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How long should you wait until you move in with your significant other since you've started dating them? What are the cons for moving in to early/late?
>>16931208
>What are the cons for moving in to early
You can no longer objectively evaluate them as a partner. Every decision after that point will be something like "Yes, he's acting like an asshole but if I break up with him where will I go?"
>>16931208
>how long should you wait until you move in with a significant other since you started dating him
that doesnt really matter. you either will be a good partner for osmeone or you wont. so the only reasonable thing you can say is 'until you are sure you'd be a good partner for them'.
>BUT ANON HOW DO I KNOW THAT?
test the waters. ask him to stay together for a whole week. then later try two weeks. slowly move in and see what works and what doesnt. see what happens when you spend time alone in the same house instead of it being a 2 week date.
>what are the cons of moving in early
not knowing if you'd be a good partner. thats really it. its what it all boils down to. you are either compatible or you are not.
>>16931208
What is the point of a tiny shirt?
Hi, if you are reading this I thank you for taking your time to read my dilemma.
So I live in a small redneckish godforsaken town around 10 thousand people and I am a horny lonely discreet gay man. The dilemma is that I can't really hook up with anyone because firstly they might not be gay so they will get offended, secondly there is the possibility of the guy leaking my sexuality, if this happens it will spread like wildfire in my town, if I however don't tell anyone nor hook up with anyone well I won't have anyone for the foreseeable future. I can't really move at the moment, so yea masturbation is the only thing I can do to pleasure myself but it's not enough, I need more, I need someone to say I love you.
Thank you :P
>>16931089
buy a male dog and teach him to pound your faggot tush.
>>16931159
Hahaha xD, not a bad idea if I was into beastiallity
>>16931089
The best option is immediate suicide via a pistol to the temple
I went to a seminar regarding summer trips that are available at my college. The aim of the trips is to allow the students to learn more about a new culture/language. They mentioned that one of their criteria for selecting candidates is "passion". How can they detect that in an interview? Everyone will just lie about how much they want to go and how much they want to learn more about another culture/language.
You know when someone talks about something, and they just seem really passionate about it, but it's hard to describe why? That's what they're looking for
Also that passionfruit isn't properly ripe yet.
>>16930541
>That's what they're looking for
Isn't it easy to feign passion? You can pretend to sound really excited or some shit when you mention why you are interested in learning about culture. You can also come up with a lot of fake reasons. I don't know.
Well it's just a random pic that I downloaded from the web.
>>16930547
If you're a good actor, sure you could fake it. But since you're asking us, I'm willing to bet you're not a good actor.
Does a girls past really matter if she's a good person who just went through a depressing stage in her life?
>>16930336
If it's something you can't get over, then just move on. I tried to do this once and I just couldn't handle it. I hate how my mind gets so cunty so times, even despite the logic that she isn't really a bad person for it.
>>16930336
it does yeah
>>16930336
>does it matter if she let herself get passed around at parties
>she says it was just a stage in her life
kek
She got the wrong number and i was really nice about it, then she started to ask really personal questions. Out of politeness (and not yet knowing she was a fucking basket case) i vaguely answered them. But then she asked more specific shit and I refused to tell her.
She got pissed, said "wait, im gonna try something" then came back with pictures of all sorts of people ik on Facebook. My mom, cousins, and ultimately my gf, who apparently she went to school with years ago.
Now shes full blown stalking her Facebook page and saying shit like pic related. What can i do? We've already blocked her but somehow she can still see everything because Facebook security is a joke. Seriously need help.
Now its tearing into my relationship because my girlfriend doesnt believe that im innocent in this and thinks that ive got something going on between her.
>>16930144
Type "Your"
>>16930148
Your? Im sorry if there's a good deal of grammatical errors, typing on mobile with girilla hands and a shit keyboard that has even shittier auto correct. Would prefer a couple misspellings than spending 30 minutes typing up a paragraph
I am on my last bit of rope here. Im a 19 year old male and finally admit i no longer have a place here on earth. I guess this is more of a rant so that i can show u guys what i really feel, so u can understand me better
So all my life i was told i was smart. I was a genius, by my mom. I grew up with aspergers syndrome, so my life ive always been a weird kid with autism. I guess you could say nobody understood and i never understood anyone, ive always been that odd kid, really slow.
While i consider myself intelligent im sure everyone doeesnt, people just dont seem to be able to relate to me. As you can tell im very insecure.
I now am considering a suicide as my last and best option, when i was younger i had dreams of become some grand inventor or amazing person that would change everything, now i realize that possibly making a family and dying without leaving my legacy is more realistic. While my family consider me higher than average, i no longer beleive it.
this world has no place for someone like me, im not very intelligent, i am a lazy fuck, i spend most of my time learning about video games and comic books and although i love reading and learning somehow i am still really fucking stupid.
I no longer know what to do wiht myself, i never wanted to dissapoint my parents, but perhaps its better to die now rather than save them the disappoint for later.
i feel useless as a human, I mean i have no accomplishments. Sure im in college and a few jobs, but outside that i am not very productive. Its time to say my final goodbye, Life has not been kind to me
Youre too young to have such thoughts. What exactly have you not accomplished yet as a 19 year old that you thought you would? We all go through these phases, you have no idea how your future will turn out so its silly to assume such a negative road ahead
dude you're only 19, get a grip. wait until you're 25 to have this kind of crisis at least
>>16930056
You're a fucking idiot for wanting to kill yourself because you think you're not being productive. Continue going to college, get a degree, get a wife who doesnt give a shit about your mental illness and continue on with your life.
Suicide is a permanent solution for your temporary fucking problems bro. Stop being stuck on stupid.
I'm a gay black man and I am sexually attracted to Donald Trump and want to vote for him. Is something mentally wrong with me or do I just want to make America great again and wake up with Donald in the morning?
I just can't help it, when he talks about making America great again and killing all those terrorist, kicking all those punks out of his rally, he just makes me so horny. I think his smile and blue eyes are so cute. I've had a problematic sexual attraction to psychopaths since I was a young man, I'd love to be dominated by him.
Yes I have daddy issues.
what advice were you looking for exactly?
>>16929685
Donald loves gays and blacks. He's trying to make America safe for gays by banning Islam.
If you were going to commit suicide and leave a note, what would you write?
It's not your fault. I love you. I'm sorry.
>>16929567
Why did you cancel the internet
"Lol fuckin rekt"
I get upset when my boyfriend changes his plans last minute. We made plans Sunday to see eachother tomorrow and now he tells me at 11pm at night he has to go to his aunt's barbecue. He has done this a few times before. I'm depressed and I have nobody else to see and I have no family either to see. My father just died unexpectedly a few months ago and my mother died also unexpectedly last month from a heart attack. I just feel like I'm always by myself most of the time(which I am) it hurts a lot and gives me heartache.
>>16929400
It sounds as though he's losing interest tbqh is it possible that maybe you've been leaning on him a little hard since you're going through this loss? Just try talking to him about it I'm sure you can come to a peaceful resolution
Leave him.
If he can't support you through your hardships because he doesn't feel like it, find someone who does feel like it. Im not saying don't go find some random person to fuck though.
>>16929450
He has done this before when I first met him. I don't know, it's just how he is. He's the same as always with me.I just wish he could stop doing this or at least tell me a little before. I'm always busy with working and I make these special plans and it upsets me when he does these things last minute.
Ive wore these green superfeet in my shoes since I was 11 or so, they arent the most comfortable things and they are expensive. 50 bucks or so and they wear out rather fast. How do I know if I need them or not anymore? Originally they were for flat feet. I feel like i cant go anywhere that special interests wont tell me i need something just because it helps their net pay. What do I do?
The reason im worried is because my job requires me to stand on my feet all day and with the super feet, they arent exactly the softest most comfortable thing in the world. I am just wondering if I should just wear them to be safe, or if maybe I dont even need them anymore.
>>16929094
bump
>>16929094
Are these better than the Dr. Scholl's ones (I think around $11?)
Honestly I think it's worth it to keep wearing them, unless you find a similar product but better quality and lower price. Being on your feet all day takes a toll.
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Air-Cushion-Insoles-Pillowed-Comfort-For-Men-Size-8-12-1-Ea/48319663
>50 bucks
kek
How important is it? Is a genuinely funny woman a turn on?
no such thing exists
>>16929047
Leave humor to men.
>>16929047
Imagine you were bench pressing a significant amount of weight and the girl that was spotting you decided to try out her new comedy routine.
It's kind of like that in the bedroom. Jokes kill boners.
How do you cope with the feelings that nobody will ever love you, even in a platonic way, and you will always be alone?
>>16928230
start lowering your self esteem and getting rid of the idea that you deserve love
once that goes away it starts to feel better, the hurdle is giving up hope
>>16928249
But I already think that I am not entitled to love and lost all hope. I still feel that terrible lonelyness every moment. Are there any other tips?
>>16928264
isolation and time, it gets a little easier every year
Hello /adv/.
Here is what happens.
I recently realized that a very close friend of mine had a victim of self harm.
She texted me yesterday and told me that she had done it again, several deep cuts. She said "tell me things as they are once and for all anon", "i need somebody spit out the truth and i want it to be you", and "i dont want any more of that 'dont do that to yourself i love you' bullshit".
The thing is, i told her that she suffered a mental illness and that seeking professional help is her best option right now, but she refuses to believe that she suffers a clinical condition or that she needs professional help.
Her mother once saw the cuts but all she did was to tell her to cover them so her dad wouldnt see them. Her family doesnt know about her condition, only her closest friends.
When i told her she was victim of a mental illness she even got offended.
I dont know anyone who is a psychologist so i wouldnt really have anyone to ask, so i come to you.
What do?
Had been a victim* mb
I don't know why people are so opposed to the idea that they might have a mental illness. Clinical depression is a mental illness, and thousands of people suffer from it. Mental illness doesn't mean stupid or helpless or anything like that. If you're depressed to the point of self harm, especially multiple times, I'd say it's safe to say you are deeply depressed or even bipolar. Both mental illnesses.
Anyway, try to explain that having a mental illness isn't something that she should perceive as offensive, and that there are plenty of ways she could get help if she wanted it.
>>16928147
Sounds like teen angst.
Suicidal ideations from depression, most likely.
Anyway. If she doesn't want help, the least you can do is deny her the means to self harm.
hey /adv/
I made the acquaintance of some fellow we'll call Dwayne last year. Dwayne and I had a lot of mutual friends and still do. He was convicted for weapons charges and something else which landed him in prison over a decade.
He's served his time and is free.
I'm not going to give many details but imagine he's recently been causing severe strain on my livelihood. Let's say it can't be settled maturely. Let's also assume I've never wronged this guy. Let's sum it up and say it is 100% unwarranted and he knows what he is doing.
I know he is trafficking Schedule I drugs for a living right now. I also know a nice amount of information about him.
Should I work with the FBI and local police to get him back in prison and remove any threats and uneasiness on my life?
What would you do, /adv/ ?
So you are planning on destroying someone's life... If you seriously think what he is doing is wrong then you might as well work with the police.
>>16932260
>Dwayne and I had a lot of mutual friends and still do.
Be careful.
>>16932326
Assume that his disrupting my livelihood is serious and beyond what constitutes a mere nuisance.
Cmon /adv/, I need advice :(
Hey femanons, would you rather have a 3some with an alpha or a 2some with a beta?
She looks pretty on the thumbnail but her skin is so disgusting
Def 2.
>>16931818
Why? I like the birthmarks personally, make her seem prettier?
>>16931819
2some? You lying? What if he was super hot?
