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I come from a relatively rich family, and because of very high inheritance taxes in my country, my father wants to already give my brother and me the equivalent of around $1,000,000 each, ahead of his death. The rest would come when he dies, but with high taxes taken from it.
The problem is that my brother is a good guy but he keeps failing at things in his life, overuses weed, has been several times ripped off by 'friends', has had a few minor clashes with law enforcement etc. I am younger but I have a normal life as society thinks one should, with a decent job, in a stable relationship and so on. I do help my brother as much as I can, but never with money because I don't think it will help him.
So, my father asked me if receiving $1,000,000 would ruin my brother, leaving him no chance to make his own path and no motivation to continue with adult education, which he painfully started (he is in his late twenties). My father is not too close to us and is not completely aware of all aspects of my brother's life, so he cannot make a fully informed decision. I plan to tell him that it is best if he doesn't give either of us money in the coming years, at least until my brother gets his life together, which he looks like he might slowly be starting to do lately (?).
Am I right to refuse that money for us because I don't want it to ruin my brother? I can't ask friends or acquaintances because I don't want that to change our relationships - and because in my Scandinavian social democratic country being 'rich' is also somewhat stigmatized.
As someone with addiction issues I think you are correct in saying to wait a few years. He will blow it because he doesn't have enough at stake yet.
Yeah I think that's a good Idea OP.
Wait for 3-5 years, see where you (and your brother) are in life and then re-evaluate the situation?
Your brother probably cant handle the money and it would be very unfair if you got the money and he didn't.
>>16934291
This.
Wait and see, OP, you are a good guy and it is good that you care about your brother in this way.
Don't try to persuade me not to do it, it'll be a waste of both of our time.
I just need to know which one is better. I'll be using a long barreled one. Can't tell if it's a rifle or shotgun but it doesn't really matter if it gets the job done.
>heard that flinching fucks it up
Best way to position it?
>>16934878
i recommend jumping off a building. way more exciting. you know those amusement park rides where its just a drop and you feel like oyu're going to die and its fun?
It'll be like that but you actually die.
you're less likely to fuck up jumping off a building then you are shooting yourself too
>>16934878
>Can't tell if it's a rifle or shotgun
how can you not tell, if it takes shells its a shotgun if it takes bullets its a rifle
>>16934890
Probably why he's killing himself m8
Lately I have been considering to become socially passive, meaning that I would interact with others only for job or other necessary matters.
What do you think is worth the most: social relationships or doing as you wish?
Humans have evolved to be social animals
People that try to ignore this and go off on their own end up fucking themselves over with relationships, friendships, etc and eventually get to the point where there is no turning back without therapy
>Bad idea
>>16934494
So..what would happen exactly? Will I become one of those "real human beans" fabled in greentexts here?
>>16934494
Can confirm this is true. I don't recommend it.
Hi everyone #
How to know if i made her cum?
She told me she came but i havent seen her do anything sign or scream so girls tell me ... Was she lying to me about it ? Im kinda knew to this since i recently lost my virginity to her.
Let me know and thanks for your feedback.
I have in mind what a wise man once told me... If you have to ask then she didnt cum.
Any feedback would be awesome as well.
>>16934329
When you're eating pussy and her fluids gush into your mouth.
That's about the only way I know of to be 100% sure.
Ps. If she's faking it she'll more than likely make a noise or tense up. If she is quiet and you didn't notice then maybe she is telling the truth and maybe her orgasm isn't as strong as other women.
So... Get your mouth down there..
>>16934361
About the licking, she prefers penetration. It's the only way for her to cum from what she told me. Not that i'm bad at licking, it's a work in progress.
>>16934371
Well I suppose you just have to get to know her body language.
Also, wet slippery vagina and/or loose vagina are signs that she is horny, if that helps at all.
My girlfriend of 6 months doesn't want sex. No oral, no hand, no vaginal. Nothing. Her sex drive is almost 0, in fact I tried to "test" her since I was the one always making sexual advances. To this day, we've gone 5 weeks without sex. FIVE. WEEKS. And she hasn't had even the slightest inkling to touch my dick.
I know she loves me, she prepares meals for me, she goes shopping and gets stuff for me, she even moved locations to be with me. But what the hell she won't even give me a handjob. It's pathetic.
What do I do? we're...
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>>16933875
>and you may ask why I'm with her? physically she's a 9/10. I've had guys stop us on the street to get her number if we weren't a couple.
Her physical beauty means absolutely nothing if she doesn't put out. Staying with her makes absolutely no sense. You can try talking to her about it, but if she still refuses to compromise, you're over.
I'm sorry OP, she's fucking someone else.
>>16933880
Not necessarily. It's possible that she's asexual, has past trauma, is saving herself for marriage, or is a closet lesbian. It could be anything. Regardless, they're not compatible.
Do dreads look good on white people? I always wanted to try them. What kind of girls do they attract?
NO.
I don't even think those are dreads in that picture.
But I think white guys with dreads look incredibly retarded. I saw this little kid with dreads at the library the other day and it looked pretty awful. He reminded me of a caveman. Poor child.
I'm a virgin with a Simple (serious) question for any female here.
What at are some things you like to be told whild sexting/flirting over the phone or online?
This girl grabbed my Johnson yesterday, and told me she wanted me to talk to her later. Now she wants me to say all sorts of dirty stuff to her so she can get off but i seriously am so unimaginative that all i can think of is "you're so fucking hot" or, "god i want to fuck you"
Can you please give me some examlles of things to say that you would personally like to hear? Thanks a lot!
So, are you sexting her? If so, you should go into detail about what you'd do to her. And i mean DETAIL. This could range from anything between how you would kiss her to how eager you'd be to pump her full with your hot sperm. But be crefull. You haven't done anything sexual with her yet? Has she sent you pics? Have you sent some? Nudes? What was the last text she sent?
Some backsrory:
>This girl grabbed my Johnson yesterday, and told me she wanted me to talk to her later.
>then slipled her number into my waistband. All i said was "well, alright." and never texted her.
> Sent her a message this morning saying "hey, it's OP, sorry i totally forgot to text youast night, just got really busy. Was it important?"
>her response was "kind of, but you're fine"
>Well...
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>>16932627
So far she's sent me 4 pics, clothed ass, Nipple imprints on shirt, Bare ass, Wet panties between legs.
Last thing i said was "haha, you're really fucking pretty, you know that? " her response was "mmm, I'm glad you think so, what are you gonna do to me?" havent said anything yet.
Can someone give me like usable, really solid example lines? Just so i know how to not sound like a dumbass?
I live with my boyfriend and his roommate. Long story short, his roommates wife and kid moved in and I frankly can't stand them one bit. I've been able to handle his roommate for six months, but now that his family lives here of gives me extreme anxiety and I'm always stressed to the point where i can't even leave the room. My boyfriend makes my anxiety worse with his nasty comments and basically telling me I'm stupid because of how I feel. What can I do to make myself not feel stressed the fuck out?
>>16934501
move
This is the part where you either put up with it or move
Your bf is being a jerk. Seriously, nasty comments about feelings and lack of empathy towards parther (+ prefering the side of other people) are a sign of a bad relationship.
Just move out if you can and re-think everything.
Hey /adv/
I need help with classic pleb shit. my friend of 22 has recently had a baby with his fiancee. However, he is getting his baby christened even though he in not a christian. I Just think its ridiculous, they are borderline atheist.
I used to be pretty close to him before he moved in with his gf. Now i only see him about once a month. I want to say something but i think it will be to no avail. He has already started to make invitations and told most of his family. Why do people nonreligious people even do this? if he wants to celebrate the birth of his...
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>>16934379
>What should i do?
Christianfag here. This question is so dumb I hope it's trolling. You should do nothing, obviously, apart from going to your friend's baby's christening and not being a nitpicky douche.
Christening doesn't do anything anyway, even for religious people. It's just a feel good thing.
For some people it´s the only way to gather all their family together and reconnect, except for weddings and funerals.
There´s inherent "need" to attend baptisms and such big things, but for a normal "family gatherings" or even birthdays (if it´s not the big ones), many people will skip.
Just accept it as a way to reconnect instead of a religious practice ;)
>>16934379
Who cares? If God is real then he just saved his child from a burning in hell for all eternity. If God isn't real then he just had some water splashed on their head. He seems to be pragmatic.
All I want to do is shave my legs without fucking ingrown hairs and shaving rash and all that crap. I literally just tried waxing and it isn't removing the smaller hairs meaning I have to shave them, I'm considering adding in some super glue to the wax.
Please help, why does this happen to me, how do girls shave their legs and not get ingrown hairs or a rash, this is so annoying I just want it to work for once.
Are you me? I asked about this in the opposite gender thread and am still waiting for a reply.
Not everyone can be pretty OP.
The sooner you accept that life is unfair, the better you can deal with life.
You're white so you have that at least.
Every type of hair removal takes time for the skin to get used to - shaving, cream, wax...It takes a few (3-5) usages of the same to get used to
I´d try the sugar paste if I were you... or laser removal, which takes time (cca year; 6-8 treatments) but is permanent
I don't think my dog will make it /adv/
I'm still clinging onto hope that he's still recovering, I went to the vet to visit him, he recognized me, but he's so worn out, he can barely lift his head. Its such a contrast compared to how lively he was just a few days ago. Its so hard to see him like this, and he means a lot to me, he's been there through a lot of tough times growing up.
I've asked to keep him on watch until tonight and early tomorrow morning to give me some time to think.
I don't know if I should bury him...
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Losing a dog is always hard, but the companionship and love they provide sticks with you forever and shapes you into a better person. Even in death they prepare you for the future by toughening you emotionally for whatever lies ahead of you.
Cheesy maybe, but there's not much else to say. Losing a dog is always shit but you'll feel better in a few weeks. Just remember feeling like shit right now is the norm and it's not something insurmountable that will hold you back, it's a part of life that most people go through and you'll be better for it in the end. And your dog too, seeing as he's suffering.
No one is ever ready for death. It's just a reminder that life is fragile and because of that we can appreciate it. I'm not saying he's going to die, but if he will then you should just accept the overwhelming sadness and cry your eyes out for a couple of days. Give yourself the time and rest that you need in order to recover, but don't let it eat you up because that's no way to honor your dog. Try to remember the times your dog made you happy instead of focusing on his suffering.
I'm not really the best at giving advice, but I saw this thread...
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>>16925768
>Just remember feeling like shit right now is the norm and it's not something insurmountable that will hold you back, it's a part of life that most people go through and you'll be better for it in the end. And your dog too, seeing as he's suffering.
Thank you for your kind words, I'm starting to get to that stage where I have to accept I might lose him, the inevitability is just sorrowing I think.
>>16925820
Thanks anon, I'm awfully alone without my dog, I just miss someone being at home when I arrive from work. I might consider getting a rescue dog from the pound once this blows over, but I do feel guilty thinking about it so early on.
Im thinking to have him cremated, maybe get a pendant with a bit of his ashes, He always travels with me everywhere, so I think its more symbolic than anything.
I'll wish him luck for you anon.
My bestfriend got a girlfriend a couple months ago.
>He's an sjw tumblr dude but we've known each other for years
She's your typical shallow person. Really touchy, loud, sexual, and attention whore. I'm pretty sure she made up a rape story about her and her dad just to get some sympathy points which is alright by him since he's kind of the same way. Turns out that me and her are studying the same thing so we spend a lot of time together. Eventually, he delegates the position of emotional crutch to me because he'...
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>>16931941
Unleash the folder!
>>16931941
>I don't know how to speak up for myself when I'm upset or annoyed
>I put on a smile and let them think everything's fine while I quietly build up my resentment
>I just completely cut off contact without any kind of acknowledgment at all, because I'm a fucking pussy and I fear nothing more than direct confrontation
>Even though we share classes and she's dating my...
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>>16931941
You need better friends OP.
Again and again, I keep fapping to mom/son incest stuff, despite wanting to quit.
I just fapped to this.
How fucked am I in the head?
Slowly, I find this shit really, really troubling.
I would seriously appreciate some help here.
The fantasies keep coming back and I barely fap to any other form of porn anymore.
As long as you don't fuck your own mom OP, I think you're fine.
>>16931430
>>16931434
Wanting to fuck your mom is one thing. I'm much more perturbed at how anyone can find those cartoonishly massive tits attractive. Are you 13?
If a girl came out and told you she was sexually assaulted (prior) 2 months after dating would you leave her
yes. that's one of the shittiest of shit tests there is. just bail.
Yep, she's broken good now, ditch her while you can.
Yep. I had a girl tell me she was raped on the first date before.
It is still to this day the worst date I've ever had, she also told me the number of sexual partners she had been with up until that point in her life.
It is a massive red flag and you should bail NOW. Do not stick your dick in crazy, OP. Even if you already have? You should still bail.
I don't like the "Lol used goods" argument any more than the next guy but these types of chicks have SEVERE emotional damage that you will have to confront often.
Don't think...
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TL,DR: I spaghetti'd at the end of a promising date and now I'm getting ghosted
>February 2016
>28 y.o. white male 6'4" finance professional master race
>Match this girl on Tinder
>One of very few ones
>Think she's really attractive though obviously subjective
>My text game is on fire
>She always replies right away
>Suggest we meet
>She's actually in town to babysit her cousin and network for grad school
>Schedules don't work out
>Tell her she needs to grab a drink with me next time she's back
>She agrees and will be back in one month
I forget about her for a while and don't message her on Tinder
>Wednesday 3:16
>Notice she's back in town again
>"Let's grab a drink on Thursday after I get off work"
>Suggest a bar near where she's staying in town
>She's free for FOUR hours (no babysitting)
>Thursday, Day of Spaghetti
>Let her know I'm on my way from work
>She offers to let me park at her (aunt's) place
>I couldn't have planned this shit any better
>Buy condoms because it's going down
Here's where things got kind of dicey
>She's even better looking in person
>Greet her with a hug
>She wasn't really expecting it
>Maybe she's not the touchy-feely type
>We head over to this restaurant/bar
>Grab a table because I don't know if she's hungry
>She already ate
>We're sitting opposite of one another with drinks instead of side by side at the bar
>Try to reinforce my small talk game
>Things go well enough that she suggests we go for ice cream at place nearby
>Things going smoothly
>We're really connecting on so many issues
>Getting dark outside
>Realize we're going to head back to her place soon
>Not sure how to pull this off
>I can tell she's just as awkward as me
>Walk up to her place
>Spaghetti
>Hug her goodbye
>Didn't even attempt a kiss
>Didn't want to invite myself in because it's not technically her place
>Awkwardly get back in my car and leave
I get home about 25 minutes later and I'm feeling full of regret
1/2
>>16932889
2/2
Here's how I make it worse:
>Wanted her to know I really like her despite the way things went down
>Text her to thank her for a nice night out
>Tell her that I wanted to kiss her but didn't because I didn't get the right signals
>Ask her if she was put off by the evening
>Wait anxiously for a response
>Her...
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It's over. There's literally no way. Even if your text game is on point again she will just remember the shitty first encounter. Give it a shot, tho. There might be a way.
>>16932893
What should I text her and how soon?
I got the impression that she was a very conservative girl. She never tried alcohol until she was 21 and her school didn't even permit sororities on campus.
I wasn't sure how to make a move without her taking it the wrong way
