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Does anyone have experience dealing with a jealous girlfriend? I've never cheated on her or even considered it. I sincerely love her and I want to marry her but this is draining. She knows it annoys me and she said she wants to change. What can I do to make her less jealous?
>>16923636
> I sincerely love her and I want to marry her
>>16923643
Lol, honestly she would be perfect if this wasn't an issue.
Problem is that if she's over 20, she probably won't change. If you really love her, have her go for therapy because a relationship can't last with someone like that.
Over the weekend I got pulled over for old plates. I had the current plates in the car. I give all my license and registration to the cop. It all checks out. He says he smells weed in the car. I had weed and a grinder.
Long story short, he charges me with possession, paraphernalia, and an DUI (I blew a 0.000 and was not drunk, but he claimed I was "impaired" and gave me a urine test).
I have a lawyer and he thinks there might be a case there. In the meantime, as I wait two weeks for the urine results, I am planning for worst case scenarios and treating this incident as a serious wake up call.
I understand that a DUI ruins your life if you're in the like ..... trucking business.
I am a straight-A first year graduate student with a full-tuition waiver scholarship and graduate assistantship. I will NOT lose my scholarship or position.
My career plans involve getting a PhD immediately after this degree or perhaps going to law school. As these charges are all first offenses, and I don't plan on getting anymore, I gather that they will NOT affect my admissions chances to PhD programs. Funding maybe, but if I did my PhD at my current school then I am sure it would be fully funded.
If I do a PhD then by time I am looking for jobs this arrest will have been at least 3-5 years behind me. I understand that this limits my prospects for government work and stuff that needs security clearances.
So I want to know how DUIs have affected the career prospects of educated professionals who have not started their careers. Anyone who works in government, academia, the private sector, anything like that.
I also wonder if employers/society will view a MARIJUANA-related DUI than an alcohol-related one.
Depending on the charge, many places are fine with it as long as you disclose it. That said, I'm pretty sure you'll have a super hard time getting a job in the government if that's what you're aiming for
>>16924117
nah, I don't have much interest in the government. It is certainly a possible career path given my education (history/economics/political science) but I am more interested in either academia or non-government think tanks and things like that ......
but I will be certainly disclosing it when that day comes. thank you for your response, it provides me some reassurance.
I know there are some more fellow idiots with criminal records and college degrees on this board, let's gooooooooo
Did my landlord sign me up for other apartments' mailing lists to get rid of me?
>New apartments opened up
>They were desperate for tenants so I got a 2 bedroom by myself for 40% off rent
>Place starts to fill up and I start getting a couple of letters from other nearby apartments in the mail
I'm kind of weird and I look like a loser but I'm always polite to my neighbors and I keep my apartment clean. My landlord and I seem to have a nice relationship, and I pay my rent on time.
I'm just worried they're trying to clear me out to put a family who will pay full rent in my apartment... Not sure if they get relief from the government for housing a poorfag like me.
please respond
Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by incompetence.
If youre really worried, post on /r/legaladvice or something and make sure youre legally immune to a surprise eviction.
>>16923564
>Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by incompetence.
How does this apply?
>If youre really worried, post on /r/legaladvice or something and make sure youre legally immune to a surprise eviction.
I'm not worried about getting evicted, my landlords are too nice for that. I'm trying to figure out if they're anonymously hinting that I should leave.
i dont know how to be gay.
i realised I was a homo about 6-7 months ago, but I cannot name a single gay thing I have ever done. I havent asked anyone out, kissed anyone, even complimented a guy ever. I came out to some close friends last month, but I otherwise never bring up my sexuality as I dont want to make things 'weird'.
What kind of gay stuff am I supposed to be doing, how often am I supposed to do it, and how do i make my life more normal? How often do normal people do stuff like flirt or whatever?
Being monastically alone all the time isnt fun.
>>16923508
Maybe you're not gay just because you like gay porn.
It's called Grindr.
>>16923568
I'm pretty sure I am gay. Sometimes at night I spend a lot of time thinking about how nice it would be to have a bf to cuddle with and stuff.
I think I just lack the selfconfidence to do anything about it.
What's the meaning of life?
chocolate 42 and pron
>>16923487
you ask the question knowing that no one has a solid answer. so im going to refer you to existentialism, which is varied, but here's what i took from it so far.
Life is inherently meaningless. AS such, the universe is not hostile, it is only indifferent. The only things we really have in life are choice. It may not always be a good choice, but we have choice. as such the only thing meaning can be atributed to is our choices, and when we act as if we have no choices, we stop people human and simply becomes tools that a 'god' uses to carry out his intricate boring plan.
dont be a tool.
>>16923487
To drop your man matter deep in her baby bakery.
I'm not sure if im in love with my girlfriend anymore.
I feel disgusting i went to rehab for 2 months, she sent me letters every day..didnt even have a phone. And she stuck with me.
I came home and things were a little weird, she hasnt been wanting to have sex or anything.
I dont know what to do guys pls halp, weve been dating for a year and half and this is the longest ive ever dated anyone. I never doubted i would spend my life with this woman but lately i cant stop checking out other chicks.
is this normal at a later point in a relationship that youre no longer as attracted to your partner? its almost like all the passion is gone. fuck
She's fucking someone else.
>>16923435
nah shes not i know shes not. we spend pretty much every second of the day together. Im certain its not this.
>>16923434
You're such a normee OP.
Get off my board REEEEEEE.
Do you ask girls in strip clubs they have STDs? I wanna get a blowjob but I'm not sure if I should ask them that question or even get one in the first place
are you really gonna believe it if she says "no" anyways? I sure wouldn't
but then again I'm not desperate so
>>16923426
much this. there's no point asking.
but then again girls in stripclubs don't give blowjobs so don't worry.
>>16923543
The one I'm going to does. My friends got some
How the fuck would I ever think about getting a job? I have a gap in my employment that's like a year and a half maybe two years because of no car. I live in the middle of nowhere like backwoods as fuck country shit. I have almost no work experience I worked a few months at a Burger King and a grocery store and I was barely there. I went to high school but I dropped out of college. I'm 24
>>16923406
DO a functional resume and contact a placement agency
hey buddy im 25 and have no experiance what so ever, we are twin souls in this regard. I want you to find a job, I hope someone can help you somehow. Everybody tellsme jobs are about connections so if you have any friends or family that you are at least on speaking terms with then ask them if they could help you get a job, they may have a connection. I hope you get a job asap im really cheering for you bud.
Just fucking lie. Maybe teach yourself some shit like excel to put on your resume too
So I was hired to do a job (play a show) recently, and sent my invoice in to the management for payment. The manager got all upset about me including taxi and Uber receipts, and asked me to explain what they were for. Since I had an instrument in a flight case that weighed 35 pounds, I couldn't hoof it on any of the .5 to 2 mile trips throughout the major city we were in, making transportation necessary. On the two trips that I didn't have my instrument with me, I was meeting associates for dinner and taking them home in my Uber, since their phones were dead. The manager told me that these are not business expenses, and especially because one of the other people paid for dinner.
My interpretation of a business expense is anything that I have to pay for while on a business trip. This includes food, so it follows that transportation to said food is necessary and therefore a business expense. That also doesn't matter if someone else ends up buying dinner, especially if they're counting it as an expense as well, and especially if they were going to order the Uber home in the first place if they didn't have a dead phone. I think the manager is just being a huge dick here, especially since he's arguing over about $30, but does anyone else have experience with expenses?
>>16923307
Go by tax code. If it can be written off on taxes in your state, it's a business expense. It gets murky on travel for gigs but you certainly have an argument.
More importantly is what was agreed upon. You can't slap on an extra expense even if it is business related if the manager never agreed to pay it.
If you didn't pay for the food, you can't ask for reimbursement.
If someone else paid for it, they need to expense whatever company they work for. Why the fuck do you think it's OK for you to get a free meal AND get paid to eat it? Are you retarded?
And yes, this is coming from someone who does these kinds of transaction reports for upper level executives. Everything comes from their credit card, so it's reimbursable to them. If someone else covers a dinner, then it's the other parties responsibility to ask for reimbursement. They aren't part of your company or part of the contract.
For the Uber, you need to split off your portion, and you are reimbursed for that alone. The client is not a fucking charity, and you have no right to request reimbursement for your "altruistic" actions.
>>16923324
The thing about "what was agreed upon" with this particular manager is that he weasels his way into an "agreement" that is bullshit from the start. I've been on this exact trip before, and all expenses were paid - there was a driver provided and accommodations were booked for me. He only made clear two days ahead of time that there would not be a driver. I asked my friend - the "leader" of the band, the one who's business is actually paying me - about charging for the taxis this time and he said it wouldn't be a problem. Problem is, he and the manager don't communicate very well and the manager is a tight ass.
>>16923328
The guy that bought dinner is the co-owner of the record label that flew me out to play the show. There was no per diem provided, so no one is "paying me to eat". They said only the rehearsals and performance would be paid for on this trip, but it is complete nonsense to fly someone in for a gig and then expect them to pay out of pocket for taxis when they're necessary to the business trip.
Hey /adv/
How about life tips thread?
found them few minutes ago
>1. You have an obligation to the world
What? I don't owe nothing to nobody. Is this the only way to be succesful? Some succesful people were total dicks to the rest of the world as far as I know.
and i'd like more
So this is it. I'm so desperate right now that any kind of advice would work for me. Even if I don't get any kind of help I hope it makes me feel better to tell my story.
>17 year old, lanky, average looking, low self-esteem faggot
>Always wanted to be in a relationship
>Started talking to girls in Facebook because too shy to talk to them irl
>Meet this pretty girl who is two years younger than me and seems to like me
>Begin a platonic relationship, only in Facebook
>Meet her younger sister
>She's so cute, but 13 year old. I can only see her as a little sister.
>Talk to her a lot, she's very mature and have a great time talking to her.
>Break up with older sister because of reasons
>A year has passed and I'm still talk to younger sister
>Make silly jokes about how I'm going to marry her once she's 18
>Had to travel to America to start college
>She is sad and doesn't want me to leave but I tell her I will be back soon
>She wrote me a letter but couldn't make it in time to give it to me before leaving
>Told her to give it to me the next time I see her
>Two years has passed and I'm back at my home country for a couple months
>Met her in person for the first time
>She's drop gorgeous
>We go for a coffee and talk about things that happened to us
>She gives me the letter and tells me to open it once I'm back at home.
>I opened it in front of her and started reading it
>She confesses to me in her letter
>I'veneverbeenmorehappyinmylife.jpg
>I immediately ask her out
>She tells me that it's too sudden, that we should have at least one more date
>m'kay
>We have a second date
>I asked her out at the end of the day
>She says yes and we kiss
>It's finally happening guys
>Realize I have to go back to America in a few weeks
>Tell her I'll be back soon
>One year has passed. I'm 21 and she's 17.
>We meet again and everything it's great
>However I know I will eventually have to leave and that fucking kills me
>Think is not fair for her to be always waiting for me....
>>16923211
....
>I break up with her
>I feel better in a strange way
>I return to America but we still talk almost everyday
>We start talking about hotter stuff
>She starts sending me pics of her body (not nudes)
>muh dick
>Start thinking that it was a bad idea to break up with her before doing something lewd
>Start making plans with her for the day I go back to home country
>She reminds me of the promise we made
>I think I really want to marry her
>A year and a half have passed and I'm about to finish college
>Got a great job offer, very well paid
>I accept
>Decided to stay in America
>Told her that I wasn't going to be back, that she needs to continue her life without me
>She understands my reasons
>Several months later she tells me she got a new boyfriend
>I'mgonnakillthatfaggot.jpg
>It's cool, at least I have videogames and money
>End of December 2015
>I finally fucking graduated
>Suddenly start thinking about my life
>Realize how painful is to be lonely
>Start quietly crying in my bedroom
>Fuck this shit I need to go back to home country
>Politely rejected that job offer and buy a plane ticket for December 31st
>Have a great new year's party with my friends
>Two days later she calls me
>Tells me she is no longer dating that faggot, that she wants to see me
>hype
>However she's in vacations in someplace else
>fuck my life
>She tells me she would be back in mid January
>Shit happens and she couldn't come that day
>Tells me she would be back January 30th
>Once again she doesn't come that day
>Tells me she would be back mid February, this time for sure because she has to start classes
>2 days before February 14th she literally disappears.
>I don't know what the hell happened
>Tried to call her a thousand times but it always directed me to voicemail
>a week later I tried to call her from a different phone.
>Oh, she blocked my fucking number
>DEPRESSION
>>16923211
Try getting in touch with her older sister.
>>16923291
Move on. It sounds hard but its so much easier than everyone on this board makes it out to be. I was in your shoes as well. Met her at 17 when she was 14.When I turned 22 she turned 18 and immediately hit me up for the D but I've been with my gf or the years so we just hung out. She moved on after a few weeks and got a bf. I'm sure you can do the same.
pls help me. i just botched the biggest exam of my life and feel like killing myself
>>16923171
its ok anon if it werent for people like you failing others wouldnt get to succeed
>>16923175
Help you what? There isn't a lot you can do.
life is too fucked up
>>16923141
And your question is. . . . ?
>>16923257
Ah... what do I do when I'm out of weed?
>>16923759
rehab
1/2
>be bi male
>be only semi-out as a HS senior, but adopt an androgynous, somewhat emo-ish style, wearing eyeliner and nail polish
>be only one left hanging around in the changing room after sports one day
>be in my underwear as 4 guys from my school walk past the half-open door
>one of them mutters "faggot" at me
>reply by shouting out something about fucking their mothers (don't remember if it involved me or them doing the deed).
>they stop in their tracks
>3 of them come in, telling the 4th to keep watch at the door
>2 end up grabbing hold of me
>think 3rd one (pic related) is going to beat me up
>is probably his original intention, but then has another idea
>tells them to turn me around and bend me over
>they press my hands down onto the bench
>gags me with a my t-shirt and pulls down my pants
>takes my hand cream from the bench and smears some on his dick
>tells them to really hold me now and starts entering me
>"Hold still, and stop clenching your ass!"
>says "Good girl" as he pushes past my sphincter
>"That's it, babe...just take it."
>one of the other 2 seems a bit uncomfortable with it all (yet still holds me down), whereas the other one seems to find it funny
>rape goes on for quite a while
>"Yes, babe!"
>he shoots his load inside my ass
>seems to go on for ages, almost as if he 's having 2 orgasms in succession
>is finally done
>pats my ass
>"You were not bad, sweetie - not bad at all"
>takes out a few dollar bills and throws them at my feet
>"Here, buy yourself some new nail polish on me"
>be afraid the other two are going to fuck me as well, but they let me go
>as they leave he says I'll probably want to go and wash my ass now
>>16923130
2/2
>cry with anger & humiliation
>but also have something of a masochistic streak, and become kind of obsessed with the guy who'd raped me
>always stare at him when I see him in the halls, and in the one class we have together
>his friends (not the ones involved in the rape) notice
>becomes kind of a running joke among them that I have a "crush" on him (teasing him about going to the prom with me and stuff like that)
>he seems half amused, half bemused
>be alone in the toilets with him a few months later
>take urinal right next to his
>when he's finished pissing, he goesinto a stall (leaving the door open), sits down and takes out his dick again
>just look at him
>he says "Well?"
>hate myself for doing so, but go in, close door behind us, kneel down & start sucking his dick
>after a while he shoots in my mouth and tells me to eat his cum, which I do
>afterwards he's still semi-erect, and makes he stroke him fully hard again
>tells me to sit down on his dick and ride him to orgasm
>but first makes me take off one of my socks and put it over my dick as a "shield"
>as I ride him I don't exactly kiss him, but put my closed lips against his closed lips
>also suck on his fingers
>cum in my sock as he cums in my ass
>get off him
>he says "Man, you're such a slut" and leaves
I still regularly jerk off to it all now (many years later) - but I feel like I let myself down by having sex with him willingly, and am letting myself down further by masturbating to these experiences now...
its ok to fap to whatever.
kinda useless thread but ty for the amusing story.
Lame pasta.
3/10 "good girl" part ruined my boner.
If I have an ugly face but I have other attributes: Tall, Fit, Wide shoulders.
Do I have a shot with girls?
Few weeks ago got me thinking about it:
>Me and friends at a club
>Girl comes up to our table and asks guy1 to dance>Denied
>So she asks guy2 to dance>Denied
>skips me
>Asks guy3 and girl1.
Why? That made me feel pretty conscious about my face :/
>>16923099
Anon, what's wrong with your face?
I don't know many people who are really hideous.
Fix haircut, facial hair, glasses if you have them, and clothes.
>>16923102
Well, It has a very redish tint, acne scars, my nose shape and I look like I'm 12.
>>16923104
There are many skincare products that help reduce the redness and the scars, ask a dermatologist if there's something you can do to improve your skin.
Can you grow a beard? Maybe it will help you look older.
And baby face isn't THAT bad, I like guys with a bit of baby face.
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