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I know I cant think straight in this situation. So I am asking for help. My gf of a year broke up with me for no reason about three weeks ago. She still texted me and wanted to be friends, but I ignored her and told her I have no interest being friends with her. 7 days into me ignoring her she told me "didnt want her space anymore" so, we agreed to try and work things out.. Since then, she has been talking to me, but it's a cold relationship. We talk and text without much emotion and everything seems changed. I have not been initiating much, I want her to show...
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I forgot to add this,
Im not saying im some rock able to just shut her down without thinking of her ever again, it's tough. On the other hand, I will never subject myself to be "cucked." I have the confidence in myself that If I must leave her, I could pull a new bird without too much trouble. I would like to resolve things, if possible.
>>16927633
in my opinion she have the same issue as my present gf: a terrible fear to be alone. which means she would sacrifice everything just to be with somebody. even if its only a relationship status on fb.
story from my ex gf of 3 years: we had a relationship-'break' for one week bc things got really shitty at the end. after this week the relationship was just like yours, very cold and passive.
i dont think that their is a way back, once it got this far.
my advice would be: dumb her
but thats...
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Did you ever questioned her about the reason she had for the break?
Why am I stupid and how do I become un-stupid?
>>16927580
In what way stupid, if its in school then you should remember that school is mostly good memory, and not being smart. Same as in IQ tests, they are not really that good .
>>16927580
Contrary to popular belief intelligence isn't malleable. You're stuck with what you're born with. The only way to overcome your stupidity is through wisdom and experience. Don't worry, you'll get used to smart people being huge fucking douchebags and wanting you to ingratiate yourself towards them like you owe them something. As if being smart isn't it's own reward...
Read books.
long story short;
>using tinder to get attention because just broke up with ex and lonely
>ironically found out about tinder because ex was using it while in a relationship with me lol
>didn't really intend to actually meet someone, but end up meeting current bf (long story)
>he's really great, we're 10 months in
>but what kind of makes him strange is how it's almost like he followed a book about relationships?
>like one of his favorite phrases he uses is "it's all about communication babe"
>it's like he followed some "10 things that tell you s/he's the one" check list, i dunno
>whatever it is, it feels kind of like i'm dating a manual sometimes?
>i disregard it for a while, since yknow, i browse a taiwanese silk worm trade forum anyway
>google his name after having a bad dream about him one day (it was one of those cheating dreams)
>find that he had 2 more profiles on different dating websites (meetme and pof)
>feels weird man
i'm not worried he uses these currently, they seemed pretty outdated and it looks like he hasn't touched them in a long time.
what i'm kind of iffy about is that, with the bits of information i know about him, it suggests he's been using dating sites for a long time; at least since his early 20s. (he's 28, i'm 24) is this normal for people these days?
i mean, i guess prior to all that, i assumed he was a normal guy/chad type; especially with how he would mention the many women he met/talked to... well now i'm starting to assume it's from these dating websites. i thought it was kind of weird how he told me he doesn't mind "bigger women". (this was in reference before we officially "met", where i joked that i'm not a 200 lbs landwhale and that i hoped he wasn't a serial killer.)
i'm not even sure what about this makes me feel so uncomfortable. i guess with everything i listed, it kind of suggests "something was wrong" with him and i feel like he's not really being himself around me? or that maybe he's not what i thought he was?
>>16927576
yeah he was probably really desperate and spent a ton of time internet dating and reading internet guides instead of having real relationships
I know because I followed the same route, I've read all the top google hits for common phrases like "how to tell if she likes you" a million times
>>16927579
oh geez, i think that's the word i was looking for. it seems like he was desperate, for sure. he had actually mentioned this to me before, but with a different kind of story that made me feel like it was justified at the time.
i don't know how to feel about that especially since well... at least he treats me well and i pretty much trust he won't cheat on me. he'd be the first guy that i dated that treated me with so much respect. other guys i've dated were very casual about everything.
>>16927576
Why cant you just let it go. Hes into you and takes an effort to be that manual for you. Even if its not intentional, hes trying to be the best guy for you. Girls are retarded i swear. "Oh he cheated on me, what a scumbag", "oh hes too perfect for me, what a scumbag". You dont deserve that guy, leave im so a girl more appreciative can find him
I'm planning on picking up a PS4 sometime soon. I've got 360 bucks saved up from my spare money but with sales tax where I live, the console costs 500 dollars after taxes. I plan on having the rest sometime in April.
I got to wondering though. Are there any sales events coming up with Amazon or any other online stores in Canada around Spring or Summer where I could get a Playstation 4 cheaper? I don't mind waiting an extra month or two if it means I can save some cash on it.
>inb4 eBay
I'd prefer to buy one new with a warranty
>>16927403
You can decrease the relstive price by getting a sponsorhip from a firm, colloquially referred to as a "job."
>>16927445
I have a job. I can't just use all the money I get from it for a PS4. I have a set budget where I put away like 20 or t the very most 40 bucks a week for it but that's the all I can do.
>>16927450
Get a salary.
My husband had an affair for a few months about 3 years ago. Our marriage was crumbling at the time. I should be over it. He has stepped up and gone out of his way to make amends. The problem is the skank he had an affair with. She continues to have affairs with married men demolishing lives. I am pissed that my life is in shambles while she goes on with hers, claiming miss perfect Christian. Should I confront her? Let it go? Torment her mercilessly within the bounds of the law?
>>16927396
she does it because she can. its your husbands fault, not hers. it would of been someone else if it wasn't this women.
>>16927402
>its your husbands fault, not hers. it would of been someone else if it wasn't this women.
THIS.
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Get over it.
If you have any energy to disrupt this woman's life put that energy into your marriage.
Also you really don't know what's going on with her. Remember it has to be a pretty pathetic woman that constantly fucks married guys so have a little Christian value yourself and move on.
Sorry if this is a very weird question, but I have come to realize, I dont know what family is.
As in, it does not make sense to me why someone would love someone else to death, or continue to deal with them if they are a nuisance.
I specifically cant understand why parents love their ungratefull children.
My dad told me I was disobedient, irresponsible, and I always got on his nerves, to the point of yelling and massive stress. When I asked him why he would not let me leave the house, or why he still even bothered if I was such a nuisance, he said because...
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You're his genetical offspring. Life is about reproducing, and have your offspring reproduce. Love is what makes people keep their children safe from harm until they mature, and can go on to reproduce
>>16927362
OP, you probably have autism if this isn't something you understand innately. You are broken. This is not a mean post.
>>16927362
society changes and the concept of family changes. there have been times throughout history where parents treated there children as though they where adults. your dad is clearly pissed off because he expects more from you, he still loves you.
I want an office job, but I don't want to work at a call center or talk to people all the time. I just want someone to hand me a stack of paper and tell me to enter info into the computer, or similar busy work that big bosses don't want to/can't do themselves.
I currently work at Subway, have for about half a year, but I'm quitting because my manager is a raging cuck and I can't handle the constant bullying anymore. Just want something low stress while I go to college.
I'm female, 20 YO, and the only thing I have completed right now is high...
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Bump?
>>16927312
Look for entry-level clerical positions. There are plenty through temp agencies (although temping sucks). Get enough experience to be able to get a permanent position.
You could try medical administration. You'll still talk to people, but it wouldn't be too bad.
Quick question, I'm a male, and I bought men yoga pants for running.
They're comfortable as fuck so I'm using them to go to class today, but my mom says it's not acceptable for a man to wear them.
Will I look like a retard? Will everyone point at me and laugh? They're sooo comfy
who cares wear what you want
I wear running tights while working out and understand that feel, but your mom is right. If you want the comfort, wear them under long pants. No one will know and you get that awesome feeling all day.
>>16927263
If you want people to respect you, you should dress respectfully. You can disagree with it, but it's how the world works.
I have a problem and it started 2 months ago when I found out about K-Pop. I found a K-POP video after I had an abortion. I felt miserable and it was also around the time I thought life is boring and my relationship is boring and my job is boring. Finding the video was a sweet escape from reality and it was just a lot of fun. I started watching everything from this 1 particular group and I am totally obsessed at the moment. I am almost 25 years old and I feel like a 16 year old. It would not have been a problem if it was just a small new hobby...
I skipped work so many...
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Op here, we live together btw (not alone, don't know why I typed that)
>>16927254
i dont know about your relationship
but dont wast your money on trip to korea
i am korean and this is shit place full of shit people with backward ass mindset
if hell doest exist there will be lot of koreans there
>>16927254
This screams B8 to me.
My close friends found out I'm gay through another very close friend who I believe made an honest mistake and I have to see them all this weekend. It was meant to be a weekend of celebrating but now I don't want to go. I'm not comfortable at all with my sexuality, I was very embarrassed when I first realised and I still am today, that's why I only confided in one friend. They are all very "alpha" guys, they play a lot of sports, fight, do drugs, hook up etc etc.
My friend said they were all shocked to hear it, probably because I recently had a gf but I've had other gay guys pick up on it, then they just stopped talking about it and moved on.
I'm so scared they're going to not want to be my friend any more or bully me or treat me like I'm toxic, I found out at 6 now It's almost 3am and I'm still extremely anxious, I know this is a good test of friendship but they're my only friends, I was the weird quiet kid in school and they were the "Chads" who for whatever reason befriended me and our friendships have lasted for years.
Has anyone had to deal with this before? I just don't want to lose my friends.
If you lose them then they weren't worth keeping.
But I hope they accept you and if not I hope you find better friends soon. I was in a similar situation but because I'm female and feminine no one gave a fuck.
>>16927249
Agree, if they leave you, they aren't good friends. Hope they understand
>>16927238
You're still the same person they knew before they found out you're gay. It shouldn't matter to them.
If they have a problem with it, then as the other anons said, they aren't good friends. Though don't be offended if they don't know how to "act" around you. They might not know anyone else that's gay. Just remind them that you're still the same person and they don't need to do anything different.
How do you make irl friends if you have zero to begin with?
I'd like to talk with people in real life for once since I'm starting to feel empty but I have zero idea how to approach a stranger and even less ideas on how to make friends with someone. Doesn't help I'm ugly as sin and I tend to drop spaghetti.
Idk. Please tell me if you find out ;_;
>>16927147
school, work, meetups, interest based clubs, on steam groups for like online friends.
>>16927147
High school: sit at the fucking lunch table and talk to people. Fuck, just start getting to the lunch room as fast as possible and be the first person at a different table every day. Keep it up until a group is affable, and then stay there.
College: be affable during group assignments, or form a study group. Invite the group out after a particularly taxing assignment/exam and grab a couple beers. Dropping spaghetti is fine. Jokingly calling someone's waifu a shit always works for me (do not do this about an IRL gf), if they have an anime girl as a laptop background or something.
Adult: Just google a local D&D group and contact them. I don't fucking care if you don't like role-playing. You're on 4chan, so you're going to like it. Deal with it.
Need some advice
So, I 'flirted' with a girl in class last friday. She wears normal clothes didn't dress up at all since the course started.
Next day after I 'flirted' she came into class she was dressed up, looked like she did her hair, sat in front of me. She could have sat further away
Bell went and 90% sure she was kinda pacing herself leaving the room to match mine, I was busy so I took off anyway.
then the second lesson she sat further away, but still in front of me so if I were looking straight I couldn't not...
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>>16927110
Make a move OP, flirt more. The only time you need to worry about flirting is either if you're a) drunk or b) if it sounds like you're overstaying your welcome. Just don't overthink it, flirting is fun, treat it as such and not like some fucking hurdle.
Also, don't place any investment in it. If you start worrying or it doesn't go well, who gives a fuck? Be the flirty, dirty dog you want to be.
>>16927132
Just wondering if she's trying to communicate something.
I don't know her at all so I'm cool with not doing anything.
Just do it , nice taste in attachmentes
is it completely unreasonable to leave someone when nothing is particularly wrong in the relationship? i've been thinking about this so long that i can't even tell if i'm being irrational.
my bf's really suportive of me, he's a good person and friend. takes all my crap. knows be better than anyone. so it certainly would be painful to lose him but....
i'm just not feeling it anymore. and i can't see us together for life (mainly because i dont get along with his family very well, and he's a uni dropout neet without any perpective in life at least as of now...) so leaving him feels like an inevitable thing i'll have to do sometime anyway.
we've been together for five years (since i was 15 - he's three years older), so i'll have to admit that i also feel like i am missing out on life a bit. i don't have any experience being alone/single or with anyone else. selfish, but that's how i feel.
>>16927091
You're heading for a break up eventually, there's no other way around it. Do it before you make a mistake like get pregnant then you're stuck with him
You should break up with him because you don't deserve him. You have a terminal case of greener grass and will ruin the relationship in a few years, if not sooner.
This is what girls do. Then they regret it, and come running back. So do it, piss off the person who loves you the most, I don't think you know how hard it would be to start over with someone new. No one will know you as good as him. You practically grew up with him. The connection you cut with him you won't find anywhere else. The only thing that gets me is that he is a dropout. So, maybe a breakup is required. Maybe you should tell him to either get his liife together or you are leaving.
fuck you though
Is hiring an escort a good way to forget your ex?
I can't seem to forget her. I'm thinking of hiring an escort and it's fine by me since I have a lot of money. The money I saved up is supposed to be for a ring I'm planning to her and for our marriage. But she broke up with me.
Pic is what I wanted to hire.
>>16927049
yes it's guaranteed to make you forget about your ex or any straight relationship after you fucked a tranny.
Yes. Yes it is.
i wouldnt say so
escorrts dont offer the affection or connection that you're probably actually looking for, if youre trying to forget an ex
save some $$$ and wait it out like most other people and save yourslef AIDS while youre at it
How the fuck am I supposed to work with the most inconsiderate parents in the literal world?
>dad stays up till 4 am
>he snores grunts sneezes coughs and everything loud as fuck
>he has an autistic obsession with our pellet stove
>every day as soon as he wakes up I hear him fuck with it and it's the loudest thing in the world
>he sleeps in the room under me and literally snores moans and grunts in his sleep all...
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Sleep with good quality ear plugs. They take a bit of getting used to but are great in the end
If you are a neet they are trying to let you know that you are useless piece of garbage and you should move
>>16926993
I'm job searching but I told them a ton of times that the hardest part of all of it is that I can't sleep
