don't want to run away, but i have nowhere else to go.
>>16915714
1) let go of your debts except for student loans
2) start saving up as best you can
3) you should always be looking for better pay, shame on you for letting yourself stagnate
4) cancel gym membership it is not in your budget
5) don't go out and spend money
your debts are not a priority. people will tell you your credit rating is important, especially when finding an apartment or place to live. this is bullshit.
having solid credit is only for people who are going to use it. learn from your mistake: don't. its not for you, and as such it is meaningless
>>16915728
I'll have a much better pay next month, i just am not able to wait til there anymore. I can't save up now since debts will keep increasing. I already paid this month's gym, but you are right on that, should have stayed just on the diet for now.
When i go out, i don't spend. By going out i mean going out of the house, going to a friend's house, anywhere but here.
Should i look for an apartment now and make some kind of arrangement with it's owner so i can pay him when my money comes? What should i do in this situation? There are 3 to 4 weeks left, which i will only receive about 100 dollars during this period, which 25$ will already go to phone bill, that i do need since work and study.
>>16915751
What are you going to school for?
How close are you to finishing?
How many hours do you work a week, and where at?
What is your monthly income?
What are your necessities in terms of spending?
TFW you try to get your crush to like you but their ugly friend falls for you instead
>>16915674
Been there done that. It is uncomfortable and you get unintentionally cockblocked by the bff.
Been there as the ugly friend. Just tell it to me straight and I'll fuck right off. Nothing worse than having shreds of hope to go by.
>tfw crush is sexy as fuck, but she's gay
>ugly friend likes you, so you fuck her
Hey guys I need a bit of advice. Two years ago I moved to a different state to live with my girlfriend. She had a studio and I moved in with her even though my name wasn't on the lease. Fast forward to now, we broke up and I'm trying to find a place to stay at. I turned in an application but they want me to give them the humber of the apartment complex I stayed at. Obviously I wasn't on the lease so I'm wondering what can happen or if this is going to screw me over from finding a place.
If you weren't on the lease and there's no documentation of it, it never happened. You'd been better off not mentioning it.
>tfw going to be getting a new apartment soon
>tfw my own little domain
Good feels OP.
Just say you can't dig the number up, can't remember the name, it was in another state, etc etc
>>16915644
If you had bills going to the old address, then you had residency.
So I fucked up by mentioning it? They would have asked where I was living for the first year though. Should I have just said that I was living at a friend's house?
>I can't feel happiness in my life
>I created an Okcupid account
>I hated everything about the site.
>I made a fake account for my ideal partner because I wanted to see if I could bring someone happiness.
>Get 100 messages daily. Realize these people are all kind of the same and sad. I cheer them up and know I give them hope but it's false.
>I know it's wrong but to bring others happiness feels good.
Does this make me gay or something? Why do I do this? I just like making someone happy because I feel like love is something I'll never understand.
>Does this make me gay or something?
No
>Why do I do this?
You need human connection.
>I just like making someone happy because I feel like love is something I'll never understand.
Meh I don't think you're as bad as you think. How old are you?
>>16915937
Give your brain 5 more years to mature before giving up.
I saw Megadeth and Suicidal Tendencies last night with my bf, we were on the rail and at the end of the show he left to get a pick towards the center of the stage. I stayed trying to get one on the barricade, and the guy behind me who i thought was grabbing at the barricade was grabbing my waist. (I should mention that given those two acts, it was white trash and beaner central.) So meanwhile, my bf comes back and beats the shit out of the molester, and I turn around all confused. He's screaming at me and saying he never wants to see me again / that I cheated on him, which blows my mind because all I was doing was standing there trying to get a pick. Is he overreacting, am I underreacting, etc? Concertgoers (especially metalheads) weigh in.
>>16915572
Your boyfriend sounds like a child. The guy was probably some drunk loser.
Hes definitely overreacting. Either try to explain to him what happened and work it out amongst yourselves, or if he wont hear you out or still won't believe you, move on and date someone who will listen to what you have to say
>>16915572
You both are perfect for the crowd
Hey guys, Eurofag here, I'm 22 and I've been drinking alcohol occasionally ever since I was 16. For the past couple months though, alcohol made me feel really uncomfortable whenever I drank more than, say, one beer.
I've never really had hangovers, I could drink as many different kinds of booze as I wanted and wouldn't get sick. Even when I also had caffeine, lots of food and/or marihuana, I still felt great the next day.
But now, I feel sick even while I'm still drinking. I feel dehydrated, get a headache, and it puts a huge damper on my mood each time. It made me think about quitting alcohol altogether.
Do you have any experience in this? Or do you know a reason for this sudden change?
You could have cancer.
I'm serious. Sudden sensitivity to alcohol can be an early indicator. Go talk to your doctor ASAP and have some blood drawn.
>>16915570
Are you serious?
I have no other symptoms whatsoever. What kind of cancer could it be?
>>16915577
Any. Thankfully this is one of the earliest symptoms that can be caused, so if you are developing a cancer then it's probably in a very early stage.
Don't wait around on this. You've experienced a very quick and significant change to the way your body operates. You need to see a doctor when that happens. Call today and make an appointment.
How do I cope with insults online? I know it's childish, but this one insult really got to me. It's all I'm thinking about right now.
if it's an imageboard close the tab
if it's something like facebook where you have an identity you're fugged
>>16915557
Tell us
>>16915557
We need to know the insult.
Basically it hit somewhere close to home. Nothing you can do about it. They got you. Accept you lost.
How should I handle this situation?
I met this girl on Tinder about a year ago and we went on a couple dates but nothing came of them. Eventually, she found a boyfriend and has been dating him since about May or June of last year
Fast forward to last week, I was casually on Tinder and noticed her profile on there. I was confused, so I checked her facebook and she was still listed as being in a relationship so I confronted her about it. I asked if she was really on Tinder and at first she said "No" but then quickly changed it to "Yes, but not for that reason." So, I asked her why she was on it and she said something like "There isn't anything you need to concern yourself with." I then asked if her boyfriend knows about this and she said "You really need to stay out of this. Sometimes the gender's are mixed (?) and he has all my passwords and I don't like what you're trying to insinuate."
I then said I would be notifying her boyfriend of her blatant cheating and she then told me to fuck off and blocked me
What should I do?
Tell her boyfriend and let him decide about that. It's not cool to do stuff behind your significant other's back like that, and it doesn't seem like he knows and is cool with it.
Not your business honestly.
For all you know they've got an open relationship or they're on the hunt for a threesome.
Either way (whether she's abusing it or not), she has as much right to her own privacy as anyone else. You're not the internet relationship police.
Just fuck off and live your own life.
You should definitely tell him. She sounds defensive and annoyed, clear signs of guilt
Going on 30 now, most of my life I have been met with the same problem. Almost everyone I meet and try to get to know on a personal level share the same feelings towards me. Instead of getting to know me personally, they judge and assume the worst. I get told to smile more and when I do its that I have a "creepy" smile. Despite that, I have made attempts to improve my smile over the years by looking at myself in the mirror, no luck. People also hold the opinion that I am a violent person and quick to anger and they hold an irrational fear towards me.
This is killing me inside because I am not a violent person, in fact, I am quiet spiritual and rather calm and at peace. But I think because of this, because of my quiet, clam and collective nature that it throws people off when they look at me. I can deal with being ugly or funny looking, I am 30 years old and do have tattoo's over my body minus the parts I need to keep clear for professional work.
So what can I do? How do I approach these people to persuade them away from their ignorant judgement of me so that they no longer have to use these "afraid of me" tactics towards me. I lose jobs, gain no friendships, have no working relationships with anyone.
What am I suppose to do, change the person I am?
I thought people are suppose to like you for who you really are.
I'm never going to find internal peace this way with so much negativity thrown at me.
Every single person on the planet deals with some form of appearance-based judgment against them, stop caring about the snap judgments of others.
I kinda know where you are coming from OP.
I'm a very calm and playful guy. BUT, i have come to suspect that people take me for a very angry person. People never ever start convos with me, and when they do they seem almost scared. This has perplexed me. I myself am quite the introvert (well duh, i'm on 4chan) and rarely start convos with people. But the only convos that happen are the ones i start. I think people are afraid of me. My outer appearance doesn't match my inner personality. Oh well, i don't care much about that.
What can you do, except be more open about your feelings i guess? Speak the truth about how you feel when you talk to people, let them know you aren't angry on the inside.
I think you may be projecting here. I'm covered in tattoos including my hands and I've never experienced anyone "judging" me based on that. At least not anyone that matters. I'm blue collar. My girlfriend is older, a chief administrative officer of a pretty big company, has kids and a big family that is mostly business-type professionals. Her, her kids and family have welcomed me warmly over the past few years.
Maybe you want to believe people are scared of you. Maybe you are meeting the wrong people. I don't know, but something doesn't add up here.
So I'm sitting in my car right now with a package I decided to return. The label is affixed to the package. I've done this before but not actually dropping it off. What do I do? Do I have to speak to anyone? I'm socially anxious.
"Hi, I need to ship this back to Amazon. OK thanks."
>>16915550
GOING TO TRY
IM BOUT TO DO IT
wow that was embarassingly easy...
Thanks for the help guys
Hi /adv/, how you guys are doing?
So, here's my story. My girlfriend has multiple sclerosis since she was 16 (she's 18 now. I'm almost 22) and she usually feels really depressed when she have an outbreak (this happens kinda once in a year).
I know MS doesn't have a known cure, but she undergoes by treatment and while she isn't on an outbreak she lives a normal life like any other person. We have a good relatioship, a good sex life, and we are in really good terms with each other's families.
But everytime an outbreak like this happens, she feels really down, needing to go under therapy and I feel really hopeless without knowing what to do to try to give her my support while staying by her side.
So what I want to know is what can I do to be a better boyfriend for her at times like this? Tips of things for me to do in order to try making her feel happier despite of the circunstances are welcome too.
The number one rule of helping someone is to shut up and listen. You're not supposed to figure out the way to help them. You're supposed to provide what it is that they're looking for. That's help.
Seriously, imagine if you needed help moving and I just barged into your house to start packing and relocating your belongings. Would you be saying "Thanks for the help!" or "Who are you, why are you in my home and stop going through my shit I'm calling the cops?"
Take a moment to reflect on what the word "help" means. It's important when it comes to being effective and respectful.
>>16915524
My ex has MS. I would stay in the hospital with him. He was also a really shitty person and used it as an excuse to guilt trip me into everything
>but I'm dying
>I'll be paralyzed soon
Literally when I didn't want to FaceTime him at 1am or get out of bed to send nudes when I had the flu
>>16915539
I'm always ready to hear what she has to say to me, but that's a good advice. I want to understand her better and provide what she needs and will be looking for.
>>16915562
Fortunately, my gf is a really good person and I enjoy staying by her side living together. She don't make any of these excuses at me.
Any of you medifags able to help me on a biology respiratory system project? Thanks in advance.
>>16915494
What do you need help with exactly?
Vetfag here.
Hey /adv
Im not sure if really want to date a 6/10 grill. Im a 7/10 who has been single for 2 years now.
And i can't figure out if the girl interressed me or if im subconsciously only interressed about fulfilling my loneliness.
Should i try with the girl anyway ? or is this shitty idea ?
Better looking girls are bigger sluts.
There's nothing hard in getting a moderately intelligent 9/10
Can we have a /vag/ general?
Last night I was having sex with my bf, we hadn't had sex in awhile.
Side note: I have had a nexplanon implant for going on three years now so my sex drive isn't really there plus I have no period typically. Solid bc though.
I fucked him as he sat down and then we finished doggy style. Unsurprisingly he slammed my cervix a good few times in that last position. My cervix has always been a little tender and sometimes bleeds (due to the bc). I went to clean myself up and I notice the discharge/cum is slightly pink from bleeding. Now that's usually not a big deal, but then I found what looked like pic related.
It had a shape like a giant sperm, but it felt like a tissue/tendon. It was white. Length-wise it was no bigger than a quarter. I poked it with my nail, it looked like it had the capability of bleeding. The round part had a slight spot of blood at the top, with a tail or root that tapered off.
I googled it as best I could, but the closest answer I could come up with was that it was a cervical polyp. I tried to see if there were any stories of these things spontaneously expelling after sex, but no luck. I'm freshly new to my area (just moved to NC) and there aren't a lot of free clinics like PP around that are capable of medical obgyn exams (my job has health bennies but I have a considerably high deductible and no physician yet for referral..). I think I need a pap smear just so I can have someone look at my cervix and make sure there aren't any more tumors/fibroids. Anyone ever have these?
>>16915450
What part is that on pic rel? Looks like a beeenus
Thanks OP, I've been waiting for one of these.
I've just started seeing someone who has a very big dick. I've never had bigger than five inches before and I am extremely tight, to the point where I struggle to fit even small vibrators inside me. I like this. It works for me.
So after a few separate attempts at sex, he finally manages to enter me fully which starts off as painful but then becomes the best feeling ever.
A few days after, I felt like everything down there had "changed". I can't explain it, it just didn't feel as firm and perfect as before. My clit felt like it moved around a bit more which I know sounds weird but it's the only way I can describe it. It didn't feel as apparent either.
I've spent the past few weeks doing my normal kegel exercises and things are now back to normal but I'm a bit concerned that regular fuckings might turn my tight, well-formed vagina into a hideous roastie cavern.
Am I right to be worried about this or should I just enjoy it and continue with the kegels?
>>16915472
Pic shows a cross-section of the vagina connecting to the cervix on the right, the donut-looking thing on the left is the frontal view of the cervix.
The red dongs hanging off it are the polyps, which aren't supposed to be there. They're kind of like sprouts, which is why their 'roots' are tapered (they root in the small cervical passageway leading to the uterus) where the 'bulbs' are considerably larger and rotund (because they grow out towards the vagina or uterus depending which way).
>>16915493
You're too worried. "Roasties" happen because women or their partners tug on their vulvas due to sexual pleasure or curiosity. Just don't pull on your vulva and nothing should happen.
Have you tried looking for tears?
A few years ago I had a fwb with a massively thick dick. One time he fucked me so hard and dry the bottom part of my vaginal opening teared a little. There was bleeding involved.
It did heal but the skin slit is still there, I noticed I don't feel that delightful skin pull as much with my current partner anymore..
