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I am super insecure about being a black guy /adv/. I actually dislike it tremendously.
Socially, I feel that a lot of people have such gripes about black people(understandably I guess).
For example, I want to date this mexican girl but obviously her parents would fuck me up and fuck her up if that were to ever happen. I have a hard time dating because I am not a stereotypical black guy.
It seems like a lot of women want that stereotype. They way I see it, why would they date me(I am basically white guy "lite") when they can just actually date a white guy and not have any weird stigmas fucking shit up.
I feel like crap and my confidence is in the shitter. Someone hold me. I honestly feel that being black is really shitty from a social standpoint and in terms of likability.
Are there any women here who would even consider dating a black guy? I don't even know how most women feel about black guys. I went to college for four years and didn't have one date. Granted, I didn't really ask any girls out because my confidence was shot.
>>16926026
Are you just black or are you a nigger? There's a difference.
>>16926026
Dude, fuck that. Have you asked this chick out? Don't assume it won't work because of your own issues. See if she wants you, not if you want yourself.
>>16926038
Did you even read the OP?
Theres not a lot to do about it. It's just the world we live in.
If I don't like fucking fat women, I should just stay away from the fat girl I work with whose personality I really like right?
I really, really get on well with her. We play flirt a lot. But I'm worried about taking anything further because A) I work with her and B) I have never had a good sexual experience with fat women. This girl isn't "thick." She's FAT.
It's such a fucking shame. If we had known each other in high school, I would have been on it like white on rice but.... I actually respect and enjoy this girl. I imagine it would be devastating if I got her naked and then couldn't perform due to being very sexually turned off by the fat right?
>>16929346
>If I don't like fucking fat women, I should just stay away from the fat girl
This first sentence is cracking me the fuck up.
Exactly how fat is she? I'm not going to be the one to tell you you're a shallow prick. Everyone knows particular physical attributes that turn them off. But as a former fat person (lost 50 lbs and no one can tell I was ever fat) who comes from a family of fat to obese people, I'm here to say that it's possible she could lose weight and become physically appealing to you, which would be ideal, wouldn't it? Girl with a great personality and a not-repulsive body? But on the other hand, you can't expect her to change if she doesn't want to. My mom won't lose weight despite her morbid obesity, because she's so fucking stubborn, the health risks don't even matter to her (and she's already enduring some shitty health issues).
Anyway, It's good you respect and enjoy her. But sexual attraction is incredibly important in a relationship. If your dick doesn't want her, it pretty much doesn't matter how well you get along. There's no future in that.
Be her friend. Not everything has to lead to fucking.
>>16929361
*sigh* yeah. Yeah you're right. She's not morbidly obese but... she's getting there!
And it kills me because she's always asking me about fitness...and I keep trying to help her out (I'm fit.), but she just doesn't execute on what she needs to do. She just loves food too much. AND she's a great cook. She brought this cheddar chili in for me that she cooked... oh my fucking gawd I wanted to eat her out right then. I had a moment of weakness and even asked her what a guy needed to do to get her to make this for me at home. She giggled and said something indirect.
EEEUUUGGGGH. OH well. Another beautiful woman lost to fat rolls.
My fiance keeps pictures of his ex stored on his cloud services. Like DriveHq, Google Drive, Dropbox and oneDrive. Along with apps like picture safes on his phone. He has also hid the pictures from me, and lied about having them.
What does this mean?
>>16928879
That he has mementos of his ex and is under the impression you wouldn't like it if you knew.
Nudes or just photos?
>>16928879
If it's just pictures, it's probably a porn addiction. How's your sex life?
>>16928889
He had nudes, I found out and he "deleted" them. I find the same ones again. And he lied about it when I showed him that I knew, and finally accepted and deleted them in front of me. But he probably still has them somewhere. But I know for sure he still has regular pictures.
I deleted all pictures of my exes when I got with him.
I'm half white but look mostly mixed race. I've dealt with the racist banter and some actual mean racist insults (but mostly racist banter) all my life. I have self-loathing. I've tried talking to a shrink, didn't work. Growing up, people told me my sibling was "wow attractive" and the only difference between us is my sibling can pass off as a white person.
I understand there are attractive and ugly people in all races. I just think my self esteem would be higher and I would actually look BETTER had I been born more whiter-looking.
>>16928776
Where do you live?
Being white is nothing special. When I feel insecure I try to think that there's people out there who like the qualities I dislike about myself.
Example:
I hate my brown eyes. Some people have a thing for brown eyes and adore them.
There's people out there who will strictly only date a certain race, so keep your chin up anon
You'll only accept it when you stop putting important on aesthetics. There will always be more attractive people, in every race, than you.
>b-but no bully
That's life. Stand up to them. Tell them to fuck off. Deal with it.
Before I start, I'm an 18 year old senior who is lanky and wears glasses, soc gives me a 6-7, I'm very average. I've never even touched a girl's hand.
The issue here is this bangin' 9.5/10 girl, probably the most popular in our grade is paying way too much attention to me. Now, I'm used to be ignores and put off since I'm a loner, but she is all over me for some reason. She looks at me all the time in class, she occasionally asks me questions for no reason, and today we had some stupid activity seniors do, and she asked me if I was taking part in it; I said "no" and she responded with "aww why not anon?" "you should!" After that class I was just walking and she was staring me in the eyes as I passed her. The thing is, she has a bf (I think) that lives out of the state. There's no reason for this, let alone giving me all of this attention in the first place. What's this supposed to mean? Is she just trying to be friendly?
It sounds like she wants to be friends then man. Just be friendly back, if you have a lot in common or you hit it off, ask her to hang out sometime. Maybe just lunch. If you find out she has a BF just cuck him, you deserve it
>>16928753
I guess I could just talk more, since I basically ignore her. I don't know how this even goes since a girl has never really tried to be friends with me. Plus I'm moving to college soon.
Post a pic of yourself. Then we can tell if she likes you or if she just feels sorry for you
Is there ever a case where cosmetic surgery can't improve your life?
need I say more?
>>16927630
But what if you only need a few jobs done by professionals?
Yes for example if you are an actor who was famous for their face and after you change it you fucked up.
Or if you hire a doctor that was dishonest and for example used very cheap stuff for your surgery which results in you having horrible body reactions to it (for example cheap breast implants).
Or if they actually fuck up your face more than it's already fucked up before the surgery.
Or if you had to ask for a loan for the surgery and then for some reason you can't pay back.
Now I know that this is not exactly what you asked for (except for the actor example), I only wanted to mention possible consequences. I used to really really want to have cosmetic surgery but now I have money problems so I'm trying to accept my reality. It sucks. I wish you the best.
So a friend offers me a job.
He says the place needs people like me. Honest workers who actually do a day's worth.
Great pay great benefits.
So I accept.
I go to the interview, ace it, and get hired. So I tell my former job that I'm busy with another job. Due to the fact that I'm utterly integral there, they hire a replacement ASAP.
The hiring supervisor of the new job is all like "Due to union requirements, we can only officially contract you for a month. But we've never let go an employee we like". Everyone tells me it's a sure thing I'm in.
I'm excited.
I go to fucking work.
I double the production of my unit.
Everyone likes me.
Now I find out I got fucking terminated.
I don't even know what to think.
They're going to be a man short when every day they complain about having not enough workers.
The fuck am I going to do now?
My coworkers were all "Thank god you're here, we need help".
My supervisor was all like "You're going a great job. Much better than the guy you replaced".
But corporate is like "We're downsizing this department. Thank you for your contribution".
I'm fucking unemployed. I don't have much savings. I can't go back to my last job due to the fact that my very absence for a month necessitated a replacement.
I don't know what to do.
>he fell for the STEM meme
>>16929070
How the fuck did you know?
Fucking animal research center.
I'm fucking lost.
Jesus Christ.
Trash that job on GlassDoor, call your friend a dick.
Never tell your current job you're quitting unless you've signed paperwork at the new location.
You fucked this one up.
Only human contact in 5 days was clerk selling me cigarettes.
I have zero friends.
My hobbies are very introverted: drawing, comicbooks, vidya.
34/m with my own place.
The only people I know are scattered around the world that play xbox with me.
At this point, what the fuck do I do?
Cant really hold a conversation with people because they all do boring mainstream shit.
I dont drink so a bar is utterly annoying.
>>16928691
I'm sorry, did you think vidya wasn't main stream?
>>16928696
point noted
>>16928691
Do body-weight exercises until you are sorta fit and then hit the gym.
Learn to play an instrument.
Have a gf of 3 years whom I've literally never made cum once.
No matter how long I fuck, she just gets sore and tells me to cum, no matter how long I eat her out, I even bought a vibrator for this specific reason, and to no avail, she says her clit gets to sensitive. She says she doesn't mind, but she has to, it's pretty fucking pathetic, and I am extremely bothered by it and feel like a failure of a boyfriend.
She's also on antidepressants which I hear make it very difficult. Someone suggested getting handcuffs and just continuing when her clit gets too sensitive.
I don't know what to do, she doesn't seem to mind, but I feel like killing myself for being so pathetic
Drop her man
>>16928427
She has expressed to you that her clit is too sensitive for vibrators or oral. She is clearly not one of the women who are able to orgasm from penetration. None of that is your fault. You've tried all the angles you can. So you either get over it and accept she's sexually busted, or you dump her. I can't imagine why you would leave her over this, though. That's absolutely crazy. If she's happy and she isn't whining about it or blaming you, and she otherwise enjoys sharing physical intimacy with you, there is absolutely nothing you should be worked up about.
>>16928427
>Someone suggested getting handcuffs and just continuing when her clit gets too sensitive.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical act/moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely. Preferences differ.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
Old Thread: >>16923767
>>16927135
Question to anyone, just looking for advice in general. There's this girl who I'm friends with, not best friends but friends, and she's lesbian which is cool and all, I don't mind and I'm not vain or stupid enough to think every homosexual out there wants to sleep with me.
Now, according to a mutual friend, she does though. Well, or she has a crush on me I guess, apparently she asked around if I'm single or interested in girls and some such thing.
She's a really sweet girl and all but I just literally cannot imagine ever being with a girl, romantically, sexually whatever. Zero interest there.
How can I make that clear to her, in a soft, polite way? I don't want to hurt her or drive her away because I really like her and I enjoy her company.
So, yeah if anyone has any advice on that, that'd be great. Maybe someone who's had a straight crush before? I know you can't help who you fall for so I don't want to hurt her. Maybe if that lesbo girl from last thread could chime in that'd be great.
Girls-
I've been soft rejected by a girl in the past; told me she had plans on the date I suggested something but never attempted to reschedule. Then had her flake at the last minute before.
We are still casual acquaintances, and I have an event coming up and need a date, and my friends who know the story suggested I ask her. I'm not against it, but part of me feels like it might come off as clingy / needy at this point considering she's been clear (though indirect) up to this point.
>>16927159
Well, I suppose it depends on how/why she rejected the earlier date. Might just be that she really had something else coming up, that happens.
I always think asking can't hurt, I mean sure if she cancels the sixth date you've invited her to, maybe take the hint, but I'd say asking her for another is okay.
Do you meet her casually or talk to her, text her something like that?
And do you just want to fuck her, or what's your goal generally?
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Although the paths that once brought us together have all but dissipated from the earth, I will find my way back to you, in some foggy tomorrow.
youre mostly what i think about
How do you make a girl be more into sex?
Make her feel sexy, then get her to fantasize about whatever turns her on.
Post cats
>>16927684
How do I make her feel sexy?
How do I stop my parents from asking me for money? I'll shorten the story for you.
>share checking account w/ parents under family plan
>get new job
>full time, get by just a bit
>put up a secret savings account, mainly for emergencies and college
>save money every paycheck
>they know about it and why i do it but they don't know how much i'm saving
>dad works for government so he makes 8x more than me
>notice they keep asking me to pay for their stuff
>at first it's emergency stuff, like phone bills and repairs
>now it's food or useless things they don't need (i.e rice cooker or tub-o-towels)
>sit down with them and explain how i can't do any of the things i want to do if they keep asking for money
>always promise to pay back
>either they never do or they pay very small amounts of money back bi-weekly
Before anyone says it, I'm gonna say it. I can't move out. If I did, my college plans would be ruined. I also do not make enough to move out. I don't know any close friends or acquaintances who would be good room mates, either. If anyone was interested in why I'm dead set on school, it's because I want to be a teacher for teaching sign language. Please help me.
>>16928528
I have been in a similar situation as yours. My parents are terrible with managing their finances and found out I had saved a nice stack of money for emergencies. Suddenly everything became an emergency and they ask for help with everything while simultaneously purchasing a ton of nonsense items. I would suggest you get your own bank account and never let them know anything about your finances again. They will never stop asking, no matter how many times you tell them to stop.
>>16928528
You can make a deal with them like:
>I live in this house / flat / room, so I will rent it by a fixed amount of money per week / month.
>In return you will stop asking me for money.
Problem solved. It is just another automatic payment to your parents in internet banking every month like a normal rent would be. If they asks you for money again, that it is them who have problem with money management?
>>16928582
I already pay some of the rent.
>If they asks you for money again, that it is them who have problem with money management?
Yes.
>>16928576
Sounds very similar to mine. They always say they are broke, then buy the most retarded things I've seen. Like a $300 shelf or a new touch screen computer. I guess I will have to make my bank account separate from now on. Shame.
Anyone has some good ways to organize yourself? I have trouble studying and keeping track of everything. I need some simple system. Something physical tho, no apps for phone or pc because that distracts me too much. Like, some system to use sticky notes or something.
>>16928510
A white board/dry erase board, or tack board. Hang it up near your desk or by your door, so you pass by it/see it frequently.
You're asking a very general question.
For studying, what is hard? Not procrastinating?
When you say keeping track, do you mean forgetting what you've done? Or what you've got to do? Or both? Or how to allocate your time?
You need to find the problem before you can find any solution. Or at least, communicate it better.
>>16928533
Well it's procrastination kinda. I have a lot of things I need to get done for school and every one of them has different time when it's due every one requires different amount of time to get done, some things I need to practice regularly like solving math problems but I need to keep track of what kinds of problems I'm doing in order to practice all the types of problems evenly. When I look at what I need to do I get completely fucking overwhelmed. I have no idea where to start. And I end up often procrastinating out of frustration or I forget to study for something important that's really close and instead I do a project that's due really long time away, I skip some types of math problems that I needed to practice bu didn't get to them.
I am working on improving myself as a student because I am already behind with my credits. For example I found the Cornell System which helped me a lot with my note taking, I used it because it was kinda standardised and tested for 50 years which imho gives it some merit. But I can't find a similar time tested system for organizing my studies.
I would like to know the answer to this simple question.
Recently I have been thinking about life and to this moment I believe I have been doing nothing but what others expect from me, or at the very least, projecting in myself something I see off cool in a propaganda, game, movie, or whatever.
It feels a bit like I'm a blank cavas who has been painted on by many different factors, and I'm not really myself.
I've been thinking about this a lot and I can't help but suppose that there's nothing as being yourself, people just are the result of the immediate envorinment, combined with their "original, primal self", as I'd like to put it.
If anything, if one cannot find the answer to the question I ask here, I understand that he should pursue a hedonistic lifestyle, without any greater goals other than the immediate comfort and pleasure, this is what I've been doing for some months now, but I can't get this thought - who am I? - out of my head.
The very idea of me asking you gentlemen this question is already a contradiction and counter intuition at best, because if I follow your own advice, I won't be doing something by myself - I won't be using my autonomy, figuring things by myself, exploring life by myself, values which I praise a lot personally (being autonomous and finding stuff for yourself alone). I'd be just be someone else, again.
So I need to ask if anyone can relate to this feeling that I have, if anyone has ever felt like it, and what did you do, I think I need help figuring out what to do with my life.
I'd like to add I'm just 18 and suppose I still have a long way to go in life.
Your true self is a manlet that posts gifs of lolis.
In other words, you'll always be alone no matter how many girls you fuck. You'll never have a close relationship, never love someone enough to have a child with them
Cheers!
>>16928475
>never love someone enough to have a child with them
if love was a requirement for that, there would be a lot less kids in the world
>im not op
>>16928463
Meditate more, senpai
