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Hey /adv/ I'm sure there's tons of lame threads like this daily but desu I can't really think of anything else to do. Basically the situation is that I have no idea what's wrong with me and what to do about it. I'm 17 now and I still haven't even kissed a girl, let alone have a girlfriend. I have some shitty minimum wage job I drive my dad's car to and I have about 3 or 4 close friends max, only 2 of which I'd actually have a serious conversation with. Even then, I feel like I'm slowly drifting away from the small amount of friends...
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>>16921560
self esteem issues basically. fix your mental perception of yourself and you'll be "fixed" and plugged back into the matrix.
i was the same as you bro, then i went to a party senior year that my buddy was hosting(basically like 7ish male friends and a group of like 5 females that i have seen around at school) and got drunk and 1 of the girls LITERALLY made out with me after i refused.
TL;DR go to parties with alcohol and females, you'll get some degree of action eventually
>>16921560
Be a man. Talk to this indie chick again, sounds like she can be a love interest and probably a better friend too. Just go up to her or call her, it shows balls like what men have.Be a man .Start while you are young 17 no experience that all good man that's when you're supposed to start getting it. You're fine. what won't be fine is a life full of "I wish I did shit while I still could"
typical girl advice
i had an unpleasant childhood and i find it very hard to get close to people (raped at 9 dad did crack bunch of other shit i don't wanna talk about). my friend kind of forced me to get this girls number and for the first time when im talking to a girl im actually myself and not pretending to be a normal person. she is very pretty and clever and she has said a number of times about how i "remind her of herself" (no she didn't have a fucked up background and no she doesn't know about mine). ive been talking to her everyday for...
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She's not looking for a boyfriend let it go.
My female friend wasn't looking for a bf either, so now I'm "her guy" and the sex is still great
>>16921549
i'm not really after sex i just want a companion. the physical intimacy is second
Age: 22
White guy, plain looking
Experience: Retail/CS, factory, teeeeeny bit of food experience
Skills: Articulate, can write, very skilled musically(guitar/sing/songwriting)
If you were me, /adv/, where would you go for a job, and, if you'd be so kind, what do you think is the best job I could get with the above info?
If you need to know anything else just ask.
>teeeeeny
i would kill myself desu senpai
>>16921465
I don't blame you for reacting that way. I wasn't even thinking. I was just typing my thoughts out and I shat that little guy write into the post. I'll get back to you on the killing myself part.
>>16921451
You're exactly me. I will bump for advice too because I'm sick of being a wage slave physical laborer. I want to get paid to use my mind.
So my girlfriend of 9monthes admitted that she recently made out with some guy while being very drunk, however she doesn't feel bad about doing it in the slightest. For me, I'm upset at thought of her going behind my back and kissing another guy but at the same time,I don't care maybe because she was upfront about it. What are your advices, sometimes I feel like I'm just being uptight but not sure if that's just me.
>>16921420
I advise you to leave 4chan and never return you cumsucking simpleton
You should leave her. She's an alcoholic. You're being abused and you don't even realize it.
>>16921428
What are you even doing here you fucking idiot?
OP the real issue is that she's not at all remorseful. It means she can make excuses/justifications for her wrongdoings. Its not just cheating but a sign of bigger issues. Reconsider your relationship maybe?
I haven't posted to 4chan in years, but this is probably the best place to discuss this..
So I am nearly finished with my bachelors, rent with my girlfriend and commute to my University. We have been dating for three years and are very, very close, we'll almost definitely get married sometime in the future. Because of this the two of us would like to have more experience and interactions with other people, mostly romantically but also sexually. We are both very mature people, and mostly have older professional friends.
I am just sort of at a lose on...
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I'll bump a couple times, but not force it
My husband and I had not had much experience sexually with others, so we decided to "swing" and try out being with other people. We always were in the same house as each other, and brought it up to friends when they were hanging out. (Alcohol helps, a lot) Long story short, we both ended up sleeping with two other people and having a threesome twice. In my experiences, it left us feeling dirty and just wasn't for us. Sometimes it is okay just having that intimate relationship with just your other, it is a part of being faithful and showing your loyalty to them....
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Fucking other people is a great way to introduce jealousy into a relationship
Whats the point of all this, /adv/?
There isn't. You have to create it yourself
>>16921271
All that, as in wearing a Slave Leia outfit and playing Magic with you?
She's trying to seduce you, retard.
>>16921452
Not sure if troll or just dumb as fuck.
How the fuck do I find an internship working with metals (metallurgy)?
I don't care what it is, I just want to learn. Willing to work for free. Is walking into a forge, or going to an artisan, or someone else in the trade crazy? If it's not, how the fuck am I to strike up a conversation about this?
I have a yearning, but no experience in the field. Maybe some prerequisites would help--if so, what? All I've got is basic chem and math.
>>16921225
college, google, VET courses
oh shit nigga me too. i've been taking a degree at my local community college that includes metallurgy and stuff.i've worked in steel mills before as a customer rep but otherwise i'm green.
what i'm doing so far is check out local forges/steel mills if you have any. i was reading on a forge site that forging itself only employes like 45000 people across 250 shops in the fucking COUNTRY.
do you have any sort of background in this?
You don't happen to live near SF do you?
Theres a big creativity building community around there called the crucible. Lot of burning man types who know their shit when it comes to glassblowing/welding/you name it.
How do a kissless virgin pretend to be experienced on bed on his first sexual encounter?
>>16921193
Don't be a lazy fat ass. Be really fucking clever. Don't hesitate.
That's my plan, you're free to share.
>>16921193
When I was 18 I had sex for the first time and I didn't have any experience. I really just was the dominate one in the situation and she got fucked.
Point is, get out of your head when you have sex. If she's willing to fuck you, your already in
>>16921216
>>16921224
I'm afraid that I might be so terrible that she wouldn't want to fuck me again. Should I practice it first with a prostitute?
I just broke with my gf lastnight and now she's in the hospital with breathing complications....and I'm on a school trip in Minnesota and she's in New Mexico...i don't know what to do...
Well you must have a reason you broke up with her. That reason still stands. Unless it was something like 'I'm breaking up with you because you've never been in the hospital!'
It was because there was too much drama surrounding the relationship and school was only getting in the way it seemed....she would tell me I'm ignoring her when id be busy with class, homework, or preparing for the school trip. It would make me feel guilty for being a full time student living on campus and her being like 45 minutes away from campus.
>>16921217
Sounds like a good reason to dump her ass. Either that or talk some sense into her, explain you have other stuff to do besides giving her attention. If she doesn't understand dump her again
Come join us!
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>>16921091
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female—for all of you are one in Christ Jesus.
Galatians 3:28
For this is the way God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.
John 3:16
>>16921091
Should I go to the doctor for an anal fissure or will it heal on its own?
>took a huge shit 4 days ago
>very painful, ripped my butthole
>all bowel movements cause bleeding
>its been 4 days
Yes go to a doctor.
How much is the bleeding? I normally don't because I get them decently often but they're usually pretty small.
Has the bleeding lessened at all or is it still just as bad as it was before?
>>16921138
Bleeding has gotten worse
Should I tell someone that they're the first person I've had sex with? Or do I just overthink things?
>>16921082
Don't tell them
>>16921095
Why is this the general advice?
I've got a similar situation on the horizon, and I feel like it'd be completely normal to tell them? I feel like it would relieve first-time anxiety and make it a lot easier for everyone if you both know what you're getting into.
I wouldn't. In fact I didn't. I lied and told my gf that I had sex one time previously and it wasn't a good experience. That way I covered my bases for being inexperienced and didn't come across as a virgin.
>broke up with my ex-girlfriend four months ago because I didn't see a future with her
>she's a great person but doesn't want to do anything: she isn't ambitious and is content without striving to achieve more
>started seeing this amazing woman who is honestly the woman I want to marry, even just four months in: she is everything that matches my ideal partner
>ex-girlfriend tells me she's pregnant and is going to seek child support...
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>>16921048
Pay the child support. Why be blackmailed into a relationship you don't want for the rest of your life?
Pay for your freedom. If she sees you are ballsy enough she might get the abortion, though not likely if she is this crazy.
Don't get back together with her, you'll be miserable and resentful of her (and rightly so) that's no environment to raise a child.
That said your current gf needs to know about this and you need to be prepared for the possibility that it could end your relationship. Maybe it won't idk what she's like, but for some it would.
BTW are you sure about that paternity test? I thought you had to wait until after the child was born...
Anyway you left her for a reason and now she's blackmailing you back into a relationship. Call her...
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>>16921048
>not using protection on a girl you aren't planning to marry
Background: I am a 25 year old male, college grad, with a $75k per year great finance job that I love.
I am currently single. Over the past 4 years, I have dated a girl on and off. She means a lot to me, and it hurts bad seeing her with other guys.
The problem is, whenever I am dating her, I lose motivation. I eat like shit, dont go to the gym as much, and dont really care as much at work.
When we arent together (particularly one time when she ended it and dated another guy for 6 months), I got ripped in the gym, diet was in check, and I got promoted at...
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>>16921045
>tying your self-worth to pussy you don't have
Seriously don't date anyone anon. You'll see a hot chick with some other dude and probably cheat or at the very least get this obsession about them.
>>16921045
>Does this mean that she is just not the right one? When I find the right one, do you think Ill be motivated to do well FOR her?
No and no. This is a personality flaw, one that will make pretty much everyone leave you. It's not over when you get the girl. You have to work to keep her around.
>>16921050
I know. I am not dating her for that very reason. Its not fair to her and I need to figure my shit out first.
Ive been told that lust for other sloos never goes away, even after you get married. Which is understandable. I just dont want to get in a relationship, lose all motivation for self progress, and wish I could still bang other sloos.
Maybe Im still just really immature.
How do you explain why the friendzone is bad? My friend asked me this due to his girl problem, and all I could think was,"cause you can't receive the love of the other."
But I didn't say that cause I didn't want to sound like a pussy.
Friendzone is a term used to refer to a man who wants something romantic with a woman, but the woman only wants a platonic relationship.
It's considered a bad thing in the eyes of men because you empathize with the man wanting a woman he can't have.
>>16921054
Thanks broham.
The friendzone is in your head.
The friendzone is when guys stick around with a girl after being rejected, or without being honest with their feelings resulting in the girl assuming that said male just want's a platonic relationship.
It doesn't exist.
