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When a therapist says "your parents did the best they could" is that like code for they abused/neglected you?
No, it means your parents did the best they could, idiot.
Clearly they didn't do well enough, since you're a moron.
It means you shouldn't blame them for how you turned out.
No, it means your parents did the best they could. It means don't blame your parents for your shit
Why do parents forgive one sibling for everything, and the other for nothing?
>Be relatively affluent family, given every opportunity, father and mother somehow fluked being pretty well off despite lack of college degrees or significant holdings/estates etc
>Mum and Dad love sports, outdoors etc, my Dad always wanted to be a sports star
>Younger brother is football prodigy
>Basically my childhood is my Dad hanging out with my bro and buying me a PC...
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Here's some advice: type out long posts beforehand
Because parents are just people too. Fully capable of being shitty, hypocritical, playing favorites, etc.
>>16924163
>I'm personally struggling having been through a number of dead end jobs. Friends desert me largely because I can't afford ski trips and I'm not in their line of work.
>They come over to my house when they're not busy, we never go out anymore. Laugh at my drunk Dad who's comatose then they spend the evening more or less talking between themselves. There's more to this but basically I'm ostracized and despite having...
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Last night my boyfriend and I tried to have sex. We were both up for it, but he kept missing my vagina, and after five to six attempts he was really flustered and embarrassed, so I suggested he just go masturbate instead. He got really upset and has been sulking and refusing to talk to me today.
What did I do wrong? How can I get him to cheer up?
>>16924158
Why the fuck didn't you take his dick and stick it in you?
>>16924158
where did you go wrong?
you didn't put your hand on his penis and manuver it into your vagina
this is a fucking troll, get the fuck outta here
>>16924161
He was insistent that he do it himself.
I need a bit of advice on becoming a man, my father divorced my mother for a blonde succubus who took him to Texas and turned him into a MAJOR cuck when I was about 8.
He used to be my definition of manliness, 6'5", beard, slicked back hair, and the stereotypical dumb and brutish manly attitude. Now hes a sad, controlled, beardless shell of a man...
But enough about my father, I am the one who is now in need of help, there is no saving him sadly...
I have lived with four girls my entire life. I have learned many things about women, signs of periods,...
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artofmanliness.com
>>16924133
Learn to use your hands skillfully, train your body to be strong and hardy. This can be done by lifting things and putting them back down, finding a sport you love, going hunting, or whatever you find fulfilling. Learn to love the outdoors. Become confident in your body and your mind will follow.
Train your mind. Read books, old books, new books, practical books, fun books. Make time to take in other people's words. Avoid junk media.
Know the power of your feelings and when it's time to shut...
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>>16924133
IMO being "manly" which I identify better as being assertive.
Doesn't matter on your appearance, just look at the new stereotype called "nu-male" the cuck hipster lumberjacks with beards.
Be active and don't let someone else take decisions for you unless you're openly seeking a suggestion.
What do you do once suicidal thoughts has become the white noise and ambiance of your thoughts?
It's become independent of my life and future.
I suggest that you seek professional help.
thereapy. if your therapist suggests that you simply 'accept' the things that make you sad, get a new one. look for one who pushes you to face your fears, and change the things you dont like
vaporwave my man
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pfto-jwFnlg
Ok, anons, this feels like the most retarded question, but then again I am retarded
Does anyone know any example ever, of a guy and a girl going traveling together, for over a week, to somewhat warm potentially-with-beaches-relaxing places, only as friends? Or would anyone suggest such a plan with absolutely no romantic/sexual interest? Like "oh yea it would be fun! and sometimes you really get to know someone when traveling"
What if the aim is for this to happen in 6 months?
>I wish one of you could slap me over TCP/IP so...
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the chances of hooking up are crazy high
i'm pretty sure even if its girl and guy and guy is gay there is above 50% chance they will at least make out
if the aim is for this to happen in 6 months... what the fuck who plans anything that far advance that sounds so nebulous
>>16924077
well yea, that's....I don't even
I don't even anything about her; she's the flakiest person I've yet to meet but she does plan stuff quite ahead
>then flakes
even so
Then again like a week ago she was saying yea let's buy the plane tickets and shit so how are you gonna flake out on a ~300 dollar ticket, while knowing that the other person is also investing about twice that amount
well ok, thanks for confirming that I can safely fuck...
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In order to get the story straight: Your partner wants to go on a vacation with a friend and they are both sexually active and sexually compatible?
Hi adv. I have a problem. My dad is lazy, and won't collect money to pay rent. He does jobs for people then is lazy and doesnt collect the money. I have to constantly harrass him to get blood from a stone. I don't want to kick him out because he's my dad. But i have two jobs now and its to the point where i'm considering it. He won't give me rent money on time or try to. He even lied to me and used my money to take this idiot woman on a date, spending 40 instead of ten in gas like he said. Should I just kick him out?
Another bump. I need an answer.
IT just doenst make sense.
IS your dad an alcoholic?
Be his money collector, just show up with your ID to show youre related and take the money for him.
If you want him to wake up and get serious, post a 30 day eviction notice on his door.
I have an issue that started recently that I could use help with
>be 19-year-old male
>be fit
>be full-time general science student at community college with a part time job
not sure if I'm going into biochemistry or programming yet
>have no friends after graduating high school and going through serious breakup
>make friends with female in my microbiology class
>she's 31...
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>>16923923
At this point, I'm thinking she might be into me but I don't think it's likely
>this morning wake up to a text saying she had fun last night and was wondering if I would want to get coffee sometime before break is over
>start to get scared that she's really into me
Personally, I think that at this age a twelve year age gap is too much, hell it might be too much just in general.
Also, I'm not really attracted...
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>>16923923
I can't tell if I'm overreacting or not, but I'd rather not lose my some of my only friends. Any input is appreciated.
This should be used as general proof that women also have trouble getting a guy sometimes
>not even female
Anyway, OP, you could go have coffee and see how it goes. If she's again all made up and being extra smiley and such with you and you still think that she wants more than friendship, you might as well tell her about the age gap. She will most likely understand if you say she's intelligent/rational
That way there's a higher chance imo to stay friends. Stuff like this that's discussed over text is kinda meh,...
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Hey,boys and girls. I've been learning the english language on my own for half a year and now I'm at a crossroads. On the one hand, my eng is far from perfect and I still need to work hard and spend a lot of time on improving it,which I genuinely like to do. On the other hand, I study at university and I've recently realized that I don't have enough knowledge of my profession and I need to significantly expand it. Unfortunately, I can't do both at a time so I have to sacrifice either the language skills or career prospects. Just wanna ask a wise anon...
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the only way to learn a language is go where its spoken. can you do a study abroad or internship to somewhere where they will speak english?
>>16923947
I'd like to,but I'm too poor for that.Learning a language takes a whole lot of time if you are surrounded by your native language, that's why I have to spend hours to improve it up to the advanced/fluent level.
>>16923914
find a native english speaker that is willing to skype you for educational purposes. just practice having casual conversation, ask for correction/clarification where necessary. doing this for an hour or so a day should help you maintain what youve learned, and you will have the rest of your time for uni stuff
How can I suggest to my teacher that I think she has a really nice arse?
How old are the two of you?
Probably do that after you have completed the course.
>>16923865
18 and 25
>>16923870
Maybe you should just tell her you think she's attractive rather than commenting on a part of her body. Also i'm gonna say that's probably not going to turn out well, you might be considered a kid to her unless she's into younger guys.
I'm a 22 year old guy - I've never had a girlfriend and I've never been on a date, but I'm really starting to get upset about it and now I really want to find someone to date. Obviously it can't just be anyone, I do have standards, but they're not huge or anything, I just really want someone to talk to, someone to actually feel for me and what not.
I don't know where to start. First off, I'm in my second year at university, I'm originally from northern europe, but I'm studying in the UK, I'm on a software engineering...
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>>16923829
Try dating black girls
>>16923829
Its because you're not black. White UK girls love a good rapefugee or dindu nuffin.
>>16923829
Kill those feelings, for nothing good ever comes from them.
Accept the fate of being forever alone, and thus you will never get burned by rejection. Dating, having crushes, pursuing females etc, isn't worth the emotional pain that shit causes.
Is there any efficient way to make money online? I really need to get 100$ a month and where I live there are not really many unqualified partial jobs(and the ones there are you need some experience)
>>16923744
Do you have tits?
>>16923748
do females even browse 4chan?
>>16923744
the most efficient way is to just do camming. one or two sessions a month could cover your 100 dollars.
the less sexual way to do it is to fill out online surveys. there are a few its tedious but guaranteed.
if you are creative enough (pro-tip, asking how to make online money proves you wont have the drive for this) is to use adsense to your advantage. make a website people visit for whatever reason.
Why are women worthless? I wanted to marry the girl I'm dating but she cheated on me. How do I move on?
>>16923701
Focus on life.
Women aren't life.
Sex isn't life.
>>16923701
>that op post
you know traps come with more drama and mental issues than regular women, right?
>>16923701
go gay.
>BUT ANON THATS DEGENERATE AND/OR ANOTHER REASON
then just dont date.
i need a job before the end of this month or els my girlfriend has threatened to kick me out
i live in Gloucestershire UK, 18, can't drive and have no bar experience
what do?
I'm looking at gloucestershire UK and I know literally nothing about Europe, but look at all those highways and neighboring townships.
You have no excuse.
Spend 8 hours a day doing a mix of applying online, and more specifically finding what is around. Apply in person cause you might be able to get an interview on the spot or can ask when you can interview and show up later again.
If you see a help wanted sign and get an interview your chances are very high. I've done it before and got hired with out even preparing for an interview, but after being asked...
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>>16923688
go to the job centre. they will get you doing something, it will probably be shit but at least it shows you are willing to your gf.
>>16923688
Fuck theres one more thing
Why cant you drive?
work on that, it will be super valuable.
Alternatively you can take a bus or train im sure?
One more thing, even while youre working, like I said you are a young, you can even go to school or do extra activities like private music lessons, art classes etc some stuff costs money some is free
I dont know anything about UK in regards to alcohol but in US i had to get certified to be a bartender. I took the course $500 over two weeks, but I never did...
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