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To make everything short.
Basically, I'm a student and yesterday was my first day at pizzeria. They were trying out me out to see if they'll hire me. I had to help in kitchen and do some deliveries.
The first delivery went okay, but at the second delivery I crashed the car into the other car in front of me. We stopped with the guy and there was no major harm to his car, he said he won't call the police. My car was destroyed from the front tho. Lights, cooler everything went to shit. It was still driving tho, it's a cheaper car costing 500$ at most. I thanked the guy and called the boss and asked me what will I do. I said I will deliver pizza and come back.
I was under so much stress, but somehow I came back. Nobody said anything to me, but I could feel everyone was mad. I was really sorry and wanted to talk to the boss and he said that he has a lot of work to do and doesn't have time right now. Later he called me to talk and he said that he's on the verge of crying and that it is the one of only 2 working cars. I said that I will pay off everything. He said that the problem is that they have only one car right now. He asked me what is my plan. I said that I'm really sorry and if they somehow hire me I will work to pay off that damage. If they don't, I will still somehow pay off it, but it will take a longer time, because I'm broke.
The car is cheap so it will maybe even be better to buy a new car than repair this one.
Today I have a meeting with another boss and the boss I talked to yesterday. I'm completely down and have no idea what to do.
>>16930346
Bump
>>16930346
if I am reading this correctly, you were not under contract/employment at the time you were driving and therefore I would assume that you cannot be held liable for any damages.
Don't automatically assume that you are liable for the damages. If they give you a bill for the damages I would try to get a free consultation with a lawyer to determine whether they even have the right to do that.
Now, assuming you actually still want this job it may be a necessary act of good-faith on your part to agree to cover the costs or part of the costs, but that is contingent on them hiring you of course.
>>16930369
Its true, but im not douchebag. I fucked up and i will pay for it. Besides my friend works there and he suggested me and if i try to avoid paying they will pressure him.
I joined a Meetup and eventually an anime group popped up in my area. They're having their second meetup at a hotel but I have some qualms.
I have a lot of shame with my hobbies. Anime and video games being the big ones. I'm talking it through with my therapist though. Basically I don't think I want to watch anime with people. I'd die of second hand embarrassment.
Secondly, the organizer is going to marathon School Days. Which I find kind of hilarious because it's a bad show with a terrible/great ending and I don't know if he's aware of that or if he thinks it's a genuinely good show. Either way, I don't know why'd you pick it for this event. Also a hotel seems an odd choice. I work at a hotel and banquet rooms are typically a couple hundred to rent. He's mentioned "it's expensive but I don't mind" on the meetup page.
Basically, I don't know what to do or how to think about this. I want to meet people with similar interests, but I have hangups that are all in my head.
Just go to see and then pop up a random excuse if you find it too awkward (it most probably will). Don't be afraid, if they are invested in anime changes are that they are as shy as you are.
>>16930235
I was creepin' on some of the members profiles and they look like normal (some are even attractive, guys included) young people. I don't think I saw a single neckbeard.
What if I get there and it was all a ruse and they laugh at me and then go play sports?
>>16930240
I used to go to meetups (now busy with gf). It's not like that. Meetups are legit. Been with OCAG for a while then stopped.
The problem is talking to people. Trust me, I couldnt talk to anyone because they all had their own thing and I was ugly as fuck so no one bothered talking to me.
>me
>21 y/o kissless virgin
>somewhat by choice, didnt/still dont want these things to happen with just anybody
>match with girl on tinder
she plays league
>find out she is the same rank as me
> get her league info
"ill talk to you soon sometime" - anon 2015
>FUCK!!! ITS FINALS TIME
>didnt get on league for 3 weeks because of finals, then went on break with no computer for a few weeks, and got into CS:GO when i got back and didnt get on league
>i forgot she existed for 11 months ( starting with finals )
>mfw
>got burnt out on csgo in january, decided to get back into league
>inviting people to game, didnt recognize the name as anybody i knew.
>check the note
>"tndr girl"
>instantly remember her nick name and add her on skype
>she sort of remembers me
>invite her to ranked
get to talkin
blah blah how ya doin gurl
>find out she goes to school 5 hours away but lives in my city when she isnt in school
>FUCK
>we clicked super fast, and that fucking bot lane synergy was insane
we talk for like 5 or more hours a day
>havnt missed a day since we reconnected
>send me bdsm test
>THE FUCK DO I DO
i failed basically the whole test
never bring it up again
>i go to art school (its not liberal arts, its more engineer-y type art) and tell her i have anatomy figure drawing
>send me a photo of the drawing anon
>sent
>anon thats awesome, what would you do if it was me up there
>spaghetti
>tells me i should come visit her
that brings us to now
she is into everything im into and dislikes everything im not into, but she has always said that shit first and i just think... holy shit me too.
i dont want to drive 5 hours unless i know that we are a thing. because if she just wants to play games i can sit here at home and we can play that way.
TL;DR girl lives 5 hours away, insane how much we connect. she might want me, but i dont know how to ask somebody to go out with me when we cant even be near eachother and i dont want to fuck everything up.
reading this gave me cancer..
are you sure you're 21? you sound more like you're 14.
>>16929972
yes im 21, sorry man
>>16929952
>i go to art school (its not liberal arts, its more engineer-y type art)
You're an art student?
Quit that, and take something that will make you money. Unless one of your relatives can pay for your life, you won't find a job worth a damn with a shitty engineering-y but not engineering degree.
I've spent 3 years in mechanical engineering, I'm going to finish because I am almost done but I don't expect to get a job with it.... I'm going to do a trade a community college and run my own business.
you have more problems to attend to instead of a girl mate.
Now, back on track. I wouldn't drive 2 hours to a girl I was already boning in the first place.
Don't put women on a pedestal, find some girl that will benefit your life. Not someone to waste away playing league with. baka.
That's my 3 cents... Tits are nice, your time is more nice.
Welcome back to the night thread. Will help everyone as much as possible.
Continuing from the old thread
Will be up from 11pm to 7am
Ask anything, don't be afraid, I will answer.
How can I figure out WHY I procrastinate? Why do I do this to myself?? Is it as simple as wanting instant gratification or could there be a deeper reason? How do I figure out what that is?
>>16929605
>Be 19 years old
>Everything going well, in college
>Mom and Dad come home over Christmas break, both very upset
>Turns out mom cheated on dad
>Very pissed because dad busted his ass to provide for me and my brother
>Distance myself from my mother for about a month
>Find out mother has cheated other times
>Find out most of family knew and did nothing at all
>Eventually I'm able to talk to my mom
>She moved out to my grandma's
>Rarely speaks to me, maybe a text a week
>Have told her that she doesn't talk to me enough
>Say this multiple times, says she'll be better, doesn't happen
TL;DR Mom fucked up family and now won't talk to me. Basically says she's trying to give me space, but I know it's BS. How do I try to cope with this? Should I try to mend things together? Should I leave her behind?
>>16929611
you procrastinate because you're content with not meeting deadlines and you don't know how good it feels to actually finish things, knowing that they're behind you and you don't have to worry about them. that's the deepest i can say. you're just lazy anon. you're not unique at all, there's nothing special that's wrong with you, you're just lazy.
How do I get matches in tinder? I've had it for almost a month and I've gotten no matches.
>>16929317
Make a good but not long description about you, have some good pics of you smiling (a happy smile, not a pervert one). Pics with animals help a lot
You're fucked if any of the following apply:
1) You're ugly
2) You're being too picky and setting your standards to high
3) You live somewhere with a small population (unless it's a college town of course)
>>16929327
I thought I had a pretty good profile but I guess I'm just ugly
/adv/, I have a dilemma...
If you were given the chance to fuck this ass (pic related), but had a gf which isn't pic related, would you fuck that ass?
>>16928917
In the meantime, I'm gonna post memes...
Ew no
In university at the moment. However, most of the people are like pic related. How does one be a young intelligent conservative in such an environment without being a social outcast and without becoming a degenerate oneself?
>>16929405
Here are some words to live by.
"worry bout cho self"
Seriously, they'll eat each other up in due time. Worry about bettering yourself and furthering your goals while they graduate with art majors or political science majors.
>>16929405
don't be a tool
All depends on where you go to school, man.
I transferred from Georgia State in downtown Atlanta, which was a liberal shithole, to the much better University of Georgia, which is about half-and-half conservative/liberal.
The truth of the matter is, though, liberals are typically outspoken assholes. You might actually BE on a campus with 50/50 but conservative college students are often bullied into silence by the "understanding" and "compassionate" political left.
I'm tired of being ugly. How can I stop being ugly so I can finally have sex like everyone else?
Alternatively, can I put enough antidepressants down my throat that my sex drive dies completely? My current medication is very mild and I still have my sex drive but I have more trouble getting erections.
>>16929199
Go to the gym
>>16929205
I did. Was still ugly.
>>16929199
Plastic surgery
I know this is gonna come off as bragging and you guys will just go "well if you're so smart, then -" and so on, but please listen to me seriously.
How the hell am I supposed to live with being literally a genius? I'm the son of two parents, both with an IQ in the 140's, and I was raised with everything a child who needs to develop abstract thinking, intuition, and curiosity. I was taken on many travels and learned about the world, while given access to a library of books to plow my way through. As a result, my IQ is a measured 148, and my entire perspective of reality in a constant state of awe over the complexity and size of our universe while picking up every bit and piece of information I gather from everything, everywhere.
I pick up languages as I go. I see the solution to complicated problems in seconds. I learn the curriculum of an entire semester in a week. I naturally and fluently analyzed how socialization works, and have become the biggest smooth talker ever, with a massive network of acquaintances. In essence, I have the potential to take on the entire world, and I have absolutely no idea where to focus my attention. There are so many things that can be done, yet how do I decide on the few things that I want to spend my life on?
I'd like actual advice on this as well. Also some help on how to reach people emotionally would be appreciated. I can't reach people. It seems only stabbing them would wake them up. But I don't know, I'm in a different boat than this "OP", that is a thing that's certain..
>>16927996
It doesn't matter what you do, but if you want to have impact after you die, pick a problem and start solving it.
>>16927996
#1 IQ means jack shit on an individual level
#2 you sound like you have an overly grandiose opinion of yourself and in actuality are probably average in intelligence.
#3 I too can pick up languages easily, find solutions (or rather, know the exact steps to follow to acquire a solution) quickly, and learn a semester's worth of material in about a week. But none of this makes me a special snowflake like you think you are
I have never kissed a girl. How would I go about getting hugs from girls? I do have friends and everything, but the lack of closeness is killing me. I am not fat, just shy/scared.
21/m, Student in Germany
Go up to a female and ask her if she wants to get coffee sometime
You either hit it off or you don't, but you can never score if you don't roll the dice
>>16928867
The problem is that I'm scared. I have no idea how to fix this.
Every tip or technique on the internet (be it on forums or pickup-pages or whatever) feel completly unnatural and awkward to me, so if I tried doing just that, it'd come off as extremly awkward.
>>16928870
Whenever I ask a girl out I'm shaking like I have Parkinson's
That didn't stop me from getting my current girl though
How do I make myself cry? I'm an emotional robot and I need this.
>>16928470
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lA0IlDhITkQ
>>16928470
chop onions
>>16928470
Lol, why do you need to cry?
1) pepper spray, onion, any other chemical warfare.
2) play Undertale. On 2nd play-through I shed like 2 tears during final boss.
3) don't cry.
I recommend number 3.
I'd rather black people didn't exist, but I wish no individual any harm. Am I a racist?
Yeah, me too. I really wish black people would just magically disappear.
>>16926411
technically yes, but being racist isn't as bad as you have been conditioned to believe
the world would be objectively a better place if there were other races in the place of where black people are now, all of africa could be like australia
>>16926411
Wether you are a racist or not doesnt matter.
Its not wrong to be a racist.
Why arent you allowed to dislike something, afterall?
I hate niggers too, who gives a shit really, fuck them.
What are you supposed to do when you feel trapped and claustrophobic in your life but you can't leave?
>>16928631
Nigga, that's called life in the human body.
>>16928661
Okay.
How do I make it stop in a painless way?
Been with my gf for about 6 years now and i made it pretty clear when we met that i like to crossdress from time to time. She was a bit startled at first but accepted and even said she enjoys it and think it's sexy. But now as time as gone i really get the feeling at Its a turn off to her and recently got mad at me for buying 40 bucks worth of cd clothing. She feels like I'm more attracted to myself than her which is of course not true. Or that i spend more on myself for cloths i can only really wear for sex stuff which also isn't true. I recently spent 250 plus on cloths for her. Dresses, lingerie, bras,panties, blowses, shirts, a lot of stuff. I feel like she is rejecting my sexuality because it's a turn off to her but life i said it was clear from the beginning i was a cd.
>>16927773
And you want advice on?
>>16927776
Should i just drop it as a fetish id it's going to hurt our relationship? How do i do that?
>>16927783
No, don't change for her. If you want to crossdress you should do that. She also has nothing to do with what you spend your money on (I'm presuming that you're spending YOUR money on your sissy stuff).
What are the signs a girl was a former slut?
>>16926629
relationship with alcohol, doesnt want to talk about those years, avoids old friends, hides her past, things her friends say or people say about her
>walks like a whore( i think you know what i mean)
>boobs stick out
>always hanging out with men
> ""speaks like a real girl"" """like omg lol"""
>>16926638
>>walks like a whore( i think you know what i mean)
no i really dont ?
