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So I live In Nevada, which is considered a dumb state. I've been trying to see where the educated people go and it seems like the Northeast is the place to be. Is anyone from Massachusetts, or any Northeast State? I have almost zero knowledge about this region. What comes to mind is presidents and the late 1700's. Is this a place to live for someone in their early 20? I also LOVE the cold/ rain and don't like heat.
Educated people go to companies that hire educated people, then talk with the other educated people, which leads them to meet with more educated people.
What you really want is people who bought into a lot of the misinformation you were probably taught in college, since your political views will line up more. So go ahead and move to Massachusetts, just don't be surprised if it turns out the way you used to do anything is fucking illegal and everyone has their head up their ass and none of the women will do anything more than break your heart.
>>16926964
I live in rural New England and can tell you it's literal hell like Satan himself is here
>>16926971
I don't really do anything illegal, don't smoke or gamble. Are you OK though? It seems like a girl messed with your heart.
College student here. I'm not working at the moment. I have about 2.5k. I don't want to keep all my money in cash. I need your help on how to decide whats best way to get interest for about 1k?
Bonds? Term deposit bank accounts? Or something else? And why?
>>16926923
stock market numb nuts, bonds and CD's will net you 3-5% and you can't easily convert those to cash. the stock market returns 16% on average, and you can just buy into a mutual or index fund if you don't wanna pick them yourself
>>16926956
> the stock market returns 16% on average
Heh
>>16926956
30 dollars is not much
I am a college student, a junior, and I am very lazy. I study economics, a relatively difficult subject, and I never study at all. I never talk to my professors, and I never do well on problem sets or presentations, but I absolutely excel at essays (a few times even being pulled aside and praised for them), and I usually get A's on all of my exams.
Like I said, I never study; I cram the entire term worth of content in 12 hours leading up to the exam and somehow far surpass most of my peers (often times setting the curve). What is telling about this is that most of...
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>I study economics, a relatively difficult subject
Kek
>>16926879
Mathematical Economics. It's not engineering, no, but it's only a few steps down in difficulty when in comparison to most majors.
You just happen to test well? I'm a Japanese/Psychology double major and I do the same thing for every test/essay. It's not really that special.
So I know my boyfriend has Paraphilic infantilism. Look it up for a more detailed explanation. Here's where I want advice. Instead of him being put in diapers and what not, he actually wants to be the one taking care of ME. Wants me to "mess" myself, wear diapers, suck on my own thumb (or his), call him daddy, and generally let him control me by being the dominant one. He has also referred to his penis as my pacifier cock. I'm totally on board and have no issue with it. I just want to hear from others who actually have this syndrome, have experience with...
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your bf doesnt have anything
you on the other hand are seriously retarded
>playing along with a pedo
thats gona work great with kids
I'm actually the "little" in my relationship, but I can tell you what I know about the motivations from the other side:
1. Doesn't want judgment/scrutiny, wants to shower attention on someone without focus on their needs or failures
2. Likes to look at/have sex with cute things
3. Finds it sexy or simply more convenient to be the decision-maker in some or all domains
I don't get it either; it's not my thing. If I get to play around and be told what to do that's fine by me, though.
>pacifier cock
Kek. I just showed my wife this post. Her comment was "yeah, right, this girls got serious issues and so's he"
Question for anyone else here with PTSD.
Do you feel dead? Anywhere from "dead inside" like hollow/empty/devoid of meaning as a human to you seriously feel like you died in some event a while back and just kind of got up and went on living. Is this...normal after some seriously fucked-up shit happens to you?
>>16926747
Yes, this is what I have been through. It was like I was in some void or limbo between two absolute places.
Between death and the living world. And I sooo wanted to connect with death, becaus ai couldn't connect with the living.
It's normal and.. You have to give it time and find something constructive to make that time pass. Whatever you've been through needs its own space to unravel.
Happy to answer any other questions. I know talking and finding someone who understands can be helpful.
>>16926763
Okay, first, pardon my probably lack of coherence. I'm on drugs lol >_>
Is it harmful?
Like I go through life being semi-convinced I died in one incident or another. That my ex accidentally choked me to death or concussed me one of the worse times. That I succeeded in killing myself one of the worse times. I feel like a ghost who doesn't know when to quit, or that my soul vacated but my mind and body continued. I can't tell if this is protecting me somehow or hindering me. How...
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>>16926796
concussed me as in i died of some brain injury or something
i was concussed lol
(im a guy) In my experience with women they seem to "tend" to be more manipulative and insecure than men can be. Sure, men can be that way but its mostly when something is going wrong and not just out of the blue. And men can also be heavily manipulated by a girl and I've seen it happen a ton.
As an example my mom has overreacted so heavily to me smoking weed when it was not a big deal. Another my brothers ex wife was so manipulative that it scarred me and sent me to the hospital for a mental breakdown (was living with my brother). Another time I complemented...
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>>16926694
To a certain extent. This is more cultural than anything else, however: girls are taught to manipulate in much the same way boys are taught to fight, and in both cases, this winds up being to the detriment of both.
In your specific case, however, I'm not seeing much manipulation. Your mother is reacting appropriately to finding out that you're enslaving yourself to a chemical for a few minutes of fake happiness a pop. Two women have turned you town, and you've continued to pursue them: the basic...
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>>16926694
well I do know they have a bigger potential to give birth
I think it's just biological. Some evidence points to women being naturally more empathetic on average than men. In good people, this is great and allows them to be nurturing, caring, and charismatic. In bad people, this is horrible as it allows them to be very manipulative.
Hey I'm interested in seeing how many days apart couples regularly go on here. I've noticed my girlfriend of 3 years has been seeing her friends a lot more than ever before, meaning after she is finished with her studies/work she will go see her friends several days in a row over me and cancelling coming to see me. I'm not used to this so I'm having some insecurities about this, she asked me to hang out tomorrow after 2 straight days of cancelling on me and instead of taking her up on it i told her nicely that i already made plans for tomorrow with my friends...
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>girlfriend asks you to hang out, which is what you want
>you decide to shittest her
What the fuck did you hope to gain from this?
>>16926708
I get this completely but remember that the last two days she has asked the very same thing and both times only hours before we organized to see each other she has cancelled and seen friends instead. There is no guarantee she wouldnt do the same thing tomorrow and I guess I didnt want to be turned down a third time.
I'm not saying what I did was the best course of action but as far as she knows Im perfectly happy and I feel like I should just get over this.
>3year relationship
>worried about eing apart for 3days
She has a life outside of just you andher leave herbe
I just moved with my gf into a apartment (with our friend). Now the friend will never be a concern, but our relationship is an open.
She is Poly, but I am a mono.
I never really dealt with this kind of situation before, and I told her I would try this and give this relationship a chance. But there are times where it is more harm than good.
What are your guys' advice or experience on poly people, or open relationships in general
If one partner wants to be poly and one wants to be monogamous, it will not work out. Ever. It doesn't matter how "open-minded" you try to be, it's a fundamental difference that will just end in hurt feelings.
You moved in with someone you can't even agree with basic life principles on.
Godspeed.
>>16926679
yeah, I never really knew much about poly relationships before i met her, and she wants me to try and see if i can get someone, to get experience, and to try and be with another person. I just haven't yet, and so i don't know if I can be poly or not. not yet anyways
It's not going to work out.
I'm a poly who dated monos, it was miserable for everyone.
Hey /adv/ I'm joining the Air Force and I have a couple of questions. See, how does the pay thing work? Do I get a check, does the military set me up a bank account?
If so, I owe a bank money from when I was 16, about 5 years ago. Because of that I can't open a bank account anywhere. So what happens for someone like me?
when the military finds out your enlistment will stop
sorry
>>16926332
Sorry anon.
But think about it this way - You shitty decisions when you were a minor (somehow) are keeping you from 4 years of absolute suck.
You're not missing anything and are FAR better off going to college.
You don't get laid in the AF, you don't get any of the things they say you'll get except a uniform that feels a lot like county orange.
>>16926344
>you don't get any of the things they say you'll get except a uniform
and even then...
Help me adv, I have a crush on another girl. My girlfriend is incredibly jealous, and for good reason. I've always really liked female attention, and she knows it and I've been with her for almost 3 years. So to fight my urges to be flirtatious and thus respect the sanctity of me relationship(I'm no cheater and I truly love my gal) I always just stop talking to the girls who would give me this attention, or the girls I found myself crushing on.
Now, listen. I'm not rob Lowe so it's not like this happens to me all the time, but every semester...
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Grow up.
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>>16926278
can't argue with that , hope i'll get there some day. this whole situation does make me feel incredibly childish, but such is life for a dumb 20 year old, eh?
>>16926304
Yes. I'm glad you understand I'm not being an asshole, its seriously the best advice anyone could give you at this point in your life.
Despite what every person has ever told you, youve decided to settle down in your prime, and stick to one person for the past 3 years. This type of commitment is realistically too big for people your age. Youre at an age where you should be out fucking every one of those girls you're infatuated with, and your body knows it. Such is human instinct.
But...
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Somebody know what is this ???
>>16926215
The smallest penis I've ever seen. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Don't know what that is, but you should probably get it checked by a real doc. Just sayin...
>>16926215
A really bad ingrown hair?
>be with gf for just over a year, sort of cray and always want to get her way
>started college recently and saw her hanging with another guy but hid until they went off
>she seems to keep trying to anitiate arguments
>lately she has been very distant and barely rings
>today she blocked me on facebook after having an argument with her
>tells me we're still together
my head is...
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Just break up. Sounds like maybe she's trying to make you break up with her, so she doesn't have to do it.
>>16926070
Yea just dump the bitch op. Sounds like a hassle
>>16926075
>>16926070
this is fkn my head up...i literally just took a panadol because I had a headache from trying to figure it out
Hey /adv/ . When do nips become too big? Ive always felt really self-conscious of mine.
Do all/most guys perfer small pink ones?
>>16925878
Can post pics
>>16925878
I'd make a circle between your index finger and thumb and say thats probably normal sized. As a dude I'd be happy to just see your tits.
>>16925878
i like big nipples op. dont worry about it
I broke up with my ex on Dec 2014, after a 10 year relationship. She wanted to know more men to see if "I was the one." She told me that I should do that too, I didn't want to do that, but in the end she convinced me. I was feeling awful and all, but it was more like stress because I wanted this to end.
In March 2015 she told me she had had sex with the only guy she ever met after telling me she wanted to meet other guys. I totally collapsed and my parents took me to a doctor, the doctor told my parents he couldn't treat me, that I needed a psychiatrist....
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>>16925877
I want to help you, OP, but this is way out of my depth.
I'll just bump this thread.
>>16925877
I was in the exact same situation and we got back together........for a week. It's different now, there's no easy way to deal with this.
>>16925877
>but I simply can't forget what happened and forgive her.
If you're not able to forgive and forget, then don't even make an attempt. Try to move on with your life.
>after a 10 year relationship. She wanted to know more men to see if "I was the one."
There is no such thing as "the one." And if she was still undecided after 10 years, then she honestly didn't care for you that much. I've been with my...
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Hey /adv/ I just got offered a threesome with 2 girls. I am going to take the offer don't worry! But I'm an 18 year old male virgin and I don't know how to please two girls at the same time. So /adv/ do you have any helpful tips and what I should expect? Also how many condoms should I bring? Thanks :)
>>16925839
>But I'm an 18 year old male virgin
How the fuck does a virgin get invited into a threesome?
I should be the one taking advices from you here, motherfucker.
[spoiler] also, you'll be fingering one while penetrating the other, mostly, train that finger motion, don't use three fingers, press against the spongiest spot in the direction of her bellybutton, variate between rubbing it slowly to fingering her deeper, then come back to press at it again and so on....
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>>16925871
>How the fuck does a virgin get invited into a threesome? I should be the one taking advices from you here, motherfucker.
I guess my flirting skills are pretty good. And thanks for the tips anon. Here's a snippet of how I got offered the threesome
>>16925871
Stupid fuck... Not every girl like it that way. Op> just confront them about your situation and trust me, you'll have the time of your life
