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Hey /adv/ i have an addiction to traps that is out of hand and destroying my identity as a man. Every time i fap to them i hate myself for it and feel immense shame afterward, and always tell myself its the "last time".
I am not gay as i am not attracted to men in the slightest, what gets me off is self inserting as the trap but i am always disgusted by it, however when i am horny i must self insert and it really gets me off.
For backround i have zero self esteem and clinical major depression and social anxiety, and was addicted to porn for years before...
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Just stopping jacking off to traps.
>>16923060
I've tried but I can't do it, I'm hooked.
I was Jerking off 3 to 4 times a day for years before I slowly started getting into traps. First I would just lurk the threads, and when I fapped to them at first I fantasized about fucking one not being one.
>>16923045
There are men and there are women. You're a man, you fap to men, thus you are a fag.
No shame about it.
>meet up with black guy
>get ass fucked
>condom rips
>close to cumming I dont want to stop
>cum all over chest
>he cums inside
>feel immediate panic
So what what my chances that I caught ANYTHING? This happened last night so I'll wait a few days to get tested. I'm just scared shitless
The chances are decent, but moist sexual transmitted things take a while to show up. A few days likely isn't enough time. A doctor can tell you all the risks if you explain your situation.
>>16923007
It's too late to be worrying about now. It's completely out of your hands.
Just wait for your test, wait for the results and get retested in 6mo or so. No one here can say for sure whether you've contracted anything or the likelihood, don't stress yourself out unless you've got positive results in your lap.
He said he was clean but you know how niggers lie
So I'm a rapper but I got into it as an extension of writting poetry, apparently I'm good at it and most of the local hip hop community liked it
Ever since the dude I've been recording with has been avoiding me, saying he's too busy and even though he told me he didn't want to rap anymore and that he felt like he was more of a producer he suddenly started releasing shitty singles
anyways should I start working alone?
should I try to get the dude back into my own project?
Bump the pic in the OP is my mom dressed as an allahu akbar, she's not actually one of those exploding ladies
>>16922993 he sounds afraid of you. Does he have more resources than you? Hes shuting you down m8
>>16923013
Dude I know another person who can help me record, I'm not afraid of him "destroying" me since I didn't get into this to fight over bullshit
He's been doing hip hop for 5 years and doesn't do much still around 20-50 plays per video
I have around a thousand plays I started a couple months ago and I'm getting praised
wtf do I have to be scared off?
>2 years ago I broke up with my ex
>move on, but work/school has made me not look for another girl
>every time I masturbate I think of her
I've moved on, but don't know why i keep doing it. I know for a fact i dont want to get back with her. is it just me being horny and her being the first girl i fooled around with?
Just think about something else. I mean we all fantasize about ppl we know even grills you just have to get her out of you dick/head
>Everytime I fap, I think of her
>I've moved on
No, you've not. Spend more time with people, get to know other people, get to know girls, etc, etc. Keep yourself occupied. Fapping is not going to help that.
>>16922992
Good point, I'll start putting an effort in meeting new girls at school.
Just got home from a job convention, I walked around glancing at the different representatives feeling nothing but a crippling,paralyzing fear of even looking at them, while all the normal functioning people walked up and talked with enthusiasm. Just walking around inside for 5minutes made me have to go outside for air. When I got home I put the resumés I printed out in a drawer and closed it so that I wouldnt be reminded of the fact that I didnt hand out a single one.
>graduating with STEM degree
>successful athlete,...
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>>16922955
> what do?
Go back and pass out those resumés?
>>16922959
they closed up
I sat in a café next to the convention for 1,5hours just trying to muster up the courage to go back and actually fucking do something, I left when it was over
Go to Dr and explain
Get anxiolytics
Become an God
Serious tho, xanax turned me from a spaghetti spilling sperg into a cassanova. I used to sweat at school if any attention was on me. So bad I had to leave class. Now I give speeches and many people say I'm the best at them.
Hey, I'm 18 and I smoke cigarettes. I used to do a lot of drugs, used to occasionally gum some coke but I've been staying sober for about a year now.
I developed a 4mm diameter, raised, painless brown spot on my gums. It's the same texture and firmness as my gums, and it doesn't move or wiggle or anything when I touch it or gently push on the side of it. Pic related is horrible quality but shows the discoloration and relative size of the abnormal tissue.
Is this cause for concern?
Go to a GP you fucking moron. And yes, it's probably cancer.
>>16922908
yeah that's cause for concern. not ER, but i'd setup an appointment or go to urgent care.
>>16922928
If that's cancer, do you have a general idea of how fucked I am and how ugly I'll be post-op? I know the general 80-35% survival statistics depending on stage, but I'd like some insight into whether or not part of the bone would be scraped off/removed, will I lose my front teeth, is there reconstruction avaiable, etc.
Thanks, man.
Upon further examination, the edges of it are indented compared to the rest of the gum and it raises to a peak at about the same level as the normal gingival tissue.
Is it normal to be distraught when you get what you want?
I've been crushing on and pursing someone with my entire heart and mind for about a month.
I've thought about nothing but this person nearly every waking second.
Now that we're together I can't give a shit about any of it and I could care less if we broke up.
In general I'm afraid of getting anything I want. Success always feels like failure.
what's wrong with me?
either some deep psychological trauma or some freudian shit, or it was about scoring, not maintaining.
>>16922904
Maybe this? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradox_of_hedonism
As for how to cope with it or "fix" it: you could give us more examples of when pursuing something you desire felt better than getting it.
It's something common today, with electronics and other things on the market: you LOVE/WANT what you don't have, so marketing will try its best to convince you you either need or want what they're selling. Once you go out of your way to get it, you realize it was all hype and...
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Sounds like something I experience as well. I'm so used to "not getting" I have no idea how to handle it if I succeed. If I'm chasing a girl, it feels like mission accimplished once I know she's into me. If she's REALLY into me, I get spooked for some reason.
I was born with a silver spoon in my mouth. Never had to do anything as everyone praised me and danced around me, and i think that's the reason why i'm not able to do a minimal effort. I tend to push and push and push things until it's mandatory for me to do something, and i still don't do it because i think there will me more chances in the future. How to cope with it? Any solution?
>>16922878
cant really be solved, your personality is ruined, once the easy stuff ends and you havent done anything you'll start to head down the road of failure
Realise that you can have anything you want in the world as long as you take steps towards getting it. One step at a time. Start planning.
>>16922878
I feel you, OP. We were not exactly rich, but I never really felt the need to go out of my way to do things.
Always worked hard on my classes for no real reason and when I thought about it, I realized I had no real ambitions.
I never planned for the future, or sought out oportunities because I never felt the need to. My parents always planned everything for me.
Now my parents and my acquaintances are starting to ask questions about my future and I can't possibly answer.
I've looked around in...
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How long did you wait/your SO wait until you/they said "I love you"
>>16922852
First boyfriend, we were really young (15 me, 17 him) and we waited around a month.
With my new boyfriend, 9 months.
>>16922852
One year and three months and still haven't say it.
But we clearly love each other. It just doesn't fit our relationship to go all mushy and "love you darling"
>>16922852
I said it once after 2 months and she didnt say it back, then she broke up with me
How do I make a faithful woman overcome her guilt of cheating on her boyfriend? She's attracted to me, thinks I'm a great guy, and likes my attention.
"Breakup with your boyfriend. Tonight."
I've done this a couple times. Depends if she actually likes you enough to do it. Probably doesn't. Don't be cheater scum.
>>16922815
If she wants you bad enough guilt is not a problem up front. She may feel it afterwards. Just keep up the attention and as long as she keeps accepting. Don't mention her bf ever and divert should she bring him up and never suggest you should be her bf. You want to fuck her and get out and if she knows she could get away with cheating it makes it easier.
>>16922820
Then she'll e expect something something from me that just fucking
>>16922837
Thanks for the advice. I tend to mention him a lot and she's been airing out her grievances about him to me. I'll be sure to change the subject to something about me and her
How do I send an email asking for an extension on an assessment piece due tomorrow? It fucking sucks dick and I feel like a little bitch for it, but I missed out on pretty much all of the lessons because I was at student services/counselling, my counsellor sent her an email to my teacher about it as well. I'm just fucking autistic and I don't know how to write an email without completely full out begging.
>>16922812
threaten suicide they have to say yes
>>16922812
take what you have currently and open up a new copy of it, google how to corrupt a word document/google doc/whatever word processor you're using and do that, turn in the corrupted file tomorrow, finish your copy, when teach gets to grading yours OH NOES CORRUPTED! good thing you happen to have a copy. bonus points: send in the corrupted file and procrastinate until your teacher tells you your files fucked and then tell her you don't have another copy, hope she gives you a few additional days.
>>16922825
Probably shouldn't write about suicide in an email, should I try to see her tomorrow morning? The school counsellor knows about me being rip so she might have mentioned it.
>>16922829
They're experimental art pieces, good idea though
>tfw had a chick really into me and blew it
>acted uninterested even though I really was
what should I do?
>>16922797
Don't learn relationship tips from girls magazines and just bee yourself next time.
>>16922797
playing games like that is for the bar/party/club scene
next time just show her you like her back, its what she wants more than anything
This is okey at the start. But not after she has shown interest herself.
Show interest in her. Tell her. Go on.
Not a native speaker. There are about 60 to 100 words I must memorize and I can say that using memory cards really works well. There are apps that you can make flash card sets for memorizing stuff. But you have to write all the words and English definitions by hand.
Is there any way (an app, a program, a site etc) I can just pick, say 60 words, and it will ask me those words and show the definitions; like memory cards?
Anki
Quizzlet
>>16922753
I checked it, it's pretty much the same. You can to download a deck of cards or you have to create each card one by one in anki
What do you think about girls who had some scars on their body due to some big surgeries when they were a kid?
I'm not even talking about self-harm.
I got two through two big surgeries when i was a kid and one from an accident. Really makes me insecure about it. I always feeling embarrassed by the looks of people when they saw it.
So,do men even care about it? I've never actually asked this question to all the guys I've dated. So I just tried to be cool with it but deep down I want to know the thought of men about this kind of thing.
>>16922741
Depends, are you dating a child or a man?
>>16922741
Personally, if you're attractive? Awesome. Just my thing though. Not sure about others.
>>16922756
A man I guess? He the same age as me. >>16922758
This is the point. I even think about if they seemed like they're cool with it,i still never know whether they thought about they deserved to have someone else better than me.
it happened recently about 2 weeks ago and she told me that she couldn't deal with my temper, although i did nothing wrong and i always gave her time and was always comforting her and always cheering her up in times of need and was always by her side. i found out that shes been planning to break up with me via fb because she left it open once on my pc and shes been fucking some other dude that she met in one of her classes. i have been and i am currently in a state of shock so please folks can you tell me the ways for a revenge? also she started it after breaking up with...
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>>16922731
just murder her dont get fancy
>>16922731
>she told me that she couldn't deal with my temper, although i did nothing wrong
>can you tell me the ways for a revenge?
I think I'm starting to see what she meant.
The best revenge is to move on. If she finds out you're trying to get revenge then she's won.
