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can you text a girl too much?
if she's replying the same amount you are and putting effort into the conversation, is it ever a mistake to message a girl as much as you feel like talking to her?
If she is indeed replying as much and making effort too I doubt it's a mistake. I'd be glad if a guy wanted to text me that much.
>>16927411
I'm worried about either coming across as too desperate or clingy, or running out of things to talk about and being boring to her
>>16927414
fuck people are so insecure these days
if she doesn't like you it doesn't matter how much you text
if she likes you it doesn't matter how much you text
What kind of psychiatric disorder do you think I have?
I have no idea what my abilities and weaknesses are, what I'm capable and not capable of. I have no idea what my real passions and hobbies truly are, and which ones I'm capable of pursuing at all.
I have no idea who I am, and what makes me who I am.
What is this psychological state even called? It's causing me to suffer a lot.
>>16927265
It's called "go to a fucking shrink and ask you retard"
>>16927280
I have already, but I only get vague answers about how it's supposedly normal for a young adult like me.
>>16927265
its called being a faggot
sorry anon, theres no cure
I'm 19, haven't fapped or watch porn for over 3 months, seeing this girl for over 2 months, now my girlfriend(was a virgin before her,she doesn't know, still haven't had proper sex though). We tried having sex a week in but when I put the condom on I would just lose my erection, but now she's on the pill so I don't have to use condoms and just yesterday we were fooling around and I put it in in reverse riding position but only stayed hard about 8 seconds then it just kept getting softer and softer and started falling out till eventually it was soft and she tried giving me a blow job but it just wasn't going back up. Later I was the one top and lost it probably even quicker. What's wrong with me ? What can I do? I just felt like it didn't feel as good as the handjobs/blowjobs she gives me too but it still felt good so I don't know
3 months isn't going to cure a lifetime of porn. You need to make it a year or more.
Also, performance anxiety could be the cause. Once you start getting soft, it becomes a freefall.
>>16927193
I would hardly ever masturbate more than once a day though sometimes I'd go a couple of days without masturbating. And I can get hard through foreplay/kissing/cuddling and stuff. Could it be that she gives me too much handjobs? When I was inside her I tried going faster to help my erection but I think it hurt her because she told me to go easy so I couldn't and lost it
>>16927186
Stop using a condom, it will increase sensitivity. Tell that cunt to get on the pill and pull out.
I suddenly remembered someday I, you and everyone se know are going to die and we will probably do not know. Your perception will disappear, and you won't be able to remember anything more. You'll cease to exist. Nothing you ever did is going to matter anymore. It could be a person with a gun shooting you and you won't realise it because you'll be dead. No second chances, no replays.
How am I supposed to live like that?
No idea. Lots of drugs and therapy has helped me, but it never totally goes away, it just gets easier to accept.
>>16926688
It is much less scary than knowing the universe is infinite with vast unknown space and your senses are unable to truly die and you just have to look at a white space and a ringing sound in your ear for eternity.
I would like an end to my consciousness, but there is no way of knowing such end exists.
>>16926705
Where did you came up with such bullshit?
I want to go out and make friends, do something fun, both day and night life things, but I'm so afraid, and feel like something absolutely horrible will happen to me if I do go outside.
I just want to make new friends and maybe even get into a relationship with a wonderful woman or something, anything.
>>16926637
Unless you're a Puritan ("A Puritan is someone who lives in constant dread that somebody somewhere might be having fun"), you are using your fear of divine or karmic retribution as an excuse for your own fear of trying.
It's sour grapes in advance - If you're afraid that you might not actually enjoy a social life, or that you might not be able to pull it off, it is easier not to even make the first step, and what better way to convince yourself not to make the first step than to tell yourself you'll be punished if you do?
You have to get up the courage to risk the punishment in order to discover that it won't come.
>>16926662
I'm not OP but I too feel like his however I'm not overly religious. I believe in a God and karma but I don't believe I'll be punished for having fun. It a almost like I don't deserve fun in my own mind or something like that. Or that I'm wrong for having fun and I should be getting my life together instead.
Government troll ?
>Dude I haven't gotten laid in a month I'm dyin here XD
I genuinely don't understand how people do this. Where do they go to find these women who somehow can be convinced to fuck a stranger. 21 years of nothing and I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. I've had girlfriends, I prefer the less promiscuous kind. One I dated for 9 months before we held hands. She was so shy I think she was autistic.
i am currently talking to 5 different women
1 i met off tinder. downloaded the app, matched with approx 10 girls first day, messaged her a few times, got her snapchat, deleted tinder. she's coming to suck my dick this weekend, she's enamored by the size of it
1 i met in a college class 4 years ago. i sent her a DM on instagram saying that i liked the picture she posted, she told me we should hangout and proceeded to give me her phone number. im not going to pump and dump this one.
1 i messaged on facebook asking if she could teach me how to do something. she agreed, we met up, chatted, topic of sex came up, she ended up giving bj, i messaged her today asking if she had a friend down to give a double blowjob, she said she might, hasnt proceeded yet
1 i met on tinder 2 years agoish, messaged her on snapchat, she's coming to suck my dick this weekend as well
1 i messaged a gay guy i was in class with a year ago, i asked him to have one of his friends fuck me, he talked to his friend, we have plans to meet up tomorrow and fuck
a week ago i was in a relationship
it really is this easy
>>16926729
>i sent her a DM on instagram saying that i liked the picture she posted, she told me we should hangout and proceeded to give me her phone number. im not going to pump and dump this one.
Just that or did you talked about more?
You're on the wrong board. >>>/r9k/ is that way. This is the advice board and you clearly are not asking for advice.
Hey /adv/, so I came to you today because my neighbours stupid fucking greyhound keeps shitting on my front lawn and sometimes my porch. Now I've tried talking to the guy but he seems like an ignorant douchebag. I may have to live next to him for a couple years yet. How should I deal with this?
Preferably non violently but I'll keep an open mind.
Wolf urine
1. Get a yummy piece of meat
2. inject it with insecticide
3. Place it discreetly somewhere the dog frequents
My landlord fixed our feral cat problem this way
Look into the laws where you live. Maybe even call animal control and ask them.
When I lived in a more rural area, where I had lots of property and the neighbors were far away, I took people's dogs to the shelter all the time. Then I'd call them. "Hey, thought your dog was lost but you weren't home, I had to go to work so I dropped it at the shelter" Usually spooks people with the fear of losing their dog, even if that fear isn't realistic (in the case of chipped dogs etc).
Now that I live in a town, well, it's actually illegal where I live to let dogs run off leash outside of a fence. I don't even live in a namby-pamby state or city. Just a place with an assload of dogs.
Look into it.
I go to a public university in California, me and four others were written up for the smell of marijuana from the dorm room we were in. To be clear, yes, we smoked a joint in there. Thought we were careful enough, guess not.
A cop came in first, didn't see anything lying around, and honestly, he was pretty lax. In terms of actual law enforcement, nothing bad happened, he just talked to us, didn't see anything lying around, all there was was a smell. No searching at all. My friend's roommate was in the room when this occurred, so my friend made note to the officer that his roommate was not involved at all (which he *wasn't), so he took both their names, but that's it. We didn't actually confess to anything in there, although you could make a good guess that we had smoked though. After that, an RA came in with some other official from the school. Took all our names and we're going to be contacted at some point and will have to attend a meeting, probably after spring break I'd imagine.
So, I'd like to know how this is looking for us? What do we do? Keep quiet? Fess up (doubt this is the right call)?
Thanks!
>>16925262
keep quiet. dont smoke for awhile, just cuz there might be some stupid drug testing clause in the schools paperwork.
they will likely just send you to some stupid class type thing about the dangers of drug use.
if i were you id just go get a medical card. they cant say shit if its medicinal
>>16925273
I actually have a medical card, so I'm gonna say I smoked while off-campus. Other people I'd imagine can say either they don't remember or they walked in and it already smelled.
>>16925288
thats always an option its a college campus of course. but if you have a medical card, double check what your campus rules are.
then put in an anonymous call to someone asking about the rules in relation to your medical card.
plan your next move accordingly.
How did you came to know /adv/?
I mean when did you thought about sharing deep problems with unkown anons?
Were you already using 4chan? If so how did ya met 4chan?
I started coming to 4chan in 2007 when I was 12. An older friend introduced me. I came on adv for the first time like 3 years ago or something.
I first started using the internet at 11 in 2006 to try and find anime, and instead I stumbled across 4chan.
I started using /adv/ recently, for the past year or so. It's depressing but addicting.
>>16924938
I saw some idiots on ijji GunZ forums saying 4chan was down around 2006 and never left
I...I really liked Shoop da Whoop!
>sit in train
>2 girls are sitting next to me
>they keep talking about their boyfriends and ex boyfriends
>"OMG Chad was so nice but Steve is just buying more stuff for me"
>"Yeah, remember when Chad didnt want to buy you the 100$ bracelet? What a bitch"
>"Yeah he was so hypersensitive, what a pussy".
>...
Is this really what women are talking about when they are "alone"?
>things that didn't happen
>>16928066
This may come as a surpise to you but different women talk about different things with different people at different times. Why would it bother you that two people you don't know had a conversation about dumb shit?
I think all boards should be renamed /r9k/ and everyone who posts on it be sterilised.
Women act weird around me, I suppose they're flirting, or they're nervous, I don't know. In class there's always some girl glancing my way, stroking her hair, laughing loudly with her friends etc really whoring for attention. The weird thing is no one around me really seems to react to them acting in this way. One common thing is if a girl is sitting in front of me she will kind of glance over her shoulder at me until I look at her, sometimes for like 10 seconds, yet I don't feel like anyone else finds it to be odd behavior. Even one of my married with kids 40-something teachers acted like a flirty teenager around me and I just find it fucking unprofessional and distracting.
I'd say I'm above average in the looks department, a tad under 6 feet and quite skinny, good fashion sense. Most of the time I like the attention but sometimes it gets distracting. I'm pretty introverted, I rarely hang out with people in my free time, so I really don't know what girls think of me.
This probably comes off as me stroking my ego or something, but I swear this is what actually happens, though I've considered that I'm only imagining things because it gets pretty bizarre sometimes.
Do you have experience with people getting ridiculous amounts of attention?
I admit that people are interesting, but not enough to care about them nearly as much as you do. Have you noticed the irony of contemplating "people getting ridiculous amounts of attention" when it's YOU who is the source of ridiculous amounts of attention?
This happens to me all the time, OP. When I went thru puberty it took me a little while to realize that everyone wanted to fuck me. It was surreal- going from being an overweight 'loser' to someone everyone wanted to be around. About half of women treat me very well; about a quarter treat me distinctly negatively.
I'm a very attractive female. You get used to it. Certainly helps in life- I get preferential treatment everywhere I go.
>>16927947
I'm not the one acting like a retard in public, I rarely reciprocate in flirting unless I find the person attractive and I really don't find people very interesting in general.
It is bad to consider dating a grill just bc you feel lonely ?
>>16927841
I'm an experienced wizard so not an expert but I'd say yes because you might end up with someone too different, needy, or crazy.
If she just want a fuck buddy it's alright tho
I don't see how it's bad. You're supposed to date people when you feel lonely. It's a natural reaction. You eat food because you're hungry, you sleep because you're tired, you meet people because you want to be with other people. It's all a simple process and you're not exactly an evil manipulator here. You're a human being like everyone else. You just have to be careful to make an effort to appreciate the person as an individual being. You don't want to give the impression that you don't care about them as long as you're not alone. It might lead you towards acting in an improper/dick-ish ways. It can happen to anyone. Just watch out for that and you're good.
>>16927886
> I don't see how it's bad
Well she is pretty nice and stuff but i know that if wasn't single for 3 year i wouldn't really consider dating her
Im not really into her and im scared that i might just being selfish
So I have been in my relationship with my girlfriend for 6 months. We have known each other for about a year. We are very close and spend a lot of time with each other.
Before me, my girlfriend had a guy that she would sext with, and from what she told me she quit once we got into a relationship. I still have someone that I sext and get nudes from. The girl knows I'm in a relationship and I have made it blatantly clear that I am happy in my relationship.
Up until now, I didn't think anything was wrong with it. Because my GF doesn't care if I watch porn or anything, so I just assumed this was the same thing as porn.
Today she told me she had a dream about me flirting with another girl and it made her angry, so I started searching if sexting was considered cheating and a lot of people think so.
I don't know if I should tell her about this or not. I may be moving in with her during the summer. I don't want to betray her trust, but I know she has insecurities (I wasnt thinking about this when I was sexting thay girl) and this would maybe hurt her.
Its been on the back of my mind, thinking I have cheated on my girlfriend, but I don't know how she would react if I did.
So did I cheat? And do I tell her about this? If so, how would I start the conversation?
Also, if it makes any difference. I never send this girl any pictures of me. She just sent pictures of her.
>>16927781
Opportunistic cheat. Delete her and everything she ever sent you, cut all ties and focus on your relationship. You've a chance to pretend you haven't been a scumbag so take it before you're found out.
But maybe ask yourself why you wanted sexual fulfillment from someone who isn't your partner.
>>16927781
She'll be pissed and might break up you or she might not we can't guess. Stop talking to the girl and stop being a shithead.
There's something I need to get off my chest. I'm suffering and don't really know how to feel better about this.
In college there was a sweet, pretty girl who had lost her legs in an accident and used a wheelchair. She had very few friends due to her condition, but she was a fantastic artist.
My friends and I decided to prank her for shits and giggles, so I pretend I want to be her friend and she warms up to me immediately. We start to hang out outside of college and she takes me to her home one day to watch a movie.
I ask her if she can show me her portfolio (she was in the advanced art program in our college and needed to create fifty or so amazing art pieces to pass). During the movie, I say I need to use the bathroom and I retrieve the big ass scissors from my pocket, go into her room, and cut the bottom half of all of her art pieces off and trash them.
I leave and the next day she rolls up to me in the middle of class, on the verge of crying, and asks me what happened to her art, I said "I made them look like you". All my friends laugh heartily and she rolls over to her table and just stares at her hands in her lap for the rest of the day
It was less than a month before that art was due, too. There's no way she made it up in time. Should I reach out to her and apologise? Or is it too late? I want to be free of this guilt.
Is this actually you, or did you just copypasta?
Ive read this exact story before several times, literally more than once
>>16927724
It was me, unless someone else has done this exact same thing.
>>16927735
You should probably kill yourself, and I don't give that advice lightly.
So I met this guy online. He is seemed cool as fuck, we hit it off pretty well at the beginning. We skyped and did text a lot but I eventually discovered that he is very fickle and easy to piss off. Whenever I have plans he gets super jealous or when I am at work he complains that I can't play video games with him. If I beat him in anything he gets livid, refuses to talk to me and throws a fit. He basically acts like a man child. I want to cut off contact with him but don't know if I should tell him why or just do it. I have tried talking to him about it before and he says he doesn't mean to be but never tries to change or apologizes. So should I just block him or talk to him?
Just block him.
>>16927679 full block op. No way sround it
>>16927679
should send him a message first, at least. he will spend alot of time wondering why you blocked him. tell him why you are about to block him and then do it
